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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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  • #352
    Christie Rainbows
    Registered Users Posts: 24 ✭Christie Rainbows


    Thanks guys, ladylost I took your advice and sent him a txt :)

    he just replied and said thanks how was I... I replied and said I'll be on messenger tonight if he wants to chat... So I'll know then what the story is I guess


  • #353
    mood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Guys, a word of advice... put up a decent profile photo. You wouldn't believe the amount of profiles with very bad photo ie taken with a web cam / some so dark you can't see the person / some where the guy look grumpy or even aggressive / dangerous or just odd. How these guys think they look good and might attract a woman is beyond me.

    I'm sure some women could do with the same advice!


  • #354
    Christie Rainbows
    Registered Users Posts: 24 ✭Christie Rainbows


    mood wrote: »
    Guys, a word of advice... put up a decent profile photo. You wouldn't believe the amount of profiles with very bad photo ie taken with a web cam / some so dark you can't see the person / some where the guy look grumpy or even aggressive / dangerous or just odd. How these guys think they look good and might attract a woman is beyond me.

    I'm sure some women could do with the same advice!

    do you think a webcam pic is bad? It's the 1 I use!


  • #355
    mood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Christie Rainbows wrote: »
    do you think a webcam pic is bad? It's the 1 I use!

    I've never seen a good one. They are not flattering and most guys look very grumpy in a web cam photo. The same can be said for taking a photo your self with a camera at arm lenght.

    Surely you could use a photo you have on Facebook?


  • #356
    Christie Rainbows
    Registered Users Posts: 24 ✭Christie Rainbows


    mood wrote: »
    I've never seen a good one. They are not flattering and most guys look very grumpy in a web cam photo. The same can be said for taking a photo your self with a camera at arm lenght.

    Surely you could use a photo you have on Facebook?

    yeah I can see what you mean, well mine can't be too bad considering I've gotten messages! I guess it depends on the lighting and the expression


  • #357
    Northclare
    Closed Accounts Posts: 724 ✭✭✭Northclare


    I gave up plentyoffish went to ok Cupid but had way more flattering mail and interest on pof than ok Cupid.

    Nothing more of A turn off than a moody pic.


  • #358
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    God's sake someone with private pics messaged me on PoF saying they know me irl, but won't say who they are.

    Have to say it's kinda creepy.


  • #359
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    Herrick wrote: »
    God's sake someone with private pics messaged me on PoF saying they know me irl, but won't say who they are.

    Have to say it's kinda creepy.

    That's exactly why I refuse to put a pic up. Well one of the reasons...

    I have it on my profile that I'll send a pic on request, dunno if that's cutting a lot of ice!


  • #360
    mood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Varied wrote: »
    That's exactly why I refuse to put a pic up. Well one of the reasons...

    I have it on my profile that I'll send a pic on request, dunno if that's cutting a lot of ice!

    I wouldn't trust someone who hasn't a photo. They are probably married/in relationship or just don't have any b*lls. Not exactly someone I want to meet.


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  • #361
    ChtuluDawn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 60 ✭✭ChtuluDawn


    Herrick wrote: »
    God's sake someone with private pics messaged me on PoF saying they know me irl, but won't say who they are.

    Have to say it's kinda creepy.

    There is a setting on PoF that allows you to not receive messages from people unless they have a picture on public or they attach one to the initial mail.

    Comes in handy for rubbish like that.


  • #362
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    mood wrote: »
    I wouldn't trust someone who hasn't a photo. They are probably married/in relationship or just don't have any b*lls. Not exactly someone I want to meet.

    Yup, I'm married. *checks crotch* :eek: where are they?!?!


  • #363
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    Herrick wrote: »
    God's sake someone with private pics messaged me on PoF saying they know me irl, but won't say who they are.

    Have to say it's kinda creepy.

    That is kind of creepy and quite unfair too. Why contact you to say that!!


  • #364
    dub5
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭dub5


    I am trying to hide my profile on POF but cant figure out how to do it.

    Its say go to "edit profile" and under the users that are on line, click on hide your profile.

    I cant see anything at all to hide my profile.

    Anyone know?


  • #365
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    dub5 wrote: »
    I am trying to hide my profile on POF but cant figure out how to do it.

    Its say go to "edit profile" and under the users that are on line, click on hide your profile.

    I cant see anything at all to hide my profile.

