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LGBT community exhibitionism

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  • 12-02-2012 10:53pm
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    glic71rods46t0
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    Hi all,
    Just wanted to get views from you guys/gals regarding LGBT people being too "in your face" in public acts of affection which, in my experience become acts of exhibitionism. I think its in bad taste regardless of whether its from straight couples or gay couples but I think that a lot of the gay community engage in this behaviour to provoke a response. Your thoughts?


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    James W
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    What do you mean, exactly? Give an example.

    Why should it provoke a response unless public decency is at issue?


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    glic71rods46t0
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    James W wrote: »
    What do you mean, exactly? Give an example.

    Why should it provoke a response unless public decency is at issue?

    In the pub - wearing the faces off each other, heavy petting etc.
    It gets noticed and is frowned upon (straight couples too) so the motive, in my opinion is deliberate seeking a reaction


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    L.Jenkins
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    Emmmm yeah. Go to any night club and you'll witness any straight couple wearing the face off each other. I wouldn't have a problem with a gay couple doing the same. Unless you're talking about full on dry humping.


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    glic71rods46t0
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    ItsThatManAgain wrote: »
    Emmmm yeah. Go to any night club and you'll witness any straight couple wearing the face off each other. I wouldn't have a problem with a gay couple doing the same. Unless you're talking about full on dry humping.
    I mentioned the pub but you change the venue to a night club and express your support.
    Any chance you might comment on the actual conversation? "Emmmm yeah" -??????????????????????????????????????


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    Annasopra
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    Hi all,
    Just wanted to get views from you guys/gals regarding LGBT people being too "in your face" in public acts of affection which, in my experience become acts of exhibitionism. I think its in bad taste regardless of whether its from straight couples or gay couples but I think that a lot of the gay community engage in this behaviour to provoke a response. Your thoughts?

    I don't think it's a big problem

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    baby and crumble
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    I am nearly 30 years old, and I have never in my life seen a gay couple doing anything more sexual in public than your average straight couple. Ever. I have, however, seen straight couples getting FAR more sexual than anyone ever should in public.


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    glic71rods46t0
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    baby and crumble wrote: »
    I am nearly 30 years old, and I have never in my life seen a gay couple doing anything more sexual in public than your average straight couple. Ever. I have, however, seen straight couples getting FAR more sexual than anyone ever should in public.
    Murphys law I guess - maybe you notice straight exhibitionism more than the gay variety ( an vice versa for me I guess). The "Ever" part of your post makes me think you need to get out more!;)


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    Pacifist Pigeon
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    Hi all,
    Just wanted to get views from you guys/gals regarding LGBT people being too "in your face" in public acts of affection which, in my experience become acts of exhibitionism. I think its in bad taste regardless of whether its from straight couples or gay couples but I think that a lot of the gay community engage in this behaviour to provoke a response. Your thoughts?

    It depends on what you mean by exhibitionism. If it's a simple kiss or holding hands in public, it should be viewed with the same contempt as a straight couple doing the same. Personally, it doesn't bother me (though I'm gay) but I don't see why a straight person should be so bothered with it either. Similarly, I'm not bothered by a straight couple kissing or holding hands in public.

    If, by exhibitionism, you're talking about public sexual acts, then I think that most of us would condemn that - it doesn't matter if you're straight or gay, it's downright indecent.


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    glic71rods46t0
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    mango salsa wrote: »
    I don't think it's a big problem
    No big problem for you or just in general? Or its ok for such exhibitionism?


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    Pacifist Pigeon
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    No big problem for you or just in general? Or its ok for such exhibitionism?

    Can you define what sort of exhibitionism you're talking about - just to be clear. Do you mean sexual acts, or just a mere kiss and holding hands? Please enlighten us.


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    Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »
    It depends on what you mean by exhibitionism. If it's a simple kiss or holding hands in public, it should be viewed with the same contempt as a straight couple doing the same. Personally, it doesn't bother me (though I'm gay) but I don't see why a straight person should be so bothered with it either. Similarly, I'm not bothered by a straight couple kissing or holding hands in public.

    If, by exhibitionism, you're talking about public sexual acts, then I think that most of us would condemn that - it doesn't matter if you're straight or gay, it's downright indecent.
    Yeah regular kissing/holding hand is ok in my book - the heavy petting is not for me - I agree with you - I don't care if its straight or gay - I posted here because, in my experience, its more common in gay couples


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    Annasopra
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    No big problem for you or just in general? Or its ok for such exhibitionism?

