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Lets all be anxious/depressed together.
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BagOfNerves wrote: »Hi everyone, I've recently been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. Im having constant panic attacks and Im in fear all the time. Basically i was wondering if anyone else on this suffers with GAD and if so, does it get any easier? :-(
I don't have GAD but I do suffer from a lot of anxiety in daily life. There are plenty of things you can do to improve your life and outlook. Even simple things like investing time in a hobby, or exercising, or having a better diet, etc. Will help you. Always have a goal, and try to stay as positive as you can.
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MickFleetwood wrote: »I don't have GAD but I do suffer from a lot of anxiety in daily life. There are plenty of things you can do to improve your life and outlook. Even simple things like investing time in a hobby, or exercising, or having a better diet, etc. Will help you. Always have a goal, and try to stay as positive as you can.
+ if you have a dog , it is a great way to get out of the house and say hello to a few strangers. Walking is good exercise for both you and the dog. It also helps get the positive chemicals working in the brain.
One does not need to make a special effort to get dressed up, just get off your ass and go! I don't really care that I look like a windswept beach bum.
If you don't have a dog, borrow a neighbours dog, I am sure your neighbour would only be delighted to get Rex out for a walk.
Dogs are great companions, I was out twice on the beach today with doggy, met some very nice people on my walk, including the yummy mummy group who were out jogging.
I also had a little chat with doggy about a few things that are bothering me. Better to get it out than bottle it up!!!!
Honestly it works, we also enjoyed the sea air and the sunshine and had very hearty appetites for lunch. I certainly find I am eating more healthily and getting my old bones , joints and muscles working again.
Furthermore I am beginning to get more restful sleep at night, reducing the need for long naps during the day.
I know it is raining in some parts of the country, heck, it is only rain, get out there and walk for 30/40 mins this pm, bring the dog, borrow a dog, and see how many people you interact with during your walk. It does not need to be a long conversation, the dog will be a great ice breaker for you. Leave your anxiety at home, and see how you feel when you get back home.
Anyone up for the challenge? Looking forward to your posts. Before you say or think it, no Del has not flipped! Just do it !:D0 -
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today was good, very little anxiety other than first thing this morning. Was busy all day and that helped. Ended up teaming up with a friendly person on a project earlier and that really helped. Was convinced I'd booked yoga for later but turns out I havent
am a bit glad though cos can relax at home and make a decent dinner instead of running around like a mad eejit.
Found out my job might finish earlier than expected - which is great as I'm clearly not enjoying it, but of course there's money issues as well as having less time to get things in order for a handover (and find a new job!). But I'll have to manage. If it's true then I have only a short few weeks to go... :eek:
I fully agree with the posts about going for a walk with the dog! I need a trip home to the parents and the dog won't know what's hit him the unconditional love and affection is the best, I wish it could be bottled. 0 -
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today was good, very little anxiety other than first thing this morning. Was busy all day and that helped. Ended up teaming up with a friendly person on a project earlier and that really helped. Was convinced I'd booked yoga for later but turns out I havent am a bit glad though cos can relax at home and make a decent dinner instead of running around like a mad eejit.
Found out my job might finish earlier than expected - which is great as I'm clearly not enjoying it, but of course there's money issues as well as having less time to get things in order for a handover (and find a new job!). But I'll have to manage. If it's true then I have only a short few weeks to go... :eek:
I fully agree with the posts about going for a walk with the dog! I need a trip home to the parents and the dog won't know what's hit him the unconditional love and affection is the best, I wish it could be bottled.
Well work appears to be sorting itself out. Time now to focus on job hunting. I am certain your qualifications and current job experience will set you well for other employers to value your knowledge.
Look forward to your next visit home, I suspect your dogs legs may get worn down by a few inches!:)0 -
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Never underestimate the healing power of a dog. They are so intuitive it's amazing. When I'm low the dog knows to just sit at my feet or cuddle in. If I've a pain she puts her head where my pain is. And there is something so therapeutic about throwing a ball for her. And stroking her.
