The Pregnancy Chat Thread!

whiteandlight · 20-07-2014 1:02am

My feet are already between an EE and EEEE fit, they better not widen. Hello to all, I'm 12+4 and still getting used to the pregnancy. Having a rough evening tonight. Close family member is very ill (anorexia/depression) and absconded from the hospital for two hours tonight. She's been found thank god but I'm too het up to sleep at this stage.

Betsie_xr3i · 20-07-2014 7:25am

Your feet will eventually go back to normal girls sometimes it just takes a little while x

Jerrica · 21-07-2014 4:33pm

40+1, just managed to hand express some colostrum. I am BEYOND excited, my boobies work

yayyy!!!

cbyrd · 21-07-2014 5:07pm

Jerrica wrote: »

40+1, just managed to hand express some colostrum. I am BEYOND excited, my boobies work yayyy!!!

I had this happen me last week, I leaked.. Trouble is I'm only 23+4 :O ah well.. It is my 5th.. I also went out yesterday and bought my very first ever maternity clothes... 3 tops and some giant belly leggings.. Comfy!! There is a disadvantage to being thinner and pregnant, my bump is bigger than the last 4 and feels like it weighs more. I am so awkward too.. Getting in and out of bed is hilarious.. At least my partner thinks so.. Good job I have a sense of humour!

Wonder how Merkin's getting on.. Any news yet?

Betsie_xr3i · 21-07-2014 6:15pm

Merkin is doing ok gettinp some mild contractions but nothinp major

Merkin · 21-07-2014 7:38pm

Aww thanks for thinking of me cybrd! I'm good

Ranked very low on the Bishop Score yesterday evening so they went with the propess which is a prostaglandin pessary that's kept in for 24 hours to ripen cervix and then reviewed. Monitor showed it started little contractions but nothing I could really feel bar some back ache. They will review this evening whether to insert another one, have a break because it releases for 24 hours after removal anyway or whether to introduce gel. Depends if I've a stroppy cervix I suppose ! In any event I'm comfy, well and happy and one step closer to meeting the man of the moment!!:-) Thanks xx

Penny Dreadful · 23-07-2014 9:32am

30 weeks today! Still feeling (mostly) great although the dreaded SPD has reared it's ugly head again.
I've hit somewhat of a funk over the last two days or so, did any of the rest of you hit the same?
I've enjoyed my pregnancy a lot, I'm very excited about the baby and while I'm a little in the horrors about labour and birth I know (like millennia of women before me) I'll deal with it and all will be grand I am totally 100% fed up with other peoples opinions on my pregnancy, labour and birth. These opinions are unsolicited entirely, some of the questions are rather inappropriate and inconsiderate and I don't like feeling like public property to a degree.

nikpmup · 23-07-2014 1:44pm

''Hello, total stranger, nice to meet you. Why, yes, I am heavily pregnant. Er, no, I'd rather not tell you if it was planned or not. Well, because we're in starbucks and it's none of your business, nor is it the Barista's, who I've noticed is earwigging. Yes, it's decaf coffee. No, I'm not constipated or have piles, but thanks for asking loudly. Why, how lovely that you would tell me all about your horrific 26 hour labour - I didn't even have to ask you. Your perineum ripped all the way up to your a**?! That is a charming tale. No, you have my muffin, I'm suddenly not very hungry. Gosh, it's really amazing how much conversation you can fit into the length of time it takes to queue for a coffee and a sandwich, isn't it? Bye bye now. You freak.''

Penny Dreadful · 23-07-2014 1:47pm

nikpmup wrote: »

''Hello, total stranger, nice to meet you. Why, yes, I am heavily pregnant. Er, no, I'd rather not tell you if it was planned or not. Well, because we're in starbucks and it's none of your business, nor is it the Barista's, who I've noticed is earwigging. Yes, it's decaf coffee. No, I'm not constipated or have piles, but thanks for asking loudly. Why, how lovely that you would tell me all about your horrific 26 hour labour - I didn't even have to ask you. Your perineum ripped all the way up to your a**?! That is a charming tale. No, you have my muffin, I'm suddenly not very hungry. Gosh, it's really amazing how much conversation you can fit into the length of time it takes to queue for a coffee and a sandwich, isn't it? Bye bye now. You freak.''

Its like our bumps suddenly turn into a magnetic pull for weirdos and freaks.

Penny Dreadful · 23-07-2014 11:11pm

Got such good news this evening, I'm super excited with it. Friend just told me that she is pregnant and with twins no less!
So so happy for her. Our babies will be close in age too- only 11/12 weeks in the difference. Love it.

