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Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

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  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,484 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Achey face and black eyes, and i can't go to work.. Rant rant.. However at least i've come to the decision that i'll be heading back to therapy sooner rather than later.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,400 ✭✭✭lukesmom


    Just off phone to my doc upped my meds dosage so starting that tomorrow. Took a Xanax .5mg today was so bad this morning. Feel numb but better that feeling like I'm losing my mind. Have rang a counsellor and left a message so hopefully get a call back.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,009 ✭✭✭✭titan18


    Just want to punch stuff. Awful day


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,400 ✭✭✭lukesmom


    titan18 wrote: »
    Just want to punch stuff. Awful day

    Sorry to hear that. Tomorrow is another day.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,484 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    It's beautiful out, i'm off this weekend for first time in ages and i can't get off the ****ing couch. I'm afraid if i move the carefully constructed calm will be destroyed and it could get worse. And however bad this is i don't know if i can handle worse.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 158 ✭✭podmu80


    Afternoon everyone,

    I've been following this thread for a very long time, but this is my first time posting. Not sure if anyone will even read this but in a strange way, I take comfort in the fact others know what I'm dealing with. This isn't a sob story or anything, I just want to get it off my chest as I don't have anyone to talk too here. Not really good at explaining myself,so forgive me.
    I'm 32,live in cork, have social anxiety disorder, panic attacks, and depression. I have been living with it since my teens but its got harder in the last few years. I'm lucky enough to have a full time job, and I tell myself how lucky I am to have one. Over the last 10 years, I have tried everything possible to overcome my issues, medication, cbt, even hypnosis. Nothing has worked. Over the last few years, I've almost thought myself how to live with my panic attacks, but its the social anxiety that gets to me the most. I probably can't even explain how bad this is. I've only ever had a small group of friends,but they've obviously moved on in life, got married, moved away, the usual. So, apart from seeing them from time to time, I don't have a social life. I avoid family occassions as much as I can, although there is a wedding next year which is already causing me stress. Sometimes it upsets me to see everyone else settle down, and know I can never have that. My biggest dream would to become a father, but I simply cannot ever see that happening and am begining to accept that now. Even though I've giving up on being happy, I will never give up on life.
    I haven't posted here to ask for help or advice on how to beat this, believe me, I've tried it all. Maybe I can connect on here with people who know what its like. Most of all, I wanted to get it out and get whats going on in m head down on paper,so to speak. It hepled a little:-)

    Thanks to anyone who reads this.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2 nonames


    This is awesome thread....well this is my story i got anxiety about 3 year when i first got it i didnt know want was happen to me i thought i was dying of something serious. took me a few months to go to the doctor it help finding out what is was even if the doctor wasnt very helpful first his put me on cirol i coundnt take these at all i know you will get side affect but i just couldn't deal with them. so i decided that i won't take any meds... but had to go back to him after a few months because it still was very bad. he put me on prothaiden ( anyone heard of them) and also found a book that helped At last alife its very good.. throw the years my anxiety had ease well able to live with it get on with live... until last friday when i had my first full blown panic attack.. prob the most frighting thing i went throw it my whole life i really thought i was having a heart attack.. anyway call the ambulance they know it was a panic attack told me to go see my doc.he up my dosage and gave me 10 gerax to clam me down.... but since than my anxiety as being very bad

    Thanks for reading and sorry about the bad english :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    Easily the most difficult period of my life, it just hasn't gone away like it usually does. Feeling sub-human, spasming in pain all day. Feel like I'm standing 2 inches from a concrete wall with my eyes fixed on it the whole time, all day every day. Feel pathetic, feel disgusting, feel old, feel dead inside.

    What will become of me? Nothing, if the worst happens its not a big deal, if I were to ignore all the thoughts about reality and turn my life round in any way it's still not a big deal.It feels like the end. But it probably won't be, in which case I have a long life of isolation and becoming a freak to look forward to, where I'll probably end up becoming a danger to others in the future. Bit of a catch 22.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 632 ✭✭✭Forest Demon


    Easily the most difficult period of my life, it just hasn't gone away like it usually does. Feeling sub-human, spasming in pain all day. Feel like I'm standing 2 inches from a concrete wall with my eyes fixed on it the whole time, all day every day. Feel pathetic, feel disgusting, feel old, feel dead inside.

