The Brooding Corner

Grid. · 11-08-2014 1:47am

smiler_lady150 wrote: »

Need a bit of a rant to get this off my chest

I'm not sure if this is just me or not... but when you have a relationship or friendship with someone I find it awful annoying that I have to keep things going, this includes chats and suggesting things to do. In my experience it should be a two way street, a bit from them and a bit from me. Lately it's all me that's making the effort:(

You're right smiler.....it should be reciprocated, no harm in letting the other folk know that you'd appreciate some input. A bit of gentle encouragement.;):)

Sephiroth_dude · 11-08-2014 1:51am

smiler_lady150 wrote: »

Need a bit of a rant to get this off my chest

I'm not sure if this is just me or not... but when you have a relationship or friendship with someone I find it awful annoying that I have to keep things going, this includes chats and suggesting things to do. In my experience it should be a two way street, a bit from them and a bit from me. Lately it's all me that's making the effort:(

btw I don't mean any of you lot, you're all great:)

I know that feeling smiler allĺlll too well

writer_lady170 · 11-08-2014 2:04am

thanks grid and steph:) I may have a word with them and as you say gentle encouragement. Just a bit annoying when it happens cos I tend to feel a bit lonely and blah...thanks though:) good to know that I'm not the only one

Interesting to hear the other side of it as well, I don't think most people would be annoyed if you started a conversation with them, most would be glad and happy to talk with you:) *It's part of our human nature to want human contact and most people would be glad of the chat etc. In short, if you want to start a conversation etc, go for it:)

*sorry going on all dr on ye!

C.K Dexter Haven · 12-08-2014 12:52am

smiler_lady150 wrote: »

thanks grid and steph:) I may have a word with them and as you say gentle encouragement. Just a bit annoying when it happens cos I tend to feel a bit lonely and blah...thanks though:) good to know that I'm not the only one

Interesting to hear the other side of it as well, I don't think most people would be annoyed if you started a conversation with them, most would be glad and happy to talk with you:) *It's part of our human nature to want human contact and most people would be glad of the chat etc. In short, if you want to start a conversation etc, go for it:)

*sorry going on all dr on ye!

Some people talk, some listen, and talk less. Some wait for someone else to organise things- some are the organisers. Try and reflect a bit more on what your friends preferences are- then adapt accordingly. Don't lose a friend just because "you're always making the suggestions"- it might be that they like things that way or it might be they can do no different- but you can:)don't let it worry you though- friends are hard to come by, so keep them where you can.
Just a thought but you'll know best:)

x Purple Pawprints x · 12-08-2014 1:02am

Feeling a bit like this now. Kinda tired of starting conversations and feeling like I'm an annoyance

writer_lady170 · 12-08-2014 4:20am

thanks dexter:) very insightful, I'll give it some thought

*hugs* pp

Solitaire · 13-08-2014 2:11am

Sometimes the reason you're not getting any input from someone is because they think they've overdone it and are scared of annoying you!

God knows I've been at both ends of this issue before... sometimes I think shy people like myself should come equipped with a warning sign

*hugs pp and smiler*

andyman · 13-08-2014 2:21am

Ever feel like life is just going nowhere?

Don't get me wrong. I don't regret a thing I've done thus far but lately I feel like I've just hit a dead end. My current part-time job (which was to get me through college) is in a club working weekend nights meaning I can't see my friends. The degree I'll be getting is one that qualifies me to enter a career with very little prospects right now and it's not really something I want to enter right now anyway. On top of that, the career I do want to get into is very, very difficult, and even then to get a foot in the door I might have to work for free.

x Purple Pawprints x · 13-08-2014 1:49pm

What is it with people being all over you one minute and then literally no contact the next?

I know I shouldn't expect much considering I got chatting to him on Tinder but does nobody have any manners to say "Actually, I'm not interested, sorry.

Ted_YNWA · 13-08-2014 5:55pm

Too many people just want quick entertainment & things that require the least work. (Directed at Mr Tinder btw Paws)

People are getting more & more lazy as technologies increase. Too many of these social media types are fads & people drop it when the next craze going on.

When did I turn into Victor Meldrew.

x Purple Pawprints x · 13-08-2014 9:21pm

Yep, true.