Betsie_xr3i · 24-07-2014 12:00am

Thats wonderful news penny

pastry2010 · 24-07-2014 11:05am

hahaha the girl in Spar asked me yesterday 'Do you know what you're having?' with my response being 'oh yes, a baby' felt bad after as it sounded sarcastic but I think with the heat it was starting to get to me!!

Penny Dreadful · 24-07-2014 11:16am

pastry2010 wrote: »

hahaha the girl in Spar asked me yesterday 'Do you know what you're having?' with my response being 'oh yes, a baby' felt bad after as it sounded sarcastic but I think with the heat it was starting to get to me!!

The heat is something else isn't it:( Its not even lunchtime and I want to tear my clothes off and lie down on a tiled floor to ease the heat.
Would make for an interesting afternoon in work if I did that:eek::D.

pastry2010 · 24-07-2014 2:36pm

Penny Dreadful wrote: »

The heat is something else isn't it:( Its not even lunchtime and I want to tear my clothes off and lie down on a tiled floor to ease the heat.
Would make for an interesting afternoon in work if I did that:eek::D.

I had a cold-ish shower this morning and I def recommend it, I'm usually passing out by the time I get into work but have styed relatively cool all day (so far) I have been getting calf muscle pains today....a new pain...GREAT!!!

Penny Dreadful · 24-07-2014 4:39pm

pastry2010 wrote: »

I had a cold-ish shower this morning and I def recommend it, I'm usually passing out by the time I get into work but have styed relatively cool all day (so far) I have been getting calf muscle pains today....a new pain...GREAT!!!

Shower sounds great. I'm gonna do just that as soon as I get home!
Calf muscle pain

me too. Had the odd cramp or two there in the mornings the last few weeks and as the days went on the discomfort never quite left fully. Last night, 4:30am MASSIVE cramps, took ages to go and then when they finally stopped I was wide awake of course. :rolleyes:

Growing little tiny humans is hard work!!

cbyrd · 28-07-2014 12:14pm

Dehydration can cause leg cramps especially at night when the body fluids settle through the body when you're lying down. (the reason you look thinner in the morning..)
The heat would exacerbate it cos you're dehydrating without doing anything, you need to drink more water when your pregnant anyway, only problem is when I drink bubbly water at night i end up waking to go to the loo!! Vicious circle :rolleyes: Also if you have a stairs you can stretch out the calf muscle a few times a day when you walk up the stairs (step halfway onto the step and drop back your heel) Or a foam roller is great if you have one. My gym trainer advised this a few weeks back..

fiona-f · 28-07-2014 12:20pm

cbyrd wrote: »

Dehydration can cause leg cramps especially at night when the body fluids settle through the body when you're lying down. (the reason you look thinner in the morning..)
The heat would exacerbate it cos you're dehydrating without doing anything, you need to drink more water when your pregnant anyway, only problem is when I drink bubbly water at night i end up waking to go to the loo!! Vicious circle :rolleyes: Also if you have a stairs you can stretch out the calf muscle a few times a day when you walk up the stairs (step halfway onto the step and drop back your heel) Or a foam roller is great if you have one. My gym trainer advised this a few weeks back..

As well as the above, a glass of tonic water a day is great for combatting cramps. It's not just the dehydration, it's the lack of magnesium, which tonic water can help with. All the ladies in my yoga class swear by it.

cbyrd · 28-07-2014 2:37pm

I thought that tonic water was not being recommended anymore during pregnancy because of the quinine..?

Synyster Shadow · 28-07-2014 4:08pm

I drank soda water with my two.. Granny swore by it

fiona-f · 28-07-2014 4:36pm

cbyrd wrote: »

I thought that tonic water was not being recommended anymore during pregnancy because of the quinine..?

I usually go by the NHS website, which says:

"There is no official advice on the safety of quinine in tonic water in pregnancy, although the FSA recommends sticking to moderate consumption.

Quinine is available in 200g and 300g tablets for use medicinally as an antimalarial. Side effects, including uterine contractions, have been reported in women taking very high doses of quinine tablets, though the effect appears to be mild and quinine is considered to be safe for use in pregnancy as an anti-malaria drug.

