Should I move on?

Unsure and confused

First time poster so this may be ridiculously long, sorry!

This is basically my current situation, I'm a gay guy and a few months back I met a guy through a mutual friend. He seemed very keen about me and asked me on a date. Now, this is where problems arise. On the first date I discovered he wasn't gay, but in fact bi, and wasn't very comfortable about his sexuality (I know, I should of ran). Anyway we dated for a bit and I ended up really liking him, which is unusual for me, but like all good things it ended. Confused about why it ended because it seemed to be going so well I took it hard. I tried getting him back but no joy, so instead I tried moving on and got in another brief relationship (lasted about 4 months). I still had feelings for him, but I realized I had to let it go and another relationship wasn't going to help me, so I ended that relationship and started broadening my social circle and got a job, all was going well!

Now, this is where the problem arises. He randomly wrote to me out of the blue asking me to go for a drink, unsure of his intentions as he previously told me he didn't see us in a relationship I didn't know whether to go or not, but decided that I would as I did enjoy his company and wouldn't mind having a friendship with him. So we went out anyway, the night was a bit of a disaster, and had a good time just catching up on the past few months we hadn't seen each other. Anyway, we ended up coming back to mine and continued talking, by now it was getting late and I needed my sleep so I tried asking him to leave in a joke kind of way, but he kept getting up, and sitting back down, so I became suspicious. Then he just blurted out that would I like to date again, I originally turned it down, as I had gotten to the point of where I was happy with him and accepted there was nothing going to happen. So we talked and I said there was no point in dating we already did that, so he asked would I want to be in a relationship with me, which I was quite surprised at. He told me he still really liked me and before he just couldn't accept himself and myself as I can be flamboyant. So we kissed and I decided to try it out, but made sure he actually wanted this and that he couldn't do this and not back out.

So got with the guy I like, delighted? Hardly, we didn't talk for about 4 days after that only because I contacted him. Then every conversation started with me initiating it. Then we didn't see each other for two and a half weeks as I was busy and he was busy, but it began to annoy me. We planned then to hang out on Sunday, texted him Sunday to see what we were doing, no reply, I decide to go out with friends, not wasting my day. Texts me Sunday night is like yeah sure, text him about twenty minutes later and he says he's applying for jobs? I just lost my temper and told him I wasn't bothered with this and I was turned off this 'relationship', and it felt like the last time. He text me back saying it isn't the same, he wants to see me now and everything. So I went to see him and he says he hasn't got time for a relationship and he really likes me but never sees himself loving me? We talked that out anyway and decided we'd see where this 'relationship' would go, like what you do in a relationship. So all grand, except when I went to leave I leaned in to kiss him, and he just wouldn't, back in my temper again told him I was done for good, and left. When I got home I deleted him off Facebook and his number.

But I seen him last night and it was awkward, very. I was rude I have to admit, I just tried to ignore his presence as I was having a good night and didn't want it to be ruined. But now I'm sitting here in a fragile hungover state, wondering should I just completely forget about him? This time I feel like I got the closure I needed as it doesn't really hurt to think about him, but at the same time he was the first guy I liked and I'm not sure if I should let go? Even though I've essentially cut off contact so it would be pretty hard to talk to him, I don't know if I should reach out or just leave the past, as for us it seems to always end the same, and if he rejected me, I would probably feel like the same as the first time.

Friends say he'll probably contact me first, but I doubt it after how serious I was and the fact he clearly knows I deleted him off Facebook.

So I'm really just here looking for advice and input, so anything is greatly appreciated, thanks!


Sorry about the novel length, I just needed to be clear as possible.

road_high

He sounds like a total head wreck. Best advice I can give is cut all contact and don't contact this person again. For your happiness and mental health. He wants the odd get together, nothing else by the sounds of it.

Matteroffact

You have your doubts about this guy, and rightly so. If it was meant to be you would have no doubts. He is behaving like he is not that pushed so my guess is that he isn't. He told you he doesn't want to be in a relationship and cannot see himself loving you, so that's your answer. Forget him.

Lalealynn

He sounds maladjusted. People unsure of their sexuality are not ready for relationships. He is blowing hot and cold and not being at all fair or respectful to you.

Starokan

He does not want the relationship op, ignore and move on asap