Porklife wrote: » I appreciate your post Zapper and can see where you're coming from but the reality is, I do value myself highly. I've been on dating apps the last few years and every single guy has asked for anal if we've reached the stage of sex. Every last one of them! I know I'm the common denominator but I'm talking about 20 - 30 guys here over the years, all from various walsk of life, all asking for the same thing. I think it's just commonplace now. I said no every time and didn't see these guys again. It put me off. The difference with this recent guy is that I like him and I'm genuinely tempted/curious. I know he'd be gentle and respectful.. well as respectful as you can be shoving your d*ck up someones arse i never do anything I don't feel comfortable with, be it sex or otherwise and while I admit I am nervous about this, i'm also intrigued. With the other guys it was a straight out No and a game changer. I'm wondering now though if it changes the dynamic of things. I really feel like if we do this, he won't look at me the same way again. How can we do that then go and watch Game of Thrones and act all sweet like nothing happened? Like, pass me the salt please darling over dinner when you've just had anal sex!
neonsofa wrote: » I really don't see why you're viewing this different to any other sex act in that regard?
BENDYBINN wrote: » What age are you porklife?......you seem to be on the go along time. Anal sex with ould ones is no fun believe me!
Porklife wrote: » I guess cos it's not the 'norm' and seems dirtier. I in no way view sex as dirty as it happens, I love sex, there's just something about anal that seems like adding an extra layer of intimacy.
Porklife wrote: » Haha.. on the go a long time? How do I seem like that? I'm 31, if that's an auld one to you then don't have fun with me How old are you cos you seem very immature and clueless. You can't have fun with an older lady, why the hell not? You're obvioulsy inexperienced and doing it wrong.
BENDYBINN wrote: » Sorry you sound like your in your fifties.
Franz Von Peppercorn wrote: » Is that because she’s not totally comfortable with de old anal? You sound like you are 12.
neonsofa wrote: » We'll if it adds a layer of intimacy then it changes the dynamic for the better, no? But you seem to be viewing it as a negative change, that he won't look at you the same or whatever, which doesnt seem to be about intimacy, moreso shame or embarrassment or something? If I'm wrong and it is an intimacy thing then surely it's just a case of waiting til ye are more stable/close and intimacy comes naturally in the relationship itself.
Porklife wrote: » I was recently on a date with a guy... a first date may I add, and he went to go for a cigarette. I was sitting at the bar and before he went he goes.. Oh, this will keep you company while I'm gone. He hands me his phone (weird as we'd only just met) and shows me a video of a woman, spreadeagle being licked out by a dog! I was stunned!!! Needless to say, we didn't go home and do it doggy style!
Porklife wrote: » I've been on dating apps the last few years and every single guy has asked for anal if we've reached the stage of sex. Every last one of them! I know I'm the common denominator but I'm talking about 20 - 30 guys here over the years, all from various walsk of life, all asking for the same thing. I think it's just commonplace now. I said no every time and didn't see these guys again.
Porklife wrote: » Interesting. My concern is if he'll lose respect for me if I do it.
Timberrrrrrrr wrote: » Next time a man broaches the subject say yes. Go into your bedroom, whip out a big auld 12" rubber dildo and say "But you first" I bet the conversation gets dropped quite quickley
kingbhome wrote: » Youd be surprised haha
Porklife wrote: » I appreciate your post Zapper and can see where you're coming from but the reality is, I do value myself highly. I've been on dating apps the last few years and every single guy has asked for anal if we've reached the stage of sex. Every last one of them! I know I'm the common denominator but I'm talking about 20 - 30 guys here over the years, all from various walsk of life, all asking for the same thing. I think it's just commonplace now. I said no every time and didn't see these guys again. It put me off.
The Princess Bride wrote: » How/where on earth do you meet these men? This thread should come* with a warning, I nearly choked from laughing ! * no pun intended.
IamtheWalrus wrote: » I saw a girl’s Tinder profile recently and she wrote ‘not into Coldplay or pegging’.
Porklife wrote: » What's pegging? jaysus... dare I ask....
BENDYBINN wrote: » Franz Von Peppercorn wrote: » Is that because she’s not totally comfortable with de old anal? You sound like you are 12. To be honest I’d say she is mad for it!
TerrorFirmer wrote: » I find this incredibly hard to believe. Everyone single one of twenty to thirty guys all badgering you for anal sex once you start being intimate?
killanena wrote: » I tried it once with my gf of 7 years, she didn't like it and I wasn't comfortable hurting her so I could not enjoy it either so we don't bother. 4 years ago we were over in Amsterdam. She is bi and we always said if we went over that we'll go down to the red light district and have a threesome. (She doesn't was want to share me with friends or anyone she may see again as she gets very jealous lol). After finding a lady of her pleasing, I think she was Romanian, I got to try anal again, of course with a condom this time. I didn't go too rough as I still felt bad when I hurt this lady but a lot rougher then with my gf. But after a minute or so it's not much tighter then normal sex, if anything it's more restrictive if that makes any sense. But the experience as a whole was amazing. Anal sex in my opinion is not what its cracked up to be I guess porn has just normalized it.
ginandtonicsky wrote: » I don't recall ever being asked for anal sex by a guy, glad of it because I'd rather have a lobotomy, sounds about as fun and pleasurable. Not my bag. (Or arse!) Also finding it hard to believe it's a commonly requested thing these days, maybe if you're having a lot of casual sex with guys who also have a lot of casual sex, I guess you have to keep things interesting in that case as one night stands and dating app flings can be astoundingly tedious after a while.
Sardonicat wrote: You hurt the sex worker?
killanena wrote: » Sardonicat wrote: You hurt the sex worker? I don't think I did but I didn't want to go mad in case I did hurt her. She had barely a word of English really though but was pretty much up for whatever as long as we paid lol.
Sardonicat wrote: » Big LOLS all round, I'm sure. Bet her life is one great big LOL.
neonsofa wrote: » I've been told that vaginal is tight all the way like a tunnel whereas anal is very tight at the door but kinda like an open room once through the door. I dunno how true that is though as I don't have a penis.
