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What to do if you don't like yourself?

  • 06-09-2015 1:23am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey everyone, former semi-regular poster going unreg'd for this one.

    Without going into anything specific, I've been struggling with a lot of personal issues lately, re: social life, work, loneliness, etc. I've been doing a lot of thinking and self-reflection, and I've kind of reached the conclusion that a lot of it stems from the fact that I just don't particularly like myself.

    Seems like a small thing, but it's taken me a long time to figure this out, and I feel hugely relieved just having admitted it to myself.

    I'm just not sure what to do from here. I want to figure this out, because I think it's really impacting on my happiness and general enjoyment of life. Has anyone been in this position or could anyone offer any advice? Is some kind of therapy an option?

    I'm very much open to any suggestions here.

    Thanks for reading ;)


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  • #2
    Rubberchikken
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,094 ✭✭✭Rubberchikken


    ask yourself what it is you don't like about yourself. make a list, but i'll bet it's short. then ask yourself what it is that is good about you.
    we need to focus on the good things. if there are negative things that are impacting on life, then set about changing them. you mention social life, work and loneliness. go through each of them and see where change can be made.

    if you felt that talking to someone would help, your gp could recommend a professional.
    sorry i don't have anything better to advise, best of luck.


  • #3
    Exclamation Marc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,804 ✭✭✭✭Exclamation Marc


    Can you think of a point in your life or a point recently where you started feeling this way? Was there a point where life was really good but suddenly you just started feeling down? Or a trigger event?

    Rubberhickken's post above is excellent, writing things out is a great way to identify and reflect.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I was actually in your position about 10 years ago OP. I would second the suggestion of writing things down and strongly consider going to a professional.

    I did neither of these things. And tbh, I'm still struggling with it so it's the sort of thing that you do need to deal with properly or it'll come back to hit you again and again.

    The one thing that I would caution is to keep a close eye and identify carefully if there are things that you don't like about you or things that you don't like about your life. I've spent a lot of time working on "making myself better" but all I was doing was making my life circumstances better instead. I'm now more educated, (slightly) better paid, more traveled and own more nice things than before; but I'm still jealous that other people aren't perpetually stuck with my company and don't have to be near me all the time.

    Most importantly, you're not crazy for feeling this way. It's not normal but you're not crazy.


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