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The worst punishment imposed by your parents

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  • Registered Users Posts: 47 player101


    I remeber years ago, i must have been only 8-10, I was playing football with a group of lads who were 13-15, well to young to be hanging around iwth them but it was football so my mam didnt care, Game ended, the lads thought it cool to write on the lamp post beside the field where we were playing, me being so young and impressionable thought it was cool and proceeded to draw my name (my first name nothing else!!), i ended up with black marker all over my hands, went in to wash it off and my mam caught me and wanted to know where i got all th eblack marks from i told her... (worst mistake of my life but prob best thing to do) she dragged me into the kitchen and got loads of cleaning stuff, then dragged me out into the middle of all of the lads and made me was the lamp post, i remember them all laughing and stuff, really helped though I was to embarresed to go near them again and I never put a foot out of line again...

    Got the occasional wooden spoon threat but nothing worth talking about..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,264 ✭✭✭✭jester77


    No dessert if I didn't eat my brussel sprouts :mad:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    The usual threats of wooden spoons and "i'm so disappointed in you" chats. But then my ma (single mother) left us all to live alone when i was about 12.
    Got myself through school and moved away as soon as I could and my mother couldn't understand why I was so eager to leave home. Eh, because I'd been raising myself for the last 5 years maybe :rolleyes:
    It's all good now but yeah, I look back and realise how messed up it all was. At the time it seemed fine :o


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,775 ✭✭✭✭kfallon


    jester77 wrote: »
    No dessert if I didn't eat my brussel sprouts :mad:

    It's ok it was only tinned fruit cocktail and ice cream wafers :pac:

    And you didn't eat your brussel sprouts??? Shame on you!


  • Registered Users Posts: 185 ✭✭wexford awake


    pirelli wrote: »
    Can you be charged at the age of 9. Must have been a long while ago. The minimum age for matters such as this is 12 years old now.

    It was 1990- 1991. and I think the minimum age back then was 6 maybe 7. I'd have preferred if they gave me an unmerciful beating, went to far and ended up killing me. Atleast they'd be the ones before the court, but then again my Father would have probably pulled a few strings. Atleast I would have been free from my miserable childhood.


  • Registered Users Posts: 185 ✭✭wexford awake


    you are lucky your parents were not strict. mine would have absolutely lost it if i had behaved as you did.
    Trust me, I would have preferred your Parents, no matter how bad they lost it, even if they killed me.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 38 kneeler


    Your parents are psychos.

    How can you make a statement like that? You don't know me or my parents. You don't know what I did to deserve punishment. Anyway it was only my mom who dragged out punishments. There was always corner time involved in her punishments.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,137 ✭✭✭44leto


    My Da was a holy Joe and he use to make me go to Sunday mass and at mass I could never work out what I was been punished for.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,876 ✭✭✭pirelli


    It was 1990- 1991. and I think the minimum age back then was 6 maybe 7. I'd have preferred if they gave me an unmerciful beating, went to far and ended up killing me. Atleast they'd be the ones before the court, but then again my Father would have probably pulled a few strings. Atleast I would have been free from my miserable childhood.

    6 years old doing hard time!! It was 7 years old but there was a rebuttle of guilt so you couldn't have been convicted maybe prosecuted.Technically it is 14 years old now. As there is a rebuttle of guilt between 12 and 14.

    Sounds like they were trying to teach you a lesson and didn't realise the harm they were doing. They went too far and abused their positions in my opinion to make a point.


  • Registered Users Posts: 185 ✭✭wexford awake


    kneeler wrote: »
    How can you make a statement like that? You don't know me or my parents. You don't know what I did to deserve punishment. Anyway it was only my mom who dragged out punishments. There was always corner time involved in her punishments.

    Maybe he thinks, your male, and been made wear a dress is kinda psychotic. No offence but that's what I first thought when I read it, but I'm presuming your a woman, so don't think there is anything psychotic about what your parents did. Sorry, don't know why I thought you were a male


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,277 ✭✭✭poisonated


    kneeler wrote: »
    How can you make a statement like that? You don't know me or my parents. You don't know what I did to deserve punishment. Anyway it was only my mom who dragged out punishments. There was always corner time involved in her punishments.

    Maybe he thinks, your male, and been made wear a dress is kinda psychotic. No offence but that's what I first thought when I read it, but I'm presuming your a woman, so don't think there is anything psychotic about what your parents did. Sorry, don't know why I thought you were a male

    That's weird I thought male too.


