July 2015 Babies Club

Wholeheartedly · 03-01-2015 2:10pm

Oh! I have a mad thing for ice pops and for the first time in my life I have a sweet tooth! So strange! Nothing about me is normal these days, I feel like an alien has taken me over!

Nead21 · 03-01-2015 4:27pm

Drdoc wrote: »

Hi ladies
Glad to hear all the 12 week scans are going well. I also had mine during the week and all looked good thankfully.

Has anyone else (particularly those who are on their second plus pregnancy) had a bump explosion? I can't believe I'm in maternity clothes already and looking like I ate far too much over Christmas!!

Sorry to hear the nausea and vomiting is still so bad for some of you. Mine has definitely eased off, although not gone, I'm now eating proper amounts, though often still picky and wanting junk food rather than good food! Hope I feel like some fruit/veg soon!

Ive no proper bump yet at all and up until the scan i was starting to wonder if there was actually anything in there. With my last pregnancy i was starting to wear the belly belt at this stage even though i was really showing until 20 plus weeks. I definitely think the vomiting and nausea this time has delayed the arrival of a bump. Having said that i'm fully expecting to wake up one morning soon and have nothing fit!

On a separate note, i'm back to work on Monday and dreading it :-(

greenorchard · 03-01-2015 5:14pm

Sounds very similar to me, Wholeheartedly. It's impossible for me to eat well at the moment with so many food aversions & eating is a chore a lot of the time. I was really proud of myself when I managed some broccoli with my plain pasta last night!

Back to work Monday too, absolutely dreading it. The next couple of months are the busiest so it's gonna be hectic, was really hoping I'd be better by the time I went back. I may cry on Monday morning lol

WeatherRocks · 05-01-2015 11:21pm

Hi All!
I am new to this forum and due 26th July with my first baby

I have been at college in the UK for the past year and I'm moving home in March now that I am pregnant.
I have booked my first appointment with Holles Street mid-Jan and they sent me a letter saying I need to bring a p60 or rent agreement etc. as proof to get free maternity care.
Unfortunately I have none of these because I have been in the UK.
I called them and advised my situation but they were unhelpful.
I really don't think I should have to pay for maternity care since I have lived and paid taxes in Ireland until 1 year ago!

I was wondering if anyone has had their first antenatal appointment with Holles Street yet? Just want to know if they asked for any of these forms or if its as strict as the letter makes out?
Any help is really appreciated!
Hope you are all feeling better, I feel guilty my morning sickness doesnt sound half as bad as you guys but the fatigue is definitely killing me!

Thanks

Wholeheartedly · 06-01-2015 9:25am

I have my first antenatal appointment with the Holles Street midwifes this morning so might have more information for you after that!

WeatherRocks wrote: »

I was wondering if anyone has had their first antenatal appointment with Holles Street yet? Just want to know if they asked for any of these forms or if its as strict as the letter makes out?
Any help is really appreciated!
Hope you are all feeling better, I feel guilty my morning sickness doesnt sound half as bad as you guys but the fatigue is definitely killing me!

Thanks

Welcome WeatherRocks + congratulations. That's my original due date too, but at the scan they put me forward a few days. But sure we will see what happens at the other end.

I don't really know much about all the free healthcare situation, but I do have a friend who was working in the UK and after just less than a year moved home as she was expecting, so if you can't find out anything else, I can ask her what happened for her. I feel sure she got free care. But she may still have had post going to her parents house, so maybe that made a difference? I didn't even register that part of the letter really, and when they asked how long have you lived in Ireland 'I was like eh.. 25 years!' not sure whether 'My whole life!' would have been okay to write down.

Maybe just don't mention it and pretend like it was a long holiday!

I am sure sure you will get free care!

Don't feel guilty about not being sick, feel so so lucky!!! I am like a walking list of pregnancy symptoms! It's actually laughable. I probably should have guessed, the first time I took the pill I went back to the doctor after two months in bits and he actually said 'wow, you have every side effect'

I will post later if I think there is anything of interest during my first appointment. I am actually a little excited, even though there is no scan or anything. Just want to hear all is well and normal.

Roesy · 06-01-2015 11:26am

Ugh, morning sickness still rearing its ugly head at nearly 15 weeks. Woke with a horrible headache, got baby ready and packed off for her day and then took some paracetamol. 15 minutes later vomited it back up but oddly enough throwing up seemed to ease the headache.

