holiday romance

Gerry

Im on a j1 at the moment and there is this girl that is living with me that i have strong feelings for. I find it hard to express these to her and was wondering if anyone has any help or advice. she is from kilkenny and i live in kildare and i am capable of maintaining a long distance relationship like the wind.

LegacyUser

Man..Im seeing a woman from portsmouth atm.

And yeah it can work if you have desire for each others essence.

A desire to hold them. To meet with their mind. To understand their love and pain as an equal on this planet and existance.

Ill make it work. no mater. will you?

PS gordo you fuk please unban me

Thx

merc

memphis

Originally posted by Gerry
Im on a j1 at the moment and there is this girl that is living with me that i have strong feelings for. I find it hard to express these to her and was wondering if anyone has any help or advice. she is from kilkenny and i live in kildare and i am capable of maintaining a long distance relationship like the wind.

Hi there. Another J1er eh? What part of the states ya in at the moment? I'm in Boston!

Anyway, to get back on topic, if ya really like this girl go for it. She is Irish, so I don't see the big problem when you get home. Ireland is a small island as I'm sure you've discovered by now, so meeting with her should be no problem to ya. I was with a girl from waterford for some time and I'm a Tipperary man. I drove an hours trip most weekends to be with her.

So, if the chemistry is there, enjoy the rollercoater dude!!

Memphis

WhiteWashMan

gerry dude.
no time to waste.
go for it.

not too sure what maintaining a relationship like the wind is, but be careful, because its harder than you think, even in a long term relationship.

but why not just tell her.
like dr pepper, whats the worse that can happen?

Maguined

yeah go for it man, even if she says she is not interested you will feel like **** but then you will get over it, but if you do nothing you will always ask yourself was she the one that got away.

and if the two of you got together, and if the two of you cared that much for each other the long distance thing will be feck hard but worth it.

waste oppertunities are definitely worse than failed relationships imho.

b3t4

My advice...

Stop thinking about it so much, just do it.

Friend of mine is going out with an american girl over there. He is on a J1. He didn't think twice about it.

I'm going out with a guy that goes to college in Belfast and I go to college in Limerick. I didn't think about the distance till I was in the relationship. If I had I wouldn't be in one of the best relationships I've had.

What the future holds it holds. Live for today, tomorrow will sort itself out if you let it.

Best wishes,
A.

query

I met my boyfriend 2 years ago on holidays. To be honest it's been much like any other relationship - apart from we got close very quickly because we were together/having fun for two weeks. that meant we got serious very quickly which was difficult when we went back to living 100 miles apart. Weekend visits were great. Now we live in the same city and the differences amongst us - that we probably would've found out if we'd got together more slowly - are very apparent. It's kind of like being an only child - in some way you grow up more quickly and in some ways more slowly.

Some holiday romances work out, some don't - much like all other romances!

po0k

Tap that ass Phil

yellum

Go for it Gerry.

I fell in love with someone and never told that person how much I felt for them while we hung around together and now its too late due to other reasons. The time together was great but my hearts cracked now,

Lifes just too short. Don't bottle it up. Tell her, if she says no then fine at least you let her be clear on what you think of her and you'll still be in the same single state as you were before.

However if she is also interested then woohooooo ! Carpe totty

Mercury_Tilt

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logic1

Originally posted by Mercury_Tilt
Might I ask what a j1 is?

I tried my mate googler and the results were lots a jap stuff.

Student visa.

.logic.

DriftingRain

Awww....Go for it. and Good Luck

MrNuked

met my American gf while i was there on j1 in 1999.
She's moving in with me in about a month.
Distance drives you potty after a while though. Would advise against it unless you think something really special might develop.

Shad0r

Yeah I'd say go for it. ASAP as well. Life is too short and if your on a J1 you should have loads of time left to spend with her before you need to start worrying about the distance between you.

And even then, Kildare and Kilkenny arent a million miles apart.

Typedef

Carpe Diem.

Each situation deserves evaluation for "it's own" merits, not, monothestic theories about life.

(Not including this post... of course).

sutty

Phil you'd be a fool not to go for it, see even I'm tellen ya. So it must be true. even if it doesn't work, at least you will have the time the states.

GL, GG, PLD, SHOTS ect....

Gerry

cheers guys for all the advice. there's a few of us going on a night out this weekend and i reckon i'll go for it then. anyone have any tips or advice on what to say or do?

it's just that i feel so strongly for her that i don't want to mess it up. we've been in college for the last 4 years together and if i don't try it now i might never have the chance again.

my heart aches for her.....bigstyle.

LegacyUser

hey gerry man i hope you have taken some positive action. i was in a similar situation 2 years ago on a j1 in new york and the girl i really liked/loved is now in a really strong relationship and i never really see her anymore. so, go for it if you haven't already. keep us updated man, later.
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