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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

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  • #8902
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    Hardonraging wrote: »
    Point to note, if you tell a girl you only want in her knickers on the 1st - 2nd day ..generally they run away.. surly you should know this ..
    Instead of which, you need to spend time, let her get to know you as a person, and gain your confidence..


    Maybe try a nsa site instead of POF.
    I'm sick of all the people looking for nsa using dating sites. Again yesterday I got 3 pictures of d*cks.


  • #8903
    Jason Fly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 150 ✭✭Jason Fly


    Hardonraging wrote: »
    Point to note, if you tell a girl you only want in her knickers on the 1st - 2nd day ..generally they run away.. surly you should know this ..
    Instead of which, you need to spend time, let her get to know you as a person, and gain your confidence..

    Ministry of the Bleeding Obvious


  • #8904
    Panthro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,824 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    Jason Fly, cut out those types of posts, this is not After Hours.


  • #8905
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    Hardonraging wrote: »
    Point to note, if you tell a girl you only want in her knickers on the 1st - 2nd day ..generally they run away.. surly you should know this ..
    Instead of which, you need to spend time, let her get to know you as a person, and gain your confidence..

    I would consider it time wasting to chat to someone for 4 or 5 days and he then tells me he is only looking for "fun times" or a roll in the hay or whatever way you want to put it.


  • #8906
    ChannelNo5
    Registered Users Posts: 779 ✭✭✭ChannelNo5


    Hardonraging wrote: »
    Point to note, if you tell a girl you only want in her knickers on the 1st - 2nd day ..generally they run away.. surly you should know this ..
    Instead of which, you need to spend time, let her get to know you as a person, and gain your confidence..

    :eek: Soooo what you're saying is you want her to think you really like her, gain her confidence, then [EMAIL="sh@g"]sh@g[/EMAIL] her, then feic off and on to the next one?? :confused:


  • #8907
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    blacklilly wrote: »
    Maybe try a nsa site instead of POF.
    I'm sick of all the people looking for nsa using dating sites. Again yesterday I got 3 pictures of d*cks.

    Been there , done that, it's not nearly as glamorous as what the general public may think, and I'd advise any girl thinking of trying it to have a long hard thing about it.

    And i can guarantee you've not seen mine, mostly as i believe that form of approach to be both sleazy and attention seeking on the guy's part..
    ladylost wrote: »
    I would consider it time wasting to chat to someone for 4 or 5 days and he then tells me he is only looking for "fun times" or a roll in the hay or whatever way you want to put it.

    Apologies, you seem to have picked me up wrong there, My intentions are clear from the outset, within 3 to 4 msg's in fact, i'm not going to waste my time or any ladies time...

    ChannelNo5 wrote: »
    Soooo what you're saying is you want her to think you really like her, gain her confidence, then sh@g her, then feic off and on to the next one??

    As above I assume ... Perhaps i wasn't quite clear in my initial post..

    Sealing the deal is arranging a drink etc..


  • #8908
    Mental Mickey
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,647 ✭✭✭✭Mental Mickey


    blacklilly wrote: »
    But are you really mental:P

    No. I'm quite sane. :)


  • #8909
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    That_Guy wrote: »
    Was her birthday on Monday and when she went to the toilet I grabbed one of the waiters walking around and borrowed his pen and a piece of paper to make her a shoddy birthday card.

    He's smooth... like ice!

    :pac:


  • #8910
    the_syco
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,304 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    blacklilly wrote: »
    Again yesterday I got 3 pictures of d*cks.
    I'm surprised you don't just reply "sorry, too small", and then block them...


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  • #8911
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    the_syco wrote: »
    I'm surprised you don't just reply "sorry, too small", and then block them...

    Blocking without a reply would generally be more productive, as once you reply to them the conversation has been initialised, and they know there's somebody on the other end.. gives them motivation to keep replying..