WeatherRocks · 06-01-2015 8:08pm

Thanks Wholeheartedly for the reply!
I hope the appointment went well! It seems weird to me not getting any info until 12 weeks so hopefully you feel more informed. Im really looking forward to mine as well.
Im lucky I do still have post going to my parents address so maybe that will do! Fingers crossed they just dont ask for anything and the irish accent will be enough

Any info on what they asked for would be really helpful!!

On another note, Ive read that the ultrasound for Downs syndrome should be done between 11-14 weeks, but my first scan isnt until 21 weeks. Anyone know if this is the norm or is the test done differently now?

haha Wholeheartedly I think I've had every pregnancy symptom going as well, luckily I never actually got sick but I was feeling nauseous all day long! Thankfully that seems to have passed and now I am just extremely bloated, my OH thinks its a bump but im not so sure!

Wholeheartedly · 06-01-2015 8:54pm

The appointment went well. Nothing too exciting really. Took bloods, but I give blood regularly so no worries there. Blood pressure. Went through my forms, family history, diet, healthy eating, the importance of exercise and building up my energy and stamina to help with having a natural birth. Not much new information. Lovely midwife. Nearly threw up in the office

probably not the first.

Didn't ask any new questions at all, so don't worry about that. So although I never actually provided "proof" of living in Ireland, the fact I am Irish and said I have lived here all my life was clearly enough. Once you are at your appointment, the midwife is only interested in you & baby.

Best part by a long shot was hearing a good strong healthy heartbeat. Not back to midwife until last week in March. Will have scan and one doctors appointment during that time.

No idea about the scans/tests for other problems. But perhaps if you particularly ask or if you are at an age of that risk they do? The midwife was so nice and said to call if I had any questions. I am sure they will be the same for you.

Wholeheartedly · 06-01-2015 8:56pm

I have a little mini bump and rounding of my tummy in the morning, but am like a bloated pot belly by the evening!

WeatherRocks · 06-01-2015 10:47pm

Ok great, hopefully there will be no questions asked. Ill bring something with my Irish address on it just in case!
Great that you heard a strong heart beat! Nice to know everything is going along smoothly

Yeah I might just ask about the other tests, im not too worried about it but just thought that everyone was tested.

Thanks for all the info! Hope you are feeling better. I will let you know how I get on at the appointment !

greenorchard · 06-01-2015 10:50pm

Congrats WeatherRocks. I'm going to the Coombe but I wasn't asked for any proof of address at my 12 week appointment either, even though the letter said I needed to bring a utility bill showing my address. So hopefully you'll be fine.

Im still really nauseous but I've only vomited once since yesterday morning which is an improvement. Not gonna count my chickens yet though cos it's happened before that I've had a couple of not so bad days but then I got worse again, so we'll see!

Wholeheartedly · 08-01-2015 11:35am

Greenorchard, I hope the sickness is on the decline for you. I am actually so so so so so so excited at the thought of not being nauseous for about 20 hours out of 24 hours a day. Mine hasn't improved but I am handling it a little better, I think.

Got my big scan booked for the 18th of March. Feels like a lifetime away! But looking forward to it already. Crazy to think we will have big tummies by then! I ordered some maternity vests/tops from new look yesterday, just because a friend had shown me, on sale + free delivery, some of them were about 3/4 Euro and 100 % cotton so might as well. Three months in now and midwife kept assuring me all was well so feel okay about it.

greenorchard · 08-01-2015 12:35pm

Wholeheartedly wrote: »

Greenorchard, I hope the sickness is on the decline for you. I am actually so so so so so so excited at the thought of not being nauseous for about 20 hours out of 24 hours a day. Mine hasn't improved but I am handling it a little better, I think.

I was right not to get my hopes up, was back to bring very sick yesterday, was vomiting in the toilets in work quite a few times. Hopefully we don't have too much longer of it, we won't know ourselves when it lifts. At least we're not only at week 6 or 7 & still facing it for the long haul, that was a really depressing time!