  • Registered Users Posts: 185 ✭✭wexford awake


    pirelli wrote: »
    6 years old doing hard time!! It was 7 years old but there was a rebuttle of guilt so you couldn't have been convicted maybe prosecuted.Technically it is 14 years old now. As there is a rebuttle of guilt between 12 and 14.

    Sounds like they were trying to teach you a lesson and didn't realise the harm they were doing. They went too far and abused their positions in my opinion to make a point.

    Yeah but it doesn't make it any easier, I could understand their stance if I murdered one of my kids. This might be hard to believe but they didn't speak to me even remotely civil since that incident. Counselling I received, even made me hate them even more, because it made me understand that what they did is totally ****ed up. To make it worse is that I adored them before that incident. Relations were a bit strainedyes, because my teacher at the time would always report me to my mom, her been the principal etc. But it would always only be a few clatters and everything would be back to normal after a few hours. The lesson they tried to teach is stiill going on. They have never made the effort to reconsile, but I don't think I ever could forgive them.
    Yeah I know I haven't a record, because once I filled out a garda vetting form, for coaching GAA. I mentioned nothing about the cort appearance and clonmel, and I was cleared regardlless. Someone told me that if you dont put down convictions etc, it will come back that you lied on it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,876 ✭✭✭pirelli


    Yeah but it doesn't make it any easier, I could understand their stance if I murdered one of my kids. This might be hard to believe but they didn't speak to me even remotely civil since that incident. Counselling I received, even made me hate them even more, because it made me understand that what they did is totally ****ed up. To make it worse is that I adored them before that incident. Relations were a bit strainedyes, because my teacher at the time would always report me to my mom, her been the principal etc. But it would always only be a few clatters and everything would be back to normal after a few hours. The lesson they tried to teach is stiill going on. They have never made the effort to reconsile, but I don't think I ever could forgive them.
    Yeah I know I haven't a record, because once I filled out a garda vetting form, for coaching GAA. I mentioned nothing about the cort appearance and clonmel, and I was cleared regardlless. Someone told me that if you dont put down convictions etc, it will come back that you lied on it.

    A few clatter's from you ma or from your da?


  • Registered Users Posts: 185 ✭✭wexford awake


    I meant if I murdered one of my siblings:eek:


  • Registered Users Posts: 185 ✭✭wexford awake


    pirelli wrote: »
    A few clatter's from you ma or from your da?

    Both.she would give me a few smacks and then she'd tell him when he got home and he'd give another few harder ones, he used to take off his belt to me a good few times. It stung like hell, but that's not my issue, that was run of the mill discipline for the times. When I have kids myself i prob give them a smack on the arse when their out of line.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 412 ✭✭Akarinn


    They made me live in the cellar for 10 years and i survived on dog food and drain water,but how we laugh at it now looking back!

    :rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 594 ✭✭✭carfiosaoorl


    My Father made me and my sisters cut the grass in the back and front gardens with scissors as a punishment when we were kids.The grass was about 2 foot long, it took fecking forever.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 31 Kerry hawk


    I know it wasn't punishment as such, but do yee remember the vile tasting worm doses that kids were made take .In my case it was a few times a year, and most times I wouldn't even have worms. It tasted absolutely rotten. yuck:mad: The things parents do. In my eyes it was punishment.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 594 ✭✭✭carfiosaoorl


    Kerry hawk wrote: »
    I know it wasn't punishment as such, but do yee remember the vile tasting worm doses that kids were made take .In my case it was a few times a year, and most times I wouldn't even have worms. It tasted absolutely rotten. yuck:mad: The things parents do. In my eyes it was punishment.

    Oh my god was it that manky blood red one? I will never forget that vile fecking stuff:eek:


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,876 ✭✭✭pirelli


    Both.she would give me a few smacks and then she'd tell him when he got home and he'd give another few harder ones, he used to take off his belt to me a good few times. It stung like hell, but that's not my issue, that was run of the mill discipline for the times. When I have kids myself i prob give them a smack on the arse when their out of line.

    Well if she is giving you a few smacks then it is hypocritical. A school principle doesn't usually slap a school pupil. However you get expelled an over reaction just to show no favouritism as your her child. A normal school pupil might not get expelled and certainly wouldn't be smacked. A normal school pupil doesn't have his mother contacted everytime he does something wrong, she sounds very inconsiderate towards you. They both misused their authority to cause you harm.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,641 ✭✭✭Teyla Emmagan


    Kerry hawk wrote: »
    I know it wasn't punishment as such, but do yee remember the vile tasting worm doses that kids were made take .In my case it was a few times a year, and most times I wouldn't even have worms. It tasted absolutely rotten. yuck:mad: The things parents do. In my eyes it was punishment.

