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Cathmandooo · 2008-01-03 14:23:08

<snip> Was asked it delete this first post... but still think we need some where to rant instead of making up a new thread every day, so please rant away.... ex's... currents... girlfriends/boyfriends... whatever. Jules

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Was asked it delete this first post... but still think we need some where to rant instead of making up a new thread every day, so please rant away.... ex's... currents... girlfriends/boyfriends... whatever.

Jules

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#2 03-01-2008 3:31pm

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That'd be head wrecking alright, just go back to ignoring him again, by the sound of it, you'd be better off.

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#3 03-01-2008 3:34pm

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I'm not even going to go there.

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#4 03-01-2008 3:34pm

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I will dont worry! Sorry if this turned into a bit of a PI, we can all vent in here tho

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#5 03-01-2008 3:35pm

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one wrote my name and number and a little paragraph in the gents in fibbers, another kept ringing me on my mobile for months after at stupid times at night and then when i stopped answering (i changed my number) he started ring my parents land line at stupid times at night...

he's a head wrecker... things are probably crap with his gf and he's striking things up with you again

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#6 03-01-2008 3:35pm

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no man is worth my tears.

He can only wreck your head if you let him. so just forget about it and get on with your life

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#7 03-01-2008 3:37pm

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once they get into your head, it's very hard to get em out.

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#8 03-01-2008 3:40pm

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Cathooo wrote: »

Was I being ungrateful or am I right to think he's messing with my head? :mad:

Sorry for the rant, just getting tired of stupid games.

He is messing with your head, but then he did it to mess with your head. He did it to see if he would get a reaction out of you (he clearly did).

Now I don't mean to imply that he is being nasty, or trying to upset you.

He is trying to impress you.

Guys have this funny thing where even after we are broken up, even after we are moved on and are with someone else, we still like to think that all the people we used to go out with are hung up about us. Its a confidence thing.

We like to think that even if someone is with someone else that someone else, who ever they are, are not as good as we were. We like to think that we are the "best boyfriend you ever had" and we also like to think that you think this about us.

Its one of the reasons why guys get so upset not when they find out a ex is seeing someone else, but when we find out that an ex is sleeping with that someone else. We dread the idea that the new boyfriend is better in bed than us, as we lose this sense that at the very least gave you something no other man could (note this has nothing to do with reality. You might have slept with tons of guys better than us before you even met us. But we convince ourselves that isn't true to start with, and then like to hold on to the idea that no one after us will be any good either).

The reason he drove all the way with the card is to (subconsciously) impress you, because he wanted the reaction of you being impressed and thinking "wow, he is great, look what he did"

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#9 03-01-2008 3:42pm

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Burn the card and forget about him. Best thing to do is not have any contact with Ex's after you have split up.

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#10 03-01-2008 3:44pm

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That, or he still likes you and thought it would be Hollywood-esque. Or maybe he was just trying to be nice.

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#11 03-01-2008 3:55pm

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irishbird wrote: »

He can only wreck your head if you let him. so just forget about it and get on with your life

I did forget about him and have moved on, I was a bit sad about being alone at xmas as it was, nothing to do with him at all, then bam he does this.

Wicknight wrote: »

He is messing with your head, but then he did it to mess with your head. He did it to see if he would get a reaction out of you (he clearly did).

Now I don't mean to imply that he is being nasty, or trying to upset you.

He is trying to impress you.

Guys have this funny thing where even after we are broken up, even after we are moved on and are with someone else, we still like to think that all the people we used to go out with are hung up about us. Its a confidence thing.

We like to think that even if someone is with someone else that someone else, who ever they are, are not as good as we were. We like to think that we are the "best boyfriend you ever had" and we also like to think that you think this about us.

Its one of the reasons why guys get so upset not when they find out a ex is seeing someone else, but when we find out that an ex is sleeping with that someone else. We dread the idea that the new boyfriend is better in bed than us, as we lose this sense that at the very least gave you something no other man could (note this has nothing to do with reality. You might have slept with tons of guys better than us before you even met us. But we convince ourselves that isn't true to start with, and then like to hold on to the idea that no one after us will be any good either).

