The Fathers Thread

Pawwed Rig · 16-04-2015 3:17pm

TTC anyone??

Coopaloop · 16-04-2015 3:25pm

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

TTC anyone??

At a guess, I think it stands for trying to conceive.

Neyite · 16-04-2015 3:54pm

Coopaloop wrote: »

At a guess, I think it stands for trying to conceive.

Yup, that's what it stands for. Well, in Parenting anyway.

16-04-2015 8:35pm

Tough week there lads. Momma Dolla was admitted on Sunday with very heavy bleeding. I was just at the end of the vomiting bug. This is our first and that sense of fear is like nothing I've ever experienced before. They kept her in a private room on Sunday and brought me in a mattress. They really geared us up for the worst. The bleeding slowed down by the morning, but they kept her in again.

They let her home on Tuesday, which was great. She caught the vomiting bug then as well! On Wednesday she started to bleed again, so had to get a rush hour ambulance in.

They've found a clot, away from baby but won't let her out til it clears now. God knows when that'll be.

At least she's in great hands. I'm feckin wrecked with stress and about 16 hours sleep since Saturday!

Axel Lamp · 16-04-2015 8:56pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Tough week there lads. Momma Dolla was admitted on Sunday with very heavy bleeding. I was just at the end of the vomiting bug. This is our first and that sense of fear is like nothing I've ever experienced before. They kept her in a private room on Sunday and brought me in a mattress. They really geared us up for the worst. The bleeding slowed down by the morning, but they kept her in again.

They let her home on Tuesday, which was great. She caught the vomiting bug then as well! On Wednesday she started to bleed again, so had to get a rush hour ambulance in.

They've found a clot, away from baby but won't let her out til it clears now. God knows when that'll be.

At least she's in great hands. I'm feckin wrecked with stress and about 16 hours sleep since Saturday!

That's awful man but it could have been a whole lot worse....

Don't know how I would have dealt with being 'geared up for the worst'

16-04-2015 10:01pm

Axel Lamp wrote: »

That's awful man but it could have been a whole lot worse....

Don't know how I would have dealt with being 'geared up for the worst'

I found a weird inner strength that was new. All for show for her tbh! She needed it. And I was amazed I could be that strong.

Both doing well. 18 more weeks to go!

youcancallmeal · 17-04-2015 3:20pm

The reason for 12 weeks is the chance of a miscarriage occurring drops massively after that. 80% of miscarriages happen in the first 12 weeks, see first paragraph here http://www.babycenter.com/0_understanding-miscarriage_252.bc

tHE vAGGABOND · 06-05-2015 12:40pm

Early lunch purchased, and starting at page one of this thread! See you here in a few hours

marco_polo · 14-05-2015 12:28am

seamus wrote: »

There are probably a few different viewpoints on it.

The first would be the view that you tell people, the whole family gets excited, your friends get excited, people start buying you stuff.
And if the pregnancy miscarries, then aside from then having to break that news (on top of your own pain), you have a number of weeks where people ask, "how is pregnancy going", and you have to continually recount it to them, not just to friends, but to your auntie's next-door-neighbour's daughter who heard through the grapevine five months ago that you were pregnant, etc.
In this scenario, you tell no-one and then you can let them know if you miscarry. I guess the latter is the "easier" of the two for many people. Though I have had family members have a "family only" rule up to 12 weeks and when they did miscarry the whole family were there to comfort them as it felt like a shared loss.

There is the much older viewpoint of course that a miscarried child doesn't really count and should be swept under the carpet and treated just barely more seriously than a heavy period.

I'd imagine the first is the main reason nowadays at least, from tough personal experience when the news has traveled far and wide already, a miscarrage, in our case well after 12 weeks leads to alot of very painful conversational reminders for months afterwards (Completely unintentionally of course from caring well meaning people who just haven't seen you in a while.)

In other news had a scan earlier this week and still early days but looking good so for our first later this year (Not really the first in our eyes mind). Hope we get a little more good luck this time around. Strange feeling excited again but also 1000x times more terrified

robinph · 14-05-2015 9:26am

Just sitting about waiting for things to happen and for my phone to ring here. Have been told since the start that we won't go past 40 weeks and they will induce it before then and whilst it is good to know that something will definitely happen in a week and a bit the waiting about is driving us both a bit mad. She's going a bit stir crazy from being on leave now as well and sitting about the house getting bored.

