The Online Dating Thread Part II Mod Warning Read First Post/or Post 7389

Galvasean · 04-01-2012 1:52am

bordsie wrote: »

haha Samich I read your message there and i was mailing that girl about 6 months ago! didn't know she was still on the site maybe she blocked me too :pac:

She did have a nice profile then came across quite cold in the mails, didn't insult me or anything but the whole thing was about trying to impress her she'd say things like "Tell me something random about yourself?" and then it was up to me to entertain. Didn't get the impression she was there looking for dates but more an ego boost.

Ah her........ That was question #2 right? I got to question 3. I think I got it wrong as I have not seen her since! :pac:

hollypink · 04-01-2012 2:09am

Galvasean wrote: »

Ah her........ That was question #2 right? I got to question 3. I think I got it wrong as I have not seen her since! :pac:

Are there trolls on online dating sites? Because that message Samich got was so nasty and unwarranted I don't want to believe someone could really be as vile as that

battser · 04-01-2012 2:12am

I just signed up there tonight for the laugh to see what it was about on POF. My god a lot of old looking 27 year old girls :eek: Altho I am an old looking 26yr old so who am I to judge

Not really sure how to do the whole internet dating thingy but I will pick it up soon no doubt!

murhatchi · 04-01-2012 2:50am

battser wrote: »

I justu signed up there tonight for the laugh to see what it was about on POF. My god a lot of old looking 27 year old girls :eek: Altho I am an old looking 26yr old so who am I to judge Not really sure how to do the whole internet dating thingy but I will pick it up soon no doubt!

I got a message saying : "36 yeah right!!! "
It's not my fault I come from a long line of baldies :-)
Happy hunting :-)

Dravokivich · 04-01-2012 9:18am

battser wrote: »

I just signed up there tonight for the laugh to see what it was about on POF. My god a lot of old looking 27 year old girls :eek: Altho I am an old looking 26yr old so who am I to judge Not really sure how to do the whole internet dating thingy but I will pick it up soon no doubt!

Noticed t'is the same with some of the younger girls around 21 or so. There's some women in their mid 30's that looked younger then'em :pac:

What I don't get is the pictures women have, with loads of other women in them. I'm not going to go through'em all and try to figure out which'un yer meant to be.

c - 13 · 04-01-2012 9:59am

Samich wrote: »

Her last line of the profile was to put the subject line as snooze as proof you read the profile, I didn't bother doing this, I just typed it into the box on the page, saved me an extra click :P, as I have a pre saved title anywho. And a good one I thought at that :P Oh well.

Ha, I think I've seen the profile your talking about before. Long list of criteria that you need to meet before mailing her included in the profile too ?

KamiKazeKitten · 04-01-2012 11:30am

itsallaboutheL wrote: »

Do people really say that?!

I seem to have aquired an absolute fruit loop

Yep, one did to me yesterday :rolleyes:
I looked at it, laughed and hit the delete button.

I also have another in today who told me he needs mouth to penis rescuscitation, stat! What am I doing to attract these people?

Larianne · 04-01-2012 11:46am

For anyone who uses POF, do you read the little 'advice' piece when you log out? I read one last night (i dunno if they change every so often) and it said how you should go on at least 6 dates with the one guy before making your mind up. :eek:

I get what they were saying as regards to not making your mind up straight away about someone but I think 6 dates is a waste of time. I've gone on 3-4 dates with guys who I didn't feel any spark with as my friends told me I was too dismissive about. So I said right I'll give this way a go.. Went nowhere and ended up not being nice where I had to say "thanks, but no thanks" to guys who thought it was going somewhere.

Or is this the whole point of dating? Maybe I'm not doing it right.

silvervixen84 · 04-01-2012 11:55am

I signed up to PoF (in London) last night.