Must have a look at that New Look sale, haven't bought any maternity clothes yet. Can definitely feel my tummy is starting to expand, had to unbutton my trousers last night after eating!

jodyk · 08-01-2015 2:32pm

Hi ladies, sorry to hear everyone still feeling so sicky :-( Luckily my nausea left at about 11 weeks but my God the tiredness hasn't left :-( It doesn't help that I'm an accountant and this is my busiest time of year, so I'm working savage hours, so am not sure if that's the tiredness or is it cos of baba too :-)

Have my booking in appt with the midwife on Monday and then Tuesday am back with consultant for the nuchal scan & blood test. WeatherRocks - that nuchal scan & blood test I'm getting is for Down's but my consultant just does them with every patient - I didn't specifically ask for it. But she did say it had to be done before 14 weeks (I'll be 13+3 on Tuesday when she does it) so maybe you should ask about it when you go in, cos if they don't scan you til 20 weeks, you'll miss out on it as far as I know.

We got a Doppler last week and it's been very reassuring to hear the heartbeat at home - it's been 4 weeks since our first scan and that is a very long wait for this first timer !!! :-D

greenorchard · 09-01-2015 1:08pm

Glad to hear your nausea has lifted jodyk.

Has anyone booked or been to the early pregnancy class in the Donore Centre organised by the Coombe? I've booked in for the antenatal physio classes & the Saturday full day antenatal class & they've asked if I'd like to also go to an early pregnancy class next month. Anyone know anything about this class & if it's beneficial?

Saralee4 · 13-01-2015 9:06pm

Im fourteen weeks now and have been vomiting everyday for about 6 weeks now. I get sick about once or twice a day with nausea lasting for hours in between. It happens from 5pm onwards throughout the night everyday. I had a day or two last week where I was vomit free and I really thought that it was the end of the sickness but it seems to have got worse. Its actually getting me a bit down now.

I have a toddler and I think I only got sick about 3 times in the whole pregnancy with her.

I also had bleeding two weeks ago and was advised to go to a and e. Everything seemed fine in my scan but they gave me antibiotics but I keep puking them up!

Do you think its common for the sickness to go on in the second trimester? I was banking on it ending quickly this week!

greenorchard · 13-01-2015 9:51pm

Saralee4, I'm the same, still very sick, I've had 7.5 weeks of it now (not that I'm counting or anything

) I'm 13+4 & had a few days there of just bad nausea but no vomiting but today I was getting sick all morning again.

From what I've heard from other people it usually lifts by around 16 weeks for the vast majority of people. So hopefully we're both near the end of it now. I think the 12 weeks that gets mentioned a lot is wishful thinking, it tends to be more like 14-16 weeks for most of the women I know who had it bad.

On the plus side I was at my GP today & I got to hear the heartbeat for the first time which was lovely

Saralee4 · 13-01-2015 10:13pm

awh hearing the heartbeat im sure was so nice. Brings a positive and makes it worth it, I felt like that when I got my scan and everything looked ok

I have a new GP with this baby so I wonder if they will have the same equipment so I can hear the heartbeat. My last one never offered anything like that.

I think im just feeling down because last night was bad, I was so thirsty but every time I took even a little sip of water, my stomach felt like a washing machine and today I vomited 5 times in the space of an hour. The feeling is so horrible.

oh another thing, with this being my second child, I have felt movement from 11 weeks. its so strange, I think I was about 20-22 weeks to feel it the last time. its weird how everything is so different second time round!

greenorchard · 13-01-2015 11:41pm

It's tough going alright, I haven't really been able to enjoy being pregnant yet cos I've been so ill. At my worst I was vomiting 20+ times a day & couldn't keep a thing down. There were days where I just lay in bed vomiting into a bucket all day, I felt like I was dying! I'm gonna have to visit the dentist soon, am a bit worried I've damaged my teeth.

The machine my GP used was a doppler, I think they're common enough in GP surgeries so hopefully you'll get to hear it this time around.

That's mad that you've felt movement from so early on, wow! It's my first so I'm not expecting to feel anything for a long time yet.

Nead21 · 14-01-2015 1:58pm

I feel the exact same Sarahlee. This is my second child and I'm so depressed with feeling so crap all the time. I wasn't sick hardly at all with my son. I'm fourteen weeks as well and I don't feel like it's ever going to lift. I'm still wrecked all the time. I feel like I can't be a proper mammy to my son as when I'm home from work I'm just so tired.