Pawwed Rig · 14-05-2015 3:17pm

Tell her to enjoy the boredom while she has it. She won't feel that emotion again for some years

spottybananas · 15-05-2015 11:44am

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

Tell her to enjoy the boredom while she has it. She won't feel that emotion again for some years

Meh 5 weeks into parenting I've had plenty of boring moments or days, sitting around the house with a small baby leaves great gaps for nail painting, baking, fecking about on the internet while they're asleep :P

mocha please! · 19-05-2015 4:09am

Yeah in fairness most newborns sleep most of the time when they're not feeding. It's when they get walking the chaos really begins!

Any update robinph?

Best of luck with it all!

Pawwed Rig · 19-05-2015 8:13am

Well maybe it is just the fathers that suffer it then as they have to be on their game in work all day and then deal with waking babies at night so getting enough sleep can be difficult. No time to sit around painting nails. Who would have thought that mothers had is so easy???

robinph · 19-05-2015 9:47am

mocha please! wrote: »

Yeah in fairness most newborns sleep most of the time when they're not feeding. It's when they get walking the chaos really begins!

Any update robinph? Best of luck with it all!

Not yet. Going for a second stretch and sweep this afternoon, so could be kicking off today with any luck. If not then they will be inducing next Tuesday which is the official due date. Good to know that something will definitely be happening next week, but we are ready now.

DUBACC · 21-05-2015 9:34pm

DUBACC wrote: »

Had our 12 week scan today and there was junior jumping around like a mad thing. Both of us just bawled! Doc must have thought we were nuts!

Well we are still hanging in there. 36 week growth scan next Monday so all well so far. Still scared that something will go wrong even at this stage. I'm amazed at how badly scarred we are after losing two but it's human nature I suppose! Not even bought anything for the new baby 'just in case'.

Supercell · 21-05-2015 11:55pm

DUBACC wrote: »

Well we are still hanging in there. 36 week growth scan next Monday so all well so far. Still scared that something will go wrong even at this stage. I'm amazed at how badly scarred we are after losing two but it's human nature I suppose! Not even bought anything for the new baby 'just in case'.

Best of luck, there is nothing in the world that prepares you for the arrival of your first. When they grip your finger with their tiny hand or just lay there, a little person that you made(with a little help from herself), it's quite something

DUBACC · 22-05-2015 12:23am

Supercell wrote: »

Best of luck, there is nothing in the world that prepares you for the arrival of your first. When they grip your finger with their tiny hand or just lay there, a little person that you made(with a little help from herself), it's quite something

Cheers, yeah i remember on our first i was just stunned holding her wondering what the hell am i supposed to do with this little bundle! That pregnancy was so straight-forward and we were almost blase about the whole thing. Losing pregnancies after that has jolted us out of it and makes you realise that everything does not always work. As marco-polo above is finding out, you are so scared next time around.

robinph · 26-05-2015 1:01pm

Now checked into the hospital to be induced. Just a waiting game now. Hope that the phone battery lasts the distance as this could be a few days.

spottybananas · 26-05-2015 4:11pm

robinph wrote: »

Now checked into the hospital to be induced. Just a waiting game now. Hope that the phone battery lasts the distance as this could be a few days.

Did you not bring a charger, or surely you'll be going home at some stage if it takes a few days??

tHE vAGGABOND · 01-06-2015 9:26am

Glad to see from FB everything went well robin

Had our first trip around several stores to look at baby stuff yesterday, somewhat overwhealing..

Mc Love · 07-06-2015 12:05pm

Expectant Dad here, baby due 10th Jan, had our first scan on Friday morning, everything went well, 8w7d at the moment. It was pretty cool seeing the heart beat and the tiny arms and legs starting to grow.

OH is doing ok, bit of morning sickness etc, yesterday was her worst day so far, vomited near the whole day!

Got a book called Fatherhood, which is okay, bit of a lads book but I suppose enough the man needs to know about.

robinph · 07-06-2015 9:51pm

tHE vAGGABOND wrote: »

Glad to see from FB everything went well robin

Had our first trip around several stores to look at baby stuff yesterday, somewhat overwhealing..

