Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

CZ 453 · 31-10-2014 1:21am

Hypothetical, Crazy Question- Would you take an anxiety disorder or poverty?

fr336 · 31-10-2014 1:23am

shezer wrote: »

Hypothetical, Crazy Question- Would you take an anxiety disorder or poverty(of the third world kind)?

I'd delete this post if it was me.

greenfrogs · 31-10-2014 1:31am

I have a CBT session tomorrow and I failed miserably with the homework. It is just so frustrating. I want to have more friends but I am actually driving people away. And I just can't stop my behaviour. And then I feel like this one person in particular is annoyed or doesn't like me. And I end up driving them away because I become quite intense. Why can't I stop it?
Sometimes I don't know if I have depression or anxiety or both? Can you identify the parts of you that are due to depression or anxiety if that even makes sense.

CZ 453 · 31-10-2014 1:35am

greenfrogs wrote: »

I have a CBT session tomorrow and I failed miserably with the homework. It is just so frustrating. I want to have more friends but I am actually driving people away. And I just can't stop my behaviour. And then I feel like this one person in particular is annoyed or doesn't like me. And I end up driving them away because I become quite intense. Why can't I stop it?
Sometimes I don't know if I have depression or anxiety or both? Can you identify the parts of you that are due to depression or anxiety if that even makes sense.

There are many facets or ways of identifying an anxiety disorder. What you are describing above sounds like anxiety.

greenfrogs · 31-10-2014 1:43am

shezer wrote: »

There are many facets or ways of identifying an anxiety disorder. What you are describing above sounds like anxiety.

Yah I think that you may be right. On the medical certs I get from my doctor is does state anxiety as the reason that I can not work. However depression is usually what the doctor and counsellor speak about. I will talk about it with the therapist tomorrow. It's interesting because I am just beginning to familiarise with anxiety (through this thread mainly) and that I may have been having panic attacks.

CZ 453 · 31-10-2014 1:57am

Too many pages to photograph and upload.

The following are the types and can be googled- You may fit into one or more of the following
Panic Attacks
Panic Disorder
Specific Phobias
Social Anxiety and Phobia
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
Post-traumatic Stress Disorder
Generalized Anxiety Disorder

noturdrudealer · 31-10-2014 3:01am

I've been depressed since I was about 13 and I am 24 now.

Only told my doctor about it two years ago and I feel like it's too late for me to make new friends.

I am very shy and also have anxiety problems.

I am in college with two buddies that I did a course with two years ago. I wouldn't really call them friends. One only talks to me at college and the other only texts, calls if he wants something.

I just feel like I will never make friends since the only time I go out theses days is to go to college.

fr336 · 31-10-2014 3:17am

One of these days I'm going to write such a long essay here. Of how I got better, more than better, and how everyone else here can too. In some ways I'm lower than ever, but I know I can get this sorted in a matter of weeks, hell even a matter of days. Admittedly I don't believe my condition to be as serious as many here, however the symptoms seem to be on the same kind of awful level. Really hope I'm able to do it and get back to you when I do.

fr336 · 31-10-2014 3:19am

noturdrudealer wrote: »

I've been depressed since I was about 13 and I am 24 now.

Only told my doctor about it two years ago and I feel like it's too late for me to make new friends.

I am very shy and also have anxiety problems.

I am in college with two buddies that I did a course with two years ago. I wouldn't really call them friends. One only talks to me at college and the other only texts, calls if he wants something.

I just feel like I will never make friends since the only time I go out theses days is to go to college.

Why not create other opportunities to meet people? Sports? Other shared interest? Job you actually have a passion for? The world is not as limited as the average Joe would make out, it is there to be grabbed and life is for living I think people on the whole limit themselves far too much to an artificial idea of what makes a life.

noturdrudealer · 31-10-2014 3:28am

fr336 wrote: »

Why not create other opportunities to meet people? Sports? Other shared interest? Job you actually have a passion for? The world is not as limited as the average Joe would make out, it is there to be grabbed and life is for living I think people on the whole limit themselves far too much to an artificial idea of what makes a life.

Only thing I can think of that I like is Computers and gaming and I gotten bored by them.

