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Right.. can I get a ride out of this?

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  • #102
    Local-womanizer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,798 ✭✭✭Local-womanizer


    Poccington wrote: »
    Why couldn't you just say that from the beginning?

    Rather than going down the "Oh dear, I'm in AH let's try to be funny" and posting about getting your end in and making a silly joke about Rohypnol.

    Its amazing where you can get in life by just being honest!

    I had a teacher who was saying it seems young people nowadays grow up without knowing how to interact with each other in a sociable manner. They see the opposite sex as aliens! Not saying this is what it is with Tom but the amount of social misfits around now is crazy,they all try to be someone else,what they think is normal when its the opposite end of the spectrum!

    Anyway,this is getting serious for AH. Say whats on your mind and people will respect you ten times more for it.


  • #103
    c0rk3r
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,256 ✭✭✭c0rk3r


    The great thing about being human is that we have an infinite ability to rationalise almost anything which enables us to do anything we please with a clear conscience. Its this ability that allows us to cheat without feeling guilt or remorse.

    Haters gonna hate


  • #104
    OutlawPete
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,689 ✭✭✭✭OutlawPete


    Poccington wrote: »
    Why couldn't you just say that from the beginning?

    Because this is After Hours where any sign of vulnerability shown will result in you been torn limb from limb, like a wounded deer would be by a pack of wolves.


  • #105
    Bonito
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,399 ✭✭✭Bonito


    OutlawPete wrote: »
    Because this is After Hours where any sign of vulnerability shown will result in you been torn limb from limb like a wounded deer would be by a pack of wolves.
    Only when you're disliked or have said something extremely stupid ;)

    I speak from 1st hand of being on the receiving end many times, just don't get neg'd out it's just an internet forum :)


  • #106
    Local-womanizer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,798 ✭✭✭Local-womanizer


    OutlawPete wrote: »
    Because this is After Hours where any sign of vulnerability shown will result in you been torn limb from limb like a wounded deer would be by a pack of wolves.

    The trend is changing though,demostrated by this thread!!!!!!!!!!


  • #107
    yoursaviour1989
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 288 ✭✭yoursaviour1989


    Get a piece of paper and write 'smile if you want to sleep with me' on it. slip it to her at some point of the night, she'll smile if she has a sense of humor. even if she doesn't want to sleep with you she has smiled, this is a legally binding contract take it by force.

    seriously though, been in this situation myself, be charming, talk to her, let her know you're into her, make her laugh, they like that. hence the piece of paper.


  • #108
    Sofiztikated
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,995 ✭✭✭Sofiztikated


    To be brutally honest Tom, I don't think this will end up well.

    If she's doing the talky thing to you, and he's treating her like a ****, and she keeps going back, well, there isn't much you will be able to do.

    People have this amazing habit of doing the worst possible things, repeatedly!

    BUT, and I know this from once being a youngster, and its not too long ago, you'll get over it. But be nice to her, you never know.

    Probably NOT what you wanted to hear, but thats life. Thats what all the people say.


  • #109
    Sharpshooter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31,859 ✭✭✭✭Sharpshooter


    OutlawPete wrote: »
    Because this is After Hours where any sign of vulnerability shown will result in you been torn limb from limb like a wounded deer would be by a pack of wolves.

    I dislike posts like this, I really do.

    After Hours is like your local pub and conversations in the forum are alike to what you would find in said local pub.

    Vulnerability when shown by a poster in trouble or a sad announcement by a poster is treated with the utmost of respect by the posters here.

    After Hour posters are the very best at gathering around someone in need of true assistance and no one can fault them for that.:)


  • #110
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 85,051 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Good for you Tom, you've advanced to level 63!

    That is of course the wonderful thing about growing up. Cherish these moments of clarity. I think you just stumbled upon the truth behind Honesty and Pretension.

    When you go to this prom think of nothing else but enjoying life. Life will often deliver.


  • #111
    TheZohanS
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,582 ✭✭✭✭TheZohanS


    Mousey- wrote: »
    friendzone me thinks :(


    Sounds very much like it, the shoulder to cry on.