    What will become of me? Nothing, if the worst happens its not a big deal, if I were to ignore all the thoughts about reality and turn my life round in any way it's still not a big deal.It feels like the end. But it probably won't be, in which case I have a long life of isolation and becoming a freak to look forward to, where I'll probably end up becoming a danger to others in the future. Bit of a catch 22.

    I know exactly how you feel mate. I was doing so well but have gone seriously downhill. Its one step forward and two steps back.

    I got diagnosed with two types of Arthritis last week and with all the other crap that I am dealing with both mentally and physically I can't see a future


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 28 jack_rambo


    hi there

    ive been taking lexapro ( 5 g ) for around six months for anxiety and its working very well , ive been off alcohol since then , was never a big drinker but would like a drink at the weekend , i realise that no doctor will recomend drinking while taking any kind of medication but surely a pint wouldnt do any harm ?


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  • Registered Users Posts: 156 ✭✭dar926


    jack_rambo wrote: »
    hi there

    ive been taking lexapro ( 5 g ) for around six months for anxiety and its working very well , ive been off alcohol since then , was never a big drinker but would like a drink at the weekend , i realise that no doctor will recomend drinking while taking any kind of medication but surely a pint wouldnt do any harm ?

    Im on Lexapro and other meds...if I was to have a pint it usually knocks me back two days.. two days of S*** for a couple of hours respite.. I personally dont think its worth it but thats just me


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 28 jack_rambo


    dar926 wrote: »
    Im on Lexapro and other meds...if I was to have a pint it usually knocks me back two days.. two days of S*** for a couple of hours respite.. I personally dont think its worth it but thats just me

    when you say knocks you back , are you talking about a hangover or anxiety ?


  • Registered Users Posts: 156 ✭✭dar926


    jack_rambo wrote: »
    when you say knocks you back , are you talking about a hangover or anxiety ?

    It gives me anxiety and I dont feel right all round...It sort of stops my meds dead in their tracks and takes me a few days to get my head back together..but im on serequal and lyrica as well with the lexapro so im not sure if it would be the same for you


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,308 ✭✭✭Hersheys


    Talk to your doc or pharmacist. Or read the leaflet.

    On an aside, 5g of lexapro is a lot. Do you mean 5 mg?

    I have taken lexapro previously & had a few drinks but it's best to ask a medical pro who knows you.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1 bluesylu


    this is my first time posting here, I've been on a downward spiral since the age of about 19 possibly earlier am 28 now. When I say downward spiral I mean that my head is f**king up my whole life, I don't understand how it operates I really don't. I can be going along nice and normal not a bother chatting away and then suddenly the panic takes over and if I don't get out of that particular social situation i'll crack up I literally start sweating and have to think of an excuse and bolt away. The last two years have been really bad between losing my job, moving back in with the parentals, developing binge eating tendencys and even more pronounced depression and social panic I've reached a stage where I just can't deal with it anymore - i'm not suicidal I just don't know what to do anymore and it feels like i'll never get better and be 'well'. Not looking for sympathy just felt like having an ol' rant to people who understand...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,308 ✭✭✭Hersheys


    bluesylu wrote: »
    this is my first time posting here, I've been on a downward spiral since the age of about 19 possibly earlier am 28 now. When I say downward spiral I mean that my head is f**king up my whole life, I don't understand how it operates I really don't. I can be going along nice and normal not a bother chatting away and then suddenly the panic takes over and if I don't get out of that particular social situation i'll crack up I literally start sweating and have to think of an excuse and bolt away. The last two years have been really bad between losing my job, moving back in with the parentals, developing binge eating tendencys and even more pronounced depression and social panic I've reached a stage where I just can't deal with it anymore - i'm not suicidal I just don't know what to do anymore and it feels like i'll never get better and be 'well'. Not looking for sympathy just felt like having an ol' rant to people who understand...

    Welcome :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,009 ✭✭✭✭titan18


    For any other self harmers here, what do you do to clean up the blood after cutting, just wash it away or anything in particular.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,308 ✭✭✭Hersheys


    Facewipes or antiseptic wipes mainly. I find that tissue gets stuck.


