Relationship troubles

LegacyUser

Hi,
I have a problem. I'm kinda with this girl for the last month or so. We get on great and have great fun together.
Unfortunatly she is with a boyfriend of 3 and a half years too. He doesn't know about me, althought I don't see how he doesn't! We've met a few times.
But here's the real problem. She wants to go out with me and dump the boyfriend. Which is great, I say. But, last time about a year ago, the same thing happened and she never left him, leaving me for him.
should I take the chance again?

Dave

bombidol

no, get rid of her. you are both scumbags you for going out with a girl thats already involved, and her for cheating on her boyfriend. its all going to end in tears that you can be 100% on

Beruthiel

well, and it's only my opinion here
I'd drop her like a hot potato
She’s stringing you along, and will continue to do so while you are happy to put up with it.
I always wonder about people who are happy to two time, if you’ll do it once, you’ll do it twice

Plenty more fish in that big blue ocean!

Oriel

what bombidol said

Typedef

Use her for sex, until you find someone who'll treat you right.

Mostly... kick her ass to the kerb, though... the free sex (tm) is just an added f-you bonus point on your part.

Besides, you couldn't ever trust a woman, you'd got together with, because she was two timing another man with you... now could you?

dod

If she's happy to enjoy your 'company' at the expense of his dignity, what makes you think that she'll be any more loyal to you, once you become the main man eh?

Wake up and smell the coffee, move on.

malico

Have to say dave, kicking her out is probally the best. It happened before, It'll happen again.

Wook

dump the bich and hump the boyfriend ..serves her right !

Sleipnir

I'd have to agree with Malico on this one,
If she can do it to her current BF after 3 years, she could do it you as well. Untrustworthy.

Trojan

If she's cheated physically on him then how can you ever trust her? I certainly wouldn't.

If not, then it could possibly work. That's your only chance of this relationship succeeding. Remember, the girl will be treating you like she treats him.

Al.

Cabaal

Originally posted by Typedef
Use her for sex, until you find someone who'll treat you right.

Mostly... kick her ass to the kerb, though... the free sex (tm) is just an added f-you bonus point on your part.

If you were so inclined you could do that alright, otherwise kick her to kerb..

logic

Learn from your mistakes.........I feel sorry for her BF though.

bloggs

Yip you are both scumbags alright! Me smells a skanger too

Doodee

well, if you fancy being hurt yourself in almost the same timelength as her current boyfriend then sure, go ahead.

However, like everyone is saying, she will do it to you after a certain amount of time.

nothing is 100% certain, but it can be probable.
girl has cheated on her boyfriend in the past, and is likely to do it again.

end of the day its up to you.
But i for one have never agreed on cheating,i wouldnt do it yself and would like it not to happen to myself.

just one question, how far have yourself and the girl gone?

cause if its just kissing, you may be able to consider it just a little crush.

spooiirt!!

you should leave her for sure! shes playin u both!

NO MAM!!!
al bundy fans will understand

LegacyUser

If you're into her, and she's into you, I'd say go for it.

Tell her strait up she must change her act, and if she doesn't to fu(k off. That you'll walk...

2 possibilities:
1. she'll change her act, dump bf and get with you, and after some time might earn your trust
2. she wont leave bf because she doesn't really care too much about either of you (very likely)

but you may as well go for it and see wat comes about, just dont put ur heart on the line....

LegacyUser

Yeah I think you'e all right about getting rif of her. We've slept together to answer Doodee's qs!

Was with her last night and she's basically told me that she's not leaving her boyfriend, ten in the next breath she said she definatly is. She said last night that hthe idea of me wihth someone makes her really sad!

But i really care abotu her. I really want to be with her, but you;r eall right.. I should get rid of her!

AL][EN

Sorry to hear about your woe's, but the peeps that have posted here already are right. she's no good for you even though your mad about her deep down. You know she'll never leave him for you as much as you really want her too she's not, it may be love but time heals all wounds, move on and find someone that will treat you right

good luck hope it works out for you,

beatsie

Man , from what you just said there, that girl sounds unstable , schizo even, youll be glad your rid of her , for your own sanity and well being.

She needs to know your in charge , she's walking all over you and her bf's feelings.

Grimlock

last night and she's basically told me that she's not leaving her boyfriend, ten in the next breath she said she definatly is.

She's playin you for a fool; she knows your mad into her and she's using you! And you KNOW she's not gonna leave him for ya!

She said last night that hthe idea of me wihth someone makes her really sad!

Emotional blackmail; Girls do that SO well! If she meant it then she would not be with someone else herself.

I really want to be with her, but you;r eall right.. I should get rid of her!

First sensible thing you've said; delete her number from you phone don't reply to her calls/texts maybe get away for a week or two just to get her out of your head!
It's not going to be easy, infact it'll probably be very hard but in six months time you'll look back and think to yourself "that was a luck escape!"

I agree with Logic I feel sorry for the poor bastard who's going out with her!

Beruthiel

Originally posted by Grimlock
I agree with Logic I feel sorry for the poor bastard who's going out with her!

so do I, what you are both doing to him is just not right!

one more time, if she can do this to him, she can do it to you!
break up now = short time pain
continue to see her = long, drawn out pain

LegacyUser

Update: She left him.... Just now, they're over.



So should i let her have me? Now that she's ended somehtgn of 3 years for me?

DriftingRain

Update: She left him.... Just now, they're over.

For how long?

So should i let her have me? Now that she's ended somehtgn of 3 years for me?

NO NO NO and NO! She is using you! Drop her and then leave her with nothing.

Was with her last night and she's basically told me that she's not leaving her boyfriend, ten in the next breath she said she definatly is. She said last night that hthe idea of me wihth someone makes her really sad!

This is the proof that she isn't gonna treat you right. Changing her mind and skagging you along. If you stay with her your in for terrible times ahead!

Good Luck in decision making!:rolleyes:

Zombrex

Originally posted by Relationships?
Update: She left him.... Just now, they're over.



So should i let her have me? Now that she's ended somehtgn of 3 years for me?

I would be more worried about what it says about her character ... it is forgivable to make a slip with you (for example a kiss while drunk) but she should have refused to do anything more till she broke up with her boyfriend, and she should have broke up with her boyfriend straight away.

Instead she had both of you for over a year, stringing you both along.

I know it is not the most romantic thought, but in the back on my mind I always want to feel that a girlfriend of mine would break up with me rather than cheat on me. With your girl you can never be sure. She might of learnt her lesson, or she might do exactly the same thing to you a few months down the line.

I would also be quite pissed off with her in the first place about how she was treated you. You are not some toy she can come back to and expect to find in the same place she left you.

There are other better girls out there mate

BTW take a picture if you break up with her .. i would love to see her face