I am going to go give the dog a hug. 0 -
I feel the need to go and buy a dog tomorrow
Buuuuuut instead I will book my doctors appointment and a close friend recommended a counselor that I will call up and see if I can make an appointment. So daunting but it will be worth it in the end...... hopefully 0 -
OkayWhatever wrote: »I feel the need to go and buy a dog tomorrow
Buuuuuut instead I will book my doctors appointment and a close friend recommended a counselor that I will call up and see if I can make an appointment. So daunting but it will be worth it in the end...... hopefully
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Embrace the power of mindfulness
I'm putting aside 15 mins a day (usually in bed so that nobody stares) where I listen to my guided meditation and I'm finding my sleep is much much better.
Are you missing work regularly because of it?
Have you spoken to the crew in Dublin about it? Any chance they're just offering extra support to you?0 -
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Gremlinertia wrote: »I will eventually get my ass in gear and venture outside. Painkillers doing nothing so perhaps walkies might help..
Hope everyone else is doing ok..
Gremlinertia, did you do anything about a finding a massage therapist? I had a frozen shoulder a few years ago, all brought on by stress and anxiety, I have never known pain like it. I had great success with Bowen Technique, it's a non-invasive series of movements that can be done over light clothing. Meant to say it to you the last time you were on as it might be something you would find useful. As if my word wasn't good enough, even Bear Grylls gets it done.
I also treat myself to a session of vibromuscular harmonisation technique every now and then, which is a more vigorous version of Bowen, but is the nicest body work I have ever had done. I always have a big release of emotion after both Bowen and VHT. 0 -
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Hi guys, Need help, again...
My friend asked me to go somewhere with him. It is somewhere I actually kind of want to go. I haven't seen him for years so nervous about meeting him again. But even more nervous about just going out. Going somewhere. I can't even explain why. But I'm always scared of going places. And I haven't been anywhere for so long. Just the thought of it terrifies me. I want to go through with it. Just to be proud that I did it. Maybe I'd even enjoy it. But I know likely-hood is, I'll back out. I feel there's no hope for me at all. I can't go anywhere with anyone. The anxiety has gotten really bad.
If anyone has any advice that would be great. Thanks.
Hi phi3,
Firstly go to GP or counsellor and talk about this!
Second, if you don't go you will make it worse!. Agrophobia is a big thing and something my shrink made sure didn't happen to me. I'm lucky that my stubborness literally forces me along with a sense of competition against GAD not to lose. If you keep making reasons not to, it will get more difficult every time!
Third and finally!! You want to go and you are looking forward to it, so just bloody well go! That might sound harsh, but for me a big kick in the a**e is needed sometimes. Remember, anxiety CAN'T hurt you. You WILL not die. You WILL feel uncomfortable before, during and after but you will feel worse if you don't!
The more you do this type of thing the easier it gets!:cool:0 -
Hi phi3,
Firstly go to GP or counsellor and talk about this!
Second, if you don't go you will make it worse!. Agrophobia is a big thing and something my shrink made sure didn't happen to me. I'm lucky that my stubborness literally forces me along with a sense of competition against GAD not to lose. If you keep making reasons not to, it will get more difficult every time!
Third and finally!! You want to go and you are looking forward to it, so just bloody well go! That might sound harsh, but for me a big kick in the a**e is needed sometimes. Remember, anxiety CAN'T hurt you. You WILL not die. You WILL feel uncomfortable before, during and after but you will feel worse if you don't!
The more you do this type of thing the easier it gets!:cool:
I'm certainly not looking forward to it! I'm dreading it. And I wouldn't say I want to go, it's just something I'm mildly curious about. The person who asked me to go probably isn't helping. I haven't seen him for years, and we didn't part on great terms. We have been in contact since but not in person.0 -
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Keep that strength going, keep it going keep it going, it will pay off! I'm sorry to hear about that, strange circumstances. Try and go out, it is not a reflection on you that he left. Try and make yourself comfortable in your body in whatever way you can.
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Hey Mick, glad to hear you are getting some relief from the anxiety, you're sounding much more positive.
