Why guys don't ask for your number?

LegacyUser

The last few nights I have been out, guys have chatted me up, we got on well, shared some laughs etc and with some of them having spent quite a bit of time talking they don't ask for my number.

Is it that they just have got sick of talking to me and realise that they wouldnt want to meet me again or they're somewhat shy to ask for my number? Also if I find myself in this situation again should I ask for their phone to key in my number or should I just move on???

Thanks.

LegacyUser

Hey,
I will probably be shot down for saying this but no you shouldn't ask for his number.
If a guy is there chatting to you and you're sounding interested and being friendly he should be well able to ask for your number, If he's not he's just not interested in dating you.

is there any way that maybe you're sending out too many signals subconsciously that your chat with the guy is all dependant on getting a number so that there is a possibility of a date in sight?

the only thing I can advise is, don't be thinking about anyone else, concentrate on being happy with yourself and that your night out doesn't depend on a guy chatting to you..
Have fun and before you know it you will have guys wanting to get your number asap

Trust me on this as it's worked for me after many years trying to get it right

mood

Just move on.

Jumpy

unreggier wrote: »

Hey,
I will probably be shot down for saying this but no you shouldn't ask for his number.
If a guy is there chatting to you and you're sounding interested and being friendly he should be well able to ask for your number, If he's not he's just not interested in dating you.

Absolute bollocks. If you are interested in them then ask. Its not up to the guy to ask for the number, thats typical "game" bull****.

Firetrap

If a guy is interested in seeing you again, you can bet your bottom dollar that he will get your number.

minidazzler

It depends on the guy. Some are too shy to ask, some are just not interested.

Me, I will ask for the number, but chicken out of calling.

In short there are so many different reasons that I think YOU should ask HIM for his number. That way he knows you are interested.

Overheal

Id be too shy to ask. depends on the guy.

Colonel_McCoy

guys get shy too. ask for their number!!!

Handsome Bob

Agreed with the above, guys can be shy too. Or they may just be lacking in confidence, they probably think you'll say no or give them a fake number. Personally I've found that when one is lacking confidence it is impossible to read the situation, you could be being just friendly and I could misread that for something more, which in turn will see me make an ass out of myself.

Bottle_of_Smoke

unreggier wrote: »

Hey,
I will probably be shot down for saying this but no you shouldn't ask for his number.
If a guy is there chatting to you and you're sounding interested and being friendly he should be well able to ask for your number, If he's not he's just not interested in dating you.

*takes out rifle*

I'd disagree. I only usually ask for a number if I kiss the girl. If I don't kiss them but still would like to meet them again I don't ask because it seems forward and I don't want to make her feel awkward. That's probably my problem though.

I think girls should ask for the number as its generally easier for them to gauge if the guy is interested than vice-versa.

Liam Byrne

Just wondering if I should start a thread with the above title.....

OP - if you like someone and want their number - ASK THEM!!!!!

Nothing ventured, nothing gained!

BumbleB

sunflower09 wrote: »

The last few nights I have been out, guys have chatted me up, we got on well, shared some laughs etc and with some of them having spent quite a bit of time talking they don't ask for my number.

Is it that they just have got sick of talking to me and realise that they wouldnt want to meet me again or they're somewhat shy to ask for my number? Also if I find myself in this situation again should I ask for their phone to key in my number or should I just move on???

Thanks.

I dunno i was talking to a girl I really liked and the conversation just flowed ,my friends estimated about 30 mins her friends started leaving because the had to go to work (she was their manager) anyhow she stayed back and I presumed that she was staying longer but 10 mins late r she went . Anyhow I forgot to get her number ,but i know where she worked but it would be a little "stalkerish" to go to her workplace which is a shop . I really was kicking myself she was beautiful.:(

themusicman

BumbleB wrote: »

I dunno i was talking to a girl I really liked and the conversation just flowed ,my friends estimated about 30 mins her friends started leaving because the had to go to work (she was their manager) anyhow she stayed back and I presumed that she was staying longer but 10 mins late r she went . Anyhow I forgot to get her number ,but i know where she worked but it would be a little "stalkerish" to go to her workplace which is a shop . I really was kicking myself she was beautiful.:(

Its a shop...you can be there without stalking.....go for it...if she hung back when the rest of them went she wasnt bored to tears.....what have you got to lose....just do it

LegacyUser

If you spent ages talking and having the craic but got no kiss at the end of it then its highly likely the guys have girlfriends.

People in relationships really shouldn't waste singles time on a night out but they probably enjoy the buzz. My 2 cents.

LegacyUser

Oh man, OP you described my night on Friday!

Some of these posts are a bit harsh to all concerned, big generalisations are fun and all, but shouldn't be confused with fact. Who knows what each situation really means.

Usually I have no hesitation asking for numbers or kisses or what have ya, but there was this girl on Friday who just floored me.

My night on Friday, originally went out for a quiet one with my cuz, got chattin to a gorgeous girl who was up in dub for the weekend. We were gettin on great guns, so myself and the cuz went with them to a late bar.

The night just flew by. I had great craic chatting to her, she was gorgeous, savage sense of humor and she was a Liverpool fan. I couldn't believe my luck!

But, the conversation was flowing so freely i didn;t even think to ask her for her number or anything.

She's a teacher from the country, she told me she's heading away next weekend too so it's not like she'll be out in Dublin anytime soon, so unlikely we're gonna run into each other again.

Pity tho, she was class! And if I had of had a bit less drink, the auld gears would have been grinding with a bit more sense and I'd have asked for her number in a heartbeat. Now, to be fair to me, she didn;t exactly ram her number down my throat... but I should have asked at least. Even if she rejected me, woulda been worth the effort.

So, moral of the story is, not every guy who didin't ask for your number thinks you're ugly; or has big elaborate plans to lead on the women of Ireland and then BAMM, no number; or is too timid for life; or is just a dick.

Sometimes we're just eejits.

parker kent

Yeah I agree with lots of the posts above, it is perfectly fine for you to ask for their number. I still kick myself about not asking for a girls number I met in the summer (actually the night Michael Jackson died!). We had a great chat and seemed to get on well but I basically chickened out. So if she had asked (if she were interested which I don't know!) I would have loved it. Sometimes you meet somebody who stands out so missing an opportunity like that is such a waste. Guys can be shy or assume that a girl is not interested.

If you find it easy to get guys talking to you, I don't think there is any problem with you at all.So put that worry out of your head!

JangoFett

Fear of rejection, really annoyingly powerful feeling