    But feck it Tom go for it, hope for the best, be prepared for the worst and if she's not interested then it's her loss. and then go to plan b:roofie the be-jaysus out of her


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  • #112
    Local-womanizer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,798 ✭✭✭Local-womanizer


    TheZohan wrote: »
    Sounds very much like it, the shoulder to cry on.

    Do know believe in the "Friend Zone"? Like honestly believe in it?

    For me I just find it hard to believe that no relationship in this world could be formed on an emotional base rather than a physical one. Sure it can happen and once a physical one is formed it can lead to emotional one,but it seems it can never be vice-versa :confused:

    I know I would much prefer to have a girlfriend that I got to know as a good friend before I shag her!! After all a solid relationship is not all about the physical moments.......


  • #113
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Sharpshooter wrote: »
    I dislike posts like this, I really do.
    They aren't nice, but there is a truth to them :/
    After Hours is like your local pub and conversations in the forum are alike to what you would find in said local pub.
    Thats the bit we do love !
    Vulnerability when shown by a poster in trouble or a sad announcement by a poster is treated with the utmost of respect by the posters here.
    It's the ideal world :)
    After Hour posters are the very best at gathering around someone in need of true assistance and no one can fault them for that.:)
    In genuine need, then yes. If not, look out :pac:


  • #114
    DoorPortico
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭DoorPortico


    Sorry dude, got to agree it's not sounding good for your chances alright.

    See how it goes all the same though. But, and this is VITAL, you can't just leap in with a big massive spiel about how you really like her. Flirt. A lot. Keep her on her toes. Tell her about other girls you're interested in. DO NOT GIVE HER COMPLIMENTS WHEN SHE'S SEEKING THEM. Do not be a constantly available shoulder to cry on. Don't let her walk all over you, basically. That screams needy and neediness is an unattractive trait.


  • #115
    Bonito
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,399 ✭✭✭Bonito


    Its threads that turn out like this that make me want a cuddle :o
















    /Waits for the ghey bashing :pac:


  • #116
    Sharpshooter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31,859 ✭✭✭✭Sharpshooter


    Abigayle wrote: »
    They aren't nice, but there is a truth to them :/

    Thats the bit we do love !

    It's the ideal world :)

    In genuine need, then yes. If not, look out :pac:

    We are in agreement then.:)

    After Hours posters in the main are fairly alright imo.:pac:


  • #117
    TheZohanS
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,582 ✭✭✭✭TheZohanS


    Local-womanizer wrote: »
    Do know believe in the "Friend Zone"? Like honestly believe in it?

    Yes.
    For me I just find it hard to believe that no relationship in this world could be formed on an emotional base rather than a physical one. Sure it can happen and once a physical one is formed it can lead to emotional one,but it seems it can never be vice-versa :confused:

    All relationships are based on emotions, regardless of what anyone says. Lust is an emotion too.
    I know I would much prefer to have a girlfriend that I got to know as a good friend before I shag her!! After all a solid relationship is not all about the physical moments.......

    There's nothing stopping anyone from doing that, but you have to keep the attraction going and if you fail to do that you fall into the friendzone.
    DoorPortico wrote: »
    Sorry dude, got to agree it's not sounding good for your chances alright.

    See how it goes all the same though. But, and this is VITAL, you can't just leap in with a big massive spiel about how you really like her. Flirt. A lot. Keep her on her toes. Tell her about other girls you're interested in. DO NOT GIVE HER COMPLIMENTS WHEN SHE'S SEEKING THEM. Do not be a constantly available shoulder to cry on. Don't let her walk all over you, basically. That screams needy and neediness is an unattractive trait.

    That's mostly good advice. Also don't be too available, what's scarce is precious.


  • #118
    whatdoicare
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,398 ✭✭✭whatdoicare


    Are you Ross O'Carroll-Kelly???

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ross_O'Carroll-Kelly


  • #119
    we'llallhavetea_old
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,971 ✭✭✭we'llallhavetea_old


    me too, shall we? i don't think there's much point givin tom any advise, either this girl likes him or she doesn't. he's had his moment of clarity now, he's on the right track.


