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wivy

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This might seem like a stupid post but would be interested to hear your thoughts on this ladies or if any of you have had a similar experience.

Do any of you have friends who copy everything you do, say, wear? And I don't mean buying the same top once in a while.
This is a friend (25) who Iv known since school, but it is getting to a point where it is starting to really bug me. I nearly feel I cannot do or have anything without seeing her a week or two later with the same! Other people have also started to notice. She is aware of this, as I have expressed some distaste about it. However, she laughs it off.

Maybe I sound ridiculous, but it is getting frustrating to the point that I feel like I am drifting away from her.

Any thoughts or advice? Tia

I know the first thing I should say is to accept it as the sincerest form of flattery, but I know from experience how annoying it is. I had an acquaintance who did the same to me, even getting her hair cut identically and having it coloured the same as mine. Whenever we would be going out in a group, she would try to find out what I was planning to wear (I never plan things like that, I just get dressed!) and would constantly show up the the same shoes, bag or dress that I'd have worn the last time I saw her.

I moved away, and last I heard she was at it with another mutual acquaintance.

Tell her you found it flattering at first, but it's gotten creepy now and that it makes you very uncomfortable. That's not the kind of thing you can laugh off and if you're going to lose her as a friend over this it's time to take the gloves off.

stinkle

Yeah I had a friend who would do this, and also took to "borrowing" my stuff if she stayed over. It was weird. I was never sure if she actually liked my style or was it just jealousy cos she'd inevitably go for the more expensive stuff I had. She was shorter and skinnier than me so it looked like my clothes were wearing her! Or she was trying to wear a Stinkle costume! I remember saying Id prefer if she asked me first before deciding to and she tried to make out that it was normal (she has older sisters, I dont) and I was the weird one for not sharing, so be prepared for your mate to turn it onto you.

Could it be a self-esteem thing with her? Like she doesnt have confidence in her own style/appearance and needs other people's ideas or approval? Is your friendship growing apart in other ways - sometimes school friendships dont last in the adult world