I'm starting pregnancy yoga tonight which I'm hoping will help lift me a little from this slump. I did it throughout my last pregnancy and found it great for keeping flexible and then helped focus me during labour. Hopefully I can stay awake!

Saralee4 · 14-01-2015 7:25pm

Nead21 wrote: »

I feel the exact same Sarahlee. This is my second child and I'm so depressed with feeling so crap all the time. I wasn't sick hardly at all with my son. I'm fourteen weeks as well and I don't feel like it's ever going to lift. I'm still wrecked all the time. I feel like I can't be a proper mammy to my son as when I'm home from work I'm just so tired.

I'm starting pregnancy yoga tonight which I'm hoping will help lift me a little from this slump. I did it throughout my last pregnancy and found it great for keeping flexible and then helped focus me during labour. Hopefully I can stay awake!

I think when you have had an easy enough pregnancy the first time, you kind of expect it to be the same and I read somewhere that if you didn't have morning sickness the first time then the second time its less likely huh wtf!

good luck with the pregnancy yoga. enjoy

Nead21 · 15-01-2015 10:34am

Yeah I don't think I appreciated how easy I had it the last time. I my naivety I definitely expected the same. In saying that I think (half afraid to say it) that I'm beginning to feel better. Still a bit queasy in the evenings and night time but it's definitely nothing like a few weeks ago. I'm hoping the second trimester energy levels will start to kick in soon.

I've succumb to my maternity tights now

Wholeheartedly · 16-01-2015 5:15pm

Hey ladies. Haven't really had the heart to post here for awhile. Still so sick. Have basically spent the last two and a half days in bed. Had acupuncture yesterday as was recommended by a few people I know, didn't help, actually had the worst day after it. Felt like I had the flu on top of all the sickness, every inch of my body was aching. Thankfully that passed by this morning. Have been craving awful white sliced bread! Something I would never eat. Alien body ;/

Also was very worried the other day after hearing someone I know had measles, as my blood tests came back and I have no immunity to rubella/German measles/measles/chicken pox. As I have never had a shot for anything, not even as a child. And it can be dangerous for baby especially before 20 weeks. But I have been lucky and am fine on that counts, so just avoiding all sick people

Really hope most people are feeling better at this stage. And enjoying feeling extra special! My other half tells me almost every day what an amazing job I am doing, even though I am falling to pieces!

We are thinking of getting a Doppler to listen to baby at home. Has anyone used one at home?

Also my partner has got a new job and we will be moving for it. Which we are delighted about, but it moves me outside the area you can avail of the Domino scheme in Holles Street. Does anyone know what will happen in this case? Will I have to swap to a normal hospital attendance?I would rreally rather not!

greenorchard · 16-01-2015 6:50pm

Sorry to hear you're still so sick. I had two lots of acupuncture a few weeks ago but it didn't help me either. I think I've tried every remedy going at this stage & none of them made a difference! My nausea is still bad but I've only had one day with loads of vomiting this week which is great. I can cope with the nausea but not getting sick non-stop!

Ah your OH sounds so sweet, that's lovely

I know you can get dopplers online but don't have one myself, I'm happy enough to just hear the heartbeat at appointments. I've heard some people say they got them on inhealth.ie

Can't help you on the domino thing, not sure on that one.

Wholeheartedly · 16-01-2015 9:16pm

Thanks!! Glad the throwing up is easing up for you. Have to say the throwing up has never been so bad for you, mostly just once a day or if my tummy gets way too empty. But sick to my core! Blessed I am off work at the moment anyways. Don't know how I would handle it, I honestly don't think I would be able to.

It still sometimes gives me a shock the idea that we will have a baby in six months!!!

Drdoc · 16-01-2015 10:55pm

So sorry to hear you're all still so sick.
My terrible nausea and tiredness lifted on week 11 and have felt like a relatively normal person since, which is good as work is so busy at the moment. I was surprised too as it didn't lift til about 14 weeks the last time.
With regards to home dopplers, I have access to one in work if needs be though I don't really tend to bother. Sometimes I think the home ones can be worrying for people if they can't find the heartbeat. I've actually also been feeling movement in the last few days, which is very early but I felt it very early on the last pregnancy so sort of expected it might happen again.
Congrats wholeheartedly on your husbands new job! Afraid though I suspect they will make you move off the domino scheme as the midwives who do the postnatal visits etc would only be visiting people in certain catchment areas. Hope I'm wrong for your sake though!