The reason he drove all the way with the card is to (subconsciously) impress you, because he wanted the reaction of you being impressed and thinking "wow, he is great, look what he did"

My god. That's probably the most insightful thing I've ever read. He's never gonna admit that to me obviously but it makes a whole lot of sense, cos he's not a nasty person! I've reread your post a few times and it's just screaming 'bingo' so thank you.

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#12 03-01-2008 3:56pm

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i broke up with my bf and we got back together later on but....

he held a poker lads night on my birthday so i had to stay in friends house
he bought me nice pressie only after we broke up
he brought me flowers for my exams - on my credit card

men are silly - they do not have capacity to think about their actions before they do them, and scratch their balls at the same time. once i appreciated this gene, i was able to forgive bf and take him back. after much dilberation that is..

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#13 03-01-2008 3:56pm

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*Page* wrote: »

one wrote my name and number and a little paragraph in the gents in fibbers, another kept ringing me on my mobile for months after at stupid times at night and then when i stopped answering (i changed my number) he started ring my parents land line at stupid times at night...

Good lord :eek: men eh?

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#14 03-01-2008 3:57pm

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oh where to start!!!!

My ex broke up 3 yrs ago (he didn't want "commitment") - first yr spend as "friends" falling back into the same old couple pattern. after a year of that i had enough and cut contact. I met someone new (current beau) eventually me and ex got talking again purely friends. told ex about current beau - 2 days later he begged me to get back together with him. so i was torn!!!! Eventually decided to stick with current beau as wasn't been treated badly again. That was nearly two years ago and me and beau are still going strong.

i'm still friends with the ex, and have both agreed friends only & friends first. We have a laugh and are really good mates, and i wouldn't not say it was easy to get to where we are. He has a new girlfriend that doesn't like me and i'm not her biggest fan either. My ex has never met my current beau (who knows all about what happened when we got together) but next week is the first time they will meet and i'm excitied and nervous at the same time!

Ex are painful sometimes.

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#15 03-01-2008 4:28pm

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*Page* wrote: »

one wrote my name and number and a little paragraph in the gents in fibbers, another kept ringing me on my mobile for months after at stupid times at night and then when i stopped answering (i changed my number) he started ring my parents land line at stupid times at night...

he's a head wrecker... things are probably crap with his gf and he's striking things up with you again

Now that is very shocking no one should do that no matter how bad the split was. My ex two timed me but I would never ever put someone through that no matter how much she hurt me.

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#16 03-01-2008 4:30pm

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hmm... let me see...after cheating on me for the 3rd time (that I know of), final time being in thailand he apparently had some big 36 hour romp in bed with this girl who is..just ugh and danish.....anyway....

...i tried the being a little bit civil thing seeing as we had mutual friends and then realised it was just easier for me to move on and cut him out of my life.

so he'd sent me emails.. one being when he'd "realised" what a bad thing he'd done etc and how he realised all my family & I had done for him etc (that's another story) and I'd either not replied or blatantly told him i wanted nothing to do with him, he very cheekily text one day asking would I get him his halloween cotume

Now you can imagine what I thought. Haven't heard from him since that last time i told him to FO

Things I've heard about him since.. he's been arrested twice for being drunk and disorderly, he put on alot of weight and most recently he has a "6 baller" which was him, 2 guys and 2 not very attractive girls

...I myself have been with my current (amazing) bf for over a year and the happiest I have been in a long long time, have a better life, am independent etc

That reeks of "indepent woman"-ness / girl power doesn't it? ha ha!!

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#17 03-01-2008 4:35pm

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Wicknight wrote: »

He is messing with your head, but then he did it to mess with your head. He did it to see if he would get a reaction out of you (he clearly did).

Now I don't mean to imply that he is being nasty, or trying to upset you.

He is trying to impress you.