Are you into mindfulness meditation at all? It's something I find really good for the early morning dread and over thinking mind. I try to do it before I get up in the morning and it can make such a difference to the rest of the day, particularly if you do it regularly. If I have time I would ideally do a 20-30 minute guided meditation, but if I'm on the run (weekdays) I just stick on some short but beautiful music close my eyes and focus on every note.
Just for you here's three minutes of peace for your head ..http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F-4wUfZD6oc
I've never really tried meditation, but I might look into it now that I'm starting to get my shít together. My life for weeks on end now has been nothing but repetitive and negative, and it's good to have some more stability, even if only slight.
That song is great by the way.
You should try listening to Ludovico Einaudi, he's an amazing artist. 0 -
Having a borderline evening. I'm in the edge of so many emotions / feelings!
Happy! Excited! Dread! Fear! Apprehension! Nervous! Regret! Shame! Joy!
Heart going 120 bpm! Properly racing. I checked it. Kinda.
Maybe add hypochondria to the list
With all these thoughts flying through my head I'm getting very anxious. Very very anxious. Doing mindfulness etc.
I have a busy few weeks of work ahead. A little bit of travelling for meetings etc and a few important sales type pitches coming up. I don't mind them but the (potentially amazing) outcomes fill me with excitement.
I am planning conversations (from my side) in my head. Telling people things. "Talking is my treatment".
You know the way they say once am addict always an addict? Well I reckon I'm still addicted to self harm. I haven't cut in ages. Months. But tonight I (genuinely completely) accidentally managed to rub something sharp against my arm (leaned on a scissors, didn't know it was there) & the thrill & the elation. Oh wow! It was a millisecond thing - I don't think there was so much as a tiny scrawl on my arm. But the temptation... Wow. Amigos the temptation was incredible.
I didn't. I won't. But Jesus with all of these emotions flying... I'm set to BURST with all of these emotions.
I feel like I want to go for a big run but it's 12.30. Not clever. And I can't run. Severe case of couch potato.
I haven't felt such intense emotions in an age. I need to dial it down because I need to sleep. I have work tomorrow.
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Maybe you should lie in bed, put some of your favorite tunes on and just try to relax? (Is it possible to tell somebody to relax without sounding patronizing, ugh
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Try to let the happiness,excitement and joy block out the negativity! Sometimes it works for me, the odd time But maybe it's worth a shot. If you relax enough you may just fall asleep!
Proud of you for not self harming, i'm way too familiar with the temptation. I used to self harm when I was 16-ish, and haven't since but I'm often reunited with the temptation, reminding myself of the feeling of relief i'd feel if I did it. Sometimes it really does take a lot of strength to not do it.
Severe case of couch potato?.. Bet I have it worse I bought a selection box thing to give myself a treat once a day for the next 6 days, but of course I have eaten a packet of buttons, a crunchie, a fudge bar, a dairy milk caramel and a dairy milk, so not only do I feel morbidly obese and nauseous, I think I may also be paralyzed.
I went to the doctor today, whoooo the feeling of pride I got prescribed Gerozac (anybody have any experience on these? don't want medical advice, just personal experiences if any). She said she wanted to start me off easy and I have to call her in 2 weeks and then go back to see her in 3 months.
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Gerozac is Flouxetine, same as Prozac. Doctor might say it will take two weeks to take effect, but it can take up to 6-8 weeks, so bear this in mind. Also, it has a long half-life, which means you should not feel any ill-effects if you accidentally miss a dose.OkayWhatever wrote: »I went to the doctor today, whoooo the feeling of pride I got prescribed Gerozac (anybody have any experience on these? don't want medical advice, just personal experiences if any). She said she wanted to start me off easy and I have to call her in 2 weeks and then go back to see her in 3 months.Not your ornery onager
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OkayWhatever wrote: »Maybe you should lie in bed, put some of your favorite tunes on and just try to relax? (Is it possible to tell somebody to relax without sounding patronizing, ugh)
Try to let the happiness,excitement and joy block out the negativity! Sometimes it works for me, the odd time But maybe it's worth a shot. If you relax enough you may just fall asleep!
