Meeting Internet Types

LegacyUser

Hi All,

just interested in your experiences of meeting people you have chatted to on da net.

I have met 4 people who I was chatting to and they all turned out to be totally different to the way they acted in a chat or when I was talking to them on the phone. I think it is much too easy for someone to pretend to be someone they are not on the net.

Have you ever met anyone in "real life" that you found on a chat? Where they as you expected them to be? If you are chatting to people, do you act as yourself or do you take on a different personality? Do you think people who use chat rooms can be trusted? (God, I sound like Adrian Kennedy's phone show!!!!)

Anyway, let me know what you think. Thanks

Crucifix

I haven't any stories, but to be honest I'd say I'm more someone I'm not in everyday life than on the internet.

Squeeks

I've only met one person "in real life" and found that they were just the same as on-line/phone.

I hope that I wouldn't be any different on-line than I really am...

Wook

boards beer [pe-ople) kinda meet new humanoids constantly.
It quickly degenerate into a pile of drunk irish flubber though.

WhiteWashMan

im not sure that people are different on the net than they are in real life.
after all, most people who have met me would sy im not really as grumpy as i am here for instance, however, this is just a side that doesnt get brought out much when im in a real life situation.
i think irc etc exagerates peoples personalities.
you just have to find out where the person ends, and the overboyant personallity.

ToxicPaddy

It really depends on what the expectations are before you meet the person to be honest, Ive met a few people from the net, most were people ya just got chatting to and there was nothing more, so when we met up it was for a few drinks and usually met with a group of others who used that same forum.. so no matter what the outcome there were never those awkward silences

It seems that your intentions to meeting up are for more than a chat and a pint.. and in that case, chances are the person will turn out differently..

As some have said here already, the internet gives people a chance to only tell you certain things about them that they wouldnt be able to hide when chatting face to face.. most dont realise that they will turn out meeting that actual person so I wouldnt take it to heart, keep meeting people off the net..

Even if nothing does happen, you can still be mates, and you can never have too many friends

Saruman

Depends on the person. I have met one person i talked to on the net. There were differences but not too much. On the other hand it seems im pretty different in real life. For one thing im not quite as talkative in person some people might say.. So it depends on the person!!

JohnnyBravo

i met someone of th net and when i did it was a disaster we slept together on the first night but there was nothing there she was completly different in real life where as on the net she had an opinion about what she wanted to do places to go when we we met she couldnt even order pizza topping so i vowed never to do it again

WhiteWashMan

Originally posted by JohnnyBravo
i met someone of th net and when i did it was a disaster we slept together on the first night but there was nothing there she was completly different in real life where as on the net she had an opinion about what she wanted to do places to go when we we met she couldnt even order pizza topping so i vowed never to do it again

you arent going to do what?
getting laid or ordering pizza?

you can never have a life without pizza!

mooman_00

Originally posted by WhiteWashMan
you arent going to do what?
getting laid or ordering pizza?

you can never have a life without pizza!

no, he said hes never gonna order her toppings again

embee

Ive been chatting in a certain chatroom for about three years now and we have regular parties and drinking sessions. Its pretty much the same as "real-life" - youre going to meet people you do and dont get on with. But I met two really cool ppl from the net and now the three of us house share. Which is cool. I also think it depends on how open to meeting new people you are. I'll talk to pretty much anyone anyways once I have a bit of booze in me.

Helix

ive met loads and loads and loads of people i spoke to first online. still to meet someone id class as an asshole or a freak

tho i doubt they all say the same about me

hahaha

Bosco

Davey-Boy123 said:

"I have met 4 people who I was chatting to and they all turned out to be totally different to the way they acted in a chat or when I was talking to them on the phone."

Maybe you're so devastatingly gorgeous that they were too breathless to speak....Or maybe you're so horribly deformed that they were feeling queasy...Or maybe you used too must Lynx and they had to keep their mouths closed to help keep the fumes out...or....or...