What am I getting myself in for

Pembily · 04-01-2012 12:07pm

Larianne wrote: »

For anyone who uses POF, do you read the little 'advice' piece when you log out? I read one last night (i dunno if they change every so often) and it said how you should go on at least 6 dates with the one guy before making your mind up. :eek:

I get what they were saying as regards to not making your mind up straight away about someone but I think 6 dates is a waste of time. I've gone on 3-4 dates with guys who I didn't feel any spark with as my friends told me I was too dismissive about. So I said right I'll give this way a go.. Went nowhere and ended up not being nice where I had to say "thanks, but no thanks" to guys who thought it was going somewhere. Or is this the whole point of dating? Maybe I'm not doing it right.

Eh no, you do know after a few dates, after 6 someone has feelings and will get hurt... Not the point of dating IMO!

Dravokivich · 04-01-2012 12:16pm

Larianne wrote: »

For anyone who uses POF, do you read the little 'advice' piece when you log out?

Log off???

I haven't clicked log off on anything in years. :pac:

Larianne wrote: »

I read one last night (i dunno if they change every so often) and it said how you should go on at least 6 dates with the one guy before making your mind up. :eek:

I get what they were saying as regards to not making your mind up straight away about someone but I think 6 dates is a waste of time. I've gone on 3-4 dates with guys who I didn't feel any spark with as my friends told me I was too dismissive about. So I said right I'll give this way a go.. Went nowhere and ended up not being nice where I had to say "thanks, but no thanks" to guys who thought it was going somewhere. Or is this the whole point of dating? Maybe I'm not doing it right.

Hmmm, suppose it all depends on how long the amount of time would be between dates. If it's a once a week thing, 6 dates, that's a month and a half and is more then enough time to have made up your mind long before then. If it was 6 dates within 2 / 3 weeks that would also give the impression that there's an eagerness about it more so then getting a gist of things.

I'd of thought people would know something of interest was going on after about 2 / 3 dates.

Larianne · 04-01-2012 12:28pm

Pembily wrote: »

Eh no, you do know after a few dates, after 6 someone has feelings and will get hurt... Not the point of dating IMO!

Dravokivich wrote: »

I'd of thought people would know something of interest was going on after about 2 / 3 dates.

Yeah that's what I thought. The advice is a load of crap! :cool:

See what you're missing out on Drav when you don't log out!

awec · 04-01-2012 12:40pm

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Dravokivich · 04-01-2012 12:48pm

Larianne wrote: »

Yeah that's what I thought. The advice is a load of crap! :cool:

See what you're missing out on Drav when you don't log out!

I just want to bump myself up on the results pages when people search by "Online Recently"

Maguined · 04-01-2012 1:04pm

Dravokivich wrote: »

I just want to bump myself up on the results pages when people search by "Online Recently"

It works, I helped my room mate setup her profile the other night and every single page she went to had your sexy mug floating in the potential matches section.

I even put in a good word about your magic hips.

Dravokivich · 04-01-2012 1:08pm

Maguined wrote: »

It works, I helped my room mate setup her profile the other night and every single page she went to had your sexy mug floating in the potential matches section.

I even put in a good word about your magic hips.

Haha, cool man.

silvervixen84 · 04-01-2012 1:22pm

Do some people have standard generic messages they have ready to send to profiles they're interested in?

I'd just be a bit suspicious about getting a lengthy message from someone about what themselves and their interests, with no reference to anything I've mentioned in my profile.

Larianne · 04-01-2012 1:25pm

silvervixen84 wrote: »

Do some people have standard generic messages they have ready to send to profiles they're interested in?

I'd just be a bit suspicious about getting a lengthy message from someone about what themselves and their interests, with no reference to anything I've mentioned in my profile.

Ah you got a copy and paster! Only ever replied to one of those. Well two actually. One was very funny so I said I'd give him a go. The other, I just let him know he'd been rumbled as a copy and paster!

Dravokivich · 04-01-2012 1:25pm

I generally message about what's in their profile and try to associate with anything I find interesting.

If I'm going to write a big speil about myself, it'll be in my profile.

silvervixen84 · 04-01-2012 1:34pm

I have received a funny message from someone already but want to wait until I'm at home to check his profile.

/paranoid

Another noob question - do you reply to all your messages or only ones you're interested in?

