Dont know what to do with my life

LegacyUser

i need a bit of advice here, but not sure on what exactly

Ive just finished a course in IT and ive spent the
last month kinda looking for a job. I say kinda, but i dont really
have much motivation at all to do so.

im 20, im a bit of a loner and ive never had a girlfriend. I dont and never
did have trouble talking people, ive had friends in college and got on really well
, but i just never bothered going out to pubs or meeting after college, despite
being repeatedly asked. I finished college 2 months ago, and never
bothered to keep in touch with anyone. I guess im kinda a loner by choice,
in that ive never made the effort.
Im not lonely, but for some reason i kinda went out of my way to avoid making friends.
Of course, never going out to pubs
or anything also pretty much explains why ive never had a girlfriend

In the last few months, ive sorta become apathetic to everything in life. I'm only half
attempting to find a job, i have no motivation to do so, i have no goals or things i
want to achieve. I am not depressed, or lazy, but just feel i dont have any reason to push for
anything. Odd as it may sound, but ive achieved most of the things ive wanted to in the last
few years, and all my unrealistic dreams just kinda fizzled out. I dont have any hobbies
anymore, ive become tired of everything -nothing excites me anymore. Ive felt this way
even in the last few months in college.

I know id like a girlfriend, but the fact that i dont have any friends means that
i dont go out, and im sure not gonna go to clubs or pubs by myself - ive never been interested
in that scene anyway. For the last few weeks ive just stayed in my house, doing nothing -
a year ago i had so many hobbies i didnt know where to begin, but now i just dont want
to do anything. Truth is, i dont get bored, i just go around like a zombie.

Im not unhappy, but im not happy (if that makes sense). I dont know what to do with my life
at all, i dont even know what i want out of life - i have money now, but theres nothing
i want material wise. I used to want to travel, but i dont even have an interest in that anymore

Maybe some of you can see whats up with me, and give me a bit of advice

oq4v3ht0u76kf2

Fsck off. No, seriously... fsck off. Get outta your current sitution. Go away for a couple of weeks, you sound burnt out and exhausted to be honest mate. Try and spend some time by yourself, considering your options from here in life... what about some further education? I don't know what sort of qualification you have but surely there's a better version you could aim for. You could get a job doing nothing to do with I.T., you could force yourself to travel given a good enough reason... family members abroad, job opportunities, etc. etc. You're 20 man, I'm a few years younger than you and I know I have my whole life ahead of me and there is so much I wanna do... I know I won't have done it all by 20, or 200! Seriously, as soon as you can just leave... change your situation for a while, you could grow to like it and make it a permanent life change or you could learn a lot about yourself and see how you can improve your current situation.

Good luck and be safe.

WhiteWashMan

go to a boards.ie meet up.
meet new and interesting people.
see the world.


ok, just go to a boards.ie meet up.

Ruu_Old

Travelling is good thats what i done after coming out of college. I now have a nice day job and work at home myself with a wedding next year hehe. Go travel, and have lots of fun,good luck

Kwizatz Anorak

Three short words

Aus tral ia


Head there for a year and see if that changes your perspective.

rollover

i need a bit of advice here, but not sure on what exactly
Ive just finished a course in IT and ive spent the
last month kinda looking for a job. I say kinda, but i dont really
have much motivation at all to do so.
im 20, im a bit of a loner and ive never had a girlfriend. I dont and never
did have trouble talking people, ive had friends in college and got on really well
, but i just never bothered going out to pubs or meeting after college, despite
being repeatedly asked. I finished college 2 months ago, and never
bothered to keep in touch with anyone. I guess im kinda a loner by choice,
in that ive never made the effort.
Im not lonely, but for some reason i kinda went out of my way to avoid making friends.
Of course, never going out to pubs
or anything also pretty much explains why ive never had a girlfriend
In the last few months, ive sorta become apathetic to everything in life. I'm only half
attempting to find a job, i have no motivation to do so, i have no goals or things i
want to achieve. I am not depressed, or lazy, but just feel i dont have any reason to push for
anything. Odd as it may sound, but ive achieved most of the things ive wanted to in the last
few years, and all my unrealistic dreams just kinda fizzled out. I dont have any hobbies
anymore, ive become tired of everything -nothing excites me anymore. Ive felt this way
even in the last few months in college.
I know id like a girlfriend, but the fact that i dont have any friends means that
i dont go out, and im sure not gonna go to clubs or pubs by myself - ive never been interested
in that scene anyway. For the last few weeks ive just stayed in my house, doing nothing -
a year ago i had so many hobbies i didnt know where to begin, but now i just dont want
to do anything. Truth is, i dont get bored, i just go around like a zombie.
Im not unhappy, but im not happy (if that makes sense). I dont know what to do with my life
at all, i dont even know what i want out of life - i have money now, but theres nothing
i want material wise. I used to want to travel, but i dont even have an interest in that anymore
Maybe some of you can see whats up with me, and give me a bit of advice

im in a similar predicament in that im a loner(22 y.o) by choice but i dont think that u should be too worried about girls..more often than not they are more hassle than they are worth..being a loner,imo,isnt necessarily a bad thing in that ur actions and choices dont have to be influenced by others and u dont have to feel insecure about things that u do..i think travelling is a good suggestion ..also maybe u should read more..i thinks its a good way of passing time and an excellent way to avoid meeting people..read books where there is a heavy emphasis on the characters and their development rather than the plot..the plot and its description can get a bit tedious after a while...read books where you enjoy the form of narrative(mostly fiction)....get fit(ie..running)..its another great way to pass time..u might consider doing a postgrad in some IT related thingy,say software design and development,at the very least this will give u an opportunity to gain an extra qualification while simulatanously(sic) meeting ppl
..these are just suggestions!

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