Quinine in tonic water is at a much weaker level of approximately 80 mg quinine hydrochloride/L. The safety of quinine as a flavouring in soft drinks has been evaluated by independent expert committees including the WHO and they have concluded that it is safe to use at current levels up to a maximum of 100mg/L. The lowest level of intake at which an adverse effect was observed was an effect on eyesight at 120 mg/day which is equivalent to approximately 1.5 L tonic water. "

Hope I haven't confused or misled anyone.

Penny Dreadful · 28-07-2014 7:45pm

I was in town today to use up a gift voucher for a floatation session and massage I was given for my birthday. Such a lovely relaxing way to spend the afternoon, I can't recommend it highly enough.
My reason for posting about it though is to say, bloody hell to those using public transport! Be a little nicer and more considerate of obviously pregnant women. It goes for anyone really who needs a little extra understanding or tolerance and patience shown to them.
I got the bus in which was grand and got the bus home again around 5:30pm. The stampede to get on the bus was nuts and I was shoved and pushed about quite a bit. In the end the lovely bus driver let a roar of "take it easy" out of him and the melee lessened a bit and I got a seat thankfully.
I am just so glad that I don't have to deal with that kind of carry on every day.

Dolbert · 29-07-2014 9:39am

Going for my 20 week scan in a few hours

Does anyone know if you need a full bladder for this one?

@Penny I'm so glad to have a parking space at work, such a lifesaver.

Whispered · 29-07-2014 12:46pm

No you don't need a full bladder for this one. Good luck

Having very little experience with babies, I fear I'm only thinking about the obvious things that will be needed. Like buggy, car-seat, cot, clothes. I'm sure there are a wealth of other items that will be necessary!

If you are unsure if you are breastfeeding or not, should you buy a steriliser and bottles just in case? How do you choose the bottles?

At what age would you usually begin to use a playpen? (are these still used?)

So far, I have a moses basket, crib and pram. I will not have to buy too many clothes at the start, but what is absolutely necessary?

What did you realise you needed and were surprised you hadn''t previously thought of?

Millem · 29-07-2014 1:12pm

Whispered wrote: »

No you don't need a full bladder for this one. Good luck

Having very little experience with babies, I fear I'm only thinking about the obvious things that will be needed. Like buggy, car-seat, cot, clothes. I'm sure there are a wealth of other items that will be necessary!

If you are unsure if you are breastfeeding or not, should you buy a steriliser and bottles just in case? How do you choose the bottles?

At what age would you usually begin to use a playpen? (are these still used?)

So far, I have a moses basket, crib and pram. I will not have to buy too many clothes at the start, but what is absolutely necessary?

What did you realise you needed and were surprised you hadn''t previously thought of?

Hi whispered,
I would buy the steriliser and bottles just in case. We use tommee tippee as we were breastfeeding/expressing, after 4 weeks my milk stopped so he had to go fully on formula. I would recommend a playpen/travel cot as you have a dog/dogs but I didn't need it till 6 months when he grew out of pram. I would also buy baby/dog gates if you haven't already. I wouldn't go too mad on clothes as you get sooooooooo many presents. Most people give you outfits not vests, bibs, socks and babygrows so I would buy them

I got 5 up to 1 month baby grows 5 up to 1 month vests then the rest were 0-3 months. Up to 1 month only lasted him 10 days!!!

Whispered · 29-07-2014 1:34pm

That's great thanks a million!

househunter · 29-07-2014 1:35pm

Whispered, I breast fed for only the first week but i didn't buy any bottles or a steriliser until I had decided to stop breast feeding. They can be easily picked up in a chemist/supermarket. My husband just popped out and picked them up when we realised we needed them.
With regards to clothes, I would buy some babygros and vests (at least 10 of each if you have none), some scratch mitts, a couple of hats and some kind of jacket/cardigan.
You will most likely get soooo many presents for the baby that you won't need to buy clothes for the first while, other than babygros and vests.
A couple of cellular blankets will be needed, a changing mat of some description (any wipeable one should be fine), sheets for moses basket. I found a support for the baby in the bath good. We didn't bother with a baby bath.

Dolbert · 29-07-2014 2:17pm

Plek Trum posted this yesterday and I thought it was great value, bought the newborn starter kit and steriliser with some burp cloths to take it over the €30 for free delivery

Plek Trum wrote: »

Great sake in Guineys on Avent products - got microwave steriliser and newborn bottle starter pack for 26euros. Exact same items in Boots come to over 70euros.

http://guineys.ie/baby-nursery/feeding-time.html

Whispered · 29-07-2014 2:33pm

Brilliant, thanks! I was looking through the list on the link and will admit to being very confused by the nipple brush. Until I realised it was referring to bottle teats.