    Anyone know?

    Click on the words "click here" ;)


  • #366
    dub5
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭dub5


    The only "click here" I see is....


    All Upgraded Memberships include Goldfish Credits! Click here to upgrade, or click here to purchase more Goldfish Credits.

    I dont want any goldfish!!!!!!


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  • #367
    Panthro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,824 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    dub5 wrote: »
    The only "click here" I see is....


    All Upgraded Memberships include Goldfish Credits! Click here to upgrade, or click here to purchase more Goldfish Credits.

    I dont want any goldfish!!!!!!
    Go into Edit Profile.

    See the row of pictures of matches at the top.

    Under it is the tabs:
    Edit Profile...View Your Profile...Mail Settings...Upload Images...Improve Your Profile

    Under those tabs is the sentence:
    "To hide your profile from others click here Hiding your profile removes you from all searches. "

    Scroll over "Click here" of that sentence.
    Click on it.
    The page should refresh and the sentence now becomes:
    "To unhide your profile from others click here Hiding your profile removes you from all searches."

    You are now "hidden".


  • #368
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    Panthro wrote: »
    Go into Edit Profile.

    See the row of pictures of matches at the top.

    Under it is the tabs:
    Edit Profile...View Your Profile...Mail Settings...Upload Images...Improve Your Profile

    Under those tabs is the sentence:
    "To hide your profile from others click here Hiding your profile removes you from all searches. "

    Scroll over "Click here" of that sentence.
    Click on it.
    The page should refresh and the sentence now becomes:
    "To unhide your profile from others click here Hiding your profile removes you from all searches."

    Took the words right outta my mouth Panthro :)


  • #369
    dub5
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭dub5


    Panthro wrote: »
    Go into Edit Profile.

    See the row of pictures of matches at the top.

    Under it is the tabs:
    Edit Profile...View Your Profile...Mail Settings...Upload Images...Improve Your Profile

    Under those tabs is the sentence:
    "To hide your profile from others click here Hiding your profile removes you from all searches. "

    Scroll over "Click here" of that sentence.
    Click on it.
    The page should refresh and the sentence now becomes:
    "To unhide your profile from others click here Hiding your profile removes you from all searches."

    You are now "hidden".

    Thanks Panthro, but under those tabs, i just have


    GOLDFISH CREDITS - With Goldfish credits, you can send gifts & find out if your messages were read!
    You currently have 0 Goldfish Credits
    All Upgraded Memberships include Goldfish Credits! Click here to upgrade, or click here to purchase more Goldfish Credits.


    I am confused


  • #370
    Panthro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,824 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    dub5 wrote: »
    Thanks Panthro, but under those tabs, i just have


    GOLDFISH CREDITS - With Goldfish credits, you can send gifts & find out if your messages were read!
    You currently have 0 Goldfish Credits
    All Upgraded Memberships include Goldfish Credits! Click here to upgrade, or click here to purchase more Goldfish Credits.


    I am confused

    Your comp's must be broke so my man!:D
    I'm having a gander here and I can't see any other way round it other than what I've posted.
    Send the site a sturdy email.

    Edit:
    I've had a look through their Help section. The way I've posted above is the only way to go about hiding.
    You sure that sentence above isn't on the edit profile page somewhere?


  • #371
    dub5
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭dub5


    Panthro wrote: »
    Your comp's must be broke so my man!:D
    I'm having a gander here and I can't see any other way round it other than what I've posted.
    Send the site a sturdy email.

    I mailed them earlier on, but no reply.

    I did "hide" profile before and it was through the way you told me.

    Just when I have made a decision to take a break from the on line dating, I cant!!!!


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  • #372
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    dub5 wrote: »
    I mailed them earlier on, but no reply.

    I did "hide" profile before and it was through the way you told me.

    Just when I have made a decision to take a break from the on line dating, I cant!!!!

    It doesn't say "unhide your profile" by any chance does it :P


  • #373
    dub5
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭dub5


    coco_lola wrote: »
    It doesn't say "unhide your profile" by any chance does it :P

    No, there is nothing about "hiding" or "unhiding". Its annoying me now


  • #374
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    dub5 wrote: »
    No, there is nothing about "hiding" or "unhiding". Its annoying me now

    Try another browser, clear your cache and cookies


  • #375
    Panthro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,824 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    coco_lola wrote: »
    It doesn't say "unhide your profile" by any chance does it :P

    Be careful what you answer here dub5 because I'm telling ya if it does...you are in line for this
    :D

    Try logging out and back in again to POF and see does that sentence come up under edit profile.