  • Registered Users Posts: 31 want to disappear


    podmu80 wrote: »
    Afternoon everyone,

    I've been following this thread for a very long time, but this is my first time posting. Not sure if anyone will even read this but in a strange way, I take comfort in the fact others know what I'm dealing with. This isn't a sob story or anything, I just want to get it off my chest as I don't have anyone to talk too here. Not really good at explaining myself,so forgive me.
    I'm 32,live in cork, have social anxiety disorder, panic attacks, and depression. I have been living with it since my teens but its got harder in the last few years. I'm lucky enough to have a full time job, and I tell myself how lucky I am to have one. Over the last 10 years, I have tried everything possible to overcome my issues, medication, cbt, even hypnosis. Nothing has worked. Over the last few years, I've almost thought myself how to live with my panic attacks, but its the social anxiety that gets to me the most. I probably can't even explain how bad this is. I've only ever had a small group of friends,but they've obviously moved on in life, got married, moved away, the usual. So, apart from seeing them from time to time, I don't have a social life. I avoid family occassions as much as I can, although there is a wedding next year which is already causing me stress. Sometimes it upsets me to see everyone else settle down, and know I can never have that. My biggest dream would to become a father, but I simply cannot ever see that happening and am begining to accept that now. Even though I've giving up on being happy, I will never give up on life.
    I haven't posted here to ask for help or advice on how to beat this, believe me, I've tried it all. Maybe I can connect on here with people who know what its like. Most of all, I wanted to get it out and get whats going on in m head down on paper,so to speak. It hepled a little:-)

    Thanks to anyone who reads this.

    Thanks for posting. My story is pretty similar. It's nice to know there are other people out there going through the same thing :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 229 ✭✭silverwex


    Hi all, saw the Doc last week and I was prescribed Lexapro. 5mg for first week, then 10mg for forseeable future. I am not going to be on this long term, just for a few months (I hope!). I decided to keep track of my progress so that I can see any improvements and for others just to see a real-time journal if you are considering this SSRI medication.

    BACKGROUND:

    The main reason I am on this is due to a break up but there are some other slight factors too. I have always been AWFUL with breakups regardless if I do the breaking up or not.

    Her and me fought a lot, didn't fully trust one another, I wasnt feeling it (even though she wanted us to settle down) and some other stuff; so I called it a day about 3 weeks back. Fast forward 2 weeks and I realised I missed her but she couldn't take me back as I hurt her too many times in the past - que the heartbreak :)

    DAY 1 - SUNDAY 28th April - 2.5mg

    I have decided to go on 2.5mg for two days to ease into it. Then go on the 5mg for 6 days and then up dosage to 10mg as I am a bit worried about side effects.

    Took it about 11:30pm. No effect and proper nights sleep ensued.

    DAY 2 - Monday 29th April - 2.5mg

    This dosage was SLIGHTLY more due to the pill being broken unequally from yesterday. Had played footy earlier and had these bad thoughts racing through my mind even during the match (to be graphic I had those gut wrentching thoughts of her 'in bed' with some other guy - horrible!

    Took 2.5mg after match about 9:30pm.

    Strangely enough these thoughts have subsided somewhat and dont really effect me as they were earlier. Placebo? Maybe I was on a high from the exercise? I actually think it was the Lex helping to be honest as I am usually drained after soccer and my mind races regardless if Im in good or bad mood.

    Happy it seems to be helping. My mood is good and I dont have obsessive thoughts much at the moment. No side effects. 5mg dosage tomorrow! Gulp!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,308 ✭✭✭Hersheys


    Crippled with anxiety tonight. Will it ever end!!

    Did something I regret today so now just waiting for the repercussions.

    Ah well. Tomorrow is another day. And it could be worse I suppose.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,443 ✭✭✭jobeenfitz


    I had a panic attack when I was in my mid twenties but didn't know at the time what it was. Was sorta hospitalised at the time( field hospital with army in Lebanon). It was only 4 years ago when had similar incident, thought I was dying with a heart attack that I found out what was really going on. Last year I missed work for six weeks and was sent to works doctor who asked me what I had done during this time. I told her I stayed in bed every day til 3 or 4pm and done feck all after getting up. She said I should have gone to Doctor and sought help as she thought I was depressed or suffering from low mood. If I could have survived without money I don't think I would have went back to work. I think some doctors(GPs) don't know how to deal with non-physical illness. My doctor made an appointment for me with a psychologist but over a year later have heard nothing. I regularly get close to having attacks but am doing well with reassuring myself that it is only a panic attic and it seems to be working. I recently seen advert on AWARE site for course for depression/low mood and it does help with understanding my thought process. I am two weeks into it and its free. I feel my issues may be minor in comparison to others but I'm hoping to do something about it in case it just gets worse. I think it is hard to get proper help in this country because the system is so clogged up, so many seeking so few resources. That's why I think we have to try and seek out help wherever possible as the system won't find us. I would reccommend the AWARE course to people who have issues and have not already had professional help. Its not a bad starting point. Its not intimidating, it could even be described as light hearted.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,009 ✭✭✭✭titan18