Really not liking being single right now, I usually don't care.

kissmequick · 13-08-2014 10:23pm

I need to get in on this Tinder craic!

Somebody needs to buy me an iphone first though.

Paws is there any nice guys on there from Galway?!

:P

x Purple Pawprints x · 13-08-2014 10:32pm

I don't have my distance set that far haha... maybe I should widen it a bit considering the ones near me have no manners!

kissmequick · 13-08-2014 10:40pm

Well you can drive a bit now paws. Jus sayin like........ You could include couple of neighbouring areas or however it works. Include Galway and report back.

*whistles nonchalantly*

I wrote a post there, was for the Lair Thread but realized my err of ways when about 10 new pages appeared that I don't remember reading! And I've have absolutely no idea where I put it!! I've a million assorted different tabs open with Boards stuff. Jaysus. /itcouldbeanywhere

Angron · 13-08-2014 10:44pm

x Purple Pawprints x wrote: »

Yep, true.

Really not liking being single right now, I usually don't care.

To paraphrase what I was saying last night, some people deserve to be hit with a chair.

kissmequick · 13-08-2014 11:10pm

A recent thing-to-do I've realized for whenever I'm feeling like that again, - is read the Thread on annoying things about your Partner! That might work.

And then afterwards read the Ranting & Raving Threads and you'll be laughing.

akamossy · 16-08-2014 2:03pm

Just got the news that my best friends mum is dying when only last week they were hopeful about her fighting and recovering from the cancer. She had just beat breast cancer and got diagnosed with ovarian cancer two weeks ago. I'm absolutely devastated

x Purple Pawprints x · 16-08-2014 2:08pm

Sh1t, mossy that's awful. Don't really know what to say except that I'm thinking of you all x

writer_lady170 · 16-08-2014 2:53pm

that awful, sorry to hear mossy:( thinking of you all. pm is there if you need an ear/chat

Hugo Stiglitz · 16-08-2014 3:04pm

Sorry to hear that Mossy

akamossy · 18-08-2014 8:46pm

My friend and her fiancé got married today so that her Mother could be there. Today is a happy day for them. So glad she got to see them get married

Mozzeltoff · 18-08-2014 10:25pm

Today has been a bad day.

I woke up at ten to seven this morning to a phone call from the OHs cousins partner. She had changed her mind about taking on Buster (the husky) as she was afraid that he would only do more damage in the future. She had hoped I wouldn't have any hard feelings towards her but to be honest, she was asking a lot of me. For in those few brief minutes on the phone I had come to the realisation that Buster was doomed no matter what.

Frantically, I tried to come up with a solution as to what to do. I did not want to condemn this dog. Not a hope. I decided to ring the shelter I rescued him from but once they heard what had happened, they just hung up the phone.
(For those of you who don't know what he did, he broke out, got loose and attacked a goat. He didn't kill or maim the goat but he did give it a nasty tear along it's belly and back leg.)

I sat down and thought my options through. Ok let's say I did get him a home? What if they had small kids and he attacked them? What if they lived in the countryside? What if he did it again but the next time he did more damage? Yet what if we did find him someone that lived in a town,that could provide him a good home and would be well out of harms way? Chances were slim.

My OH sat down with me and told me straight out that no matter how much I tried, I couldn't save him from his faith because he did it before, he'll do it again. I refused to believe this. I tried a few more animal shelters. One in particular was very helpful but they couldn't take him as they were full up.

My OH sat me down once more and told me to face the facts. The dog had gone out and harmed a farmers livestock. The dog now had the taste of blood and would only do it again given half the chance. I was responsible for him no matter what and giving him over to someone else would be completely irresponsible of me. He was my problem and I had to deal with it. Not shove over to someone else.

I reluctantly rang the pound and told them to be expecting us. I walked Buster to the car, opened the door and he jumped in. He gave me this heart wrenching look as if he knew what was going on. I sat into the passenger side and OH started Busters final journey. we drove on in silence for a few minutes until my heart just shattered itself and I started to bawl. I didn't want this to happen him. I looked back at him and he sat there silently, watching the world pass him by for the last time. I pleaded with my mind to come up with another answer to this problem but nothing. I try to reason with myself that it was for the best but it just cut me even more.

