She said someone elses name

LegacyUser

I was lying in bed with my girlfriend last week. We had been out the night before and had a right bit of drink. I was getting up early cos I had to go to work and as I was getting up my girlfriend who was half asleep said "Petey what are you doing here?"

Needless to say my name isnt Petey but its the name of a fella she is friendly with and I had thought there was something going on between the two of them.

Am I being totally paranoid here? I just keep thinking that if the first thing she says when she wakes up is his name that she is obviously thinking about this other fella?

LegacyUser

I wouldn't be worrying about this at all OP! I called my mam my boyfriend's name the other day, and now she thinks I'm losing it! People say the maddest stuff when they're asleep/half-asleep, defo doesn't mean anything. I've called my bf my ex's name more than once, just through pure brain confusion, certainly doesn't mean anything. My ex is a tool and I love my boyfriend!
I'd just forget about it, it's just like calling the teacher Mammy in school, just brain synapses misfiring!!

LegacyUser

she may have been dreaming about him... but not in a sexual way. I had a dream about my sister last week and woke up talking to her - my boyfriend hadn't a clue what was going on. He told me later that I was talking to Caoimhe about phones????!!!

This Petey guy may have popped into her dream where she wasn't expecting him (e.g. walked into her house, was at work ... anything) so she asked him what he was doing there.

If you think that there is something going on with them already then that's a separate issue. Talk to her.

shellyboo

Don't worry about it, she was half-asleep. Who knows what was going on in her head, and you can't control your dreams! It's not an indication of anything. I overheard my brother talking about giving our dog a pastry in his sleep once - and our dog doesn't even like pastries :P Ok, I'm being silly, but you get my point... it means nothing.

kittenkiller

I've called my BF some very weird stuff but thankfully never another blokes name.
Maybe ask her about it?
You should be able to gauge what's going on by her reaction to the question.

I know people who go into completely different worlds when they're dozing off, so I wouldn't loose too much sleep over it.
(Geddit, loosing sleep...? GAS!)

Taltos

Agree with all the rest here.
My wife also has these near waking dreams - but she normally sees spiders or strangers.... Worst ones are where she doesn't recognize me and is convinced I am the stranger - not nice...

I usually remind her later and we have a laugh over it, maybe just do the same. Could be a good excuse for some brownie points here - along the lines of "I think you owe me a back rub or some such after carrying on with Petey in here this morning....." - just FGS make sure you are laughing when you say this

martdalto

I regularly have these "half awake" dreams early in the morning... when I'm half awake! I don't talk in my sleep, but I talk in my "half-sleep" and wake myself up when I do it!

I am likely to say anything at this time.. it depends on what the dream is.. hanging out the washing.. looking for someone.. giving my dog a pastry;)!!

If what she said was "Petey, what are you doing here" I think it's harmless enough.. at least she didn't say "Petey, get in here and do what you do best"!

I wouldn't worry about it.

Nervous Wreck

I called a girl by two different wrong names in bed before. Really didn't mean anything though. Mixture of force of habit and slip of the tongue. It's like when you're in school and you call your teacher mom.

Liam Byrne

Totally Unreg wrote: »

I was lying in bed with my girlfriend last week. We had been out the night before and had a right bit of drink. I was getting up early cos I had to go to work and as I was getting up my girlfriend who was half asleep said "Petey what are you doing here?"

Possible scenario - she was having a nice dream about the two of you, and in the dream Petey walked in and "interrupted".....which is something that often happens when your brain wants to wake you up - it throws in something that makes the dream less enjoyable (falling, sudden change, etc).

I'd say forget about it - I certainly can't control what I dream about, and that includes good AND bad!

Darthhoob

it's more than likely nothing,i've often called people by the wrong name, think i inherited that off my mother, who was famous for listing everyone's name, even the pets, before she got the right one :rolleyes:
in the sort of scenerio you are describing i've called my OH steve (my bro) and tibbs (my cat), and i can assure you there is nothign sexual about it lol! it's the state of confusion your mind can be in when just woke up...some people get it whilst AWAKE (like my mum). she may have just seen him in his dream and when she noticed someone in the room wondered why he was there. i would imagine if she was having an affair with him, she wouldnt wonder so much

KiLLeR CoUCh

When I lived with my ex he arrived home late one night and I sort of half woke up when he got into bed. I knew full well he would be home late and was expecting but for some reason when he got into bed I was absolutely convinced it was another male friend of mine. I sat there for a good while in a total panic because I couldn't work out how or why this friend had gotten into bed with me.

Bottom line, we all do mad things when we're half asleep, don't worry about it OP

ladymarmalade

Don't worry op most of us have done it or experienced it at some time.

Especially after drink

DigiGal

I called my OH Darragh(my best bud) once or twice when I was drunk. It wasn't sexual at all infact I find the thoughts of it almost incestuous.
I wouldn't worry. If it puts your mind at rest talk to her but don't go in Guns blazing all accusations and such as if there is nothing going on she will most likely be very annoyed at you for suggesting she would betray your trust

Wacker

I call girls the wrong name all the time. I was once in bed with a girlfriend and I called her her best friend's name at a very inopportune time. I didn't even think I was interested in the friend! Anyway, I now deliberately call my GF the wrong name all the time for two reasons: Firstly, to mess with her head. Calling a girl 'Mom' while in the sack always gets a hilarious reaction. Secondly: so she won't know when it's an accident!

OP, I seriously doubt you've anything to worry about.