Housemates boyfriend has key to house

LegacyUser

My housemates boyfriend has a key to our house and lets himself in without knocking and I don't like it. When I viewed the house I was not told anyone other that those living there had access to the house. I intend to move shortly for other reasons but intend to ask when viewing other places who has a key etc.

Do you think it is unreasonable to expect only people living in a house/apt to have keys? He is also in the house a lot and I feel like I'm living with a couple which is not nice. I feel they expect my to vacate the sitting room for them etc.

How do/would other people feel about a situation like this?

Korvanica

I wouldn't like it one bit OP, and you're not being unreasonable whatsoever.

Only people who pay bills/rent in the house should have a key.

Why does he even need a key, why would he even need to be there when your housemate isn't?

I'd feel very uncomfortable if someone outside the tenants and landlord had a key to our place...

Emme

If he's paying rent like everyone else it's OK. If he isn't it's not.

Sleepy

Your flatmate is way out of line there. In 5 years of house-sharing I only ever once had a situation where a non-tennant had a key and that was a case of a good friend of one of the flatmates who was crashing on our couch for a few weeks after hitting a rough patch. And that only happened after it was cleared with each of the housemates, ended up working quite nicely actually, he was a decent guy and insisted on paying all the utilities that month for us

LegacyUser

sunflower27 wrote: »

Maybe he has had the key for ages and it has always been accepted. I do agree though that it is a bit odd.... how many other people have keys? is it just him?

You don't have to vacate the sitting room, that's your choice.

If you are leaving soon, why are you getting so upset?

I will be job hunting soon and will move then. I'm not sure how much longer I will be in my current job so that is why I'm not moving now. I don't want to move then move again when I get a new job. Relocation is very possible.

I haven't said anything as they are friends with the landlord and my housemate is difficult to live with anyway and I don't want to make a sometimes uncomfortable situation worse.

The boyfriend lives in the same estate, only 5 houses up the road, and call to drop stuff over or pick thing up from what I can see.

intrigued12

hi there.

i have been subject to this too. But i overreacted once in my old place, because my friend's boyfriend only had a key to the deadbolt lock, so he could lock up properly when leaving to go to work early or if she was in bed late at night, or he had slept late and my housemate had gone to work. He couldnt actually let himself IN though once he was out, because he didnt have the key to the regular lock too. I was quite happy when i found this out as we lived in a high crime area out, and just talked to them about it to find out what keys he had(they were cool about me asking, totally, maybe you should too?)

have you verified he lets himself in?

ps- how are you posting if yorue a guest?

Hope this helps, let me know!

intrigued12

did you ask the roommates about that like i said yet Liamo or what?

LegacyUser

intrigued12 wrote: »

hi there.

i have been subject to this too. But i overreacted once in my old place, because my friend's boyfriend only had a key to the deadbolt lock, so he could lock up properly when leaving to go to work early or if she was in bed late at night, or he had slept late and my housemate had gone to work. He couldnt actually let himself IN though once he was out, because he didnt have the key to the regular lock too. I was quite happy when i found this out as we lived in a high crime area out, and just talked to them about it to find out what keys he had(they were cool about me asking, totally, maybe you should too?)

have you verified he lets himself in?

ps- how are you posting if yorue a guest?

Hope this helps, let me know!

I am not assuming he has a key and lets himself in. I KNOW he does. I have seen him let himself in loads of times. He doesn't even knock at the front or sitting room door before just walking in. My housemate is difficult to live with and like I said they are friends with the landlord so I feel I can't say anything!

What is Liamo?

Fentdog84

Sounds like your housemate just feels she can do as she pleases, and screw everybody else. You always get these kind of issues when sharing(glad i have my own place now). I think you should say it to the landlord, you are paying rent to him so you have a right to complain if you are unhappy about something. If he dosent see your side on the issue you would be better looking for a new place.

tinkerbell

I think it's unreasonable for someone to give their other half a key. They don't pay rent, and if they both want a set of keys to the same house, then that couple should move in together. It's not fair on you, as a person who pays rent, that you should have another person effectively moving in but without paying their share. Because if he's got a key, then I think he should be contributing towards bills, etc. since it seems like he can come and go as he pleases.

I also think it odd that he's just letting himself in without even his gf being there, really really odd.

I reckon, OP, move out sooner if you can. And I agree that you should have a word with the landlord if you'll be there for a longer amount of time. I would imagine that the landlord wouldn't be best pleased with keys being handed out for his property without his knowledge.