Finally we got to the pound. OH told me to stay in the car but I couldn't. I needed to be with Buster. When we got into the reception a man appeared behind the counter and OH explained to him why we were giving him up. Straight away he said "You're doing the right thing" which made me bawl like a small child. He produced some forms for me sign.

I signed the dogs death warrant.

I hugged him one last time, told him I loved him no matter what and not to be scared. I then watched him go through the doors, tail between his legs all the while the man trying to reassure me that I was doing the right thing.

I may have done the right thing but it still doesn't make it any easier. I signed my pets life away. I gave them the go ahead to put him to sleep and that just makes me feel like a monster. I miss him so much and I am just a blubbering wreck of a person. I know he was a dog but **** it, I am grieving for him like I would for family.

x Purple Pawprints x · 18-08-2014 10:32pm

Jesus. Mozz I don't know what to say. I'm trying not to cry for you here x

Ted_YNWA · 18-08-2014 10:38pm

Fck Mozzie

thats awful to hear.

You did all you could to try & prevent this. I know it is hard to hear but you did all you could. You tried your hardest to rehome him.

Too many people just dump or give up animals when they get two big or bored with them. You took one of these in & gave him a loving family, more people should be like you.

I have never had to go through this kind of situation, but having grown up on a farm, have seen dogs & animals pass. Too non animal lovers there is no easy way to explain what you are going through. In some ways it is worse than losing a human family member.

Let yourself grieve, we are all hear if you need to vent or PM.

Don't let this put you off giving another dog a loving home a couple of months down the line.

Hugo Stiglitz · 19-08-2014 11:09pm

Sorry to hear about that MT. You are not a monster at all. *hugs*

EZ24GET · 20-08-2014 3:37am

this makes me bawl too. I know we can't save all dogs but still I want to.:(

Grid. · 20-08-2014 6:32pm

So sorry to hear that Mozz:(.....you did the best you could!;)

akamossy · 21-08-2014 7:39pm

My friends mum passed away this morning. Devastated

Gremlinertia · 21-08-2014 8:18pm

akamossy wrote: »

My friends mum passed away this morning. Devastated

Oh Mossy, hugs for you.

EZ24GET · 22-08-2014 12:08am

hugs to you and to all the family...

x Purple Pawprints x · 22-08-2014 12:10am

Oh no, Mossy.. I'm really sorry for your loss x

writer_lady170 · 22-08-2014 12:19am

Really sorry for your loss moss :-(

akamossy · 23-08-2014 2:44am

Not long home after the removal. I have about 5 hours before I need to be up to get ready for the funeral. So tired

Grid. · 24-08-2014 1:32am

Sounds a tough day.....sorry for your loss Mossy.

writer_lady170 · 25-08-2014 4:16am

you know what I hate....in this world.....rumours! Heard a pretty unbelievable one tonight from a supposed 'friend of a friend', which isn't true and quite upset me:(

Doctor Strange · 25-08-2014 2:47pm

smiler_lady150 wrote: »

you know what I hate....in this world.....rumours! Heard a pretty unbelievable one tonight from a supposed 'friend of a friend', which isn't true and quite upset me:(

Idle gossipers are filth. Just ignore them Smiler, it's the best way to deal with it as hard as it is to do. You're way above them.

Also, Mozz and Moss, so, so sorry for your losses.

writer_lady170 · 26-08-2014 3:30am

Thanks doctor strange :-) I'll try to ignore it. Been feeling total crap cos of it as has been causing drama with loved ones which i don't need, broke down in tears yesterday:o I'll try to not let it bother me

cgh · 26-08-2014 8:44am

keep the faith Smiler,

x Purple Pawprints x · 26-08-2014 10:36pm

Feel down but it's such a non-issue compared to everything else here.

cgh · 27-08-2014 9:15am

even if you feel down, no matter how small this is the place to be.

hope things turn around soon Purple.

ivytwine · 30-08-2014 7:16am

This is so minor but god I am so sick of my job. So so sick of it. Sick of ignorant/stupid customers, sick of repeating myself to them, sick of the hours that mean I can't do anything, not even cinema, coffee with friends, heading home to see the folks. I've had a cheque in my handbag for the last fortnight I haven't been able to cash cos my hours and the banks' don't collide. As for going out on a drink or date? Ha. Ha. Ha.