    Sitting here trying to study, and all I think of is what's the point, treatment isn't working and even if I'm alive for a while, I don't see myself working in this area. Not even sure if I'll make it to the exams, never mind doing well in them.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 632 ✭✭✭Forest Demon


    titan18 wrote: »
    Sitting here trying to study, and all I think of is what's the point, treatment isn't working and even if I'm alive for a while, I don't see myself working in this area. Not even sure if I'll make it to the exams, never mind doing well in them.

    Its a nightmare trying to study for exams when you are depressed. I had my MBA finals at a time when I was in the middle of a really bad time. The only thing I would say is just stick with it and even do the bare minimum if that is all you can handle and give the exams a try. You will not feel better for giving up, even if it is not an area that you don't want to work in.

    Things might improve for you in the future and you could look back and regret not giving it a final go. I know its easier said than done as I have all the motivation of a damp cloth myself. I got through mine. Scraped a couple and did not get the overall mark I wanted but I am glad I at least finished it. One of the very few things I did stick out to the end.

    Best of luck either way.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,930 ✭✭✭galwayjohn89


    titan18 wrote: »
    Sitting here trying to study, and all I think of is what's the point, treatment isn't working and even if I'm alive for a while, I don't see myself working in this area. Not even sure if I'll make it to the exams, never mind doing well in them.

    I feel the exact same way. Sitting here trying to learn stuff I don't care about just to regurgitate tomorrow and then forget about it. Not even sure if I'll be continuing next year so really struggling to see the point of getting out of bed, let alone studying


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,484 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    I have no exams and feel like i'm wasting my time.. Was off sick for a few days and totally forgot that it's now my holidays so i'm just frustrated, and so i drank like a loon and now flatmate isn't talking to me.. I know i have to apologise, just not sure how. Not if she won't stay in same room as me..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 661 ✭✭✭ncur


    Hey, just browsing through last few pages, so although I'm sure it's been asked before, would any posters have specific recommendations for any books that they've found helpful in alleviating symptoms or even the depression itself? By the way, well done to all who've taken the first step to recovery, it's the first that's the hardest I think.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 650 ✭✭✭handbagmad


    Very down tonight been following the thread just no want to post.
    i feel invisable worthless ugly stupid and all that goes with it.
    all i can say for now


  • Registered Users Posts: 2 nonames


    Hey I'm on prohaidtin for anxiety.., not sure if there working.. Anyone got any info on them???


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 453 ✭✭LoveCoke


    nonames wrote: »
    Hey I'm on prohaidtin for anxiety.., not sure if there working.. Anyone got any info on them???
    Dothiepin. One of the more sedating of the tricyclic antidepressants. Actually spelt Prothiaden. can cause blurred vision/weight gain as can most if not all trycyclics. Saw someone with bad anxiety do very well with it over a year of treatment. Not medical advice


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,308 ✭✭✭Hersheys


    So frustrated!! One step forward, two steps back. I was making great progress with the counsellor and then I saw her today and it just felt like square one all over again and I'm back to not wanting to go back to her. It's all so frustrating.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,484 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Hersheys wrote: »
    So frustrated!! One step forward, two steps back. I was making great progress with the counsellor and then I saw her today and it just felt like square one all over again and I'm back to not wanting to go back to her. It's all so frustrating.

    That's annoyance alright, but go back, there will be 'bad' appointments where nothing seems to happen..


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,308 ✭✭✭Hersheys


    That's annoyance alright, but go back, there will be 'bad' appointments where nothing seems to happen..
    I found it so hard with her at the start but the past 3 sessions have been great. Until today. So I've just lost all faith.

    How are you doing today?


