August 2015 Babies Club

Dobbit wrote: »

My OH went back to work today after 2 weeks paternity leave. Had a hard day without him, lots of crying and a difficult to settle baby. Just when we finally cracked breastfeeding the settling comes unstuck, sigh. Also OH's aunt is doing my head in. She keeps calling round dishing out orders in the guise of advice. Today then she asked me did I need anything from the shops and got totally the wrong thing, AND corrected me for complaining about it. God preserve me from that kind of "help". I've had to ask a few people not to call over just because I'm so flaming exhausted. Probably seems selfish but I'll never get him into anything like a routine if all and sundry keep calling over.

It sounds like a bit of a nightmare "help" indeed! All I can say is I'm being pretty frank with people at the moment, and if I'm not happy with someone's presence, I just voice my concerns. You can always blame it on the hormones! ;-)

Surely it'll get better and you'll be ready for visitors when you're ready! Don't put too much pressure on yourself - the wellbeing of you and your little one is most important now!

catchery wrote: »

Im in hospital with my little pet. An infection in his kidneys. On antibiotics and gaining weight. we have had an awful week but hope we will get good results waiting for results. Hold them close and love them more.

Oh my! Fingers crossed for good results and a quick recovery!

Hope the little fella is OK Catchery.

And I'll be right behind you Irishgirl, I'm getting induced on Thursday afternoon. Due to my age and that fact that even though the head is engaged there's no movement on my cervix. I wasn't offered the ribbon, going to have 2 rounds of gel, and if it doesn't work, I can opt for a C-Section, I don't know whether it's because of my age or because my veins are causing my leg to swell, I was too busy trying to take in all the info this morning.

Best of luck borderlinemeath. I'm starting to feel a bit nervous now. Hoping it will all be over quick

cowlove wrote: »

Hope your little one is better catchery! It must be awful when they are sick and so small.

Best of luck Irish girl and borderlinemeath.

We have moved from Galway to Dundalk. Not much fun with a newborn but we are in our new place now. Little fella is 5 weeks tomorrow. The time is flying!!

Wow impressive with the move! Well done and enjoy the new place! :-)

5 weeks already?! Oh my! Well in fairness, my little missy will be 3 weeks on Monday! Madness! Hope all is well?

Catchery - hope you're on the way to recovery and all is good now?

Dobbit - all good with the family now? :-) how is your little one feeding? Mine is having days when she feeds maybe 10-20 mins at each breast, but for example this morning she was stuck to me for almost 50!

How is your little man now catchery. Glad to hear things are looking up for him with him putting on the weight.
I went into hospital on Wed and got the pessary and then got the gel on Thursday and they broke my waters that night. Had a little girl Friday morning. We are going home today all going well

Our little girl arrived on Friday night at 8.41pm. After 3 rounds of gel I finally went into labour around 2pm. Gas and air didn't agree with me at all, made me vomit almost immediately so got into the birthing pool and that really seemed to help, so much so I went too quickly for an epidural and ended up just getting a pethadine injection but then after an hr & a half of pushing she wouldn't come out on her own so needed forceps and an episiotomy. So sore and uncomfortable but so worth it as she's absolutely perfect!

catchery wrote: »

Breastfeeding mammas ! If you have a pump use it ! Helps toughen your nipples mine are not a bit sore now ! I had to measure every feed when we went back with my little guy, to see how much exactly he was taking in! So for five days i fed strictly 10 mins each side then expressed the rest, or just expressed the entire feed, and it really helped my nipples. Im still alternating. He loves the breast in the night and bottles for most of the day. 6 oz at most feeds and more sometimes. Hope this helps. Especially if milk is low or baby is falling asleep during feeds pumping will really help. Baby will be satisfied with a large bottle feed for 3-4 hours you can still express during this time but its much faster , and you can have a cup of tea and cake !

Thanks hun! They're recommending not to use expressed breastmilk for the first few weeks as not to cause "nipple confusion" between the real deal and the bottle. You don't agree?

Congrats borderline meath. Our little babies have the same birthday :-) I had to episiotomy too,how are u feeling. I am very uncomfortable. If you have any tips let me know.
I heard of the witch hazel and bought some but all of the midwifes advised me against it?

catchery wrote: »

Well i had no choice because with my little guy they wanted to rule out any reason for not gaining weight . But it didnt really bother him going from one to the other ! He is five weeks now and is still feeding from both no problems. The breast is definitely a comfort so for night feeds he feeds really well for 15 -20 mins on both sides with no snoozing at all ! Just feeds and rolls off. It is up to you hun but i can use a pad with bra and no need for nipple cream any more. They are sensitive but not painful where you are crying, like someone is pouring acid on a cut pain ! I do feel if you are exhausted and upset its better to try different ways that work for you than totally giving up!

hell it's gonna take a bit more to discourage me, LOL
But good to hear your little one is ok with both solutions - I'll try to wait a few more days/weeks if I can, and if not - I'll defo try combining expressing and feeding from the breast, thanks for your advice!

irishgirl19 wrote: »

Congrats borderline meath. Our little babies have the same birthday :-) I had to episiotomy too,how are u feeling. I am very uncomfortable. If you have any tips let me know.
I heard of the witch hazel and bought some but all of the midwifes advised me against it?