  • #376
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    Weird. Messaged a nice looking girl a few days ago. She was online since, no replies....until today.

    I asked did she want to see a pic and she said she's "not bothered, not all women are shallow"

    Sent the pic anyways and she says I look older than my age :pac: Never been told this, quite the opposite, and lots of winky faces too, maybe that's just her style though :P

    It's unusual. Seems too good to be true :pac:

    Feel atm like I'm in with a chance, and it feels good :P But whether it stays that way is another thing. :)


  • #377
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    Samich wrote: »
    Weird. Messaged a nice looking girl a few days ago. She was online since, no replies....until today.

    I asked did she want to see a pic and she said she's "not bothered, not all women are shallow"

    Sent the pic anyways and she says I look older than my age :pac: Never been told this, quite the opposite, and lots of winky faces too, maybe that's just her style though :P

    It's unusual. Seems too good to be true :pac:

    Feel atm like I'm in with a chance, and it feels good :P But whether it stays that way is another thing. :)

    Good luck man.

    Had a fun conversation with a crazy(in a good way) girl :D.

    I'm sceptical though as she hasn't asked for a pic.


  • #378
    dub5
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭dub5


    coco_lola wrote: »
    Try another browser, clear your cache and cookies

    ok, will give this a go
    Panthro wrote: »
    Be careful what you answer here dub5 because I'm telling ya if it does...you are in line for this
    :D

    lol

    Try logging out and back in again to POF and see does that sentence come up under edit profile.

    Have tried that but didnt work


  • #379
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    Back to square one. Haven't heard from any of them.

    Man this thing knocks your confidence a fair bit. People talk to you than just stop all of a sudden.


  • #380
    missbelle
    Registered Users Posts: 494 ✭✭missbelle


    Someone viewed me,oooh click to see profile... Someone I already heard from that I'm not interested in, who has changed their profile pic and user name...damn!!


  • #381
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    Varied wrote: »
    Back to square one. Haven't heard from any of them.

    Man this thing knocks your confidence a fair bit. People talk to you than just stop all of a sudden.

    It's a double edged sword! When things are going well it can really give you a confidence boost but when it all goes silent confidence goes through the floor!! :(


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  • #382
    Christie Rainbows
    Registered Users Posts: 24 ✭Christie Rainbows


    ladylost wrote: »
    It's a double edged sword! When things are going well it can really give you a confidence boost but when it all goes silent confidence goes through the floor!! :(

    Couldn't have put it better! that was good advice before, ladylost..
    Was chatting to him on messenger and he said he hasn't been in contact with me as it's unlikely he will get a job where he is and will have to look in other counties so he felt there was no point meeting up. I said I was disappointed and I got on with him the best. He said he feels a nice connection with me. Then I said I feel like I'm in limbo. He said we will talk about it tomorrow as he will be online. That was the end of the conversation.

    It would be different if he actually got a job somewhere else, but it's all ifs and maybes. When I think about it, I want to meet someone who really wants to meet me.


  • #383
    GrumPy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,561 ✭✭✭GrumPy


    Is anyone else's pof.com diverting to pof.fr and being delivered in French?

    Dunno what's up, but it keeps sending me to the French domain. Maybe it thinks I will have better look outside of Ireland. :o


  • #384
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    GrumPy wrote: »
    Is anyone else's pof.com diverting to pof.fr and being delivered in French?

    Dunno what's up, but it keeps sending me to the French domain. Maybe it thinks I will have better look outside of Ireland. :o

    Nope, mine is in English.. any chance you are logged in with your Google account and have French selected as a preference... tried clearing the cache and cookies*??


    *Thats the second time I've said that tonight, I feel like I'm a technical support rep for POF!


  • #385
    GrumPy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,561 ✭✭✭GrumPy


    coco_lola wrote: »
    Nope, mine is in English.. any chance you are logged in with your Google account and have French selected as a preference... tried clearing the cache and cookies*??


    *Thats the second time I've said that tonight, I feel like I'm a technical support rep for POF!