:o:o

What is the purpose of a soother. Does the baby learn to be soothed by it or are the naturally soothed by it? Can they be skipped altogether?

Synyster Shadow · 29-07-2014 2:46pm

Every scan I had with my first he was sucking thumb and fist and thought I'll get a soother for him just as well too he loves it.. (16 months) with my second I've tried her again and again and she hates them prefers her fingers (3 and half months old) some like them others don't I'd have 1 just to be safe..

Millem · 29-07-2014 4:20pm

Whispered wrote: »

That's great thanks a million!

I just ordered 6 tommee tippee from amazon £10 to have just in case and then I bought the tommee tippee steriliser it was around €30ish and you get a free small tommee tippee bottle. I didn't know anything about bottle feeding and in hindsight if I was going to bottle feed I would buy the dr browns as if baby has colic etc you will end up buying them anyway! I am so glad I had them as I was very sore after the birth and found it painful to walk for a good month :eek:

Whispered · 29-07-2014 4:23pm

So you'd recommend Dr Browns then over others? How many bottles do you need to buy?

Maybe we need a "first timer silly questions" thread :pac:

madeinamerica · 29-07-2014 4:24pm

Whispered wrote: »

Maybe we need a "first timer silly questions" thread :pac:

I need that too!

Whispered · 29-07-2014 4:26pm

Sure I'll start one up so.

Although maybe the q's are ok here. If people can put up with my very rudimentary knowledge of babies!

Millem · 29-07-2014 4:31pm

Whispered wrote: »

So you'd recommend Dr Browns then over others? How many bottles do you need to buy?

Maybe we need a "first timer silly questions" thread :pac:

The reason I say dr browns is that if your baby gets colic or reflux you will more than like likely end up buying dr browns. I had intended to exclusively breastfed and only bought the tommee tippee bottles because they were soooo cheap! I bought their breast pump too and you can pump directly Into the bottles

my baby didn't get colic/reflux thank god! We used madela as I had to rent a hospital pump and used avent as I borrowed a avent double pump. He was not one bit fussy and took all the teets! I had a crazy amount of bottles as I was pumping but 6 would be grand plus you will get a small bottle free with your steriliser

my baby fed every 2 hours :eek: as the breast milk isn't as filling as formula hence the need for all the bottles!

Millem · 29-07-2014 4:41pm

One of my midwives raved about these http://www.amazon.co.uk/MAM-Anti-Colic-Self-Sterilising-Bottle-Starter/dp/B004BATV96 this is a good deal, no need for a steriliser as you just put each bottle in microwave with a little water in each bottle and unless I'm reading it wrong you get 8 bottles which includes 4 big ones. They have 6 tommee tippee for £7.20 that is the cheapest I have seen them

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Tommee-Tippee-Closer-Feeding-Bottles/dp/B004GCJFA4/ref=sr_1_6?s=baby&ie=UTF8&qid=1406648645&sr=1-6&keywords=Bottle+set

Jerrica · 29-07-2014 8:59pm

I'm on the couch with my three day old strapped to my chest feeding for her third consecutive hour, breastfeeding is wonderful, but it's hard work. If you think you'd like to bf I personally think it's not good to get any bottle supplies "just in case" because it's soooo tempting to give up and use them

We didn't get anything and this way I have to really make sure I put the effort into figuring out how the bf works (there's a lot to learn!!!)

Lashes28 · 29-07-2014 9:01pm

Fair play to you Jerrica I have made the decision not to be, but I'm sure the nurses will make me feel like the world's worst for not!

Millem · 29-07-2014 9:03pm

Lashes28 wrote: »

Fair play to you Jerrica I have made the decision not to be, but I'm sure the nurses will make me feel like the world's worst for not!

Lashes28 don't mind them.

Whispered · 29-07-2014 9:07pm

I've made a decision that I'm not going to put myself under pressure over it to be honest. I will try but if it's too much I'm not gonna beat myself up over it. I'm actually leaning towards bottles at the moment.

Lashes, do you mind me asking if there is a reason for you? For me, I'm leaning that way for purely selfish reasons. I am finding it difficult sharing my body, I don't feel like myself. I'm looking forward to getting myself back. I don't know if that makes any sense.

Tell me to myob if you like!

Jerrica · 29-07-2014 9:07pm

Lashes28 wrote: »

Fair play to you Jerrica I have made the decision not to be, but I'm sure the nurses will make me feel like the world's worst for not!