Wholeheartedly · 16-01-2015 11:25pm

Drdoc wrote: »

Congrats wholeheartedly on your husbands new job! Afraid though I suspect they will make you move off the domino scheme as the midwives who do the postnatal visits etc would only be visiting people in certain catchment areas. Hope I'm wrong for your sake though!

Thanks Drdoc. I think you are right, I was guess that's what would happen but was hoping for something else! I will call the community midwives on Monday and just go through it with them. Definitely out of the catchment area but it's going to be so worth it, a lovely house and a wonderful place to bring up baby! And it's a good job, so no pressure on me going back to work after baby! Would love the first year off, if I can handle it. Few friends have suggested I might miss working too much!! We shall wait and see.

So exciting you are feeling movements already. I still can't imagine what it is going to be like!! OH is dying for it too. Happy for you that you are feeling normal and well. I am SO excited to be back to myself at some point. And actually hungry! Haven't been hungry since November, just eating to get rid of the nausea! No fun

CarpeDiem85 · 16-01-2015 11:36pm

Aww every time I see a due in July thread, it makes me nostalgic. I was due on July 24th 2013. I went 2 weeks over and had my beautiful daughter on 7th of August. It's both a very nerve wrecking and exciting time. Good luck to you all and if you have any questions, fire away.

greenorchard · 17-01-2015 12:36am

Wholeheartedly wrote: »

Thanks!! Glad the throwing up is easing up for you. Have to say the throwing up has never been so bad for you, mostly just once a day or if my tummy gets way too empty. But sick to my core! Blessed I am off work at the moment anyways. Don't know how I would handle it, I honestly don't think I would be able to.

It still sometimes gives me a shock the idea that we will have a baby in six months!!!

That's great that you've been off work. I had so many sick days in December but there wasn't much I could do about that, I was so ill. Thankfully I have a very understanding boss. Even the days I was in people could see I was really unwell so most people had already guessed I was pregnant ages ago.

Hard to believe we'll have babies in around 6 months! I'm not sure it's sunk in yet!

Drdoc, I've heard the same said about home dopplers, that they can cause unnecessary worry as it can be hard to find the heartbeat. My GP has one anyway so I'll get to hear it whenever I'm in there. Glad to hear you're better, it gives me hope when I hear of other people who are better. Makes me believe someday soon I'll feel normal again!

jodyk · 19-01-2015 10:31am

Hi ladies, I got the angel sounds doppler from inhealth.ie - it was €35 and a fiver postage and it arrived the next day. I was 11 + 5 when it came and luckily I found the heartbeat straight away. My hubby thought it was a terrible idea in case we couldn't find the heartbeat and would worry. I must be one of the lucky ones though cos anytime I've tried it in the past few weeks, I've been able to find the heartbeat immediately and then just turn it off after a few seconds. I find it reassuring in the long wait between scans, but I can totally understand how it could needlessly worry someone who can't find the heartbeat just cos baby is facing different way or something :-)

Donegal77 · 21-01-2015 7:17pm

Just found this forum and am so delighted to be able to read about fellow July mums to he's experiences! I'm due July 15, 2015.. It's our first. I'm 37 and it took us almost a year to get pregnant so it took a while before it sunk in that it had finally happened! 15 weeks now and starting to get my mojo back..I can't say it's been particularly enjoyable being pregnant for reasons I'm sure you're all more than familiar with😁. That said I'm really getting excited now about what's ahead. I've had a few scans already and all's going well so far. I'll be delivering at Letterkenny General, any more Donegal mums to be out there?

greenorchard · 22-01-2015 11:18am

Congrats Donegal77. It still hasn't really sunk in with me that I'm actually having a baby!

Lads, when does the second trimester energy I was promised kick in?! I am shattered!

Wholeheartedly · 22-01-2015 11:20am

Donegal77 wrote: »

Just found this forum and am so delighted to be able to read about fellow July mums to he's experiences! I'm due July 15, 2015.. It's our first. I'm 37 and it took us almost a year to get pregnant so it took a while before it sunk in that it had finally happened! 15 weeks now and starting to get my mojo back..I can't say it's been particularly enjoyable being pregnant for reasons I'm sure you're all more than familiar withðŸ˜. That said I'm really getting excited now about what's ahead. I've had a few scans already and all's going well so far. I'll be delivering at Letterkenny General, any more Donegal mums to be out there?