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 7:45pm

hello guys how are you all doing?
halloween. humbug.
i have just had a twit in a super mario costume and trainers throw a beer bottle at me as i was going in the front door.
he missed. he didnt even smash the bottle it was a low shot and skipped up the road like a stone on a lake. the real mario would never miss.
this imposter was too drunk to aim.
i'd like to see him do that on his own sober with none of his laughing friends around and his parents watching.
drunken zombies.
i told him he was great and better luck next time.he mumbled a few sounds and staggered against a wall.
how do you all feel about this kind of stuff?
it doesnt bother me much, random idiots? as far as anxiety is concerned?
would be more worried about real situations where i know people.
i'm ok with random cretins.

fr336 · 31-10-2014 8:02pm

I get more angry than anxious when it comes to people

Call Me Jimmy · 31-10-2014 8:04pm

christ, I doubt I'd control my anger in the moment and probably run at the cnut automatically try and get a dig in (stupid thing to do but the idea of scrotes getting away with that sort of basic abuse would make my blood boil all evening).

Im usually peaceful unless stirred!

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 8:05pm

fr336 wrote: »

I get more angry than anxious when it comes to people

i get that, angry with the general public and their ignorance and filth.
more get anxious when it is someone i have some kind of genuine reason to interact with.family/work/college etc.

i feel sorry for the hospital staff who have to treat that super mario later.
and they will.

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 8:09pm

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

christ, I doubt I'd control my anger in the moment and probably run at the cnut automatically try and get a dig in (stupid thing to do but the idea of scrotes getting away with that sort of basic abuse would make my blood boil all evening).

Im usually peaceful unless stirred!

couldn't be bothered doing that at the moment though i would have in the past.
also he had luigi, batman, and there was some kind of odd creature in adidas shorts and a werewolf mask urinating against the wall with him so i don't reckon
i could take on that kind of super-army on my own.
hope they feel a million dollars in the morning and have all their valuables intact and no criminal convictions. charming lads.

handbagmad · 31-10-2014 8:23pm

I have to agree with call me jimmy,
I think that plonker would have felt the wrath of a swift kick in the crown jewels

I too am quiet, but can flare up the temper

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 8:27pm

handbagmad wrote: »

I have to agree with call me jimmy,
I think that plonker would have felt the wrath of a swift kick in the crown jewels

I too am quiet, but can flare up the temper

he'll get his valuables knocked inside him later no doubt off somebody more able than me.
i wouldn't retaliate with just myself against a crowd of that sort of vermin.

Call Me Jimmy · 31-10-2014 8:31pm

yea it's easy to say from behind a keyboard, if they were in any way physically superior to me (not difficult) I'd do a quick 180 and peg it, knees high running like a boss down the middle of the street. peep out at them through the letterbox - squinty eyes job!

CZ 453 · 31-10-2014 8:33pm

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

yea it's easy to say from behind a keyboard, if they were in any way physically superior to me (not difficult) I'd do a quick 180 and peg it, knees high running like a boss down the middle of the street. peep out at them through the letterbox - squinty eyes job!

Best to just shoot a pal in the leg and let them take the beating

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 8:41pm

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

yea it's easy to say from behind a keyboard, if they were in any way physically superior to me (not difficult) I'd do a quick 180 and peg it, knees high running like a boss down the middle of the street. peep out at them through the letterbox - squinty eyes job!

well they were all locked and all physically smaller than me and one was busy urinating but still,
it didn't even enter my mind to bate them.
they had bottles and numbers and i didn't want to end up injured.
if they actually hit me with the bottle i would have probably gone at them
but they seemed too pathetic after missing by a few car lengths.
my point was really do you feel any anxiety about random idiots?
i don't. though in other cases i am awful with it.

Call Me Jimmy · 31-10-2014 8:45pm

ah no not random people, like you only anxious about being around people I know semi-know or duhn duhn duhn quasi-know.

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 8:51pm

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

ah no not random people, like you only anxious about being around people I know semi-know or duhn duhn duhn quasi-know.

yeah i am like that.
kind of weird, i can walk about and talk to strangers no problem
but they don't really matter. they get a totally different impression of me.
hope that super mario character gets his come uppance tonight.
bloody hell, trying to go in my front door, putting the key in, some neandarthal
throws a glass bottle at you. and all his mates laugh.and make animal sounds.
thats some messed up group/pack mentality.
im sure the same guy would be lovely if you met him sober in a different context.
human behaviour is fascinating actually.

fr336 · 31-10-2014 8:57pm

fiftythree wrote: »

i get that, angry with the general public and their ignorance and filth.
more get anxious when it is someone i have some kind of genuine reason to interact with.family/work/college etc.

i feel sorry for the hospital staff who have to treat that super mario later.
and they will.

Agreed.

CZ 453 · 31-10-2014 8:58pm

fiftythree wrote: »

yeah i am like that.
kind of weird, i can walk about and talk to strangers no problem
but they don't really matter. they get a totally different impression of me.
hope that super mario character gets his come uppance tonight.
bloody hell, trying to go in my front door, putting the key in, some neandarthal
throws a glass bottle at you. and all his mates laugh.and make animal sounds.
thats some messed up group/pack mentality.
im sure the same guy would be lovely if you met him sober in a different context.
human behaviour is fascinating actually.