Guys have this funny thing where even after we are broken up, even after we are moved on and are with someone else, we still like to think that all the people we used to go out with are hung up about us. Its a confidence thing.

We like to think that even if someone is with someone else that someone else, who ever they are, are not as good as we were. We like to think that we are the "best boyfriend you ever had" and we also like to think that you think this about us.

Its one of the reasons why guys get so upset not when they find out a ex is seeing someone else, but when we find out that an ex is sleeping with that someone else. We dread the idea that the new boyfriend is better in bed than us, as we lose this sense that at the very least gave you something no other man could (note this has nothing to do with reality. You might have slept with tons of guys better than us before you even met us. But we convince ourselves that isn't true to start with, and then like to hold on to the idea that no one after us will be any good either).

The reason he drove all the way with the card is to (subconsciously) impress you, because he wanted the reaction of you being impressed and thinking "wow, he is great, look what he did"

Brilliant post, I'm impressed with your honesty, not many guys would have the stones to admit all that

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#18 03-01-2008 4:40pm

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Lil' Smiler wrote: »

hmm... let me see...after cheating on me for the 3rd time (that I know of), final time being in thailand he apparently had some big 36 hour romp in bed with this girl who is..just ugh and danish.....anyway....

...i tried the being a little bit civil thing seeing as we had mutual friends and then realised it was just easier for me to move on and cut him out of my life.

so he'd sent me emails.. one being when he'd "realised" what a bad thing he'd done etc and how he realised all my family & I had done for him etc (that's another story) and I'd either not replied or blatantly told him i wanted nothing to do with him, he very cheekily text one day asking would I get him his halloween cotume

Now you can imagine what I thought. Haven't heard from him since that last time i told him to FO

Things I've heard about him since.. he's been arrested twice for being drunk and disorderly, he put on alot of weight and most recently he has a "6 baller" which was him, 2 guys and 2 not very attractive girls

...I myself have been with my current (amazing) bf for over a year and the happiest I have been in a long long time, have a better life, am independent etc

That reeks of "indepent woman"-ness / girl power doesn't it? ha ha!!

Wow! Delighted you're well clear of him and happy!! Well done you, GIRL POWER

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#19 03-01-2008 4:46pm

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LouOB wrote: »

i broke up with my bf and we got back together later on but....

he held a poker lads night on my birthday so i had to stay in friends house
he bought me nice pressie only after we broke up
he brought me flowers for my exams - on my credit card

men are silly - they do not have capacity to think about their actions before they do them, and scratch their balls at the same time. once i appreciated this gene, i was able to forgive bf and take him back. after much dilberation that is..

As a guy i can tell you i dont think this is anything to do with men being silly, its just him. and you put up with it so he'll do it.

girlfriends birthday - it's all about her, you can see your mates another night.
pressie afteryou broke up - he's apologising
buying flowers on your card - dunno what thats about, seems to be just plain ignorance that he thinks he can use your card.

this isnt silliness here, he's know he can do this.

if a guy was doing this to a female friend of mine, i'd very unimpressed by him, and i'd probably advise her to get rid, if even for a while just to scare him.

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#20 03-01-2008 4:49pm

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I was dating a guy for nearly 3 years, it started great but after a while he changed jobs and start hanging around with new people an got into hash and acid and stuff. I stayed with him for a while (stupidly hoping I could get the old person back, I was 21 and naive :rolleyes: ) but one day he pinned me against a wall and tried to choke me so I booted him out. I felt such relief, it was like a weight was lifted. About a week later he turned up at the door p*ssed and wouldn't stop ringing my door bell and my neighbours until I let him in, I told him he could sleep on the couch but I wanted him out the next morning. I went to bed and couldn't sleep and heard him moving around but assumed he was using the toilet (you had to pass my bed to get to it). It was then he did this(Warning it's not nice).