Larianne · 04-01-2012 1:37pm

silvervixen84 wrote: »

Another noob question - do you reply to all your messages or only ones you're interested in?

Ah, this question has been debated a lot on this thread. Ultimately it's up to yourself. Some people would like a "Thanks but no thanks" reply to their mails they send out, others perfer not to.

stargazer 68 · 04-01-2012 1:38pm

silvervixen84 wrote: »

Another noob question - do you reply to all your messages or only ones you're interested in?

Ooh I love noobies!! Fresh meat lol
Opinions vary on this. Be polite and say thanks but we arent a match or ignore - up to you really. The polite version is obviously the nicer way to go but it can lead to 'why?' - 'Stuck up b**ch' etc etc so be prepared!

andreac · 04-01-2012 2:29pm

silvervixen84 wrote: »

I have received a funny message from someone already but want to wait until I'm at home to check his profile.

/paranoid

Another noob question - do you reply to all your messages or only ones you're interested in?

It depends, if they seem genuine and made an effort to mail you a decent message then yes i would always reply even if im not interested.

But if its just "Hi" or "How r u?" then no, i dont reply.

JohnMearsheimer · 04-01-2012 3:13pm

I'd be the same, if someone read my profile and actually took a bit of time to mail me I would reply. One liners or hi or anything like that I wouldn't take the time to reply to. If they didn't make any effort then why should you?

On another note, have any men here got messages from female perverts? It's seems a lot of the women in this forum have from men.

Galvasean · 04-01-2012 3:43pm

Larianne wrote: »

For anyone who uses POF, do you read the little 'advice' piece when you log out? I read one last night (i dunno if they change every so often) and it said how you should go on at least 6 dates with the one guy before making your mind up. :eek:

As a guy some of the tips they give you seem off. One says 'try to make contact with her every day;. Sounds clingy to me.
Then they have a list of things to mail about and not to mail about. On the 'not' list one of the mail things was sci-fi. I think thats based on old stereotypes considering mos girls I've back n' forth mailed seemed quite interested to talk about sc-fi. Much better than feigning interest in clothes and makeup which most girls wont want to talk to some lad about IMO.

awec · 04-01-2012 4:17pm

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newbee22 · 04-01-2012 6:05pm

A girl just mailed me....wants to fulfill my fantasies, pity I don't want another women to do that!

JohnMearsheimer · 04-01-2012 6:18pm

newbee22 wrote: »

A girl just mailed me....wants to fulfill my fantasies, pity I don't want another women to do that!

A lot of confident people on POF!

panda100 · 04-01-2012 6:44pm

Galvasean wrote: »

As a guy some of the tips they give you seem off. One says 'try to make contact with her every day;. Sounds clingy to me.
Then they have a list of things to mail about and not to mail about. On the 'not' list one of the mail things was sci-fi. I think thats based on old stereotypes considering mos girls I've back n' forth mailed seemed quite interested to talk about sc-fi. Much better than feigning interest in clothes and makeup which most girls wont want to talk to some lad about IMO.

I think all those dating 'tips' are a bit stupid. They always tell you not to mention religion or politics on a first date,which is ridiculous. Your political or religious persuasion can be a big part of who you are and what makes you tick. I couldn't date anyone very religious or right wing, so best to just find out on the first date.
I think best thing to do is be true to yourself.If your into sci-fi then be out and proud about it.Certainly wouldn't put me off anyway!

Just got this message on okcupid:
Hi Miss
Hows you today
I'm looking to be made a cuckold
Id do your housework,pamper you and cook for you
I hope this pleases you Miss xx

Whats a cuckold?Never heared that before.I do like the sound of the free cleaning and cooking for life though!Seriously, do women actually respond to these type of messages???

babyfratelli_x · 04-01-2012 6:48pm

How often do guys get messages from girls?
And more to the point ones from girls who arent crazy?

Just wondering would you generally be used to being the one sending the mails?Or would a girl mailing you 1st be common enough?

I am such a newbie to this craic!

