The worst punishment imposed by your parents

Mouldy Mary wrote: »

Giselle wrote: »

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And I don't believe for a minute that if people were fully aware of the extent of the abuse that they would have 'allowed' it to continue. Theres a huge difference between a people being effectively completely disempowered to intervene, and them choosing not to.

My mother and father knew well what was going on in orphanage. We used to get girls working for us in the shop on release from the orphanage. At that time if a parent was not keeping proper control of a child the child would be sent to the orphanage. My mother and father did not want us going in to the orphanage. If anything happened outside the house it would lead to a beating on the bare behind. It was the same in most families that I knew. A common punishment was tbe "farmyard gate". My mother didn't do it because it could leave a scar on the behind.

Mouldy Mary wrote: »

It was nothing like that. My mother got a report from the nuns that I had been seen talking to a boy from the Brothers school outside of the convent where I was going to school. My mother took me up to the bedroom and told me to remove my drawers so she could beat my behind with a cane. I refused as I hadn't been beaten on my behind since I was much younger. She told me a second time and I again refused. She called my father up from the yard and told him that I was defying her by refusing to remove my drawers. He grabbed me and threw me face down on the bed. He put my mother sitting on one of my arms. He then took off my shoes and socks and tied my feet to the top of the metal frame at the end of the bed. He looked at the cane my mother was going to use and said "too thick". He went off and came back after a few minutes. He started beating my bare feet and shouting "now will you remove your drawers". My mother was saying " Good man Jack" every time he struck a blow with the thin rod. I was screaming and trying to reach my drawers with my free hand but it was no good because I still had my pinafore on. My brothers and sisters could hear all the shouting and screaming and thought our mother and father had gone mad. In our house my father punished my brothers and my mother punished us. My mother nearly always beat us on the hands with a cane like at school. My father used a studded belt or sometimes a stick to wallop my brothers so beating the feet was very unusual. I don't think my parents meant it to be as severe as it was. They never did it again.

kneeler wrote: »

That was a very severe punishment. My parents never beat us on the hands or feet. It was always on the bare bottom. I would never have dared to defy my mother. She always announced at the start how many spanks were to be given. If there was any delay the punishment would be increased. You had 15 seconds to get into position once you were told to go over the scroll of the couch. that meant getting skirts up and knickers down rapidly without time to worry about the embarrassment or pain. Most parents that time would have dealt severely with defiance. They would think they had failed as parents if their children didn't obey them.

Mouldy Mary wrote: »

kneeler wrote: »

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The farmyard gate would nearly always break the skin, particularly if the caning was bein administered by a big strong farmer. There would often be a permanent mark. Sometimes it would be a double gate. Five across and one diagonal, followed by the same again.

That is just savage. How could any teenager have done anything bad enough to deserve that.

kneeler wrote: »

bath handle wrote: »

Mouldy Mary wrote: »

That is just savage. How could any teenager have done anything bad enough to deserve that.

It was often done for coming home late at night, smoking, drinking behaving boisterously and being seen with boys. What was worse was the "sign of the cross". Two diagonal strokes in an X at the end of a series of parallel strokes. I never went to dances till I was 21 because I was too afraid of coming home late or being reported for doing something wrong.

so for an absolutely trivial reason a person would have their bum made look like a raw hamburger ?