    Oh yeah, God that stuff was disgusting.

    I can still taste it even thinking about it.

    *GAKGAKGAKGAKGAK*


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 31 Kerry hawk


    Oh my god was it that manky blood red one? I will never forget that vile fecking stuff:eek:

    Yeah and there was one called worm exiler and it looked like red lemonade in a bottle. The milkshake on wasn't bad though, I must say. God were ****in dosed more times than the dogs and cats.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 82 ✭✭bubbuz


    Got the wooden spoon, the belt, the mouth washed out with soap to name a few but the worst punishment of all was not being warned about having kids of my own, yep karma's come and kicked me right up the ar** , whats that saying " there's no greater satisfaction than watching your kids raise kids of their own " ........ mind you I've not nor will ever dish out the kinda punishment I received.


  • Registered Users Posts: 185 ✭✭wexford awake


    pirelli wrote: »
    Well if she is giving you a few smacks then it is hypocritical. A school principle doesn't usually slap a school pupil. However you get expelled an over reaction just to show no favouritism as your her child. A normal school pupil might not get expelled and certainly wouldn't be smacked. A normal school pupil doesn't have his mother contacted everytime he does something wrong, she sounds very inconsiderate towards you. They both misused their authority to cause you harm.

    Honestly I hate them with a passion, and all bridges are truly burned at this stage


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 31 Kerry hawk


    Most of the punishments in my day were physical. No such thing as a grounding. I think the worst though came when me and my mates found the keys hidden under a creamery lorry, and we got in and tried to start it up. We were busted by a nearby business owner and marched home to mom and dad, with our heads hung in shame. My Dad killed me. He hit me as hard as he could with a belt across my legs, back,and bum. I seriously couldn't sit down for ages, and I had to sleep literly on my stomach. I don't resent him, he was right as it was quiet serious what we did even if we didn't intend going off on a joy ride. Bottom line I learned my lesson.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 72 ✭✭Weetbix


    I didn't use to wake up myself so one day my mother poured a bucket of cold water on me while I was asleep. I wasn't allowed to leave my bed still 9 that day, didn't go to school neither and I was cold. Lucky it was summer


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 31 Kerry hawk


    Weetbix wrote: »
    I didn't use to wake up myself so one day my mother poured a bucket of cold water on me while I was asleep. I wasn't allowed to leave my bed still 9 that day, didn't go to school neither and I was cold. Lucky it was summer
    You serious?


  • Registered Users Posts: 239 ✭✭Andre80Johnson


    I ''broke'' a window in boarding school. Mam broke a slipper of my head. It was my fathers, it had a hard sole so the white cotton/fluff or whatever it was flying in the air. I said it was snowing. I got the brush head in the face for the joke. Ah well. She was too uptight. Funny thing is, it wasn't me who did it. It's amazing that sometimes your parents believe people over you, in my case it was pretty much all the time.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,910 ✭✭✭OneArt


    paky wrote: »
    my parents got so angry with me after i dropped out of college that they through me out of the house. they then got a barring order against me from entering the house again. i didn't speak to them for 6 months after. when i started speaking to them again things were never the same and i don't think they ever will be the same again.

    Mine tried to use that, but I'd been living away already so it didn't really work. Also I'd dropped out to skip the country!

    Worst punishment had to be having to watch the Antiques Roadshow... The horror...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,016 ✭✭✭mirwillbeback


    My parents Fred and Rose could be hard at times.


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 987 ✭✭✭Kosseegan


    Kerry hawk wrote: »
    Bottom line I learned my lesson.

    Shows the benefits of a light spanking.


  • Moderators, Entertainment Moderators Posts: 10,439 Mod ✭✭✭✭xzanti


    lazygal wrote: »
    My mum smacked me across the face when I was about ten, can't even remember what it was for. But its stayed with me to this day and I still remember how horrible it was. What's your punishment horror story from childhood?

    slapl.png

    I used to get 7 colors of sh1t slapped out of me for the smallest of crimes... it was the 80's and not really frowned upon yet! Did me no harm :pac:

    Nah the worst punishment by far was a grounding.. Do what you want but don't clip my wings :mad:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 31 Kerry hawk


    xzanti wrote: »
    slapl.png

    I used to get 7 colors of sh1t slapped out of me for the smallest of crimes... it was the 80's and not really frowned upon yet! Did me no harm :pac:

    Nah the worst punishment by far was a grounding.. Do what you want but don't clip my wings :mad:

    Ha Ha, so right you are my friend. I wonder how todays generation of kids will be scarred for life , for being grounded, and have all their toys/accessories taken away.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,952 ✭✭✭Conall Cernach