There hasn't been a shift since I started nights that I haven't literally wanted to walk out on and just tell the customers to shove it. I had the most ignorant man last night and he left me shaking with anger.

I hate that I was essentially forced into taking these hours, because my TL knows I have a loan. The gentle hint that my hours would be cut down to the bare min of my contract was enough to illustrate that my 'choice' was no choice at all.

I also hate the fact that I've applied for a promotion, but the same TL has marked my scores as average, damaging my chances. Despite the fact that when I have been marked by the quality team twice a month, my scores are consistently in the 90s.

I am also sick of snotty recruiters saying "oh you don't have enough experience" for office jobs. As if I don't know how to photocopy, scan, type, spell and so ****ing on. I worked in a bloody newspaper for Chrissakes!

I know other people have way worse problems than me (hope you're ok akamossy) but I needed to vent! That felt good!

Hugo Stiglitz · 30-08-2014 3:05pm

ivytwine wrote: »

This is so minor but god I am so sick of my job. So so sick of it.

So sorry to hear of your troubles there IT. *hugs*
I can very much relate to many of those points at the moment.

Team leaders can often be such unnecessary pricks at times. You sound like a good worker IT. Hopefully someone higher up will spot the discrepancies between his review and the quality's ones and fight in your corner.

The whole required experience thing has gone to the dogs here the last few years.

Fingers crossed the promotion will find its way to you there soon.

Sephiroth_dude · 31-08-2014 10:35pm

What Hugo Mon said is spot on ivy,I've nothing to add really just to hang in there and don't let the ****ers (excuse my language

) grind you down!

x Purple Pawprints x · 01-09-2014 2:54pm

Spent half the weekend listening to the girl in my brother's band complaining about their other bandmate. "Oh I won't be doing anything, he can f... off, he said he's intending on getting the ride off whoever will give it to him." She rode him in then tent last night while we were outside, like wtf?????????!!!!!!

Angron · 01-09-2014 4:26pm

Maybe she thought it was a magic tent, where nobody outside could hear them and realise what they were doing.

x Purple Pawprints x · 01-09-2014 5:23pm

Both of them were high on ecstacy so it wouldn't surprise me what the girl thought. She is just so lovely but she seems to be totally ruled by her feelings for him and he couldn't give a fiddlers about her. He is an absolute tool.

ivytwine · 02-09-2014 5:23am

Meant to reply a bit earlier but have spent most of the last two days asleep.

Thanks guys, this is why I love boards, everyone is so nice!

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

So sorry to hear of your troubles there IT. *hugs*
I can very much relate to many of those points at the moment.

Team leaders can often be such unnecessary pricks at times. You sound like a good worker IT. Hopefully someone higher up will spot the discrepancies between his review and the quality's ones and fight in your corner.

The whole required experience thing has gone to the dogs here the last few years.

Fingers crossed the promotion will find its way to you there soon.

Thank Hugo. It'd be a secondment rather than a promotion so I'd be back in customer service after Christmas anyway. And I'm kinda done with the company anyway. I want to move on. I worked in retail for them throughout college and it was grand for my part-time job, but I don't want it to be what I 'do' if you know what I mean.

Plus I'm kinda getting attacks of conscience every so often. It's different being a bookies and you have to hand actually physical money over the counter, online gaming's a bit rotten. I was in a taxi the other day and the taxi driver was saying how he had to give online betting "I was forgetting that I was spending my own money" and I think it's really quite common. We get some fairly depressing stories in here and it's chipping at my soul a bit.

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

What Hugo Mon said is spot on ivy,I've nothing to add really just to hang in there and don't let the ****ers (excuse my language ) grind you down!

Thanks my friend! I've started coding and learning German so hopefully those things might help me become more employable

x Purple Pawprints x · 03-09-2014 10:31pm

Friend made me feel about two inches tall the other day by literally shouting in my face and she's acting like nothing happened. And I don't have the balls to say anything.

Angron · 03-09-2014 10:32pm

What was it over?

x Purple Pawprints x · 03-09-2014 10:36pm

I was sort of pestering to text a guy she likes because she was being silly over it. Next thing I know she was screaming in my face and she walked off. I burst into tears. I stupidly said we were fine but I can't seem to let it go because it hurt. I know this is so stupid but I'd never do something like that to her, or anyone else for that matter.

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