  • #8912
    KamiKazeKitten
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,399 ✭✭✭KamiKazeKitten


    Hardonraging wrote: »
    Point to note, if you tell a girl you only want in her knickers on the 1st - 2nd day ..generally they run away.. surly you should know this ..
    Instead of which, you need to spend time, let her get to know you as a person, and gain your confidence..

    I think you and blacklilly have a different definition of seal the deal.

    If I was messaging someone and they then told me all they wanted was a "roll in the hay", as you put it, instant block from me. I don't care about getting to know them if all I want is a shag. And if I know you're just going to feic off to the next girl, I'm not interested.

    Hardonraging wrote: »
    Blocking without a reply would generally be more productive, as once you reply to them the conversation has been initialised, and they know there's somebody on the other end.. gives them motivation to keep replying..

    If they're blocked, they can't mail you. :confused:


  • #8913
    ChannelNo5
    Registered Users Posts: 779 ✭✭✭ChannelNo5


    KamiKazeKitten wrote: »
    I think you and blacklilly have a different definition of seal the deal.

    If I was messaging someone and they then told me all they wanted was a "roll in the hay", as you put it, instant block from me. I don't care about getting to know them if all I want is a shag. And if I know you're just going to feic off to the next girl, I'm not interested.

    +1 Why would you bother getting to know somebody you just want a ONS with? As a matter of interest, what do you have on your looking for? ie is it intimate encounter?... Because if its anything else you're just being dishonest


  • #8914
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    ChannelNo5 wrote: »
    +1 Why would you bother getting to know somebody you just want a ONS with?

    I remember this question was posed to another user (no not me, I swears it!) a good while back and (s)he basically said something along the lines of, "One night stand or not, I don't like sleeping with assholes".


  • #8915
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    ChannelNo5 wrote: »
    +1 Why would you bother getting to know somebody you just want a ONS with? As a metter of interest, what do you have on your looking for? ie is it intimate encounter?... Because if its anything else you're just being dishonest


    I assume that's directed at me, and like i said, i'm 100% honest, and yes it's listed under IE ..

    As for the "why would I bother getting to know them" ... why not ?? I like people, and I like getting to know people, and while it may not always lead to "friends with benefits, or NSA, or a ONS " but that dosent mean i wont be friendly to everybody, no matter who they are, or what they want..

    Galvasean wrote: »
    I remember this question was posed to another user (no not me, I swears it!) a good while back and (s)he basically said something along the lines of, "One night stand or not, I don't like sleeping with assholes".


    Couldn't really have put it better my self ..


  • #8916
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    Mental Mickey wrote: »
    No. I'm quite sane. :)


    I believe you....kinda! Are you on pof?


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  • #8917
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    the_syco wrote: »
    I'm surprised you don't just reply "sorry, too small", and then block them...

    I do usually reply with something alone those lines and then block


  • #8918
    Panthro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,824 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    Reminder folks,
    This is not a pick up thread among Boardsies.
    Keep it to PM and not on thread.


  • #8919
    Rattlehead_ie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,882 ✭✭✭Rattlehead_ie


    blacklilly wrote: »
    No I am totally unaware of this? Do tell

    HIMYM___Hot_Crazy_Scale_by_JeremyX103.jpg

    I presume it also works for boys!


  • #8920
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    I would agree that blocking without a reply would be more beneficial. These guys are trolls. They are looking for a reply. ANY reply. Even if you respond with a put down you are feeding them Putting down the penis size isn't going to hurt them. I'd be amazed if it was their own junk anyway considering how easy one can get a picture of a dick via google image search (I'm told).


  • #8921
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    Great so if you're really sane/normal you don't have to be hot? Makes total sense


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  • #8922
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    There's also another side to the " guy sent me a picture of his Peon"..
    The faker accounts, POF is littered with Faker's men, kid's, women, who sign up,no picture, no private picture, little or no details, asking or NSA, and pics, lots and lots of pics..

    Often made me wonder, why .. image harvesting ?

