Mr Right/Mr Right now

LegacyUser

I've reached my 30s with a lot of (over) long ternm relationships - the last one is three years and I really thought was it. As did he. But I digress. It crumbled as quickly as it arrived. Over something stupid. But the point is it wasn't strong enough for him to bother trying.

What I'm wondering is do people think there is one soulmate? Am I holding out/ deciding not to settle just because I've read about it in romantic relationships?

Wook

No such thing as mr right.
especially not from a woman's point of view.
Since woman can change their idea of 'perfect' every 5 seconds, thus not possible...a'm afraid.

Kalina

I don't believe in the idea that there is one and only one perfect match/soulmate for everybody. However I also think that one shouldn't stay in a relationship cos they think it's the best they'r going to do. If it doesn't feel right then get out and keep loking. Of course I'm only 22 and not a veteran, I might look at the whole situation very differently when I hit 30.

Typedef

Originally posted by mr right?
What I'm wondering is do people think there is one soulmate? Am I holding out/ deciding not to settle just because I've read about it in romantic relationships?

Cynics might say, modern people are so pampered in comparison to pervious generations that, said current generations don't make the sacrifices, for the diminishingly valued relationships, their parents and grandparents made.

Myself.... I think I'll just go buy a jar of happiness.

WhiteWashMan

there are people with certain characteristics, that i will find more 'attractive' in a partner, and there are people who have less of the attributes that i require in a partner.

at the end of the day i think there are hundreds of people who match my 'shopping list' of get along tick boxes, so i guess somewhere out there, there may be some person that has every characterisitc that i want in someone. be that mrs right. although i dont think you can ever get 100% compatibility
and there will be the opposite.

but i think if you can get someone who has 99% of the things, meaning you have a wonderful relationship and get along, then great, you wont find better.
i have found mine, so hands off!

LegacyUser

Originally posted by Typedef
Cynics might say, modern people are so pampered in comparison to pervious generations that, said current generations don't make the sacrifices, for the diminishingly valued relationships, their parents and grandparents made.

Myself.... I think I'll just go buy a jar of happiness.

Well, strike me pink and call me a cynic. The reason more relationships don't work out is due in large part to the notion people have nowadays that "there must be something better".

So, once what they have becomes a little bit more difficult than it was at the beginning, they get cold feet, think it's all a bit too much work, and jump ship. Hence, higher rates of marriage/relationship break downs.

Now, whether sticking with a difficult relationship and trying to pull it through a rough patch will make you happier than hopping from partner to partner, I don't know. But, it certainly seems to contribute to this ridiculous idea (contributed to by romantic comedy culture) that everyone has a soulmate, with whom they'd be perfectly happy and all would be rosy.

Bullshít.

If you're going to share your life with someone, it'll hit hard spots, you'll argue, you'll hate eachother for a while, damned sure you'll hurt eachother deepy. Of course, a lot of it will be good too, obviously, but unrealistic expectations of unlimited happiness and plain-sailing bliss just make for disappointment.

The Sweeper

There is no such thing as a 'perfect' relationship, only in that there is no such thing as a relationship in which nothing will ever go wrong.

You will have to face the stress and strain of everyday life with your partner so naturally there are ups and downs.

If you find someone with whom you can work through the downs with a minimum of fuss and be happy with the result, and with whom you can enjoy the ups and life feels like it's never been better, well then.

I don't think there's a soulmate. But sometimes, if you find someone like I've described above, it can feel like there is. I think there's an enormous difference between "Mr. Right In Every Way" and "Mr. Right For Me". If you're looking for the former, you'll stay looking. If you find the latter... well, when you know you just know.

the Guru

I am going through the same thing at the moment broke up with my g/f and I thought we where going to get married have kids and all that other stuff people in love do but nooooooooo it doesent work that way .

I do honestly think that there is a soulmate for all of us out there and sometimes more than one as I keep on seeing as all the girls I see and speak too are actually going out with guys and they are just in relationships because its easier to do so and not be single because they wouldnt know what to do with them selves. in some cases only lots are in love (ahhhhh thats nice)

I on the other hand I take everyday as it comes I am very happy now been single but I know that one day im out and about i will meet the one and i think thats what its really all about hold out and it will happen