Samich · 04-01-2012 7:07pm

babyfratelli_x wrote: »

How often do guys get messages from girls?
And more to the point ones from girls who arent crazy?

Just wondering would you generally be used to being the one sending the mails?Or would a girl mailing you 1st be common enough?

I am such a newbie to this craic!

Nope for me a girl messaging first never happens, only happened about 3 times ever.

Even if I didn't like the girl I'd be flattered to get a message first I'd reply back. I think alot of girls don't message first in case they don't get a reply. I think most fellas would reply either way.

Also a cuckhold is when you watch your partner with someone else. I read that.....somewhere. :pac:

missbelle · 04-01-2012 7:10pm

I've messaged a few boys and got no reply *sniff*

ah well....I'll let the boys come find me.....eh, I hope

newbee22 · 04-01-2012 7:23pm

I've seen a few guys I want to write to but I'm just too nervous! Actually had written a message to one, but clicked out of POF, guess it's just the fear of not getting a reply. I will be brave one day:o

Pembily · 04-01-2012 7:30pm

newbee22 wrote: »

I've seen a few guys I want to write to but I'm just too nervous! Actually had written a message to one, but clicked out of POF, guess it's just the fear of not getting a reply. I will be brave one day:o

Just message, it won't kill you! Give it a shot, it's fun

Otis Driftwood · 04-01-2012 7:34pm

panda100 wrote: »

I think all those dating 'tips' are a bit stupid. They always tell you not to mention religion or politics on a first date,which is ridiculous. Your political or religious persuasion can be a big part of who you are and what makes you tick. I couldn't date anyone very religious or right wing, so best to just find out on the first date.
I think best thing to do is be true to yourself.If your into sci-fi then be out and proud about it.Certainly wouldn't put me off anyway!

Just got this message on okcupid:
Hi Miss
Hows you today
I'm looking to be made a cuckold
Id do your housework,pamper you and cook for you
I hope this pleases you Miss xx

Whats a cuckold?Never heared that before.I do like the sound of the free cleaning and cooking for life though!Seriously, do women actually respond to these type of messages???

A cuckold is basically someone that is married being "serviced" by a third party while the other person watches in secret.

He sounds like a keeper tbh.

:pac:

babyfratelli_x wrote: »

How often do guys get messages from girls?
And more to the point ones from girls who arent crazy?

Just wondering would you generally be used to being the one sending the mails?Or would a girl mailing you 1st be common enough?

I am such a newbie to this craic!

I get as many first mails as first mails I send.The problem is that the over whelming majority of them consist of "hi,how are you" or "how was your weekend"

Im at the stage that I just delete the messages when I get em like that.

Owen · 04-01-2012 7:34pm

They're advertising now on TV, like eHarmony and the rest. Expect an influx of noobs :pac:

Dravokivich · 04-01-2012 7:38pm

panda100 wrote: »

Just got this message on okcupid:
Hi Miss
Hows you today
I'm looking to be made a cuckold
Id do your housework,pamper you and cook for you
I hope this pleases you Miss xx

Whats a cuckold?Never heared that before.I do like the sound of the free cleaning and cooking for life though!Seriously, do women actually respond to these type of messages???

What he's described isn't a cuckold. It's a kind of swinger thing.

finipops · 04-01-2012 7:38pm

Owen wrote: »

They're advertising now on TV, like eHarmony and the rest. Expect an influx of noobs :pac:

We needs moarrr fish!

newbee22 wrote: »

I've seen a few guys I want to write to but I'm just too nervous! Actually had written a message to one, but clicked out of POF, guess it's just the fear of not getting a reply. I will be brave one day

Just mail them!!

Wester · 04-01-2012 7:42pm

I find that when I use POF, I message girls and barely receive any responses but on OK Cupid, I get the messages first and I barely use the site, sometimes going for weeks without realising I still have a profile on it. Go figure!!

parker kent · 04-01-2012 7:59pm

panda100 wrote: »

Whats a cuckold?Never heared that before.I do like the sound of the free cleaning and cooking for life though!Seriously, do women actually respond to these type of messages???