  • #120
    The_B_Man
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,878 ✭✭✭The_B_Man


    Theres PLENTY of advice on the "Grinds teacher" thread. ;)


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  • #121
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    John I am wrote: »
    Easy mate just tell her you will respect her in the morning, that works for me everytime.

    Whats the name of that book?


  • #122
    Bonito
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,399 ✭✭✭Bonito


    Abigayle wrote: »
    Whats the name of that book?
    FYP ;)http://short-fiction.co.uk/newstories/show_story.php?story_id=206


  • #123
    Local-womanizer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,798 ✭✭✭Local-womanizer


    TheZohan wrote: »
    All relationships are based on emotions, regardless of what anyone says. Lust is an emotion too.

    There's nothing stopping anyone from doing that, but you have to keep the attraction going and if you fail to do that you fall into the friendzone.

    Good point, I agree that any relationship is based on emotions,but cemented by the phyiscal side.

    Now that you clarify it I know what you mean and its obvious,the attraction will always have to be there I suppose for anything to develop.

    Anyway,this is getting very meaningful! I better go to bed before I get all teary eyed and open up a bottle of wine:p


  • #124
    DoorPortico
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭DoorPortico


    TheZohan wrote:
    That's mostly good advice.

    It's deadly advice is what it is. I reiterate the telling her about being interested in other girls. She thinks she owns this guy. She'll be shaken up by him mentioning other girls being attractive and will start to re-evaluate. She'll start flirting with him in order to get him to love her. She'll get so drawn into the needing him to love her that this will be her life goal. She'll even have sex with him to achieve it.

    Teenage girls are ****ED up. I probably shouldn't be giving him weapons to use against her.


  • #125
    K-9
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,311 ✭✭✭✭K-9


    brummytom wrote: »
    Ahh she's always falling out with him, they're only still together because she can't be arsed to break up with him. I'm the one she whinges at or laughs with, and I like her a lot :D

    Ah Tommy, its a sucker being in the friend zone.

    All part of growing up.

    Mad Men's Don Draper : What you call love was invented by guys like me, to sell nylons.



  • #126
    Captain Chaos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,174 ✭✭✭✭Captain Chaos


    The friend zone is a one way street. You can end up in it all to easy but there is no way to get back out of it by legal means.


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  • #127
    starbelgrade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,739 ✭✭✭✭starbelgrade


    brummytom wrote: »
    I know AH can help.

    There's this girl. There's a prom.

    A prom? Is she Hulk Hogans daughter? If so, stay well clear - she'll end up looking like the oulone.


  • #128
    OutlawPete
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,689 ✭✭✭✭OutlawPete


    Sharpshooter wrote: »
    I dislike posts like this, I really do.

    Well, disliking them doesn't make them any the less true. Only yesterday we had 'Men who cry' been labeled as not 'real men'.

    You realize that AH is not the best place to be vulnerable or you wouldn't have said:
    Sharpshooter wrote: »
    You do realise you posted this in After Hours? o_O
    Sharpshooter wrote: »
    Vulnerability when shown by a poster in trouble or a sad announcement by a poster is treated with the utmost of respect by the posters here.

    Come on SS, when was I talking about a "Sad announcment" or a "poster in trouble"??

    I was referring to posters showing signs of vulnerability and you must be kidding me if you are trying to suggest that each time a poster shows vulnerability on AH that they are met with support.

    If that was the case why do you think Brummy predicted that what he said would mean he would "get it ripped out of him".
    Sharpshooter wrote: »
    After Hour posters are the very best at gathering around someone in need of true assistance and no one can fault them for that.

    I didn't say nor imply that they weren't. How does that negate my point anyway?

    I am not denying AH has genuine posters. What I am saying that there is a certain element here who take great pleasure being smart ar*es and given the slightest chance to make someone feel inadequate or inferior to them, they will jump on it.


