Nasty in the mornings

LegacyUser · 14-09-2003 4:29pm #1

According to my girlfriend, whenever we spend a night together and she wakes up in the morning, she gets dirty looks from me, and I push her away. The problem is that I am not aware of this, as, usually, I am still half-asleep.

It seems this really bothers her, even though this doesn't happen intentionally. I don't know what to do about it. I have no memory of it, and I don't think I can do anything about it.

Am I just unfit for sleeping with anyone?

Any ideas?

Crucifix · 14-09-2003 6:42pm

Who was it that said "Hell is talking at the breakfast table"? Well I agree.
Anywho, I assume you've explained to her your not a morning person, and there really isn't much else you can do, except never sleep with anyone thus avoiding waking up with anyone.

Cianan2 · 14-09-2003 6:50pm

You could be a...schizophrenic??? By that, I mean you could turn into some nasty playa-hater when you sleep. Ever see Me,Myself and Irene?

Or,you were just havin some deadly dreams about some hot chick(that isn't her),or you're,like,Arnold Schwarzenneger blowin **** up (thats always fun in dreams)and you got woken by her during this.

LegacyUser · 14-09-2003 7:44pm

Originally posted by Cianan2
Or,you were just havin some deadly dreams about some hot chick(that isn't her),or you're,like,Arnold Schwarzenneger blowin **** up (thats always fun in dreams)and you got woken by her during this.

Nah it's not dreams, and she is a hot chick, don't need to dream about anyone else

As for the arnie thing... er, somehow i don't think so.

It's not that I don't want to be woken by her, or see her first thing in the morning, it's that I'm nasty to her kinda automatically, and I never know it! I don't know how one is supposed to stop that...

Lump · 15-09-2003 12:26am

Tell her to get over it.

Not being smart of anything, it tends to be a natual reaction when you wake up, you need time to adjust, and well wake up!

John

joseph brand · 15-09-2003 4:03am

I'd give MY sister dirty looks and push her away if I woke up to find her in my bed.

Tell your sister to get over it and give me a call. :P

Big al · 15-09-2003 9:24am

from the sound of it it appears that you dont spend that many nights together so you are not used to sleeping with someone beside you, your subconsious is trying to figure who this git is thats distrubing your sleep, when you live together it will disappear, the same thing more or less happened to me

xx · 15-09-2003 2:50pm

I'm sort of like this too. My reasoning is that I am used to waking up in my own bed on my own. If there is someone else there, or I'm in someone elses bed, then I sort of get a little 'snappy' with them the next day. I think its because I'm just used to taking things at my own pace when I wake up, but if you have someone wanting to 'snuggle' or chat in the morning, it can throw you out of sorts.
My answer to this - as with Lump, tell her to get used to it. It should go away the more time you sleep (not necessarily having sex) with her. Failing that, halfway thru the night, go down to the couch downstairs and sleep there.....or make her!

Cabaal · 16-09-2003 1:03pm

Originally posted by xx
I'm sort of like this too. My reasoning is that I am used to waking up in my own bed on my own. If there is someone else there, or I'm in someone elses bed, then I sort of get a little 'snappy' with them the next day. I think its because I'm just used to taking things at my own pace when I wake up

I would have to agree with this being the reason why some people can be very pissed off in the mornings..

None the less it can be very annoying in the mornings

malico · 16-09-2003 1:47pm

have to say themost anoying thing in the morngins is the chatter! I used to go out with a girl that was a real morning.. well all day person! She'd wake me up at like 6 and expect me to be chatty etceta!

But I'm sure that's the fun of waking up with someone.. but why the talkign! Aparently one morngin i looked like i was welll gone, as I started mentioning stuff about puppies and magazines. think I was randoml grabbing info from my memory and sayign it. He he! Freaked her out!!

Victor · 16-09-2003 3:56pm

Whats your reaction when she trys the cuddles in the morning type thing or I'm not sure how to say this if she "stimulates" you awake.

She could always wander to the bathroom and have a shower (and make **some** noise ) with the door open. Guaranteed way to get me out of bed.

Typedef · 16-09-2003 5:00pm

Whaddya mean nasty in the morning.

I'm nasty all day.

jerk · 17-09-2003 11:08am

get one of them things that wakes you up with a cup of coffee.

then if she trys anything throw it over her face.

kaalgat · 19-09-2003 12:52pm

god you are a bloody jerk

Beruthiel · 19-09-2003 1:11pm

Originally posted by kaalgat
god you are a bloody jerk

kaalgat if you have nothing constructive to say, then sometimes it better to say nothing
this goes for you too jerk

Stark · 19-09-2003 1:15pm

Originally posted by jerk
get one of them things that wakes you up with a cup of coffee.

then if she trys anything throw it over her face.

LMAO

Pigman II · 21-09-2003 3:55pm

Originally posted by joseph brand
I'd give MY sister dirty looks and push her away if I woke up to find her in my bed.

One solution would be to sellotape a small handmirror to her forehead each night just after she goes to sleep. Then when you both wake up to your grumpy face you can quickly size up the situation and change your expression.

DriftingRain · 21-09-2003 8:53pm

Tell her the next time you give her a dirty look for her to hit you in the head really hard with a pillow. By the time she's hit you a few dozen times you'll wake up being the nicest lil boy around!!!

Yes I also agree that it is just that you aren't used to sleeping with someone. There are more constructive ways she could try to wake you up nicely too.

Good Luck!
~DR~

melancolique · 23-09-2003 11:28am

I've had a problem with this too, and I can see where she is coming from.

Makes on feel very "unwelcome" in someone else's bed when given dirty looks in the mornings.

Works just to talk about it and let your partner know that it's not intentional. If she really wants to be with you she will at least try to understand and get over it.

Peace · 23-09-2003 11:45am

I'm also nasty in the morning but thats simply just because i'm not a morning person. Take today for example.....i didn't mamage to get myself out of the pit until about 12.15....

And yes.....i can be a bit short with people until i'm back into a new day so enforce a no talking rule and a no looking at me rule so ther will be no dirty looks and no sharp comments. This will solve the problem.

But my way of dealing would be to let her know that until you've adjusted (either to her being there in the morning or adjusted to a new day ie. woken up properly) then its all unintetional. Also don't forget to tell her that you really enjoy having her there for cuddles and snuggles and what not...chicks really dig that.

Kell · 25-09-2003 10:27am

Hmmn- I have been known to have conversations fúcking people out of it when in fact fast asleep with eyes wide open. I always wake up fresh as a daisy when sleeping with someone. Its that wonderful sense of "oh you're here. Wasnt expecting that", then one thing leads to another and......

Anyways, I wouldnt worry about it too much. The more you sleep with her, the more you'll wake up going "god she's hot and I am sooo horny" etc etc.

K-

Nasty in the mornings

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