We were called in to be induced at 40 weeks due to slight increase in risks with older mothers. It took about 36 hours from when we arrived at the hospital and the second course of stronger drugs to try and start labour before anything actually happened that the midwifes were interested in and the waters broke. Things then moved exceedingly fast, we got moved to the delivery suite, she was plugged up to a bunch more monitors, and I was shown where the coffee dock was.
One of the monitors was then showing something that the midwife didn't like about the baby's heart rate variations, so she hit her panic button and before I knew what was going on there were another 10 people in the room all doing different things. They rushed through a couple of fetal blood tests and seconds later there was a consent form for surgery being thrust in her face mid contraction.
Then being rushed through some more doors to the theatre, an anaesthetist barking orders to people as he struggled to get what he needed done safely through an awkward back, lots more people appearing, screens being put up, me being terrified but trying to remain calm, hoping that I didn't have a diabetic hypo now, and then within 30 minutes of the call being made that something wasn't right our daughter was born.

All perfectly healthy, just a very sore and slightly mobility compromised wife due to the emergency section. It was a terrifying position to be in, but the end result is fantastic. I'm totally in awe of the efficiency of the hospital staff and how quick things happened when they decided something needed to be done.

DUBACC · 12-06-2015 12:16am

I was exhausted and terrified reading that robin, but delighted for you both! That little bundle is worth all the stress!!

We are due in at end of next week for a C section as baba refusing to turn. Not sure how I feel about it, suppose partly happy it's all arranged with no mad dash to holles St like last time! Herself not so keen understandably.

tempnam · 13-06-2015 1:37pm

Mc Love wrote: »

Expectant Dad here, baby due 10th Jan, had our first scan on Friday morning, everything went well, 8w7d at the moment. It was pretty cool seeing the heart beat and the tiny arms and legs starting to grow.

OH is doing ok, bit of morning sickness etc, yesterday was her worst day so far, vomited near the whole day!

Got a book called Fatherhood, which is okay, bit of a lads book but I suppose enough the man needs to know about.

8w 7d.... isn't that 9 weeks then???

Mc Love · 13-06-2015 1:50pm

Haha yep meant to say 5 doh!

Skittlebrau · 14-06-2015 10:37pm

Little trickster came three weeks early. Beautiful baby daughter born today. Our first.

Emotions are all over the place.

DUBACC · 14-06-2015 10:38pm

Skittlebrau wrote: »

Little trickster came three weeks early. Beautiful baby daughter born today. Our first.

Emotions are all over the place.

Congrats mate, it's one hell of a feeling!

Marty McFly · 14-06-2015 10:41pm

Skittlebrau wrote: »

Little trickster came three weeks early. Beautiful baby daughter born today. Our first.

Emotions are all over the place.

Congrats

Didn't think I'd be back here so soon our little one was born last August and it's been brilliant watching her grow since, our second is due Oct 4 this year. Irish twins for us.

vickers209 · 16-06-2015 12:08pm

The missus is in early labour with our first now in hospital.
it's going to be a long day by the looks of it

vickers209 · 22-06-2015 9:53am

Early labour stoped last Tuesday and we had to wait till sat before baby decided to try again although very slowly she was brought to delivery sweet at 6am and at 9.08PM she delivered our baby boy. 15 hours later!!!

The night staff changed over at 8am sat morn and some was back at 8pm sat night and could not belive we were still there.

It was well worth it both are doing great and the staff in the delivery suite in routunda were absolutely amazing.

Mammy and baby being discharged today so looking forward to getting them home and starting this new chapter of our lives

Mc Love · 25-06-2015 11:16am

Good to hear all is well! sounds like a right workload!

DUBACC · 27-06-2015 10:23am

DUBACC wrote: »

We are due in at end of next week for a C section as baba refusing to turn. Not sure how I feel about it, suppose partly happy it's all arranged with no mad dash to holles St like last time! Herself not so keen understandably.

Our latest arrived yesterday in the wee hours only a day late. Absolutely delighted after our long journey. Little chap looks perfect! Little messer had turned last minute so section was cancelled.

To all the couples struggling with miscarriage and long term ttc, we are proof that hanging in there and hoping and longing for a baba really can pay off. 4 years waiting for this day and it feels great.

Mc Love · 30-06-2015 2:07am

Had our first Hospital scan today in Limerick! Man that place is like a sauna! Everything checked out ok and it only took like 3 hours! Baby even jumped in the middle of the scan, was quite cool!

27-07-2015 2:48pm

Finding a male jacks in the Coombe was surprisingly difficult without asking someone

uck51js9zml2yt · 27-07-2015 3:31pm

Dónal wrote: »

Finding a male jacks in the Coombe was surprisingly difficult without asking someone

There is only 1 in the rotunda.