  • #129
    starbelgrade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,739 ✭✭✭✭starbelgrade


    OutlawPete wrote: »

    What I am saying that there is a certain element here who take great pleasure being smart ar*es and given the slightest chance to make someone feel inadequate or inferior to them, they will jump on it.

    Why did Brummy twice have to say he wasn't gay.

    Brummy is gay?!?


  • #130
    seanybiker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,898 ✭✭✭✭seanybiker


    first things first, your asking in after hours can ya get yer hole off a young one who only wants to split the limo bill with ya. secondly she is going with a chap that isnt able to go to the prom because he doesnt go to your school. Thirdly, what kind of person are ya who wants to ride someone else's lack? (I know your looking for a few "thanks" and all that. Fourthly, why would you want to ride a young one who would do the dirt on her boyfirend?How do we know that she wouldnt do the dirt on you alos, if ya ended up goiong with her? Fifthly, I know your only trying to have a laugh and will probably say you only wanna ride her and not fall in love or have a relationship with her, so there's no point answer the fourth dilemma.
    would ya not just go out and find someone who isnt going with someone and then have your dirty way with her?:D


  • #131
    Takk
    Closed Accounts Posts: 484 ✭✭Takk


    brummytom wrote: »
    You know what? I can't be arsed with this. Me on boards just isn't me. Most of the time I'm the same on here as I am in real life.

    But I'm not some kind of teenage hormonal sex-hungry pest. In fact, out of my mates, I'm the least interested in it. This is just some strange persona I've became here.

    I'm not gay; you can call me it, I really won't mind. I know I'm not because I really, really like this girl. One night, just before Christmas, she was really upset. She texted me said "Can I ring you in a bit? I need someone to talk to" I said of course she could.

    I had that phone next to me all night waiting for her to ring, when it got really late, my heart just sank. She'd fell asleep! Thats when I realised. OK, that might sound a bit pathetic but I really don't care. I know I'll regret this in the morning anyway.

    I started the thread for a laugh, and it's taught me something now. I don't care about her for that, I care about her for her.

    Fuck it, if I wasn't so addicted to boards I'd leave now because I'm gonna get it ripped out of me now, I know it - but I don't care. I'm a mature, decent person. That really doesn't come across here at the moment, it really should. I'm bored of playing up to a character.

    And 'Dull and Boring' you better be a Black American. If you're not, talk properly.

    I need to be up in just over 5 hours, bloody hell. G'night all

    Someone's hacked tom's account!

    :pac:


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  • #132
    OutlawPete
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,689 ✭✭✭✭OutlawPete


    starbelgrade wrote: »
    Brummy is gay?!?

    Actually, that should be "not ghey".


  • #133
    starbelgrade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,739 ✭✭✭✭starbelgrade


    OutlawPete wrote: »
    Actually, that should be "not ghey".

    Thanks for clarifying that. Black, white or grey is fine, but, Ghey, the lower form of grey, I take a great exception to. It's not even a real colour.


  • #134
    Doc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,670 ✭✭✭Doc


    To be honest Tom I think she sounds from what you have said to be a complete prick tease. The kind of girl who wants you there and single but will never be with you. I also think she knows how you feel and is stringing you along. But to be honest it’s your own fault for letting her do it.

    The only way you have a chance with a girl like this is to stop being a doormat for her. You need to stand up for yourself and let her know firmly that you like her but that you want more from your relationship with her and that she needs to decide if she likes you or not.

    If she says she doesn’t like you in that way then go find yourself a girl that doesn’t play as many games.


  • #135
    Super-Rush
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,473 ✭✭✭✭Super-Rush


    Would you like to go to PI now Tom or continue here?:p

    Don't stress out though, many of us have been where you are now. Its called growing up.


  • #136
    We
    Users Awaiting Email Confirmation Posts: 284 ✭✭We


    edit- nm, im not helping this **** ;p


  • #137
    The_B_Man
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,878 ✭✭✭The_B_Man


    lol "We". that was the name of a coke dealer girl i met in a bar in Bangkok!


