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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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  • #302
    LoTwan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 608 ✭✭✭LoTwan


    Ankhyu wrote: »
    LoTwan wrote: »
    What distance are you taking about?

    Well he lives about 3 hours away, but he'll be closer for the summer months, about an hour and a half which is quite good! :)

    Hmmm... That would be too far for me :(


  • #303
    Ankhyu
    Registered Users Posts: 5,313 ✭✭✭Ankhyu


    LoTwan wrote: »
    Hmmm... That would be too far for me :(

    I could probably manage that distance over the summer months, but I don't know otherwise :(


  • #304
    JuliusCaesar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,882 ✭✭✭JuliusCaesar


    Here's one of the main problems of online dating: looking at people/profiles as commodities.
    We suggest that the failure of online dating sites to live up to user expectations is due in part to a funda- mental gap between the kinds of information people both want and need to determine whether someone is a good romantic match and the kind of information available on online dating profiles.

    Might be a bit too academic psychology though!

    This is better - same professor, just talking about it.


  • #305
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    coco_lola wrote: »
    Yeah, majority of women who use that quote are total drama queens anyway!

    On that note, what is the deal with this "YOLO" craze circulating profiles (and Facebook pages)?? It's very annoying :mad:

    A quick google shows Drake uses that line in his rap song :rolleyes:

    What a stupid sheep like thing to be saying.


  • #306
    careymary
    Closed Accounts Posts: 460 ✭✭careymary


    According to a guy who messaged me, YOLO = Carpe Diem for dummies! That alone got him a reply!


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  • #307
    charman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68 ✭✭charman


    you only live once


  • #308
    LoTwan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 608 ✭✭✭LoTwan


    Profiles deleted. :cool:


  • #309
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    I joined a different site last night. Within a few minutes of signing up I was getting girls viewing my profile, winking at me and two sent me emails. I remember thinking "This must be what it feels like to be a girl joining an internet dating site" :D


  • #310
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    LoTwan wrote: »
    Profiles deleted. :cool:

    Congrats LoTwan... Another one bites the dust... I'm jealous :p


  • #311
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    LoTwan wrote: »
    Profiles deleted. :cool:

    Nice one.

    It's an enjoyable feeling to delete your profile as you've met someone, as opposed to deleting them out of frustration. Unfortunately I mostly have experience of the latter.


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  • #312
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    LoTwan wrote: »
    Profiles deleted. :cool:

    Congratulations. :)

    Have to say... Trying to delete your profile is a right pain.

    "Are you sure you want to delete your POF account?"

    "Are you really sure?"

    "Ah go on.. Stay. Sure write your testimonial there"

    "Come on. Don't leave us."

    "If you're that sure... Alright enter your password there. If you happen to forget it, you'll have to stay. Sure what's the point in entering unneccesary numbers/letters. It's not worth the hassle.. Stay."

    hammer-to-computer.jpg


  • #313
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    G-Money wrote: »
    I thought so but she just text again there now asking the same thing.

    Why don't you do the decent thing and tell her you've no interest instead of ignoring her texts?


  • #314
    El_Drago
    Closed Accounts Posts: 462 ✭✭El_Drago


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Nothing bad happened per se, or anything at all really, it's just that it seems like a lot of effort for little or no reward.

    Am I the only one that gets annoyed when I read that Marilyn Monroe quote?     The exact same could apply to men. I should add it to my profile.

    +1
    It sounds retarded.Anyone with that on their profile instantly gets rejected.Another thing that bug me and seems to be on the rise is members uploading the most random pictures on their profiles.Pictures that I came across today include a castle,whale(maybe that's what she looks like?),and a bottle of makeup(wtf?).


  • #315
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    I'm thinking of rejoining POF. Talk me out of it, please!


  • #316
    The Master
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 14,320 CMod ✭✭✭✭The Master


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    I'm thinking of rejoining POF. Talk me out of it, please!

    Stay with on-line dating, do not rejoin POF. It just seems to be getting worse by the day


  • #317
    wobblyknees
    Registered Users Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭wobblyknees


    What would people recommend instead of POF then?


  • #318
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    wobblyknees wrote: »
    What would people recommend instead of POF then?

    I used OK Cupid. It's got a smaller pool of people but the calibre of profile is an awful lot better imo.


  • #319
    Daisies
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators Posts: 4,644 Mod ✭✭✭✭Daisies


    So I deleted my profiles last night as I am leaving the country in a month or so (just recently found out) and I don't think it's fair to people.

    P.S. My Marilyn quote (in my sig, would never put it on a online dating profile) is tongue in cheek


  • #320
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Daisies wrote: »
    So I deleted my profiles last night as I am leaving the country in a month or so (just recently found out) and I don't think it's fair to people.