For my part I've met only one person who I chatted to first online. I first talked to her about four years ago, met her in person around three years ago and we've been together since. She makes very nice coffee.

BTW for optimum Lynx effect the smell density should not exceed 0.1 seconds of spray per armpit per foot in height of target male. (Adjust for smelly environments & smelly women)

ferdi

dude, stop looking for a girlfriend on the internet.

Kalina

Originally posted by ferdi
dude, stop looking for a girlfriend on the internet.

That's good advice!!

Shinji

Yeah, it IS good advice.

Look for interesting or fun people on the Internet, fine. Use the Internet as a place you go to pursue certain interests, and if you meet people you like through that medium, great!

I've met up with loads of people I initially met online - in fact, most of the people I know in real life now, for various reasons, are people I met initially on the Internet.

Sure, it's pick 'n mix. One thing I have serious trouble with is people who are totally different online to the way they are in real life - there's a certain two-facedness to that which I just find offputting. However most people who are interesting, fun and intelligent online follow pretty much the same traits in real life, I've found. It's just the arrogant idiots who suddenly lose their voices when they leave the security of a forum or chatroom...

But going looking for "love" on the Internet is asking for trouble. If you happen to run into it by accident online, then hell, that's great. There's nothing weird about falling for someone you met first online... But if you've got some crazy idea about actively going out looking for a partner online, forget it. That's not how it works, and you WILL get burnt.

JohnnyBravo

Looking for swingers is ok

po0k

"There's Spots On Me Willeh!"

JohnnyBravo

use t gell treat your spots without mistreating your hair

Victor

Well to be perfectly honest, people aren't quite as intelligent / chraming / witty / whatever in real life - however they do tend to be a bit more sociable and articulate ..... but I didn't actually expect to be molested by amp in the Gingerman.

Caffine

iv met a lot of ppl off the net, and iv never been suprised by the way they were in person

then again maybe im just lucky

DriftingRain

I think generally I am more shy and cautious of others in person than when I am when I am on the net. But on another note. I feel people are more their true selves on the net because they don't have to feel embarrasment or pressure of sorts here, I have no idea if that makes sence but...its my two cents.

JohnnyBravo

Did you meet someone off the net

DriftingRain

Did you meet someone off the net

WHO?

ButcherOfNog

i've met a few people off the net, and jasus you're right, they were all wierdos.

Boston

Shinji, Have me met? Butcherofnog, i know we met, and i wish i could disagree with you, but i can't. Personally i'm a very defencive person, you people are all weird, so its taken awhile for me to get used to you guys in real life. Your all completely different from totally different social backgrounds and the like, so its abite difficult to start with, but i think after shooting a fair few of you, i' settling in now.

Btw how come when i introduce myself everyone goes " Your!! Boston"

DriftingRain

HEHEHEHE...Boston:D After 2,000 something posts you are just now getting used to us ehhh?
LOL:p

smiles

Originally posted by Boston


Btw how come when i introduce myself everyone goes " Your!! Boston"

Probably the same reason why I get

"Oh yeah... thats you" when I saw I'm smiles.

<< Fio >>

Boston

yea but your weird, i'm normal that was really funny in the cinema that time btw. Karn looked like he was about to **** himself, kinda like "some crazy jacken recognises me, **** what did i do last night" looks

Caesar_Bojangle

On the internet I’m half master of Italy and half black tap dancer, but in real life I’m just a regular thirteen year old girl with aspirations to become the next Hillary Clinton.

Boston

13? girl? why am i not surprised Mr donkey pron.

Caesar_Bojangle

It was a horse actually

fisty

I met Caesar_Bojangle once,
he tried to bundle me into the back of a van.
He kept telling me strangers have the best candy.
What a freak...

TinCool

Originally posted by ButcherOfNog
i've met a few people off the net, and jasus you're right, they were all wierdos.