  • #138
    seanybiker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,898 ✭✭✭✭seanybiker


    Basically what ya need to learn. I know your only a young chap. Dont try get off with a lack thats not yours. Personally, if ya do get off with her knowing that she has a fella ya will go down a notch in my cool. That will make you down to zero notch. Ya darned 1 notch just because you seemed ok until now. Get your own lack and stop trying to make a laugh outta your first time.


  • #139
    Victor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78,490 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    brummytom wrote: »
    Right.. can I get a ride out of this?
    Sure. Thats what the limo is for. :pac:


  • #140
    IvySlayer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,190 ✭✭✭✭IvySlayer


    Targetting other peoples gfs? There's your first problem.


  • #141
    brummytom
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,572 ✭✭✭✭brummytom


    IvySlayer wrote: »
    Targetting other peoples gfs? There's your first problem.
    Well this thread turned very unexpected, even for me! :pac:

    Amazingly, I actually don't regret what I said last night; I intend to stand by it


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  • #142
    Sharpshooter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31,859 ✭✭✭✭Sharpshooter


    brummytom wrote: »
    Well this thread turned very unexpected, even for me! :pac:

    Amazingly, I actually don't regret what I said last night; I intend to stand by it

    We will need a part two in July though Tom.:pac:

    Be there for her but don't let her use you, I'm saying that only because you say you really like her.:)


  • #143
    General Zod
    Registered Users Posts: 2,661 ✭✭✭General Zod


    how about being a nice guy and making sure she has a good evening, then when she inevitably dumps the fella in a few weeks you're in there. It'll be worth the wait.

    don't cause drama and show your mates that she's not as bad as they think.


  • #144
    The Nice Jumper
    Closed Accounts Posts: 47 ✭The Nice Jumper


    brummytom wrote: »
    I need some ingenius ways to get my end in. Preferably without the use of rohypnol - I'm not made of money.

    I was in the same boat for a debs (prom??? WTF??), I was mad into this bird (so much so that I had never even defiled her in my mind during a quick solitary tug), but ended up barebacking her best friend in one of the rooms in the killiney court hotel after things got out of hand in a party. There was no come back from that, no possible cover up. It was her friend's fault as she totally presented herself to me. Memories...:o


  • #145
    Solvo Slep
    Closed Accounts Posts: 41 ✭Solvo Slep


    You should offer her money.


  • #146
    Pdfile
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,115 ✭✭✭Pdfile


    brummytom wrote: »
    She doesn't drink, Yet


    theirs always time to start ! Lightweights Ftw.


  • #147
    pennylane22
    Closed Accounts Posts: 32 ✭pennylane22


    If she doesn't drink then spending loads of money on her is the only way, would you not try tempting her with champers? What girl can resist a glass of bubbles?


  • #148
    Splinter
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 3,331 ✭✭✭Splinter


    Pdfile wrote: »
    theirs always time to start ! Lightweights Ftw.
    someone called Pdfile shouldnt be posting in a thread about underage shenanigans :pac:

    good luck Tom


  • #149
    Carroller16
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,606 ✭✭✭Carroller16


    Tom let me introduce you to someone

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/member.php?u=283548

    Oh and it's a debs not a prom


  • #150
    Asmodean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,644 ✭✭✭Asmodean


    If it was my lack you were considering arseing around with you'd get a dig in the head for that and another one for calling it a 'Prom.'


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  • #151
    Bonito
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,399 ✭✭✭Bonito


    brummytom wrote: »
    Well this thread turned very unexpected, even for me! :pac:

    Amazingly, I actually don't regret what I said last night; I intend to stand by it

    That's the beauty of AH ;) You of all people should know that :pac:
    Sleep well? Head set? Good because it's down to business :cool:
    Give her an inkling you're interested. And here's the juicy bit. Let her catch you eyeing up another girl you'd be moderately close with ;) Might jolt her brain in to thinking "wait, no, she's not allowed have Tommy he's mine!"
    Asmodean wrote: »
    If it was my lack you were considering arseing around with you'd get a dig in the head for that and another one for calling it a 'Prom.'

    Bit harsh? If her bf wasn't such a twat there'd be no problem :D


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