    P.S. My Marilyn quote (in my sig, would never put it on a online dating profile) is tongue in cheek

    They could always fly out to Malawi to meet you. :D


  • #321
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    Why don't you do the decent thing and tell her you've no interest instead of ignoring her texts?

    Probably because she has text'd several times giving me ultimatums and text last week asking me to delete her detatils (which I had done several weeks in advance) and wishing me the best. And the text day text me again and has twice since.

    It's not like we met up or even spoke on the phone, just sent a few texts.

    I'm definitely not contacting her.


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  • #322
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    G-Money wrote: »
    Probably because she has text'd several times giving me ultimatums and text last week asking me to delete her detatils (which I had done several weeks in advance) and wishing me the best. And the text day text me again and has twice since.

    DANGER WILL ROBINSON. Avoid avoid avoid.


  • #323
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    Think Im going to delete my pof profile later, might give ok cupid a look though. Or else just take a break from on line dating


  • #324
    wobblyknees
    Registered Users Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭wobblyknees


    blacklilly wrote: »
    Think Im going to delete my pof profile later, might give ok cupid a look though. Or else just take a break from on line dating

    At least you have made your mind up.


  • #325
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    El_Drago wrote: »
    Another thing that bug me and seems to be on the rise is members uploading the most random pictures on their profiles.Pictures that I came across today include a castle,whale(maybe that's what she looks like?),and a bottle of makeup(wtf?).

    People that put up animals/cars on their profile...I actually have the following written on my profile:

    "If your profile contains a picture of a car/motorbike, I WILL assume you are a transformer".

    :pac:


  • #326
    you wha?
    Registered Users Posts: 286 ✭✭you wha?


    coco_lola wrote: »
    People that put up animals/cars on their profile...I actually have the following written on their profile:

    "If your profile contains a picture of a car/motorbike, I WILL assume you are a transformer".

    :pac:

    HAHA brilliant :P

    in other news, i deleted my profile yesterday.things progressing quite nicely with himself ;)


  • #327
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    Signed up to that okcupid site. Fingers crossed.


  • #328
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    Varied wrote: »
    Signed up to that okcupid site. Fingers crossed.


    Same here! Best of luck


  • #329
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    Everyone gives great reviews about OKC, but I actually think the opposite. Granted, there aren't a whole pile of great ones on POF (you really have to weed out the "sup sxciii" and "hey ows u xxxx"), but on OKC it's like tumbleweed around there!


  • #330
    VinLieger
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,298 ✭✭✭✭VinLieger


    coco_lola wrote: »
    Everyone gives great reviews about OKC, but I actually think the opposite. Granted, there aren't a whole pile of great ones on POF (you really have to weed out the "sup sxciii" and "hey ows u xxxx"), but on OKC it's like tumbleweed around there!

    The OKC layout and question systems are good but yes its very bare profile wise in comparison to POF


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  • #331
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    VinLieger wrote: »
    The OKC layout and question systems are good but yes its very bare profile wise in comparison to POF

    I just do the questions and tests for funsies :pac:


  • #332
    The Big Red Button
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,390 ✭✭✭The Big Red Button


    On the whole POF/OKC debate ... giving a girl's perspective ...

    POF was scary. Non-stop messages, every minute, I had no time to even read them all, let alone begin to reply to them.

    OKC - it was much nicer. Almost all messages I received were from nice genuine guys. Even if I wasn't interested, I was much more inclined to reply

    Just giving my own experience ...


  • #333
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    chatterpillar wrote: »
    On the whole POF/OKC debate ... giving a girl's perspective ...

    POF was scary. Non-stop messages, every minute, I had no time to even read them all, let alone begin to reply to them.

    OKC - it was much nicer. Almost all messages I received were from nice genuine guys. Even if I wasn't interested, I was much more inclined to reply

    Just giving my own experience ...

    I get a lot of messages on POF too, but I don't reply to messages saying "Hey" or any of those generic one liners, unless their profile is really outstanding. Sounds harsh, but if they're not willing to put in the effort to start with, neither am I.


  • #334
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    im on OKC and sometimes i just love the opening messages i get! :)

    one guy said to me that he loves the way i have bottles shoved down my top and that he thought it was hilarious! Turns out he was really nice and we would have been great together only for the fact that he lives in Germany :(


  • #335
    srm23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,298 ✭✭✭srm23


    hey guy here, met a really nice girl on online, been on 3 dates thus far but im in need of some female advice on my next move :o anyone willing to help please pm.