Yeah, have to agree with you there noggy. I've met some serious boggers from the boards, and they are exactly how I pictured them

razorfeather

i met my last 2 boyfriends online...i think its a great way of really getting to know someone because theres no judgement other then personality like...i think its good


i've met loadsa ppl from online its fun but there's been a few dodgy meet ups alright...roflmfao.... "accidentaly on purpose" lost them in town when we were walkin somewhere...

(yes it was that bad)

demonic faery

I've only met one person off the internet. He's now my boyfriend and we've been together over a year and a half now:D I didnt find him much different when we met in person, although we had talked a LOT. Emails, MSM, texts... He also met some guy that we both used to talk to, and he wasnt that different either. But I guess you're always gonna get people pretending to be something they're not...

Nevyn

nah the fun bit is being out in town and havign some one yell ur nick and you stop
and trun arround grinning.

DriftingRain

HEHEHE Yeah...If someone Yelled Drifting Rain across the street....Now only would I get looked at all funny for stopping but I am sure the screamer would get the eye too. See. In person I would be embarrased... LOL

Nevyn

That a hell of a lot more then that to embarass me , besides I've been using Thaed in differnt places for the last 7 years.

echomadman

heheh
having echomadman shouted at me in the street would probably rank as one of the more polite things thats been shouted at me..

Barry Aldwell

I've met a few people on the CTYI board who I've then met at CTYI. All nuts, on and offline. Conversely, I've talked online to people I know in real life, and they're completely different online.

nesthead

hehe ive had nesthead shouted across the street at me before, it was a nickname before a net name tho (the old one was Mutant hehe)

Dr Bolouswki

I was really tempted to go to the last boards beers, but didn't for fear of ruining my enjoyment. I mean, even the people I don't like on boards, I still kinda like, just because it's funny to argue and flame and it's competitive etc. and it's a laugh when someone destroys you (rarely happens though on account of my greatness)

What if you all turned out to be a pack of jerks? I'd have to leave boards and find something else...

Besides - I'm bald. No-one would take me seriously.



Anyone know Stan? Please mock him on the baldness thing - it's the only way he'll get over it...

littleninja

I've met quite a few ppl from the internet, they have (mostly) been fairly sound - only one or two nutters so far :ninja:

Lord Nikon

You can be more open on the Net cause no-one knows you true identity. It's a world away from your own.

littleninja

Yes that's true neuromancer people can sometimes put up fronts in person and it is more difficult to tell if that is their real personality or just an act put on for your benefit, they dont feel inhibited as much because they don't have to talk to ppl face to face (which is something I have difficulty with sometimes too) it is sometimes much easier to be open and let ur real feelings be heard when u don't have to actually physically say the words face to face to someone.

There is also the flip side too - people can be very dishonest online as well, they say one thing when it could be the total opposite that is actually nearer to the truth.

I think it's cool meeting ppl u do be talking to online a lot, cos it's nice to be able to put a face to the names sometimes - bit of a shock when faced with like 50 or so ppl that u mite b talking to online though, that's a bit too much too soon really!!! but on the whole it's pretty cool.

One thing I would say about meeting ppl from the internet -
NEVER meet on a one to one basis, ALWAYS meet in bigger groups and in a public area, it's better to be safe than sorry, on the whole, it's a great laff though and I intend to meet many more ppl from the internet, I have made some REALLY good friends from chatting online and am now living with 2 that I initially was talking to online and wouldn't have it any other way tbh :ninja: :ninja: :ninja:

Lord Nikon

If I see further than you, it's because i have a bigger telescope.

MoosemaN

Hello Everyone..

I am fairly new here..

I think I meet 50 or so, people that I only talked to before on the internet..

This is because I was doing a fair bit of online gaming when I was younger and you meet up with them on lanpartys..

From different forums I have probably meet 5 people and they where all the same online as IRL .. (all freakz .. )