I doubt it. Throwing a bottle at somebody takes a certain type of clown

Call Me Jimmy · 31-10-2014 8:58pm

at least it wasn't more serious I suppose? do you live alone? it'd play on your mind less if ye gave someone a shout

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 9:01pm

CZ 453 wrote: »

I doubt it. Throwing a bottle at somebody takes a certain type of clown

you'd be surprised how context can change people.
the act was clearly stupid and dangerous but it was a young impressionable lad
out with his mates. people get caught up in things they wouldn't normally.
especially nights like this with a lot of drink involved.

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 9:03pm

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

at least it wasn't more serious I suppose? do you live alone? it'd play on your mind less if ye gave someone a shout

live with housemates, don't know any of them and most if not all away for the weekend. all as far as i know..
bit of a bad area i am in, get used to it.
and i know nobody to give shouts to. i'm grand.
just a few idiots is all. have experienced worse.

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 9:20pm

Have you seen these guys, and the rest of their crew?
approach with caution.

seriously, these two annoyed me tonight but that sort of stuff happens all the time and it was mainly just an observation/realisation that i had that
people who don't matter can't cause me any worry.just annoyance.
there needs to be something at stake for me to feel actually anxious.
made me think if you all were the same?

cookie24 · 31-10-2014 9:43pm

fiftythree wrote: »

hello guys how are you all doing?
halloween. humbug.
i have just had a twit in a super mario costume and trainers throw a beer bottle at me as i was going in the front door.
he missed. he didnt even smash the bottle it was a low shot and skipped up the road like a stone on a lake. the real mario would never miss.
this imposter was too drunk to aim.
i'd like to see him do that on his own sober with none of his laughing friends around and his parents watching.
drunken zombies.
i told him he was great and better luck next time.he mumbled a few sounds and staggered against a wall.
how do you all feel about this kind of stuff?
it doesnt bother me much, random idiots? as far as anxiety is concerned?
would be more worried about real situations where i know people.
i'm ok with random cretins.

random people dont make me anxious. its when i bump into someone I know in front of friends and have to carry the conversation with them 'gawking'.
Or when I bump into an acquaintance and have to make small talk.

Thats why I usually do my shopping in the morning- supermarkets are a big source of anxiety for me

ETA: happy halloween everyone and **** drunken mario

lukesmom · 31-10-2014 9:48pm

Slowly lowering one of my night meds an antipsychotic it's too high anyway. Have had 2 nights on lowered dose. Have felt anxiety in the background lurking since. I know 100% it's not the actual med change that has me feeling low, it's all in my head, it's my thoughts. Funny thing is I didn't think I was thinking anything negative but there must have been some fear in there. Going to spend the wkend practising mindfulness. I see my psychologist on Tuesday cannot wait to talk to him.

Call Me Jimmy · 31-10-2014 9:50pm

well if it makes anyone feel any better, i'm in tonight on me todd (why would that make anyone feel better?)

Had what I would describe as a [buzzword]mindful[/buzzword] shower. And no that isn't code for a fap!

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 9:51pm

lukesmom wrote: »

Slowly lowering one of my night meds an antipsychotic it's too high anyway. Have had 2 nights on lowered dose. Have felt anxiety in the background lurking since. I know 100% it's not the actual med change that has me feeling low, it's all in my head, it's my thoughts. Funny thing is I didn't think I was thinking anything negative but there must have been some fear in there. Going to spend the wkend practising mindfulness. I see my psychologist on Tuesday cannot wait to talk to him.

not too long til tuesday, good luck

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 9:52pm

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

well if it makes anyone feel any better, i'm in tonight on me todd (why would that make anyone feel better?)

Had what I would describe as a [buzzword]mindful[/buzzword] shower. And no that isn't code for a fap!

me too, in on my own, too many weirdos out there tonight.

cookie24 · 31-10-2014 9:54pm

fiftythree wrote: »

me too, in on my own, too many weirdos out there tonight.

me three. binge watching a TV show called Forever. Its actually quite good

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 9:55pm

cookie24 wrote: »

me three. binge watching a TV show called Forever. Its actually quite good

what channel?
i am searching for something to watch tonight.
you got a few drinks in cookie24?

cookie24 · 31-10-2014 9:57pm

fiftythree wrote: »

what channel?
i am searching for something to watch tonight.
you got a few drinks in cookie24?

downloading. shhhh. no drinks tonight. a binge evvery 2-3 weeks

Call Me Jimmy · 31-10-2014 9:59pm

Let me qualify this by saying that I am aware I'm a loser:

Anybody know of a good place for online board games? I can google but finding a good one through all the **** might be difficult.