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,484 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Hersheys wrote: »
    I found it so hard with her at the start but the past 3 sessions have been great. Until today. So I've just lost all faith.

    How are you doing today?

    It's one unproductive session, try to see it as a hiccup.. I'll be making a call to see my therapist finally tomorrow..


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,308 ✭✭✭Hersheys


    It's one unproductive session, try to see it as a hiccup.. I'll be making a call to see my therapist finally tomorrow..
    Nah, this is one of many unproductive sessions with her. I know its just a stop-gap until I see the proper team but still :(

    Good :) when will you make the appointment for?


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  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,484 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Hersheys wrote: »
    Nah, this is one of many unproductive sessions with her. I know its just a stop-gap until I see the proper team but still :(

    Good :) when will you make the appointment for?

    Appointment will be next week i'd guess or week after.

    Will you stay going to her until you get your appointments sorted?.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,308 ✭✭✭Hersheys


    I don't know what to do... I actually feel worse after "talking" this morning. So I don't know whether I should subject myself to that again.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,484 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Hersheys wrote: »
    I don't know what to do... I actually feel worse after "talking" this morning. So I don't know whether I should subject myself to that again.

    How many hours has it been since your meeting?. I've actually felt physically shook up sometimes.

    How long left until you hear from the team?.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,308 ✭✭✭Hersheys


    I normally feel physically shook after it, after the talking and stuff. I normally get really upset and can't face the day.

    But today I feel nothing. It wasn't a "good" session in the fact that I talked about what was going on, more that she talked at me (not to me) about what was wrong and stuff.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,484 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Hersheys wrote: »
    I normally feel physically shook after it, after the talking and stuff. I normally get really upset and can't face the day.

    But today I feel nothing. It wasn't a "good" session in the fact that I talked about what was going on, more that she talked at me (not to me) about what was wrong and stuff.

    SH**e to it, such a long road with so many cul de sacs, try to keep the spirits up..


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,308 ✭✭✭Hersheys


    SH**e to it, such a long road with so many cul de sacs, try to keep the spirits up..
    I'm just kinda done with it at this stage. Very frustrated with everything and just don't have the energy to keep trying to figure it out. I think I'm just resigned to not getting better and this being it for me.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2 Teddycat


    Hello, im not sure if this is the place to be posting on not. Im in my 20s and in college, i have suffered from severe anxiety for past few years, and take medication for it, i recently was referred to a Deans Clinic, i met a very nice lady doctor there. I anticipated just getting a change of medication perhaps, but instead she suggested i attend an anxiety course (in patient) in st Patrick's hospital in Dublin. TBH the thoughts of going to Mental hospital are freaking me out completely:confused:. Im a long way away from Dublin, and going there to stay for a number of weeks would be a massive change. My questions are: Has anyone been there?, was it a scary experience?, are you allowed leave if you go?, Did it make you feel better or worse? can you see any family while your there or use laptop, mobile phone etc.... Im sorry for long post, any advice is appreciated. Extremely frightened at the moment about the whole thing.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,405 ✭✭✭Lightbulb Sun


    Teddycat wrote: »
    Hello, im not sure if this is the place to be posting on not. Im in my 20s and in college, i have suffered from severe anxiety for past few years, and take medication for it, i recently was referred to a Deans Clinic, i met a very nice lady doctor there. I anticipated just getting a change of medication perhaps, but instead she suggested i attend an anxiety course (in patient) in st Patrick's hospital in Dublin. TBH the thoughts of going to Mental hospital are freaking me out completely:confused:. Im a long way away from Dublin, and going there to stay for a number of weeks would be a massive change. My questions are: Has anyone been there?, was it a scary experience?, are you allowed leave if you go?, Did it make you feel better or worse? can you see any family while your there or use laptop, mobile phone etc.... Im sorry for long post, any advice is appreciated. Extremely frightened at the moment about the whole thing.

    Hi, I've been there before so I'll do my best to answer your questions.

    I wouldn't say it was a scary experience. I coped with living there. There will likely be other young people your age from different parts of the country staying there so you won't be the only one living a long way from Dublin.

    Since you're of that age, you may be put on the young adult program there which is a program for teenagers and young adults who have different issues/illnesses. There is activities every day and groups based around mental health issues. You'll find out when you get there if you'll be on that program (as well as the anxiety one) I'm just presuming here cos of your age.

