Username here wrote: » Do you have a finger?
neonsofa wrote: » Username here wrote: » Do you have a finger? I do not have a penis length finger
Sardonicat wrote: » Ah, you have a finger the length of some penises, surely?
neonsofa wrote: » I do not have a penis length finger
Deleted User wrote: » God I find this depressing. That anyone would have every guy she gets intimate with asking for anal sex ?? Really ? Surely on a ONS it’s just regular or oral sex? I’m a lot older. I’ve tried anal sex once or twice. It was always within a long term committed relationship. I found it a turn on and very intimate. If anything it brought us closer but I’d emphasize that’s because we were in a relationship and we were both turned on by it. It was very occasional , it takes much more time and prep , not something you can rush. Also with us it was more messing around sensual stuff rather than deep penetratitive anal sex. What I find depressing is that reading most posts it’s all about non committed one night stand stuff. Obviously I’m showing my age but I’d prefer no sex than that. Intimacy is incredibly arousing, nothing is off the cards when there is trust , I just couldn’t do that stuff with men I didn’t have an existing connection with. I’d hate to be 30 looking for a really good guy to fall in love with and have great meaningful sex with and a future with. Especially if they’re all looking for anal sex first time out !! Even though I’m older I’ve lots of male interest and I can keep guys interested by NOT jumping into bed with them. I’m no prude but anal sex and stuff like that is better within a relationship and with someone you’re already very intimate with and where things are completely mutual.
Deleted User wrote: » What I find depressing is that reading most posts it’s all about non committed one night stand stuff. Obviously I’m showing my age but I’d prefer no sex than that. Intimacy is incredibly arousing, nothing is off the cards when there is trust , I just couldn’t do that stuff with men I didn’t have an existing connection with. I’d hate to be 30 looking for a really good guy to fall in love with and have great meaningful sex with and a future with. Especially if they’re all looking for anal sex first time out !!
Javier Fierce Moon wrote: Oral sex is a perfectly pleasurable experience - once people keep themselves clean down there it's extremely enjoyable, it's not sore, you don't need lube. As with any sex act, best with someone you really like/love but how could something so pleasurable be unacceptable?
chicorytip wrote: » I think it's abominable. From my male perspective it would demonstrate a complete lack of respect toward my female sexual partner by expecting her to take into her mouth the organ with which I also urinate.
chicorytip wrote: » Javier Fierce Moon wrote: Oral sex is a perfectly pleasurable experience - once people keep themselves clean down there it's extremely enjoyable, it's not sore, you don't need lube. As with any sex act, best with someone you really like/love but how could something so pleasurable be unacceptable? I think it's abominable. From my male perspective it would demonstrate a complete lack of respect toward my female sexual partner by expecting her to take into her mouth the organ with which I also urinate.
Porklife wrote: » I love real true blue intimacy as much as the next guy and I would much rather have a guy whisper sweet nothings in my ear then whisper can I f*ck you in the a** but such is modern day dating. I find it depressing too. I hate that it's happened to me so many times. I've no issue with one night stands and back in the day, I never got asked this but nowadays it seems to be the done thing. i'm asking about the most recent guy because I really respect him and like him. We've been on a number of dates are are becoming closer by the day and I'm scared this may tarnish it. What if it doesn't live up to his expectations, what if it's messy and gross, what if it simply won't fit etc but I guess I should relax and go with the flow quite iterally when the time is right, which clearly isn't now as it's too soon and I'm too stressed out about it! Also, it has me wondering is he bored of regular sex already and if we go.. black (brown) will we never go back?! Will 'normal' sex seem dull in comparision?! who knew an asshole would bring up so many questions :pac::P
killanena wrote: » after a minute or so it's not much tighter then normal sex, if anything it's more restrictive if that makes any sense.
PukkaStukka wrote: » Great post. Today's world seems to be one where the increase in expectations is matched by a decrease in interpersonal values.
Porklife wrote: » who knew an asshole would bring up so many questions :pac::P
Wibbs wrote: » Nope, just questioning your logic. Depends on how one defines "natural". As for one's sexual preference it doesn't mean whatever one gets up to is automatically "natural". There are people gay and straight and whatever you're having yourself that get up to all sorts of stuff in the bedroom, some of it pretty out there and some of it risky. Some are into urethra "play" with various objects. Is that "natural" too? But, whatever one's sexual preference the fact is the anus is not designed for penetration with a penis. The walls are thinner and have no lubrication and even with artificial lube it's more likely to cause injury to the receiver, more likely to cause tears in the wall of the rectum and has higher risks of STD transmission, never mind bacteria that can cause all sorts of infections to both giver and receiver. If two people are into it then game ball, but the "natural" element is stretching things(Missus!!! Part III).
Wibbs wrote: » You kiss her with the mouth you eat with. Your hands are covered in bacteria most of the time and you and her will have those same hands all over each other's intimate bits. You're also the "organ you urinate" with into where any kids you have will pass through. And blood once a month etc.
skimpydoo wrote: » As a 48 year old guy I don’t see the attraction of Anal. The women goes through pain for my pleasure which makes me wonder how many guys on here would allow a woman to use a strap on with them? Be honest guys.
Wibbs wrote: You kiss her with the mouth you eat with. Your hands are covered in bacteria most of the time and you and her will have those same hands all over each other's intimate bits. You're also the "organ you urinate" with into where any kids you have will pass through. And blood once a month etc.
Pac1Man wrote: » And still, nobody has mentioned the prospect of a sh!tty willy, your GF's or not.
Sardonicat wrote: » OP, why are you even contemplating doing something you know you don't enjoy? Seriously ?
skimpydoo wrote: » Has anyone mentioned ATM something that does not turn me on.
sk8erboii wrote: » Lol? everyone 16-23 ish is eating ass these days
Sardonicat wrote: » Flavoured condoms?
skimpydoo wrote: » No ATM is when she sucks your mickey after anal.
sk8erboii wrote: » Yeah i know, im saying we've cut out the middle man
Deleted User wrote: » (Sorry I can’t highlight certain paragraphs on my iPad so quoting entire post ). You say you really respect this guy and like him. It’s a tough one, but no way would I entertain anal sex this soon. I’d want to know I could blow his brains by regular sex first, that he was really into me anyway , as a person, as well as sexually . I wouldn’t want to be an experiment . Stand up for what you want or don’t want. Stand up for yourself. If he walks he’s not worth it. If you’re just an experiment for him he can find that anywhere. Why would you do something to keep a guy if you’re not comfortable with it too. Why would you “respect “ him? I wouldn’t if he keeps pushing this . Talk to him, explain this, if he’s into you and respects you back he should understand .
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