Mousewar · 27-07-2015 3:37pm

Molly Wide Creator wrote: »

There is only 1 in the rotunda.

And just one in Holles St. And by one, I mean one bowl.

seamus · 27-07-2015 3:37pm

Molly Wide Creator wrote: »

There is only 1 in the rotunda.

My wife was in there for 3 days up near the top and always wondered why it took me twenty minutes to go to the loo.

tHE vAGGABOND · 29-07-2015 12:51pm

Starting to think about names in our house [not due till November], what a process, no pressure

So many names ruled out due to folks we know having used them, many names ruled out due to "..oh no, I knew someone with that name and she/he was a gobsh1te.."

Also, we had a short wait for our 20 week scan in the Coombe, I went for a stroll around the place. The notice boards are an experience, to say the least. So many folks with very serious issues, makes you realise how well we are doing in the grand scheme of things. [Not going into details, very much on purpose, as clearly there are a lot of real people with these very real problems]

brianblaze · 30-07-2015 3:32pm

So the wife is expecting in January so thought I'd check in here. Hello all!

Mc Love · 30-07-2015 7:03pm

Hello Brian, same as myself, first one is it?

SuperS54 · 31-07-2015 8:30am

Jumping back into this thread after a year, my little lad turned 1 last Staurday. To everyone waiting their first, it will all be worth it! Relax, try to enjoy the whole process and the early days, they really go by so fast. Unashamedly take pictures and videos of every squeal and burp, the next months will go by so fast and the changes will be so dramatic that you'll forget what they were like in the early days. Relax, relax, relax and enjoy, another couple of months and you'll wonder what you were ever so stressed and worried about!

brianblaze · 31-07-2015 10:56am

Mc Love wrote: »

Hello Brian, same as myself, first one is it?

That it is... I've been informed that because I won a cafe I'm fairly sorted for the prerequisite for early parenting, coffee!!!

It's all very exciting in fairness. Got a few books and that to read on it. Rather sadly I'm contemplating talking to the bump now that it's appearing!

fernandohierro · 31-07-2015 11:27am

I'm a first time father to be checking in here too. The other half is due in January.

Can't wait for it but getting worried I'm focussing too much on the good times that await us. I don't even know how to change a nappy or feed a baby.

Can anyone recommend a book or website that are more focussed on becoming a father? Or should I stick to reading any baby book? We already have the 'pregnancy bible'.

brianblaze · 31-07-2015 12:43pm

fernandohierro wrote: »

I'm a first time father to be checking in here too. The other half is due in January.

Can't wait for it but getting worried I'm focussing too much on the good times that await us. I don't even know how to change a nappy or feed a baby.

Can anyone recommend a book or website that are more focussed on becoming a father? Or should I stick to reading any baby book? We already have the 'pregnancy bible'.

I've been hanging out with more babies recently to prepare, that's about it. Ordered. Few books to read online too. They get here soon.

Also, I always signed you in Championship Manager

seamus · 31-07-2015 12:54pm

Some of the shorter books are decent, gets you in the mindset as much as anything. But don't bother with reference books or the like. Useless in real terms because they're written with the average child in mind and every child differs from the average.

We had a couple of the bigger books and once or twice used them to see if we could figure out what that weird spot was or how to cure nappyrash and despite being large books they had no practical information. Friends and family were by far the best source of actual help.

Even down to the simple stuff - a book will tell you that when the child is teething to try and calm them down with cuddles and buy teething aids and if it's really bad speak to your GP about what you can give the child in the way of analgesic.

And then when you've tried the book's method and haven't slept in 3 days, your family will tell you to give them Calpol and Neurofen, every four hours on the dot, and that will put an end to it.

robinph · 31-07-2015 1:53pm

The Haynes Baby Manual was an interesting read whilst waiting for junior to arrive, although I believe the first edition was more like a proper Haynes Manual than the new version.

Mc Love · 31-07-2015 2:36pm

It's my first too and when we were in the maternity, the lady at reception said January is going to be a busy month!

brianblaze · 31-07-2015 3:31pm

TV must be fairly bad in March/April

Mc Love · 31-07-2015 4:33pm

brianblaze wrote: »

TV must be fairly bad in March/April

My thinking was it was the good feeling factor with the nice weather we had as my OH's sister is also due around the same time with her second!

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