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#21 03-01-2008 4:55pm

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Kazobel wrote: »

I was dating a guy for nearly 3 years, it started great but after a while he changed jobs and start hanging around with new people an got into hash and acid and stuff. I stayed with him for a while (stupidly hoping I could get the old person back, I was 21 and naive :rolleyes: ) but one day he pinned me against a wall and tried to choke me so I booted him out. I felt such relief, it was like a weight was lifted. About a week later he turned up at the door p*ssed and wouldn't stop ringing my door bell and my neighbours until I let him in, I told him he could sleep on the couch but I wanted him out the next morning. I went to bed and couldn't sleep and heard him moving around but assumed he was using the toilet (you had to pass my bed to get to it). It was then he did this(Warning it's not nice).

oh Kaz, i've said it before and i'll say it again, that post just horrifies me. He's lower than a snakes belly. Utter utter w*nker. Well done you for being strong enough to come back from that.

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#22 03-01-2008 4:58pm

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Kazobel wrote: »

I was dating a guy for nearly 3 years, it started great but after a while he changed jobs and start hanging around with new people an got into hash and acid and stuff. I stayed with him for a while (stupidly hoping I could get the old person back, I was 21 and naive :rolleyes: ) but one day he pinned me against a wall and tried to choke me so I booted him out. I felt such relief, it was like a weight was lifted. About a week later he turned up at the door p*ssed and wouldn't stop ringing my door bell and my neighbours until I let him in, I told him he could sleep on the couch but I wanted him out the next morning. I went to bed and couldn't sleep and heard him moving around but assumed he was using the toilet (you had to pass my bed to get to it). It was then he did this(Warning it's not nice).

To the link all i can say is feck that is not right, no guy should ever ever hit a girl.

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#23 03-01-2008 5:04pm

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Oh Kazobel that's horrific! I hope he's gotten all he deserves :mad: god love you for ever having to go through that!

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#24 03-01-2008 5:05pm

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Kazobel wrote: »

I was dating a guy for nearly 3 years, it started great but after a while he changed jobs and start hanging around with new people an got into hash and acid and stuff. I stayed with him for a while (stupidly hoping I could get the old person back, I was 21 and naive :rolleyes: ) but one day he pinned me against a wall and tried to choke me so I booted him out. I felt such relief, it was like a weight was lifted. About a week later he turned up at the door p*ssed and wouldn't stop ringing my door bell and my neighbours until I let him in, I told him he could sleep on the couch but I wanted him out the next morning. I went to bed and couldn't sleep and heard him moving around but assumed he was using the toilet (you had to pass my bed to get to it). It was then he did this(Warning it's not nice).

I just read that link, not nice at all :eek:.

Hope you're better now.

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#25 03-01-2008 5:06pm

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Kazobel wrote: »

I was dating a guy for nearly 3 years, it started great but after a while he changed jobs and start hanging around with new people an got into hash and acid and stuff. I stayed with him for a while (stupidly hoping I could get the old person back, I was 21 and naive :rolleyes: ) but one day he pinned me against a wall and tried to choke me so I booted him out. I felt such relief, it was like a weight was lifted. About a week later he turned up at the door p*ssed and wouldn't stop ringing my door bell and my neighbours until I let him in, I told him he could sleep on the couch but I wanted him out the next morning. I went to bed and couldn't sleep and heard him moving around but assumed he was using the toilet (you had to pass my bed to get to it). It was then he did this(Warning it's not nice).

After reading this my only response to the OP is that I really can't complain!

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#26 03-01-2008 5:11pm

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Kazobel that guy deserves to be hung by the bollox till he dies from the blood rushing to his head...

Scumbags like that never get what they truely deserve though.

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#27 03-01-2008 5:12pm

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maple wrote: »

oh Kaz, i've said it before and i'll say it again, that post just horrifies me. He's lower than a snakes belly. Utter utter w*nker. Well done you for being strong enough to come back from that.

Thanks hon but it's OK now, I told you before it was a long time ago (14 years) and I've changed alot since then

Cathooo wrote: »

Oh Kazobel that's horrific! I hope he's gotten all he deserves :mad: god love you for ever having to go through that!