I had an episiotomy too! Maybe it's true what they say that they do theM too often nowadays?!

Either way it's quite uncomfortable for the first week or so but each day you'll be getting better! I haven't used anything and am healing quite well and with no complications so far! What I did find helpful though were the thick maternity pads - they give a nice enough cushion / padding. I'm on the thin ones now but didn't even look at them at the start!

Dobbit wrote: »

Posting from the doctors office. I have mastitis! Oh joy. I had a wee cough and headache but didn't think much of it (no sleep!) and then I nearly fainted changing him earlier.

This is the nail in the coffin for my breastfeeding journey unfortunately. I've agonised quietly for a few days now and was going to keep going but it's just too much. Feel like a total failure but no one could say I didn't give it all I could.

Don't feel like a failure hun! If it doesn't work it doesn't work, it counts that you tried!

Any other symptoms you had? Cause I have an awful cough too but since my hubby is sick I just presumed I cought it from him... now you got me worried!

Dobbit wrote: »

Slightly sore boob for a few hours but nothing bad or worrying, it just hit me like a tonne of bricks earlier. Started feeling very cold and shivering suddenly, took temp and it was high. Boob also very sore now.

I rang nurseline and they said get to GP asap so if you started shivering you might want to call.

I'll keep an eye on it so.

Hope you feel better soon!

I always thought I was breast fed and only discovered the other day from my mum that I was not as I simply didn't feed from the breast for some reason. I turned out OK enough Lol, your little one will be fine too! :-)

Those hormones certainly do make us go a bit crazy don't they?

irishgirl19 wrote: »

Congrats borderline meath. Our little babies have the same birthday :-) I had to episiotomy too,how are u feeling. I am very uncomfortable. If you have any tips let me know.
I heard of the witch hazel and bought some but all of the midwifes advised me against it?

One of the midwives told me to get arnica tablets, my stitches are fine, but I have very bad bruising, so the arnica will help, heard of sitting on the swim ring helps, was sitting on an ice pack in hosp, but I didn't feel much benefit to be honest. A friend of mine told me about tea tree oil in the bath today, so must look it up. I've a prescription for ponstan for the next week and can get it repeated if necessary. Since I got home today I find that wearing my maternity leggings feel like everything is far more "contained" than in my pjs in the hospital where I felt I had literally no control at all iykwim.

It's very uncomfortable, and it's only early days, but I'm going to attend my hospitals post natal physio classes to help with pelvic floor exercises, as I don't feel that I'm doing anything beneficial at the minute, but I'm still really swollen.

Breast feeding didn't work for my little girl, she has a posterior tongue tie, so I can get it clipped if needs be. The lactation consultant says that she may have been a finger sucker in the womb, if she was a thumb sucker she would have rolled her tongue but if she stuck her fingers in she may have pushed her tongue back. And in every scan she had her hands up around her face!! She's guzzling on her bottle and thriving and has a great routine already, it takes the worry away from knowing how much she's taken and as husband says don't beat myself up about it, he can also help with feeds, particularly as I feel so rotten with everything down below! I always said what happens will happen and if it didn't work it's not the end of the world. Only thing now is my milk has come in and boobs are like rocks, I have to get rid of it!

On a more poignant note, my lovely next door neighbour passed away on Saturday morning, not 12 hours after our daughter was born. She was in her late 80s/early 90s and had been in the hospital where I gave birth for the past month or so with final stage kidney failure. Every day she asked her family had I had the baby, was there any news on the baby, she was really looking forward to the news. We're absolutely devastated that she didn't get to meet her, but on some level we think she knew that she had arrived and it was ok for her to go. The eldest resident of our road leaves the world as the youngest arrived. We went to her removal tonight and I got very weepy for the first time, and they were all saying she was still asking when she could barely talk so she must have known as she passed very peacefully

Awe I'm really sorry to hear that borderline Meath. She sounded like a really lovely woman. I agree about the timing re her death that maybe she knew it was time. Hope you get some comfort in knowing that.

I know all too well what you mean about not feeling 'contained'. I had no idea what I'd be like in the hospital. I stood up and had an accident in front of my friend. I was so upset. Hope the bleeding gets lighter soon.
I am taking the arnica too they're great aren't they.
I didn't know you could do the pelvic floor in the hospital. I must look into that. Have been trying to do them since but don't know if I'm even doing anything.hard to feel anything even :-(

Hi all. Just checking in. Im still waiting in my little arrival. Feels like they will never be here!!!

40+5 today and no signs of anything happening. It's a hard wait oncethe due date passes.