    My first time in hospital kept my illness in check and that was the only time I was there as an inpatient, but I was there as an outpatient a few times. I'm much less ill in certain ways than I was back then but I look at it like a gradual recovery, not an instant fix. I still have to figure some things out about my illness and how I can manage it better but some of the worst parts of it have gone which is good.

    They allow visitors in any time really so that won't be problem seeing friends and family. You can use your phone there and laptops too. The nurses might have to charge these though. They didn't let anyone charge their phones themselves when I was there (wires being seen as a risk with depressed people)

    It's a nice hospital. Hope things go well for you there.


  • Registered Users Posts: 108 ✭✭JenEffy


    I'm 24 and am finishing up a FETAC Business course after getting my college degree last year. I'm trying so hard to find a job and it's really getting me down. I'm still living with my parents and I don't feel independent at all. I can't handle the anxiety. I know a lot of people are in the same boat but it's so hard not to be depressed.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,030 ✭✭✭neemish


    JenEffy wrote: »
    I'm 24 and am finishing up a FETAC Business course after getting my college degree last year. I'm trying so hard to find a job and it's really getting me down. I'm still living with my parents and I don't feel independent at all. I can't handle the anxiety. I know a lot of people are in the same boat but it's so hard not to be depressed.


    I was 29 when I started to find my feet. 27 when I got a dive of a flat on my own but close to home. 28 when I learned to drive. 30 when I got a full time job! Small steps and you'll get there!


  • Registered Users Posts: 108 ✭✭JenEffy


    I already have a full drivers licence so I have that much at least! Thanks for your reply, hearing from people like you reminds me to be more laid back about it :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,030 ✭✭✭neemish


    I still have bad days. This week has been horrible with anxiety. When I was 24, I would have stayed in bed all day/all week. I'm taking shorter days at work (thank God for supportive bosses!) but I get up every day, shower, get dressed, get to work and do what I can. And try to remember that I'm actually doing ok :-)
    I wouldn't say it gets easier but it becomes a habit more than anything else


  • Registered Users Posts: 108 ✭✭JenEffy


    It's my parents that are the problem, more than anything. I'm pretty different to them. They're highly judgmental and they drive me up the wall. One comment from them makes me want to self-harm (and sometimes I do self-harm). They're essentially good people but I can't stand them most of the time. Once I move out they won't see me much. I'm glad you work in such a supportive environment, that's so great of your boss :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 2 Teddycat


    Hi, I've been there before so I'll do my best to answer your questions.

    I wouldn't say it was a scary experience. I coped with living there. There will likely be other young people your age from different parts of the country staying there so you won't be the only one living a long way from Dublin.

    Since you're of that age, you may be put on the young adult program there which is a program for teenagers and young adults who have different issues/illnesses. There is activities every day and groups based around mental health issues. You'll find out when you get there if you'll be on that program (as well as the anxiety one) I'm just presuming here cos of your age.

    My first time in hospital kept my illness in check and that was the only time I was there as an inpatient, but I was there as an outpatient a few times. I'm much less ill in certain ways than I was back then but I look at it like a gradual recovery, not an instant fix. I still have to figure some things out about my illness and how I can manage it better but some of the worst parts of it have gone which is good.

    They allow visitors in any time really so that won't be problem seeing friends and family. You can use your phone there and laptops too. The nurses might have to charge these though. They didn't let anyone charge their phones themselves when I was there (wires being seen as a risk with depressed people)

    It's a nice hospital. Hope things go well for you there.

    Thankyou so much for your reply, she did not mention a young peoples group,but i will ask when i see her. Its good that you got on well there :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,027 ✭✭✭sunshine and showers


    Hi all, I hope this is ok to ask. I'm just wondering if anyone has any personal experience with Effexor/Venlafaxine. I've been taking it for about a year now for depression and anxiety, and have moved up doses a few times with no really noticeable side effects. At the start of the month, my doc put me up from 150mg to 225mg and this week I have been too wired to sleep. It might not be the medication at all. I have exams coming up and could be feeling anxious (though I don't normally), and my roommate is coughing a lot at night, so that might be what's waking me up. It's the fact that even after three nights of proper sleep (or any real sleep) I'm not tired that's making me think it might be related to the dosage increase.

    I'm not looking for medical advice (I am going to call my doctor if it continues), I'm just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience?


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