Welcome + Congratulations Donegal77. Such an exciting time for you! We had a conversation a few months ago and decided to sort of start thinking about trying, because we have been hearing such sad stories about people we know, only in their early 30s, trying for 3/4 years, on IVF already, getting fertility treatments etc and when you hear those stories it makes you think 'why wait another few years and then possibly have such heartbreaking problems?' All that said I tthought it would take a while and hadn't even really gotten used to the idea and I was already pregnant, about two weeks after we had that conversation. Shocker! But it feels like the right time now and everything else has just fallen into place, like it was always meant to happen!

It's tough for people who only meet the right person in their 30s and have all the added pressure of these huge decisions on a new relationship, we have friends who are sort of racing to get married because they want to be married before they have children, and if that's an important step first then you gotta do it! I am lucky as I have been with my OH since I was 19 and he is a few years older, so was more worried than me, as it's his friends struggling now and it's so sad to watch. I quickly stopped "giving out" about how quickly I fall pregnant when I rrealised how hard it is on other people.

Glad to hear you are feeling yourself again, I am dying to be back to sort of normal, you can tell by the huge message I am back in bed after thinking I was grand and getting on with the day only to start throwing up! So having a rest now, bump likes relaxing!

nettie1 · 24-01-2015 11:54am

Hi All,
I've only just found this thread too. I have been on another irish pregnancy board but it doesn't have as many post as boards and they aren't as up to date so this is nice.
I'm 15+6 and still getting used to the whole idea to be honest. I'm currently battling with the slightly expanding waistline problem. I wasn't sick in my first trimester so I think my waistline might be expanding quicker than a lot of other girls. Not that I'm complaining; I dreaded the sickness enough to keep me childless till the age of 36! Well, that and the fact that I only met hubby in 2012. We got engaged and married quite quickly and then decided to take things easy for a while.
I'm a bit jealous of the people who had the 'talk' and decided in one go. We had the talk about 10 times! Couldn't make up our minds but knew time was against us. Our philosophy was if it ain't broken why fix it? Our life together has been a bit of a roller coaster but wonderful and we were in no rush to change it. However, we also knew that the children window was only gonna stay open for a few more years and once the newly-married glow would wear off, there was a danger that we'd look around and wonder "What's next?" and there would be no options. We're both good with kids, financially as stable as any couple our age who made mistakes during the boom, and in good health. So we let nature take it's course. Is that another phrase for 'trying'? I'm not really sure. We didn't look at calendars.
Anyway, nature took it's course and here we are! I've had a great pregnancy so far but I couldn't say I'm excited. I'm dreading the labour, the risks (!), the responsibility of having another human being rely on us for EVERYTHING! For decades!! Having worked with children I am eternally frustrated by how blasé parents are about their responsibilities, I take it very seriously, but everybody messes up at times. That sucks.
I understand that the love is incredible but that's another few months down the line. Right now the worry, the sleepless nights, the finances, the risk that the child could have serious complications, the infinite opportunities for us to screw up, the prospect of not being able to tie my own shoelaces, they're all very real considerations too. And there I was with a peachy life that I just threw away!

So can someone explain the excitement please?

spottybananas · 24-01-2015 12:14pm

Nettie I do find that often those with the excitement can't comprehend that there are those of us who aren't excited, so they can't often explain it because they can't imagine being any different. FWIW I'm 27 weeks and still not excited, I don't look pregnant, just like I have a pudgy tummy now, which doesn't help with my ability to be in denial! I think it's just different personality types, are you a worrier/pessimist/realist in general life?

I'd love to be going into this with blind enthusiasm, how relaxing that would be!

greenorchard · 24-01-2015 12:30pm

Congrats nettie1 & welcome! I'm also 15+1

I'm trying not to think too much about all the worries you mentioned, though to be honest I've been so sick that that's been a bit of a distraction from all that. I still don't really feel pregnant, I just feel like I've got some awful illness that's been making my life a misery for the last 9 weeks

It's such a massive step & a huge thing to get your head around & that's even when it's planned! I don't know how I'd deal with being pregnant if it was unplanned, it's already surreal enough. I do feel excited sometimes but definitely not all the time. When the worries about things like money & how we'll cope with a baby creep in I tell myself that people far worse off than us manage so we will too!