Cuckold is an old term that comes from Middle English for a man with an unfaithful wife. It was never meant as a complimentary term.

So I think he needs to brush up on his medieval literature. Tell him to read some Chaucer :pac:

babyfratelli_x · 04-01-2012 8:05pm

Ah ok cool, tanx for the responses. I was really put off by the amount of weird messages I got after a day, so I hid my profile. Therefore its up to me to message guys 1st.

Messaged four, 2 replies, so 50% success

It is kinda scary, but fluke it, Id rather message them than get a load of crappy one liners and creepy people messaging me! Seriously that site seems to attract some weirdos!

This thread makes for some very amusing reading

The Big Red Button · 04-01-2012 8:07pm

panda100 wrote: »

Just got this message on okcupid:
Hi Miss
Hows you today
I'm looking to be made a cuckold
Id do your housework,pamper you and cook for you
I hope this pleases you Miss xx

Whats a cuckold?Never heared that before.I do like the sound of the free cleaning and cooking for life though!Seriously, do women actually respond to these type of messages???

"You look beautiful in your picture.I would love to be your servant, waiting on
your beck and call for whatever you needed. Your amazing looking.Would
you be interested in a loyal cuckold boyfriend?"

Quite possibly same guy!

Samich · 04-01-2012 8:08pm

babyfratelli_x wrote: »

Ah ok cool, tanx for the responses. I was really put off by the amount of weird messages I got after a day, so I hid my profile. Therefore its up to me to message guys 1st.

Messaged four, 2 replies, so 50% success
It is kinda scary, but fluke it, Id rather message them than get a load of crappy one liners and creepy people messaging me! Seriously that site seems to attract some weirdos!

This thread makes for some very amusing reading

I'd give my leg for 50% response :P

mariebeth · 04-01-2012 8:09pm

parker kent wrote: »

Cuckold is an old term that comes from Middle English for a man with an unfaithful wife. It was never meant as a complimentary term.

So I think he needs to brush up on his medieval literature. Tell him to read some Chaucer :pac:

Is it? I always thought cuckold was something to do with being spoilt...:o

Samich · 04-01-2012 8:10pm

mariebeth wrote: »

Is it? I always thought cuckold was something to do with being spoilt...:o

You should google it

It'll throw up a few demonstrational vids :pac:

itsallaboutheL · 04-01-2012 8:12pm

Bastards be crazy, yo.

parker kent · 04-01-2012 8:13pm

mariebeth wrote: »

Is it? I always thought cuckold was something to do with being spoilt...:o

Absolutely. I did enough essays on Chaucer and The Miller's Tale to ever forget what cuckolding means!

Definition of CUCKOLD

: a man whose wife is unfaithful

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cuckold

Dravokivich · 04-01-2012 8:18pm

parker kent wrote: »

Absolutely. I did enough essays on Chaucer and The Miller's Tale to ever forget what cuckolding means!

I watched... ahem, documentraries. :P

mariebeth · 04-01-2012 8:32pm

Samich wrote: »

You should google it It'll throw up a few demonstrational vids :pac:

It's okay thanks

I'll believe ye!

wobblyknees · 04-01-2012 8:54pm

Well, just a couple of things to add here. To the person who got the ridiculously rude message, ignore it, it's a troll. To anyone afraid to message someone, just do it, you only live once! And to people who maybe think ignoring a message that someone has taken the time to send is a good idea, there is no harm in replying in a friendly way. Maybe make it clear straight away by saying, listen, I'm not interested in you romantically but would like to talk if you would? Or the best one I came across was when I for one of the very very few times I would have tried to message someone replied and said "thank you for your lovely message, I hope you find the person you are looking for...". I thought that was really nice, I replied and said thanks and same to you!

Anyway, I've also got a second date organised for this weekend. Lots of familiar and friendly chat happening. Whatever happens, happens, but right now, she is lovely and this is a nice experience....

Yours,

Cautiously optimistic...

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