exboyfriend

gascrack

I have been in love with a girl for the last 3 years. She is in my college course was going out with one of my friends in the same course two years ago. Finally at a party I worked up the courage to ask her out and we have now been goin out for 3 months. But my friend and her ex boyfriend doesn't know and is now trying to get back with her. he won't leave her alone. He constantly phones her. He said to her that the next time they meet he won't go away until she's with him again. She says she doesn't want to get back with him and wants to be with me. She doesn't want to end up fighting with him though because he's in the same course as us. I love her and I'd rather loose him as a friend than loose her. She talks to me about this and she doesn't know what to do I don't know what to tell her. Some one help! Any advice appreciated

Maguined

well the ex is probably feeling pretty ****ty right now. he must feel betrayed by you from his point of view, just keep talking to him as calmly as possible and eventually i would say he will get his head together and back off, he is just a little screwed up in his head from all these circumstances and not thinking straight at the moment.

exactly how bad is he? that comment about him not leavng the next time unless she gets back with him? was this a serious threat or was it just a hurt lovesick ex? if it continues to get worse then you might have to get the polic involved if it goes way too far, and possibly the college as well when you return.

but seriously at the end of the day just give him some time. he is pretty ****ed up right now but should calm down with time and patience, but do your best to keep the situation calm, if you are lucky you could still be friends at the end of the drama, unlikely but stil possible i suppose.

GUI

**** that

tell the dude straight out ur seeing her now..

if he has a problem with it..

**** him..

things change, time goes by and people change..

she likes u not him

tell him to get over it

fisty

just tell him, if he can't accept it tell him to disappear.

Mac daddy

Just tell him.
If he has a problem with it tell him to get over it life goes on.
Plenty more fish in the sea


:rolleyes:

Typedef

Try doing something out of the box, and go set him up with a loose friend of yours or somesuch.

Nothing, helping one get over the last one, like the next one (or a whole lotta porn).

Victor

Four "cousins", balaclavas, a sledgehammer, two shotguns, a big knife and a 5am wake-up call will make him stay away.*




* may get you arrested.

AngelofFire

just because they have already had a relationship doesnt mean that he should have an advantage over anyone else who wants to get with her. this may sound cruel or insensitive but he is back in the pademonium of looking for a women and therefore he should be treated no differently than anybody who is looking for someone for a first time relationship. dont worry about him hes probably just dwelling on the past. if you really like this girl then stay with her.dont let him affect your relationship

Morrigan

Ok...
Who feels what here -
Your 'friend' - he obviously still feels strongly about the girl and wishes they never broke up. He must think that there's some chance she might feel the same way, otherwise he wouldn't be chasing her. Which is wierd, since I gather from your post they broke up a whole 2 years ago??
Your girl - She is feeling hassled by her ex, is no longer interested in him, and wants to be with you. She doesn't want to fight with him, though.
You - you love the girl, and I'm guessing you think your 'friend' is a bit of a tosser, since you'd throw him away over a girl you've being going out with for 3 months.

Right, well it's pointless trying to keep your 'friend' sweet. He's going to get hurt 1) because she doesn't want him 2) because his 'friend' (i.e. you) is going out with her (and he'll find out). There's no avoiding it.

I think it's black and white - You tell your 'friend' the lay of the land. He's gonna get mad and you'll make an enemy.
OR you break up with the girl, and stick with your friend - which, I think we'll all agree is not what you're going to do.
It all depends on whose feelings matter most to you - think in terms of the long run as well. How good a friend is this guy to you, and are you really in love. I mean really. Not just in 'lust'...

Good luck, and don't bandy the word 'love' about.

po0k

Originally posted by Morrigan

It all depends on whose feelings matter most to you - think in terms of the long run as well. How good a friend is this guy to you, and are you really in love. I mean really. Not just in 'lust'...

A true jem in a haystack of advice.

Good luck, and don't bandy the word 'love' about.

Also excellent advice, one that alot of people should follow (particularly teens). bloody wrecks my head when I hear peopl of 14, 15 etc. talking about "love".
Wtf would they know?
Too much selling of "love" and "romance" these days.
Marriage is not a smooth sail the whole way. "Love" is what Drives 2 people to strive through the tough shit - of which there will certainly be much of in the course of their lives.

sionnach

just because ur friend went out with her before doesnt mean u dont have a right to love this girl. The important thing to do is tell him urself bout the situation, whatever chance u stand of slavaging ur friendship with him will b gone if he finds out himself that ur going with her and u were covering it up.

sci0x

Ok the three of ye have got to sit down and talk about it. He cant MAKE her love him! This has got to be explained to this lunatic that she no longer loves him.

GUI

just beat him up

whoever wins gets the girl

ps
throw in a lance and make it more interesting ;-)

Wolf

Walk over to him and tell him all the filthy things that you do to his ex-girl friend tell him that shes your now and you love having her every night, tell him about how your so happy and made happier by his misery and then laugh at his tears of sorrow MAHAHAAHAJAAMAHAANAAHANAHASHSNAHSDJHAN!!!!!!! :mad: :ninja: :mad:

Trojan

Tell him non-aggressively to stop stalking her, that she's getting scared. Those kinda words get through to people more than aggression.

tom-thebox

Originally posted by gascrack
I have been in love with a girl for the last 3 years. She is in my college course was going out with one of my friends in the same course two years ago. Finally at a party I worked up the courage to ask her out and we have now been goin out for 3 months. But my friend and her ex boyfriend doesn't know and is now trying to get back with her. he won't leave her alone. He constantly phones her. He said to her that the next time they meet he won't go away until she's with him again. She says she doesn't want to get back with him and wants to be with me. She doesn't want to end up fighting with him though because he's in the same course as us. I love her and I'd rather loose him as a friend than loose her. She talks to me about this and she doesn't know what to do I don't know what to tell her. Some one help! Any advice appreciated

Knock the b-ollox out of him.

easygoing724

Simple really...........communication is the key..........talk to the guy..........he should see sense