It's your decision and yours alone, and you don't need to justify that to anyone

Breastfeeding is the right way for me, but I'm the only one who knows what my own circumstances are and you know yours. There's a huge amount of judgement of pregnant women and new mums from all angles, but your only concern is keeping baby happy and healthy and if you know you're doing that then fcuk the begruders

Millem · 29-07-2014 9:17pm

Sometimes breastfeeding doesn't work out with the best will in the world and for me it really was a grieving process. I ended up with exhaustion and my milk stopped it was very bizarre. I always think things happen for a reason and looking back on it now I must have been an absolute nightmare to live with due to lack of sleep/rest. I was one of these people who wanted to breastfeed exclusively for 6 months and keep feeding till the baby was 2!!! Yes 2 I look back now and laugh

I didn't know myself when we went on formula it was soooo much easier. I am glad he got 4 weeks of it and the next baby I will try to breastfed again

Sligo1 · 29-07-2014 9:41pm

Jerrica it sounds like your little baby is cluster feeding. Lilly did that for the first 6 weeks. It's exhausting to say the least! I literally had to sit on the couch or lie in bed watching tv (which Wasnt so bad!

) from 7-10pm every night! But the positive is that if they cluster feed at night before bed they are filling themselves up for a good nights sleep. I know Lilly would usually only wake once during the night (sometimes twice) in those early days... Unless its a growth spurt of course.

I always had a "we'll see how it goes approach" to breastfeeding. Would never have been adverse to giving a bottle... And would have if I felt so stressed and needed rest or whatever... But I never ended up needing to. Mums need to mind themselves aswell as their babies. But I love bfing. The bonus is its just so handy! You can leave the house with a nappy abd that's all u need

Millem · 29-07-2014 9:45pm

Sligo1 wrote: »

Jerrica it sounds like your little baby is cluster feeding. Lilly did that for the first 6 weeks. It's exhausting to say the least! I literally had to sit on the couch or lie in bed watching tv (which Wasnt so bad! ) from 7-10pm every night! But the positive is that if they cluster feed at night before bed they are filling themselves up for a good nights sleep. I know Lilly would usually only wake once during the night (sometimes twice) in those early days... Unless its a growth spurt of course.

I always had a "we'll see how it goes approach" to breastfeeding. Would never have been adverse to giving a bottle... And would have if I felt so stressed and needed rest or whatever... But I never ended up needing to. Mums need to mind themselves aswell as their babies. But I love bfing. The bonus is its just so handy! You can leave the house with a nappy abd that's all u need

And let's not forget no stress in making up formula!!! Which I found very stressful indeed so much so that I bought that tommee tippee machine.

Whispered · 29-07-2014 9:48pm

Did ye find it hard having to continue to restrict your diets?

Jerrica · 29-07-2014 9:51pm

I think you're right Sligo, and fingers crossed we get a good sleep afterwards!!

Sligo1 · 29-07-2014 9:57pm

Whispered wrote: »

Did ye find it hard having to continue to restrict your diets?

This is new??? What should I be restricting? Hahaha... I'm eating as I always have. I don't drink coffee anyway and wouldn't be one for spicey food. I eat chocolate every night and I'm a fiend for dairy and cream. Have cream on my scones everyday. If Lilly was having problems due to what I was eating well I'd cut back then...

Millem · 29-07-2014 9:57pm

Whispered wrote: »

Did ye find it hard having to continue to restrict your diets?

I just found not being allowed to take nurofen very very annoying!!!! I wished for it so much when I got migraines during pregnancy! I found it hard having to drink sooooo much water as I am not a great water drinker.

Whispered · 29-07-2014 10:01pm

I could be wrong but I thought you had to eat in the same way as you do when pregnant, so no alcohol, caffeine, runny/raw eggs, soft cheeses etc.

Millem I've been so lucky so far, I had about a week of extreme sinus pain, to the point I was in tears because I couldn't take anything for it, but otherwise, nothing. I can't imagine how hard it must be to suffer migraine during pregnancy and not be able to take anything.

Sligo1 · 29-07-2014 10:02pm

Millem wrote: »

I just found not being allowed to take nurofen very very annoying!!!! I wished for it so much when I got migraines during pregnancy! I found it hard having to drink sooooo much water as I am not a great water drinker.

Millem are we not meant to take nurofen??

Sligo1 · 29-07-2014 10:04pm

Just checked... You can take nurofen when breastfeeding

... Phew!

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