    What I can't understand about grounding is what happens if the groundee decides "F*ck that sh%t, I'm off out anyway?" I mean if your worst punishment is not being allowed out what happens when this is ignored?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    What I can't understand about grounding is what happens if the groundee decides "F*ck that sh%t, I'm off out anyway?" I mean if your worst punishment is not being allowed out what happens when this is ignored?
    If i grounded my daughter and she kept disobeying me then I'd slowly but surely reduce her life to absolute misery. There would be no tv, no games, no money, bare essentials for her room. I'd literally strip her room bare and lock every single nice thing away. She would have nothing in her life that gave her pleasure.
    I would escort her to school, to her classroom if need be and collect her.

    Of course this is all extreme "she's going off the rails and about to ruin her life" type stuff.
    But essentially kids rely on us for pretty much every material thing they have and we can reduce their lives to empty shells if need be.
    Naturally all good behaviour would then result in items being returned, priveledges etc.

    I am a scary mammy! :o


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 31 Kerry hawk


    ash23 wrote: »
    If i grounded my daughter and she kept disobeying me then I'd slowly but surely reduce her life to absolute misery. There would be no tv, no games, no money, bare essentials for her room. I'd literally strip her room bare and lock every single nice thing away. She would have nothing in her life that gave her pleasure.
    I would escort her to school, to her classroom if need be and collect her.

    Of course this is all extreme "she's going off the rails and about to ruin her life" type stuff.
    But essentially kids rely on us for pretty much every material thing they have and we can reduce their lives to empty shells if need be.
    Naturally all good behaviour would then result in items being returned, priveledges etc.

    I am a scary mammy! :o

    Yes, I'm afraid you are:D lol. Prison would be more fun:cool:. In my day (80's and 90's), we had nothing in our room to take away, only the blanket.:pac:, so I suppose all our parents could do was to smack us;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,921 ✭✭✭2 stroke


    First I was chucked out of the womb, then a year later I was weaned.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,876 ✭✭✭pirelli


    :D

    We were like the Blanket men, their would be **** on the wall of the room if we were locked in, then we would join the Ira and become henchmen. Parents had to resort to extreme corporal punishment in those days. Incarceration of your siblings was frowned upon. Didn't much like kidnappings either but batter them black and blue by all means but don't them into a corner.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,615 ✭✭✭✭mariaalice


    I don't know if this has come up already but I found as a parent emotional blackmail worked the best.

    The " I love you and will always love you, but I don't like you very much at the moment you have let me down and hurt me so much " speech

    Now the important thing is not to be cross with the child and to carry on as normal.

    What happens next depends on the child involved some children will cave in immediately and start sobbing, trow their arms around you and say I am sorry I love you so much and I wll never let you down againg!!...Some hard cases will last a few hours before they cave in and you get the sobbing and I love you speech.


  • Registered Users Posts: 105 ✭✭treborflynn


    blasted with piss


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  • Registered Users Posts: 185 ✭✭wexford awake


    mariaalice wrote: »
    I don't know if this has come up already but I found as a parent emotional blackmail worked the best.

    The " I love you and will always love you, but I don't like you very much at the moment you have let me down and hurt me so much " speech

    Now the important thing is not to be cross with the child and to carry on as normal.

    What happens next depends on the child involved some children will cave in immediately and start sobbing, trow their arms around you and say I am sorry I love you so much and I wll never let you down againg!!...Some hard cases will last a few hours before they cave in and you get the sobbing and I love you speech.
    You should never screw with your kids emotions. Never tell them you don't like them, no matter how temporarily it may be. Give them a quick smack or two and carry on as normal. **** this cold shoulder ****. And they say that smacking is detrimental to a kids development.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,615 ✭✭✭✭mariaalice


    I do not believe in smacking children, My children are grown up now, I never smacked them nor was I ever smacked as a child.

    I do believe telling a child that you love them, but your are not happy with how they have behaved works ( along with lots of praise when warranted )


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 31 Kerry hawk


    As flaked as we were, we were sure happy, alot happier than kids seem today. Out playing until 11pm or even later in the Summer time. U dont see that these days. We'd be out playing some sport or another,and eventually we'd start fighting with each other, the father wold come out and flake us in the door, but we'd be back out playing again within the half hour. Good times I must say:D. All kids today just stare at the tv on the xbox. If you asked them what a board game was, they wouldn't even know:eek:. Where we spent our childhoods laughing, playing sports and cycling around the local countryside, Kids today spend all their time sulking:o. Must be the groundings :p


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 55 ✭✭a.man


    Massive clatter across the mush off my mam when I was about 16 (in fairness she finally found the hickey I had been hiding with scarves for that whole week doh!) And always remember her running up the stairs after me with the tea towel, she caught me on the back of the legs once (again that was me throwing an un-opened pint of milk up in the air and trying to clap before catching it again... Milk went splat (Milk and carpets do not mix well!)


