Loving someone too much

LegacyUser

Ok guys,
need some help here......

I know this might sound a bit stupid, but here goes:

I have been going out with this girl for about 5 months.
It started out as something not very serious, just us having some fun, but time has passed, we have grown to like each other more and more.

I don't think I've ever liked a girl like this before. I think about her all the time. AFAIK, she feels the same.

The thing is, it scares the Sh*t out of me. I've just started a new job, and I can't concentrate on anything. I pass the day thinking of when I can meet her in the evening (I'm usually a very good worker). This p*sses me off, and sometimes I think I'd be better off going out with someone where the relationship is less serious....


Then I think of how miserable it would be if we broke up....


Is this what being in love is all about, because at the moment my heads really messed up, even though I know I should be happy.....


Please help,
Thanks

:-)

Beruthiel

Originally posted by PI_help
Is this what being in love is all about, because at the moment my heads really messed up, even though I know I should be happy.....

Perhaps this is the first time you have really fallen in love
relax and take your time, you should be enjoying every minute of this, tis a lovely time
you will just have to train yourself to stop thinking of her during the day, she'll still be there in the evening you know!

dod

You know best what your priorities are, and you will have to make your choices based on those priorities.

If you make a short term decision now, you will have a long long time to regret the consequences. On the other hand, there is no point in resenting the poor girl because you feel that your relationship with her might be holding you back in other aspects of your life.

It really comes down to what your priorities are.

Raz

If you're that mad about her then don't even think of breaking up. You'll regret it the rest of your life. If you can't stop thinking about her then she is obviously the most important thing in your life so she is obviously going to be your highest priority.
You would probably do anything for her so think on this,
Would you be willing to move in with her (if you havn't)?
Would you be willing to move to a different country with her?
Would you be willing to move job for her?
If you answer yes to all those questions then who gives a f*ck about your new job really. It's secondary and if anyone comes up to you complaining about your work tell them your sorry but you've fallen in love and you can't help being distracted. They'll probably think you're cute and funny and let you off.
But to help with your concentration, whenever your mind is on her then give her a quick call, just to say hi, that you wanted to hear her voice, that you miss her ... whatever it is your feeling and it might let you conentrate. It's kinda like an addiction, feed it a little so you can keep going
I think you'd be mad to break up.

Typedef

Ah I remeber doing that with a girl.

My only advice is to totally forget about her and find somebody you don't care about.... it makes the whole ending of the relationship.... 'so' much easier on you.

Yes, yes. Distance keeps you safe and in control.
I suppose that sounds horrible, and I do hope that in your case... I'm totally wrong.

To quote Al Pacino.
"Love is the biochemical equivalent of eating large quantities of chocolate.

Andor

Jebus, being in love sounds Terrible!!!

or does it feel more like some kind of negative obsession to you ?

teebeehaitch, it sounds like you're more afraid of commitment than anything else, getting the old heeby jeebies and such!

Do you feel things are moving too fast and too seriously? Would you prefer if it was something casual?

Havelock

There is nothing wrong with it. You are in love.
Its normal, like Raz says call her. I carry a photo of my girlfriend to look at when I think of her. If your distracted, so what? Are you in trouble yet? Is she worth trouble?

Commitments not that scary, its letting go that sucks.

DO NOT BREAK UP BECAUSE YOU ARE AFRAID OR TOO MUCH IN LOVE! YOU WILL REGET IT. I CANNOT STRESS THIS POINT ENOUGHT!

JohnnyBravo

Sounds to me you like have commitment issues welcome to being a man its great

DriftingRain

Awwww...your getting the butterflies in the stomach and felling all mushy inside. Thats's love. Congrats! Isn't it great!

I suggest you keep this girl, Losing her will only bring you back to PI to post that you've lost her and your mad at the world!

Jobs are a dime a dozen, but the perfect girl maybe only comes once in a lifetime. Take a chance and let your heart do all the thinking!

Good Luck
~DR~

KoNiT

DriftingRain bet me to the "awwwww.....!!"

Looks like you've been shot by cupid so enjoy it while you can!!

The thing is, it scares the Sh*t out of me. I've just started a new job, and I can't concentrate on anything. I pass the day thinking of when I can meet her in the evening (I'm usually a very good worker). This p*sses me off, and sometimes I think I'd be better off going out with someone where the relationship is less serious....

Your nervous?!... give it a few days, possibly weeks, maybe years & then you might start thinking straight