    Hmmm... Didn't fix it, and my inbox seems to be broken too! :pac:


  • #386
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    GrumPy wrote: »
    Hmmm... Didn't fix it, and my inbox seems to be broken too! :pac:

    You're popping up in my "people online" thing so you're deffo there... DAMN YOU FRENCH POF!!


  • #387
    GrumPy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,561 ✭✭✭GrumPy


    coco_lola wrote: »
    You're popping up in my "people online" thing so you're deffo there... DAMN YOU FRENCH POF!!

    "Mon profil"

    What the hell is mon profil?! *panics*


  • #388
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    I've been on OkCupid for about a month now. Have had three messages. The first was from a woman who commented on my username, it gave me something to talk about and seemed like a good way to start it. The second was a generic "hey, how are you?" type message which gave me nothing to go on. The third was via their IM where I ended up talking to someone for about two hours, which was nice.

    I've sent many a message myself but haven't had many replies. Maybe my messages just aren't good enough or something? I try to incorporate stuff from their profiles to show I actually read them.


  • #389
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    GrumPy wrote: »
    "Mon profil"

    What the hell is mon profil?! *panics*

    I'm going putting mine in French for funsies now.

    "FAIRE COUCOU" - That's a fun word!


  • #390
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    Varied wrote: »
    Back to square one. Haven't heard from any of them.

    Man this thing knocks your confidence a fair bit. People talk to you than just stop all of a sudden.

    Yep, seems that's happened with me and aforementioned girl :P

    She's online just hasn't replied :(


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  • #391
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    Samich wrote: »
    Yep, seems that's happened with me and aforementioned girl :P

    She's online just hasn't replied :(


    Follow up after a few days, if you dont chase you dont get..


  • #392
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    Hardonraging wrote: »
    Follow up after a few days, if you dont chase you dont get..

    If she's been online and hasn't replied then she's probably not interested. Or else playing games.


  • #393
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    ladylost wrote: »
    If she's been online and hasn't replied then she's probably not interested. Or else playing games.


    ahh i totally agree with you there, so many time wasters and weirdo's on there..


  • #394
    the_syco
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,305 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    Sees photo.
    Likes Photo.
    Spend a few minutes reading their profile.
    Think about messaging.
    Checks what they're looking for.

    "Looking for friends"

    Really??? On a dating sites? FUUUU!!! :pac:


  • #395
    Snowie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    the_syco wrote: »
    Sees photo.
    Likes Photo.
    Spend a few minutes reading their profile.
    Think about messaging.
    Checks what they're looking for.

    "Looking for friends"

    Really??? On a dating sites? FUUUU!!! :pac:

    looking for friends on a dating site in my opinion is like saying

    Im to cool to admit I'm looking for love :)


  • #396
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    Snowie wrote: »
    looking for friends on a dating site in my opinion is like saying

    Im to cool to admit I'm looking for love :)

    I'd just direct them to my other site...

    www.timewasters.com :cool:


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  • #397
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    Snowie wrote: »
    looking for friends on a dating site in my opinion is like saying

    Im to cool to admit I'm looking for love :)

    I don't get ya.

    Why do you think there's an option to look for friends if it's not allowed to be used for friends?? :confused::confused:


  • #398
    Snowie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    Samich wrote: »
    Snowie wrote: »
    looking for friends on a dating site in my opinion is like saying

    Im to cool to admit I'm looking for love :)

    I don't get ya.

    Why do you think there's an option to look for friends if it's not allowed to be used for friends?? :confused::confused:

    Because the web designer is trying to tick every single box.... Or the sites aim is...

    How ever I still believe. Dating site is a dating site... Never have I made a good friend through one... how ever I've made Tina of friends threw boards and clubs...

    But a dating site there's a lot of traffic to get through :)

    That's what I think and I've experienced! :)


  • #399
    newbee22
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 937 ✭✭✭newbee22


    After deleting a few weeks ago Im back again :rolleyes: Anyone want to write a profile for me? :P


  • #400
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    Hopefully you'll have a better exp than the rest of us! :P


  • #401
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    newbee22 wrote: »
    After deleting a few weeks ago Im back again :rolleyes: Anyone want to write a profile for me? :P

    You can have mine if you want... I get told often it's one of the funniest profiles they've seen... Then they start talking about becoming my sex slave, or otherwise getting all "relationshippy" after a few messages.. Kinda negates the first point :P


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