    I wonder if it this sort of mentality then makes these guys send the ladies on POf these pics, thinking " hey here's a great idea, I can spam my pic to a trillion women on here, even tho they didnt ask to see it"


  • #8923
    Rattlehead_ie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,882 ✭✭✭Rattlehead_ie


    Hardonraging wrote: »
    " hey here's a great idea, I can spam my pic to a trillion women on here, even tho they didnt ask to see it"

    Imagine taking that logic into the real world :eek::D


  • #8924
    wobblyknees
    Registered Users Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭wobblyknees


    Hardonraging wrote: »
    There's also another side to the " guy sent me a picture of his Peon"..
    The faker accounts, POF is littered with Faker's men, kid's, women, who sign up,no picture, no private picture, little or no details, asking or NSA, and pics, lots and lots of pics..

    Often made me wonder, why .. image harvesting ?

    I wonder if it this sort of mentality then makes these guys send the ladies on POf these pics, thinking " hey here's a great idea, I can spam my pic to a trillion women on here, even tho they didnt ask to see it"

    You have to be someone on a wind up with a username like that.


  • #8925
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Galvasean wrote: »
    He's smooth... like ice!

    :pac:

    And I look like a cube.


  • #8926
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    That_Guy wrote: »
    And I look like a cube.

    So you would go really well together then? There's a thought


  • #8927
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    I had no problem with the hook-up artists on POF as long as they were honest about it, and they generally were. It's the people who had absolutely no intention of ever actually going on a date with anyone that used to wreck my head. It's not a focking social networking site, ffs...


  • #8928
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Rattlehead_ie wrote: »
    Imagine taking that logic into the real world :eek::D

    You get that. You get guys ambling about nightclubs essentially spamming every girl they happen upon with the same pick up line until somebody takes the bait... or the club closes. Whichever comes first. It's often the latter as you can often find them in Abrakebabra and eventually the taxi rank doing the same.
    blacklilly wrote: »
    So you would go really well together then? There's a thought

    Now that was just an awesome Transformers reference!


  • #8929
    Maguined
    Registered Users Posts: 8,247 ✭✭✭Maguined


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    I had no problem with the hook-up artists on POF as long as they were honest about it, and they generally were. It's the people who had absolutely no intention of ever actually going on a date with anyone that used to wreck my head. It's not a focking social networking site, ffs...

    *pokes Honey-ec*

    Yeah have to agree with what most others said, I would prefer not to get any response at all rather than days of emails and banter back and forth and when I ask would they like to go out they either disappear or say they just wanted the chat and are not interested. :mad:


  • #8930
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    Maguined wrote: »
    *pokes Honey-ec*

    Yeah have to agree with what most others said, I would prefer not to get any response at all rather than days of emails and banter back and forth and when I ask would they like to go out they either disappear or say they just wanted the chat and are not interested. :mad:

    I haven't had that happen yet, but I'd find that so annoying. That's why I just stop mailing someone back within a few minutes if I'm not interested.


    Also, was supposed to have a date last week. He texted to say he wasn't well and could we re-arrange. I said that was no problem, and sort of left it to him to contact me. We had been mailing/texting every day for a week or so up til that point (because I had been too busy that specific week to meet up). That was last Friday. No text so far. :pac::pac:


  • #8931
    karonnia
    Registered Users Posts: 25 ✭karonnia


    Hmm been dating someone for the past while. All going really well or so i thought and was invited to his house for dinner later this week....but now no contact which is very unusual. Think i've been given the push but would have been nice to be told! :/


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  • #8932
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    karonnia wrote: »
    Hmm been dating someone for the past while. All going really well or so i thought and was invited to his house for dinner later this week....but now no contact which is very unusual. Think i've been given the push but would have been nice to be told! :/

    How long has it been since you last talked/texted?


  • #8933
    wobblyknees
    Registered Users Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭wobblyknees


    karonnia wrote: »
    Hmm been dating someone for the past while. All going really well or so i thought and was invited to his house for dinner later this week....but now no contact which is very unusual. Think i've been given the push but would have been nice to be told! :/

    How long?


  • #8934
    karonnia
    Registered Users Posts: 25 ✭karonnia


    That_Guy wrote: »
    How long has it been since you last talked/texted?