    It depends what you mean by exhibitionism

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    MagicMarker
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    Murphys law I guess - maybe you notice straight exhibitionism more than the gay variety ( an vice versa for me I guess). The "Ever" part of your post makes me think you need to get out more!;)
    I've genuinely never seen two members of the same sex, in the flesh, kissing each other. The fact that I've never seen this would mean I would be a hell of a lot more likely to notice it should it ever actually happen.

    Mods: I think you should do yourselves a favour here and check out i8jnzg4lkvdchs's posting history regard LGBT issues and just close this thread now.


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    glic71rods46t0
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    Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »
    Can you define what sort of exhibitionism you're talking about - just to be clear. Do you mean sexual acts, or just a mere kiss and holding hands? Please enlighten us.
    I was pretty clear in my earlier posts - please read them;)


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    Annasopra
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    Yeah regular kissing/holding hand is ok in my book - the heavy petting is not for me - I agree with you - I don't care if its straight or gay - I posted here because, in my experience, its more common in gay couples

    what is?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    baby and crumble
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    Murphys law I guess - maybe you notice straight exhibitionism more than the gay variety ( an vice versa for me I guess). The "Ever" part of your post makes me think you need to get out more!;)

    How is my opinion Murphy's Law? You asked a question, I answered it, and yet because my answer isn't what you're looking for, you scoff at it?


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    Pacifist Pigeon
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    Yeah regular kissing/holding hand is ok in my book - the heavy petting is not for me - I agree with you - I don't care if its straight or gay - I posted here because, in my experience, its more common in gay couples

    I think I'd echo baby and crumble here, I've never witnessed any excessive acts of "exhibitionism" by gay couples in public places - more so by straight couples though. Did you decide to post here based on a recent experience, or is it just a general observation?


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    Annasopra
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    I was pretty clear in my earlier posts - please read them;)

    Ok - so in your opinion heavy petting in public is much more common amongst gay/lesbian couples than heterosexual couples and you think that they only do this to get some sort of reaction?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    glic71rods46t0
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    baby and crumble wrote: »
    How is my opinion Murphy's Law? You asked a question, I answered it, and yet because my answer isn't what you're looking for, you scoff at it?
    No. I didn't scoff but your "Ever" comment was a bit rich - I would scoff at that!
    My Murphys law comment was explained in the rest of that post - please re-read


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    mango salsa wrote: »
    Ok - so in your opinion heavy petting in public is much more common amongst gay/lesbian couples than heterosexual couples and you think that they only do this to get some sort of reaction?
    Bingo!


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    Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »
    I think I'd echo baby and crumble here, I've never witnessed any excessive acts of "exhibitionism" by gay couples in public places - more so by straight couples though. Did you decide to post here based on a recent experience, or is it just a general observation?
    Yes, recent experience prompted my post but lifetime experience informed my post


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    baby and crumble
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    No. I didn't scoff but your "Ever" comment was a bit rich - I would scoff at that!
    My Murphys law comment was explained in the rest of that post - please re-read

    My 'ever' comment was to drive my point home. I also fail to see why my not seeing gay couples in exhibitionist behaviour engages Murphy's Law. Murphy's Law is stated as "If anything can go wrong, it will", which frankly makes no sense in this context.


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    peter barrins
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    This post has been deleted.


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    Annasopra
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    Ok well

    In my lifetime experience I have noticed some "exhibitionism" of gay couples and some of straight couples - So I would have to say in my experience I don't think that this is a major problem - I really don't believe that it's more common for gay couples to engage in "exhibitionism" than for straight couples to do so

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    Pacifist Pigeon
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    recent experience

    Elaborate please.


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    Pacifist Pigeon
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    peter barrins wrote: »
    This post has been deleted.

    Clearly the OP has never been to Temple Bar (excluding the area near George's Street) on a Friday/Saturday nights.


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    Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »
    Elaborate please.
    Will do but only in a limited way - 2 girls snogging and feeling each other up. It was an exhibition and yes, it got my attention and I looked - but soon as they saw me looking I got the hairies!


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    peter barrins wrote: »
    This post has been deleted.
    Ridiculous LOL. care to debate the issue or just engage in name calling like a child?


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    Annasopra
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    i8jnzg4lkvdchs wrote: »
    Will do but only in a limited way - 2 girls snogging and feeling each other up. It was an exhibition and yes, it got my attention and I looked - but soon as they saw me looking I got the hairies!

    Have you never seen a guy and a girl doing something similar? and also were you assuming these girls were doing what they were doing just to get a reaction?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    mango salsa wrote: »
    Have you never seen a guy and a girl doing something similar? and also were you assuming these girls were doing what they were doing just to get a reaction?
    if a straight couple did the same I would question their motivation, just like I am regarding gay couples and the amount of them who engage in such behaviour


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