Proud of you for not self harming, i'm way too familiar with the temptation. I used to self harm when I was 16-ish, and haven't since but I'm often reunited with the temptation, reminding myself of the feeling of relief i'd feel if I did it. Sometimes it really does take a lot of strength to not do it.
Severe case of couch potato?.. Bet I have it worse I bought a selection box thing to give myself a treat once a day for the next 6 days, but of course I have eaten a packet of buttons, a crunchie, a fudge bar, a dairy milk caramel and a dairy milk, so not only do I feel morbidly obese and nauseous, I think I may also be paralyzed.
I went to the doctor today, whoooo the feeling of pride I got prescribed Gerozac (anybody have any experience on these? don't want medical advice, just personal experiences if any). She said she wanted to start me off easy and I have to call her in 2 weeks and then go back to see her in 3 months.
Really hope you're okay Hersheys xx
Great job on going to the doc! You should feel proud! Great news.
As for me I tried everything I could think of. Anything.
Eventually drifted off but woke up the exact same. I think I might be hyperventilating. Happened before.
Can't afford the time to sit in the doctor waiting room for 27 hours but will go as soon as I can.
I have "ants in my pants" - can't sit still!0 -
No definite day set as it's on for a week.
Hiding helps with anxiety
Chatting online we get on ok but don't do it that much. Sometimes he annoys me.
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At work, so bare with me replying
Why no definite day yet?
Does hiding really help or make whats coming up worse? Does anticipation make it worse or actually help?
Don't we all annoy somebody most weeks? Maybe he finds you annoying at times too.. Who decided on the meet?
What is the worst that could happen if you meet him?0 -
At work, so bare with me replying
Why no definite day yet?
Does hiding really help or make whats coming up worse? Does anticipation make it worse or actually help?
Don't we all annoy somebody most weeks? Maybe he finds you annoying at times too.. Who decided on the meet?
What is the worst that could happen if you meet him?
No definite date because it runs for a few days. So he's not sure what days he's working etc.
Hiding helps in a way but it also depresses me. But avoidance is safe.
He asked me to meet him. And yes I'm sure I do annoy him!
Worst thing that could happen...... Well, me being completely silent and having nothing to say. That's a common problem.
Him telling me I'm quiet or getting irritated/bored/annoyed at me having nothing to say. Also very common any time I meet anyone.
People seem to judge me so quickly. Even when I think I'm being outgoing & chatty people tell me I'm very quiet. It seems impossible. I know in theory being quiet isn't a bad thing but it is in a way because when you never have anything to say, people talk to you less.0 -
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Made it through first college half term. Night out on wednesday was a success except for me being violently ill We'll see.
Good for you Cloud that's quite an achievement. Really glad Wednesday went well (apart from the puking which I won't mention, same as I didn't mention my son's last weekend). Enjoy your mid-term break. 0 -
My boyfriend appears to be having some sort of melt down thingy. I don't blame him, I rely on him so much and expect so much support from him that I sometimes forget that he needs some support and somebody to rely on. My selfishness and expectations have just completely clouded my judgement.
He asked me to go over to his house earlier, I've been looking up jobs and applying for some (he didn't know this), so ended up not going over. He went absolutely mad at me, and sent me texts saying he wants to pass out in a ditch or throw himself under a bus, so now i'm lying in bed in hysterics crying with worry and because I know exactly how he feels.
I tried to help him. I suggested going over to him, him coming over to me (i'd pay for a taxi), meeting in town for food and to talk and nothing would work. I feel like I genuinely did try and that nothing worked. He kept telling me he didn't want to be on his own and anytime I suggested meeting he'd say no? And then gave out to me for not using my initiative He ended up accusing me of attacking him and was rejecting my calls. I'm in bits. I cry a good bit, but can't remember the last time it was so bad. I just feel so useless, I have no idea what to do!
It's just starting to feel like it's one bad thing after another, constantly and I don't know how much more I can take, it just feels unbearable these days.0 -
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