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Regretting a possible chance.

  • 15-02-2009 3:10am
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    Well basically I've liked a girl for months and I recently told her that I liked her but was slightly confused as to her reaction towards it.

    Her exact words were, "That's very flattering and thank you for being so honest."
    I sent that by text by the way.

    I text her every once in a while and we have longish conversations and we seem to share common interests. I know that some people believe that opposites attract but I don't believe that. This just seems like it could fit.

    I have been hurt in the past and haven't let girls in very much but I feel comfortable around her when I'm talking to her.

    I often feel that we're just friends and that's how it's meant to be but I guess I just don't want to believe that.

    Anyway the main issue. I was texting said girl mentioned above and we were just chatting as we normally do. She then mentioned that she was in my area because her sister lives in my town.

    I was then thinking that maybe I should ask her out for a drink or something. The only problem is that I couldn't text her to invite her out. I wanted to but I just felt scared in case she said no.

    Maybe I was just scared that she'd say that we'd be better off as friends.

    A couple of hours have gone by and I'm really regretting not asking her out. Even if it was to be just as friends.

    I don't like Valentine's Day but I was thinking that maybe it was meant to be but I couldn't pick up the courage to ask her out one drink.


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  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Beruthiel
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    See where texting gets you? Confusion.
    Phone her up and ask her out on a date.
    It's as simple as that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 668 karen3212
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    She is most likely there for the weekend. Just do it, ask her if she wants to meet you somewhere.

    Even if she does say no, you'll get over the little embarrassment soon enough and you can go back to texting soon enough.

    Goodluck, but please give it a go, you'll be kicking yourself next week if you don't.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,137 Monkey61
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    To be honest if she is saying "that's very flattering" and thanking you for being honest, she probably isn't interested. I'd say play it cool for the moment and see what happens.

    Give her a call and ask her to meet up. If you guys are friends anyway, she's not going to turn you down and it isn't going to seem like you are asking her to marry you!! See how it goes when you are hanging out on your own. Now that she knows you are into her, she will probably be sending some sort of signals your way - either "I love you like a brother" or "I fancy you, kiss me." Continue to be her friend and play it by ear.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 51 acid.rain
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    texting is no substitute for actual conversation. there's just too much to misinterpret reading between the lines. call her up and be a man about it


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27 thisisme


    TBH usually if the "thats very flattering" line is used it means that the girl isnt into the idea of you both being a couple, or its just that maybe she hadnt ever given the idea of you as a boyfriend before and needs time to consider it.
    Invite her for a drink as friends. keep it casual maybe tell her you meant what you said in the text but that there is no pressure involved, leave the ball in her court.

    HTH.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 That_Guy
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    Go for it. You've nothing to lose and everything to gain. If nothing happens you'll at least be friends anyway but if things play out the way you want it then you'll have a girlfriend by your side. Good luck mate.


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