  • #336
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    I'm really annoyed with online dating thing tonight. Think I should take a break from it. I am chatting with a few guys who all say they want to meet but are being evasive then when it comes to plans. Guy 2 cancelled the other evening only after I text to check if we were still meeting. He's still mailing me but no more talk of meeting up. Another guy keeps saying let's meet and then saying he's really busy. Supposed to have a date Thursday but he can't seem to commit to a time. Date 2 with guy 1 friday night but again I'm not sure either he or I are interested. Sorry for rant but so annoyed with the whole thing this evening!! Am I the only one with this messing going on? I know I'm probably bringing it on myself with too many chats on the go but don't think any are really interested in me. I'm thinking I'm the back up plan. Rant over...apologies :o


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  • #337
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    OKCupid is a nicer site but definitely has less traffic I've noticed. I actually deleted my profile on there the other day. I'm planning on axing my POF profile in the next day or so as well.


  • #338
    Snowie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    Lady lost Online dating should be taking nothing more then a big fat joke....
    People are flakey as hell some times...

    Ive had a number of dates the past week and a bit... They've been kinda cool.. My issue the lack of interests a lot of these girls have it tends to be either going out...
    I just feel theres more to life then that.. Find it pretty unattractive that, thats there biggest interest is getting drunk.. Yeah sure thats living life all right....... I don't really enjoy the pub scene i see it as a massive waste of money with nothing to show :) I believe theres other ways to have fun having said that I like a drink I just don't like getting messy any more... :)


  • #339
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    Snowie wrote: »
    Lady lost Online dating should be taking nothing more then a big fat joke....
    People are flakey as hell some times...

    Ive had a number of dates the past week and a bit... They've been kinda cool.. My issue the lack of interests a lot of these girls have it tends to be either going out...
    I just feel theres more to life then that.. Find it pretty unattractive that, thats there biggest interest is getting drunk.. Yeah sure thats living life all right....... I don't really enjoy the pub scene i see it as a massive waste of money with nothing to show :) I believe theres other ways to have fun having said that I like a drink I just don't like getting messy any more... :)

    Im the same. so many people seem to consider getting drunk at the week end as a past time, I don't mind having a few drinks but doesn't bother me if I go a month or more without stepping into a pub.


  • #340
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    Snowie wrote: »
    Lady lost Online dating should be taking nothing more then a big fat joke....
    People are flakey as hell some times...

    Ive had a number of dates the past week and a bit... They've been kinda cool.. My issue the lack of interests a lot of these girls have it tends to be either going out...
    I just feel theres more to life then that.. Find it pretty unattractive that, thats there biggest interest is getting drunk.. Yeah sure thats living life all right....... I don't really enjoy the pub scene i see it as a massive waste of money with nothing to show :) I believe theres other ways to have fun having said that I like a drink I just don't like getting messy any more... :)
    Yeah I know Snowie, thanks. I need to get a bit of perspective. Sometimes it just all seems so much harder than it needs be both in online dating and offline.

    I also agree with u on the drinking issue. I'm not into going out and getting thrashed every week, in fact not at all. Feel like an old maid saying that to most guys though. Guess we need to keep the faith and I need to chill out big time!!:cool:


  • #341
    Dolly Daydreams
    Registered Users Posts: 245 ✭✭Dolly Daydreams


    ladylost wrote: »
    I'm really annoyed with online dating thing tonight. Think I should take a break from it. I am chatting with a few guys who all say they want to meet but are being evasive then when it comes to plans. Guy 2 cancelled the other evening only after I text to check if we were still meeting. He's still mailing me but no more talk of meeting up. Another guy keeps saying let's meet and then saying he's really busy. Supposed to have a date Thursday but he can't seem to commit to a time. Date 2 with guy 1 friday night but again I'm not sure either he or I are interested. Sorry for rant but so annoyed with the whole thing this evening!! Am I the only one with this messing going on? I know I'm probably bringing it on myself with too many chats on the go but don't think any are really interested in me. I'm thinking I'm the back up plan. Rant over...apologies :o

    +1..One of the guys I'm talking to now for about a month. Think I'll knock it on the head now as nothing concrete and I don't need a text messaging buddy :rolleyes:


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  • #342
    mood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Dolly Daydreams wrote: »
    +1..One of the guys I'm talking to now for about a month. Think I'll knock it on the head now as nothing concrete and I don't need a text messaging buddy :rolleyes:

    That happen me a one point as well. He cancelled our 'date' then continued to email for ages. I hinted at meeting up again but had to telling him that considering he had no intention of rearranging out 'date' and actually meeting I didn't want to hear from him again. Why waste someone time like that??? :confused:


  • #343
    Dolly Daydreams
    Registered Users Posts: 245 ✭✭Dolly Daydreams


    mood wrote: »
    That happen me a one point as well. He cancelled our 'date' then continued to email for ages. I hinted at meeting up again but had to telling him that considering he had no intention of rearranging out 'date' and actually meeting I didn't want to hear from him again. Why waste someone time like that??? :confused:

    Exactly.. The one I'm talking to said he has been on 3 dates from the site, so he's obviously open to meeting people (which he should given it's a dating website) Very frustrating..