    4 or 5 days and normally he'd be in touch every day to see how i was etc... so very unusual behaviour. But he's been online on POF so...yeah!


  • #8935
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    karonnia wrote: »
    4 or 5 days and normally he'd be in touch every day to see how i was etc... so very unusual behaviour. But he's been online on POF so...yeah!

    Maybe give him a ring?


  • #8936
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    karonnia wrote: »
    Hmm been dating someone for the past while. All going really well or so i thought and was invited to his house for dinner later this week....but now no contact which is very unusual. Think i've been given the push but would have been nice to be told! :/

    The rudeness engendered by online dating never ceases to amaze me. Sigh.


  • #8937
    karonnia
    Registered Users Posts: 25 ✭karonnia


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    The rudeness engendered by online dating never ceases to amaze me. Sigh.

    I know...oh well, onwards and upwards!


  • #8938
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    That_Guy wrote: »
    Maybe give him a ring?

    I agree, give him a text or a call, maybe he thinks you are giving him the cold shoulder. The guys shouldnt have to do all the running.

    If you have text him already and there has been no reply that's a different story.


  • #8939
    karonnia
    Registered Users Posts: 25 ✭karonnia


    blacklilly wrote: »
    I agree, give him and text call, maybe he think you are giving him the cold shoulder. They guys shouldnt have to do all the running.

    If you have text him already and there has been no reply that's a different story.

    Sent him a text earlier, haven't heard back yet. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt just gut feeling kicked in a little bit. Probably just over thinking it anyways, had so many messers on POF & OKC


  • #8940
    wobblyknees
    Registered Users Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭wobblyknees


    karonnia wrote: »
    Sent him a text earlier, haven't heard back yet. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt just gut feeling kicked in a little bit. Probably just over thinking it anyways, had so many messers on POF & OKC

    How long have you been seeing him?


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  • #8941
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    karonnia wrote: »
    Sent him a text earlier, haven't heard back yet. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt just gut feeling kicked in a little bit. Probably just over thinking it anyways, had so many messers on POF & OKC


    Heard a few horror stories, Married man, Lad's with Gf's even a woman who lent a guy some money, and he legged it, and by some money i dont mean 5 euro... We're talking walking around money here..

    And People think i'm bad ... for shame brothers..


  • #8942
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    Hardonraging wrote: »
    karonnia wrote: »
    Sent him a text earlier, haven't heard back yet. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt just gut feeling kicked in a little bit. Probably just over thinking it anyways, had so many messers on POF & OKC


    Heard a few horror stories, Married man, Lad's with Gf's even a woman who lent a guy some money, and he legged it, and by some money i dont mean 5 euro... We're talking walking around money here..

    And People think i'm bad ... for shame brothers..

    I've had experience of married men chancing their arm.
    Who is so naive as to give someone they barely know a wad of cash. Seriously? I find it hard to have sympathy


  • #8943
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    blacklilly wrote: »
    I've had experience of married men chancing their arm.
    Who is so naive as to give someone they barely know a wad of cash. Seriously? I find it hard to have sympathy

    That's a bit harsh now, people do different things for different reason's i guess, and to top it off she's a really nice person. i felt sorry for her, but maybe i'm just a softie.

    Mind you i wont be lending any one money..


  • #8944
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    I still think it was a stupid thing to do, im not saying she's not a nice person maybe just a little silly


  • #8945
    Daisies
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators Posts: 4,644 Mod ✭✭✭✭Daisies


    Just changed my profile pic and uploaded some more. Let's see how this works out. TBH I'm getting a bit disillusioned with it all.


  • #8946
    missbelle
    Registered Users Posts: 494 ✭✭missbelle


    I've been a bit blah re the online dating recently, might spruce up the profile myself :D


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  • #8947
    18AD
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,821 ✭✭✭18AD


    Conversant dream girl deletes account.

    Level up emotional resilience +1. :cool:


  • #8948
    Panthro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,824 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    New thread created


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