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 9:59pm

cookie24 wrote: »

downloading. shhhh. no drinks tonight. a binge evvery 2-3 weeks

ok!this halloween thing has got massive recently.
town is mental. enjoy the tv show.

cookie24 · 31-10-2014 10:01pm

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Let me qualify this by saying that I am aware I'm a loser:

Anybody know of a good place for online board games? I can google but finding a good one through all the **** might be difficult.

cant help there. But of you ever played magic they have a very active online community

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 10:01pm

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Let me qualify this by saying that I am aware I'm a loser:

Anybody know of a good place for online board games? I can google but finding a good one through all the **** might be difficult.

no idea but i looked for a good scrabble site a while back and had no luck.
i wouldn't have any interest in the roll the dice types.
what board games are you after?

Call Me Jimmy · 31-10-2014 10:04pm

ah not sure, i suppose scrabble/risk/monopoly - the big hitters

haven't played board games in years, I imagine they'd be good craic in person, and something to kill some evenings with online.

I might look into it and let ye's know if i find a decent one

EDIT: yea **** rollin the dice. although I've heard risk is really good and that involves dice so maybe I shouldn't discriminate

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 10:06pm

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

ah not sure, i suppose scrabble/risk/monopoly - the big hitters

haven't played board games in years, I imagine they'd be good craic in person, and something to kill some evenings with online.

I might look into it and let ye's know if i find a decent one

let me know if you find a decent scrabble one, id give you a game.
used to play it a bit. never was any good at monopoly or risk though.

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 10:08pm

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

ah not sure, i suppose scrabble/risk/monopoly - the big hitters

haven't played board games in years, I imagine they'd be good craic in person, and something to kill some evenings with online.

I might look into it and let ye's know if i find a decent one

EDIT: yea **** rollin the dice. although I've heard risk is really good and that involves dice so maybe I shouldn't discriminate

so does monopoly.
scrabble is random too in that you draw tiles but the beauty of it is that
the randomness is hidden from your opponent.like poker in that regard.

elfy4eva · 31-10-2014 10:27pm

Hey guys I hope you dont mind me venting here. I started a new job and im having a very hard time adjusting to the workload. Finding myself extremely anxious and upset every other day.

To make matters worse I've had a small run in with a colleague(who criticized a job I did). Which I feel will now add tension/further criticism. I've had moments of anxiety in my life before but recently I find myself struggling to face the workday ahead.

Any advice for the workplace blues?

Hugo Stiglitz · 31-10-2014 10:32pm

I'd actually love to join a board game meetup club or something

fiftythree · 31-10-2014 10:33pm

elfy4eva wrote: »

Hey guys I hope you dont mind me venting here. I started a new job and im having a very hard time adjusting to the workload. Finding myself extremely anxious and upset every other day.

To make matters worse I've had a small run in with a colleague(who criticized a job I did). Which I feel will now add tension/further criticism. I've had moments of anxiety in my life before but recently I find myself struggling to face the workday ahead.

Any advice for the workplace blues?

vent away. i would say that a small amount of anxiety is perfectly normal.
we're only human after all, we are not machines.
only my opinion but i would talk to your colleague, try to explain how you feel.
if things persist, and get worse, you would need to approach management.
best to deal with things as they come up, and identity them as possible
sources of future problems, than let things drift into worse relations.
as you are doing.
best of luck to you.

cookie24 · 31-10-2014 10:34pm

elfy4eva wrote: »

Hey guys I hope you dont mind me venting here. I started a new job and im having a very hard time adjusting to the workload. Finding myself extremely anxious and upset every other day.

To make matters worse I've had a small run in with a colleague(who criticized a job I did). Which I feel will now add tension/further criticism. I've had moments of anxiety in my life before but recently I find myself struggling to face the workday ahead.

Any advice for the workplace blues?

sorry elfy. no advice from me-anxiety has kept me out of the work force. best of luck though

lukesmom · 31-10-2014 10:34pm

Does anyone else find that? Anxiety coming out of nowhere???

cookie24 · 31-10-2014 10:36pm

lukesmom wrote: »

Does anyone else find that? Anxiety coming out of nowhere???

for me its been near constant for at least 8 years

Call Me Jimmy · 31-10-2014 10:36pm

If someone criticises your work they are not criticising you necessarily. I would try and keep making those type of distinctions to yourself however obvious.

Always try and keep in mind that a working environment can become your whole world if you let it, so thinking of things outside of the job and maintaining a perspective are important.

Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

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