Comfortable Silences

Nook

Uncomfortable silences.Why do we feel its necessary to talk about bull**** in order to be comfortable?ya know when you have found somebody special,When you can just shut the **** up for a minute,and comfortably share silence.

xx

Shouldn't this Pulp Fiction quote go on a movie board or something
Seriously though, I commented on this to a mate yesterday. We were on the bus going to the slane concert and there was a load of teenagers on the bus too. Why Oh Why do they feel the need to yatter on endlessly? So I reckon age has a lot to do with it. When you get a bit older, you become more assured of yourself and don't feel as though you need to keep talking to keep someone's interest. Silence is a seriously understated means of communication. Women have been using it for years - the imfamous old 'silent treatment'

Nook

it is really important to learn to tolerate silences in conversation without getting too anxious. Many people feel like any silence in conversation HAS to be immediately filled, even if there is not much else to say.
Its as if we enjoy mindless babbling.ye women are an evil race!Pulp Fiction and that quote are vividly memorable and packed with hip allusions to everything and anything in pop culture.

simu

Apparently, it's a cultural thing. I heard that parts of Scandinavia, it's perfectly acceptable to have a lull in the middle of a conversation. Kinda cool!

Victor

Because we all fear rejection. Silence towards someone is a form of rejection.

sticklebrick777

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simu

/runs away from horrifying void of previous post

GuanYin

I usually see confortable silences as an indication that a relationship is working well.

Its all about "nervous energy" really (there is a sciencey basis behind this, but for once I'll abstain) and when we are nervous or uncomfortable we react by being fidgetty or babbling on in conversation.

CuLT

I think it's something to do with trying to keep the attention of the person you're attracted to on you.
After all, if you can't hold their attention before you're intimately involved, how do you expect to do it after?

Well, that's how I see it progressing in my head atm.

mike65

Silence is golden but between two ppl its platinum!

Mike.

Nook

Silence is so underated.......

Lukin Black

It's grand when you're with someone and you're there for a set time, say eating or travelling. But I find it awkward if you meet someone, and you both know rightly that neither wants to see the other, and then after the Hello, how's it going, grand etc. There's this silence then, while you're both waiting for the other to say something while furiously trying to make up a reason why you have to go now, or it's the end of the world. Those kind of silences, they're evil. You hope you got away with it, but you know rightly you didn't.

Bottle_of_Smoke

hmmm inclined to disagree, if after a few weeks knowing someone and there's mainly silence its generally an indication you dont connect