  • #344
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    Got talkin to one or two, doesn't seem to be goin anywhere though, only so much effort you can make I suppose.

    A lot of taken ones on there too, surely if it's a dating site then its just for singles :confused:


  • #345
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Regardless of how hot or how great someone may be, if it looks like it'll only ever be a Facebook buddy/text friend, then I'm not interested. Those are great 'n' all, but you need the real deal to make it worth it.


  • #346
    andreac
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,000 ✭✭✭andreac


    Im the same, getting chatting to guys, after a few messages they just stop mailing :confused: I dont see why they bother to reply in the first place if they arent interested.

    I asked another if he wanted to meet this week, he said yeah, when and where. I said when i was free and to let me know what eve suited and havent heard back since, its really annoying.


  • #347
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    Booh .. who missed me :D

    it''s interesting to see some of the girls complaining that guys contact them 3 or 4 times, and then seem to loose interest .. dose that not say something about that they are a looking for or perhaps that they are not being 100% genuine ..

    I see the very same issue with women on there, you might tick all the box's start a conversation with a witty one liner, or two liner sentence .. get about 4 or 5 messages in they disappear, never to reply again ..

    Of course the worst offender is the weirdo guys, who sign up as girl's, i'm pretty sure this is to wind normal guy's up, ore perhaps to pick up a few opening line idea's .. who know ..


  • #348
    Christie Rainbows
    Registered Users Posts: 24 ✭Christie Rainbows


    ladylost wrote: »
    I'm really annoyed with online dating thing tonight. Think I should take a break from it. I am chatting with a few guys who all say they want to meet but are being evasive then when it comes to plans. Guy 2 cancelled the other evening only after I text to check if we were still meeting. He's still mailing me but no more talk of meeting up. Another guy keeps saying let's meet and then saying he's really busy.
    Dolly Daydreams wrote: »
    +1..One of the guys I'm talking to now for about a month. Think I'll knock it on the head now as nothing concrete and I don't need a text messaging buddy :rolleyes:
    Varied wrote: »
    Got talkin to one or two, doesn't seem to be goin anywhere though, only so much effort you can make I suppose
    andreac wrote: »
    Im the same, getting chatting to guys, after a few messages they just stop mailing :confused: I dont see why they bother to reply in the first place if they arent interested.I asked another if he wanted to meet this week, he said yeah, when and where. I said when i was free and to let me know what eve suited and havent heard back since, its really annoying.

    I am having the exact same experience as you guys! And know how ye feel!
    I am chatting to a guy for a while now, progressed to yahoo messenger, he even gave me his number to text, so I did the following eve after he gave it to me. He txted back straight away. Txting over and back for an hour. That was Tues last week. Haven't heard nothing since, although he did have a setback with his health 2 weeks ago, so I wonder should I give him space or txt again or send a msg on messenger?


  • #349
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    coco_lola wrote: »
    People that put up animals/cars on their profile...I actually have the following written on my profile:

    "If your profile contains a picture of a car/motorbike, I WILL assume you are a transformer".

    :pac:


    Ohh i saw that yesterday i think .. though it was kinda sweet .. something different bravo :)


  • #350
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    Christie Rainbows wrote: »
    I am having the exact same experience as you guys! And know how ye feel!
    I am chatting to a guy for a while now, progressed to yahoo messenger, he even gave me his number to text, so I did the following eve after he gave it to me. He txted back straight away. Txting over and back for an hour. That was Tues last week. Haven't heard nothing since, although he did have a setback with his health 2 weeks ago, so I wonder should I give him space or txt again or send a msg on messenger?

    If you think he's not feeling well it might be nice to send a text and ask him how he is. You'll have your answer fast enough after that. Hopefully it's the answer you want


  • #351
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    Christie Rainbows wrote: »
    I am having the exact same experience as you guys! And know how ye feel!
    I am chatting to a guy for a while now, progressed to yahoo messenger, he even gave me his number to text, so I did the following eve after he gave it to me. He txted back straight away. Txting over and back for an hour. That was Tues last week. Haven't heard nothing since, although he did have a setback with his health 2 weeks ago, so I wonder should I give him space or txt again or send a msg on messenger?


    I'm basing this reply on what you're written ..

    If you've already sent him a txt and are awaiting a reply, or if he's online and not msg's you .. it seems pretty suss, i'd keep looking ..


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