Roesy · 24-01-2015 12:34pm

I'm excited and nervous/worried/apprehensive in almost equal measures. And this will be my second baby. I don't think there is a mother on this earth, whether she admits it or not, who isn't faced with moments of blind panic at different times. My worries and fears change throughout the pregnancy. In the early days it was all about getting through the first trimester and whether the baby would survive. Having had a miscarriage on my first definitely added to this. Thought it would be less stressful this time as my last pregnancy was fine but it wasn't . After the first trimester worries came the fears about how we'd manage a baby/finances/the future. Then there was the worries about labour.

This time my main thing is how my 14 month old will be with its new sibling and how I'll manage two of them. I'm 35 though so always knew that if we wanted more than one they'd have to be relatively close together. Having seen how much joy and fun our daughter has brought into our lives has made it easier to not let the worries overtake.

nettie1 · 24-01-2015 4:51pm

Thanks for the lovely, realistic responses ladies.
Spottybananas, I tend to take a take a fairly balanced view on life, I think. I suppose I've always made decisions based on the fact that they were impacting on me only, or another adult who was responsible for themselves. But a baby is a whole other ballgame. Time to grow up I suppose!
I don't think anybody has ever really given me a clear answer as to why they wanted a child, other than that they're better than a pension plan, or the parents always wanted it or "felt" if was just the right time.
Anyway, I'm sure I'll start weighing up the pros more as time goes on, and the idea of having some form of a little version of my husband gives me a smile, so it'll be all good! Dunno if we'll find out the sex of the baby though! What are people's opinions?

Roesy · 24-01-2015 5:08pm

nettie1 wrote: »

Thanks for the lovely, realistic responses ladies.
Spottybananas, I tend to take a take a fairly balanced view on life, I think. I suppose I've always made decisions based on the fact that they were impacting on me only, or another adult who was responsible for themselves. But a baby is a whole other ballgame. Time to grow up I suppose!
I don't think anybody has ever really given me a clear answer as to why they wanted a child, other than that they're better than a pension plan, or the parents always wanted it or "felt" if was just the right time.
Anyway, I'm sure I'll start weighing up the pros more as time goes on, and the idea of having some form of a little version of my husband gives me a smile, so it'll be all good! Dunno if we'll find out the sex of the baby though! What are people's opinions?

We didn't find out the sex last time and won't this time either. My husband had wanted to find out initially with our daughter and I was on the fence. Figured if he really, really wanted to find out then we'd go for it. After a second scan of baby being in ridiculous contortionist positions and hiding her modesty we decided that we'd leave it as a surprise. Was such a lovely moment when my consultant lifted up the baby for us to see for ourselves when we asked whether it was a boy or a girl.

In my group the split between finding out and not finding out is pretty much 50:50. Those who did reckoned it helped them feel more prepared and like they knew the baby before it was born and those who didn't figured it was one of the last big surprises left/gave them something to look forward to during labour.

greenorchard · 24-01-2015 7:02pm

We're not finding out the sex, I feel like I'd regret not waiting if we did find out. I can understand why some people do find out but for me I like it being a surprise to look forward to over the next few months and while I'm in labour.

Jurrrr · 25-01-2015 9:43pm

Just thought I would introduce! Myself (father to be) and partner due 4th of July! Our first bundle of joy! Still hasn't sank in for me though! I'll be around asking for plenty of advice and tips!

Wholeheartedly · 25-01-2015 10:21pm

Jurrrr wrote: »

Just thought I would introduce! Myself (father to be) and partner due 4th of July! Our first bundle of joy! Still hasn't sank in for me though! I'll be around asking for plenty of advice and tips!

Welcome + Congratulations Jurrrr! I think most of us are on here for advice + tips!

It's our first too, and I am due 3 weeks after you and it really is only sinking in! Today we were out for a walk and I said 'in six weeks we will be half way there!' and we were both like 'oh my god, oh my god!' Feels like I am pretending to be a grown up most of the time, like surely I can't have all the responsibility of another person (!) yikes!!

Saralee4 · 27-01-2015 2:23pm

Hi all, just a quick question regarding maternity clothes.

With this being my second, I am showing sooner.