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,950 ✭✭✭Milk & Honey


    kneeler wrote: »
    The worst punishment I got was baking soda and oatmeal being rubbed into my bottom after a spanking. It was awful. You had to stand against the wall with your hands above your head until it dried. It started to sting and sting! Another punishment i didn't like but wasn't as bad was having my jeans being taken away and being forced to wear a stupid floral dress during the summer holidays

    Haven't heard of that one before. Surely the bread soda and oatmeal would just drop off when you are standing up?


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 38 kneeler


    Haven't heard of that one before. Surely the bread soda and oatmeal would just drop off when you are standing up?


    It was combined with water into a paste. We had to lie on the scroll of the sofa with our pants down after spanking and Mom would mix the paste. The pain from the spanking would go down a bit and then the paste would feel quite soothing at first. Then we had to stand up and go against the wall with our hands on our heads. After a couple of minutes when the paste was drying it wout itch and then sting and sting until the pain was worse than before.
    That was the only time we were allowed on the sofa. We had to sit on high backed chairs and we would be spanked if we slouched or did not stand up whenever our Mom or dad entered the room.


  • Registered Users Posts: 547 ✭✭✭cocalolaman


    kneeler wrote: »
    It was combined with water into a paste. We had to lie on the scroll of the sofa with our pants down after spanking and Mom would mix the paste. The pain from the spanking would go down a bit and then the paste would feel quite soothing at first. Then we had to stand up and go against the wall with our hands on our heads. After a couple of minutes when the paste was drying it wout itch and then sting and sting until the pain was worse than before.
    That was the only time we were allowed on the sofa. We had to sit on high backed chairs and we would be spanked if we slouched or did not stand up whenever our Mom or dad entered the room.

    No offence but it sounds like a feckin' concentration camp.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 365 ✭✭Bullchomper


    kneeler wrote: »
    It was combined with water into a paste. We had to lie on the scroll of the sofa with our pants down after spanking and Mom would mix the paste. The pain from the spanking would go down a bit and then the paste would feel quite soothing at first. Then we had to stand up and go against the wall with our hands on our heads. After a couple of minutes when the paste was drying it wout itch and then sting and sting until the pain was worse than before.
    That was the only time we were allowed on the sofa. We had to sit on high backed chairs and we would be spanked if we slouched or did not stand up whenever our Mom or dad entered the room.

    That is just all kinds of wrong.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,065 ✭✭✭crazygeryy


    kneeler wrote: »
    Haven't heard of that one before. Surely the bread soda and oatmeal would just drop off when you are standing up?


    It was combined with water into a paste. We had to lie on the scroll of the sofa with our pants down after spanking and Mom would mix the paste. The pain from the spanking would go down a bit and then the paste would feel quite soothing at first. Then we had to stand up and go against the wall with our hands on our heads. After a couple of minutes when the paste was drying it wout itch and then sting and sting until the pain was worse than before.
    That was the only time we were allowed on the sofa. We had to sit on high backed chairs and we would be spanked if we slouched or did not stand up whenever our Mom or dad entered the room.

    your parents should be jailed for that.to dish out punishment is one thing but to think about it and go into so much detail to dish it out, shows a sadistic (dare I say )pleasure.not right not right at all.
    Its ****ed up


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 370 ✭✭bath handle


    crazygeryy wrote: »
    kneeler wrote: »
    Haven't heard of that one before. Surely the bread soda and oatmeal would just drop off when you are standing up?


    It was combined with water into a paste. We had to lie on the scroll of the sofa with our pants down after spanking and Mom would mix the paste. The pain from the spanking would go down a bit and then the paste would feel quite soothing at first. Then we had to stand up and go against the wall with our hands on our heads. After a couple of minutes when the paste was drying it wout itch and then sting and sting until the pain was worse than before.
    That was the only time we were allowed on the sofa. We had to sit on high backed chairs and we would be spanked if we slouched or did not stand up whenever our Mom or dad entered the room.

    your parents should be jailed for that.to dish out punishment is one thing but to think about it and go into so much detail to dish it out, shows a sadistic (dare I say )pleasure.not right not right at all.
    Its ****ed up
    it is better than random violence imo.


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