Unfortunatly not, 3 weeks community service for assualt :mad:

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#28 03-01-2008 5:13pm

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Any bloke who hits a woman is scum, any bloke who threatens a woman is scum (the same goes for a woman who does that to a man, maybe scumette ??). They deserve marching orders straight away.

i read that link and felt sick, i can hardly bear to raise my voice in a row with my girlfriend. It sickens me to think that a guy could do that to anyone.

Ex's are ex's for a reason, its hard to delete numbers and email address's but it needs to be done. Unfortunatly some people can;t do that . . . . .

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#29 03-01-2008 5:14pm

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God that's horrible. Ouch for you. Sorry bout that.

In another train of thought

He is messing with your head, but then he did it to mess with your head. He did it to see if he would get a reaction out of you (he clearly did).

Now I don't mean to imply that he is being nasty, or trying to upset you.

He is trying to impress you.

Guys have this funny thing where even after we are broken up, even after we are moved on and are with someone else, we still like to think that all the people we used to go out with are hung up about us. Its a confidence thing.

We like to think that even if someone is with someone else that someone else, who ever they are, are not as good as we were. We like to think that we are the "best boyfriend you ever had" and we also like to think that you think this about us.

Its one of the reasons why guys get so upset not when they find out a ex is seeing someone else, but when we find out that an ex is sleeping with that someone else. We dread the idea that the new boyfriend is better in bed than us, as we lose this sense that at the very least gave you something no other man could (note this has nothing to do with reality. You might have slept with tons of guys better than us before you even met us. But we convince ourselves that isn't true to start with, and then like to hold on to the idea that no one after us will be any good either).

The reason he drove all the way with the card is to (subconsciously) impress you, because he wanted the reaction of you being impressed and thinking "wow, he is great, look what he did"

is complete and utter horse trollip. If he wanted to impress you he'd have signed it. He wanted ATTENTION. No better way to do that than some grand gesture. I would figure that long drive knocked a bit of sense into his head and he said "feck that" and instead of knocking as was his original intention he dropped it through the letter box and fecked off.

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#30 03-01-2008 5:14pm

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Unfortunatly not, 3 weeks community service for assualt :mad:[/quote]

THATS ALL!! my god that is madness!

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#31 03-01-2008 5:15pm

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Kazobel wrote: »

Unfortunatly not, 3 weeks community service for assualt :mad:

Oh you're kidding! Argh sometimes this country is such a joke! Sorry for dragging up the memories on you, my rant is so not a real issue!!

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#32 03-01-2008 5:21pm

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Sorry to read/hear/know re Kazobel
Sounds like you have had horrible time in the past

But like all things, its in the past and after reading post sounds like you are doing very well.

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#33 03-01-2008 5:30pm

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God I thought I had things bad with my ex....nothing in comparison to that Kaz. Fair play to you for getting on with your life in the way you have....lots of people wouldn't. I felt sick reading that. I know it was a long time ago but good for you, it can't have been easy.

I'm very good friends with two ex's of mine but neither of those were serious....the one and only serious 3 year relationship I had ended a year and a half ago and I don't see him now. It ended very nasty, on his part, that's not me being bitter, everyone around him including his family agreed what he did was uncalled for....but what's done is done. I wish him all the best and I know he's happy in a relationship now and I'm genuinely happy for him, I just don't want to have anything to do with him. Bad times but I'm all good now. Time is a good healer (hate that phrase but it's true) and life is for living, I was miserable for long enough.

I wish there was a planet we could ban evil ex boyfriends to....hmmm....someone make it happen!

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#34 03-01-2008 5:30pm

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DubLegs wrote: »

THATS ALL!! my god that is madness!