I have been to h&m and got some nice jeans from there and some from mothercare but not too fussed on them yet, I think they were more designed for later pregnancy.

In my first pregnancy I bought jeans from Next and I have to say, they were the best but every NEXT I go to doesn't seem to do maternity anymore. apparently only blanchardstown Dublin do it and im not going all the way out there. I don't like ordering online.

Anyway I seen that penneys are doing Maternity and wanted to give it a try but every shop I go into either only has a few pieces left that look they have been exchanged or else don't have maternity section at all. The main thing I want to get from pennies is maternity leggings. I am still able to wear normal leggings but I remember in my last pregnancy that they slip down as your bump gets bigger and its very uncomfortable. Penneys leggings are so cheap and handy and its going to be summer when I am at my biggest so I was planning on wearing comfy maternity leggings and long tops.

Has anyone been in any of the penneys stores in the city centre and seen their maternity section? I just don't want to go all the way into town and then they don't have anything.

Allirog · 27-01-2015 2:55pm

materniry wear in pennys is crap at the moment. I've been to the one on Mary St, o Connell St and blanch and they only have string vests, a shirt and underwear.

I actually got some tops in mother are in blanch and they are grand. I got jeans in next in Liffey valley and jeans and tops in new look in Liffey valley and what I got in new look is by far the nicest and most comfortable

Saralee4 · 27-01-2015 2:58pm

Allirog wrote: »

materniry wear in pennys is crap at the moment. I've been to the one on Mary St, o Connell St and blanch and they only have string vests, a shirt and underwear.

I actually got some tops in mother are in blanch and they are grand. I got jeans in next in Liffey valley and jeans and tops in new look in Liffey valley and what I got in new look is by far the nicest and most comfortable

Yea the penneys in pavilion swords is the same. Just random things.

I haven't tried new look yet. Ill try there.

Fifi_123 · 27-01-2015 3:12pm

Afternoon ladies. Just hopping over from the June 2015 group!

Next in Liffey Valley have a few good bits and New Look is good for stuff too. I actually think New Look online is better than instore - they seem to have more of a range. In fact I'll be picking up a parcel of goodies from the post office this afternoon on the way home from work!

greenorchard · 27-01-2015 3:18pm

I bought some stuff on New Look online last week. Got a couple of pairs of leggings & some long tops for quite cheap & good quality, now I just need to grow into them as the leggings are pretty roomy!

Allirog · 27-01-2015 3:59pm

I never thought to look online, I just had a look at new look online and all I can say is oh crap!! Card is going to get a hammering

Saralee4 · 31-01-2015 8:52pm

girls my morning sickness left me for four days and I was celebrating so I think I must have jinxed it because it came back worse

I have had one day here and there in between where I have had no sickness but on the days I do get it which is more often, it is really bad. Some days throwing everything up that I eat.

Its really depressing me. What about everyone here? Im 17 weeks now so been sick almost every day since week 8 of pregnancy. Is there anyone still with morning sickness?

Im thinking I have to go to my gp. Has anyone got any medication for their morning sickness?

Wholeheartedly · 31-01-2015 9:23pm

Saralee4 wrote: »

girls my morning sickness left me for four days and I was celebrating so I think I must have jinxed it because it came back worse I have had one day here and there in between where I have had no sickness but on the days I do get it which is more often, it is really bad. Some days throwing everything up that I eat.

Its really depressing me. What about everyone here? Im 17 weeks now so been sick almost every day since week 8 of pregnancy. Is there anyone still with morning sickness?

Im thinking I have to go to my gp. Has anyone got any medication for their morning sickness?

So sorry to hear this, really disappointed too, as very high hopes for week sixteen and the sickness just disappearing! I am only 15 weeks, and it is getting a small bit better, no full days in bed anymore (thank god) and for the last 10 days or so I am only throwing up every second day in the morning, plus the nausea during the day is easier to handle, particularly because I am more used to it, also because it has lessen a bit and I can eat more foods again, less restricted in what makes me ill. I have been sick since week 5 and about three weeks ago I was really down, couldn't handle it anymore and was very upset, which I actually think made it worse sometimes. But my energy has come back a bit and mood has improved for sure.

Surely it has to ease up for you SOON!

PS. Does anyone else have a bump? Mine quite definitely popped out in the last three days! It's quite strange!! But nicer than just looking totally normal but so so sick.

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