The Judge empathised with him and put most of the blame on me. In them days the term Gender Identity Disorder and Transsexual were unheard of in this country (I had never even heard of them) and although I had been living and working as female for over 3 years I was still just seen as a perv who liked to dress in womens clothes. At the time of the assult I was very convincing and nobody could have told any different but the trial wasn't until I got out of hospital after alot of surgury so I looked like crap. So he convinced the judge we were only seeing each other a few weeks and it was the first time he had tried for sex and after finding out I was born male went into a shocked rage. The judge totally fell for it and told me I could expect nothing else if I chose that lifestyle, those days were rife with homophobia so it wasn't that uncommon an occurence for a trans/gay person to be beaten up and the courts to claim "You brought it on yourself" and totally ignore the facts of the case :rolleyes: .

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#35 03-01-2008 5:33pm

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citytillidie wrote: »

Now that is very shocking no one should do that no matter how bad the split was. My ex two timed me but I would never ever put someone through that no matter how much she hurt me.

Both lads dumbed me for other girls... after cheating on me... and i was clam and forgiving and accepted the break up and then they went la la...:D

but nothing compares to the above

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#36 03-01-2008 5:43pm

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Kazobel wrote: »

The judge totally fell for it and told me I could expect nothing else if I chose that lifestyle, those days were rife with homophobia so it wasn't that uncommon an occurence for a trans/gay person to be beaten up and the courts to claim "You brought it on yourself" and totally ignore the facts of the case :rolleyes: .

Jeebus H Christ. That is flabberghasting. So any person who gets attacked because they are gay/trans are bringing it on themself and can expect no justice...the mind boggles. Is that judge still around? I sincerely hope not.

Fair play to you for being able to get past that entire horrible time in your life Kaz, I know I'd probably explode in a puff of rage at the injustice of it. Hope your ex is rotting in excruciating pain somewhere now too.

Next to that, my asshole ex is only a mild common or garden psycho.

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#37 03-01-2008 5:52pm

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echosound wrote: »

Jeebus H Christ. That is flabberghasting. So any person who gets attacked because they are gay/trans are bringing it on themself and can expect no justice...the mind boggles. Is that judge still around? I sincerely hope not.

Fair play to you for being able to get past that entire horrible time in your life Kaz, I know I'd probably explode in a puff of rage at the injustice of it. Hope your ex is rotting in excruciating pain somewhere now too.

Next to that, my asshole ex is only a mild common or garden psycho.

I wouldn't say so, they were all 60 old, old school, oul fellas 14 years ago, there were few female judges and even those were only token judges. It was a real boys club so stuff like that was generally just swept under the table.

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#38 03-01-2008 5:55pm

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Kazobel wrote: »

The Judge empathised with him and put most of the blame on me. In them days the term Gender Identity Disorder and Transsexual were unheard of in this country (I had never even heard of them) and although I had been living and working as female for over 3 years I was still just seen as a perv who liked to dress in womens clothes. At the time of the assult I was very convincing and nobody could have told any different but the trial wasn't until I got out of hospital after alot of surgury so I looked like crap. So he convinced the judge we were only seeing each other a few weeks and it was the first time he had tried for sex and after finding out I was born male went into a shocked rage. The judge totally fell for it and told me I could expect nothing else if I chose that lifestyle, those days were rife with homophobia so it wasn't that uncommon an occurence for a trans/gay person to be beaten up and the courts to claim "You brought it on yourself" and totally ignore the facts of the case :rolleyes: .

Not much of a judge really! I mean, it doesn't matter about the gender/transsexual issue - it was a human that did something horrific to another human!

Fair play to you for having the courage to get through it! I also agree with the rest - hope he's rotting somewhere!

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#39 03-01-2008 6:09pm

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Fair play to you for having the courage to get through it! I also agree with the rest - hope he's rotting somewhere!

Honestly don't know. Last I heard (about 10 years ago) he was a mess but even at that I'd question the source. It was an ex friend (the one who introduced me to him and stuck by him in court) who I'd bumped into on a night out and she tried to tell me he misses me and is sorry etc :rolleyes: and was trying to get me to meet up sometime and get my address but I just told her straight out I wasn't intrested in being friends with her or contact with him and walk away, I believe she called me an selfish b*tch but it felt good

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#40 03-01-2008 6:18pm

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Honestly some peoples logic is amazing! :eek:
U selfish after what he put u through - i don't think so.

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#41 03-01-2008 6:20pm

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Kazobel wrote: »

Honestly don't know. Last I heard (about 10 years ago) he was a mess but even at that I'd question the source. It was an ex friend (the one who introduced me to him and stuck by him in court) who I'd bumped into on a night out and she tried to tell me he misses me and is sorry etc :rolleyes: and was trying to get me to meet up sometime and get my address but I just told her straight out I wasn't intrested in being friends with her or contact with him and walk away, I believe she called me an selfish b*tch but it felt good

bet it did feel good. omg what an asshole he was

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#42 03-01-2008 6:25pm

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DubLegs wrote: »

Honestly some peoples logic is amazing! :eek:
U selfish after what he put u through - i don't think so.

Some people can't see the wood for the trees, deep down I hope he sorted himself out and got help if for no other reason than that he does it to no-one else but I don't know, he was pretty far gone but as I said it was a long time ago and maybe he saw some sense, stranger things have happened .

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#43 03-01-2008 7:17pm

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Met the Gfs ex after going out with her for a few months. We were going to her sisters party and she told me on the drive down. I was a bit nervous, but jesus christ he was a f**king sound bloke! We dont see him at all now which pisses me off more as he was really dead on!

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#44 03-01-2008 8:34pm

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Agreed with me to come visit him where he lives in 2 weeks from now, allowed me book the flights almost 4 weeks ago, appeared thrilled I was coming over, then didnt contact me for the last 3 weeks, ignored text and email and when I called him yesterday he told me he had met someone 6 weeks ago (only left here 7 weeks ago) and basically obviously he didnt want me to come over. We had been friends for almost 3 years and had just had the chat 7 weeks ago to start formally meeting up more often to see where this could go.

bastard of the year??? I think so.

SS

NOTE he did not tell me I had to chase him and call him at work to find out he didnt want me there although the writing was on the wall for me. Also he did not offer to pay for the flight.

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#45 03-01-2008 8:38pm

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Oh God Sarah, that's horrible, sorry to hear that What an asshole.

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#46 03-01-2008 8:45pm

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Damn Sarah that is feckin terrible behavior.

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#47 03-01-2008 8:59pm

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What an a$$hole Sarah, I hate people that ignore things like that hoping and hoping that a solution will just present itself out of nowhere and then come clean at the last minute only to refuse to take any responsiblity, it's like ***SHRUG*** "It's not my problem" and they're never the ones to lose out! :mad:

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#48 03-01-2008 9:18pm

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Not all men are asshole.

I've been thru my fair share of women that can be equally as inconsiderate.

I myself have done ego boosting crap and tgh, in the end the only person i really hurt is myself.

What goes around comes around. Trust me on this one.

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#49 03-01-2008 9:26pm

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snyper wrote: »

Not all men are asshole.

I've been thru my fair share of women that can be equally as inconsiderate.

I myself have done ego boosting crap and tgh, in the end the only person i really hurt is myself.

What goes around comes around. Trust me on this one.

oh i'd well believe it!!

And Sarah, he'll probably end up coming crawling back at some stage when that falls through!!

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#50 03-01-2008 9:30pm

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SarahSassy wrote: »

I dont think they are. I had built up almost 3 years of conversations, mails, texts etc with him as a friend and thought I 'knew' him and could trust him to be honest...

Will never understand it til the day I die. It only took one call to avoid all this and I would have understood.

I think some of Wicknight's post may apply here too, sorry you're feeling so bad

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#51 03-01-2008 9:38pm

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Kazobel wrote: »

I think some of Wicknight's post may apply here too, sorry you're feeling so bad

Thanks a million.

Cant see how it applies here as he has made NO contact with me and is surely not trying to impress me.

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