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Trying to conceive/Planned parenthood/Assisted Reproduction Chat thread.

  • 15-02-2008 1:37am
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,890 ✭✭✭


    At the request of one of our regular posters here, I'm creating this thread for any people out there who are actively trying for a baby, are thinking about it in the not too distant future, those who are having trouble trying to conceive or anyone who is considering assisted reproduction techniques (IVF, ICSI, IUI, sperm or egg donation etc).

    I wanted this seperate from the Pregnancy thread as they are two very seperate voyages on the parenting journey, and for those who are having trouble getting pregnant it can be very taxing reading through many, many posts about pregnancy, new babies etc.

    I also realise that there are people out there who won't want to log in with their own usernames - ttc is a very personal journey and for those experiencing problems the notion that they may be identifiable on the internet even through usernames may stop them from coming here and looking for advice/information/support. Please don't think you can't post here - we're here to listen and try to support you all.

    Just to finally say : this is not a medical board, so please do not come onto this thread to ask for diagnoses or questions only your GP or OB/GYN can answer. Anyone offering unsolicited medical "diagnoses" will be banned from this forum. We are all here to offer advice, information, support and share our experiences, but we can't tell you why you aren't conceiving or what you should do next.

    -embee.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,900 ✭✭✭Quality


    Great thread Embee

    I am ttc at the moment.. I suffered a miscarraige last June and it was a very traumatic experience for me altogether.. I have two kids already, So I know I can carry a child and conceive. But I am still going to be extremely nervous this time round..


  • Registered Users Posts: 70 ✭✭Mind Hunter 85


    hi

    we're ttc no1
    we've been trying 15 months since on ectopic pregnancy .
    we've done 2 iui's one with clomid ,i'm on my second clomid round and iui no3 should be sunday but we'll know for sure after my scan on thursday evening.
    i went through a though a hard time a couple weeks back finding it hard to keep going ,we had a break cycle from meds and iui.
    but now i'm back and ready to go again with renewed optimism i do have age on my side [im in my 20s].

    so that all i think i've gone on too much already ,i was actually waiting for a thread like this to open up.
    thanks embee for creating it.


  • Registered Users Posts: 47 Chasing Cars


    I think this is a well needed thread.

    I have been trying for nearly a year now and am begining to get a liitle upset that it hasn't happened yet although logically I know I could be doing alot more to be helping the situation ie loosing weight eating more healthy food etc. I have arranged to get a fertility test done knowing that it is very lightly that I may not be ovulating and as I understand it there are a few things that can be done if that is the case.

    Trying to have a baby is very scary journey. You spend so long avoiding getting pregnant and then whe you do try you expect it to happen immediatly (the first month of trying I was so excited and was upset when it didn't happen). You then cop on to the fact that it might take awhile and relax hoping that nature will take its coarse but each month seams to fly by and nothing has happened. I know it takes an average of 6-12 mths but I am tired of waiting

    My sister has invited us up to dinner tonight and I have high suspisions that she is about to announce her own pregnancy, which is brilliant however I can't help but feel very jealous and I hope that I will be able to hide it when she does tell us. I honestly don't know how people that have been trying for years or know that they can concieve can hear other peoples good news without getting very down themselves.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,900 ✭✭✭Quality


    ASTA20 wrote: »
    hi


    but now i'm back and ready to go again with renewed optimism i do have age on my side [im in my 20s].

    .

    Hi Asta,
    I think it is important to stay positive and focused during times like these well done.., My friend conceived her son with Clomid, after two miscarraiges. I hope the scan goes well and that Sunday will be d day..
    I think this is a well needed thread.

    I have been trying for nearly a year now My sister has invited us up to dinner tonight and I have high suspisions that she is about to announce her own pregnancy, .


    Hi CC,
    I think the fertility test maybe the way to go at the moment, Diet and lifestyle can effect your fertility as well.... I am getting myself into a routine at the moment, (In training) Healthy eating, Exercises and clear and positive thoughts..

    Best of luck with your dinner tonight, I know it is difficult to hear other peoples news.. But try and stay focused and positive.

    ...................................................................................................

    As for Me, I should have been ovulating between the 13th and the 16th.... Fingers crossed!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,900 ✭✭✭Quality


    Has anyone here have experience with ovulation kits?

    Or would like to recommend one?>


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  • Registered Users Posts: 70 ✭✭Mind Hunter 85


    hi Quality

    sorry to see no-one wrote back to you earlier
    no one opk is really better than the other ,i used ovulation predicitor kits for 12 months and i've tried boots,clearblue,first response and internet ordered dip strip ones .
    if i had to recommend any if your splashing out i'd go first response ,but otherwise the cheap internet ones work absolutely fine never had a problem with them.

    i'm in the 2ww now after iui no3 ,4 days left til testing but i'm not hopeful ,its like every month i just have a feeling it didnt happen and i've never been wrong before ,but i guess there always a chance, if not on to the next cycle.

    ps always use ovulation test in the 10am-8pm time range ,some of the well known brands say test at any time but its not correct as lh surges only start in the morning and i think morning positives are usually from the surge from the day before so you'd have less time til ovulation than you think.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 419 ✭✭beaushalloe


    girls check out www.medicaltestcentre.ie great irish online store for hpts, ovulation, fertility tests, preseed etc. it guarentees next day delivery and accepts laser.


  • Registered Users Posts: 17 barnmouse


    Hi, a great idea to have a separate thread for this!

    I've been trying to conceive for 6 months now. I've just started using OVP kits that I bought on Ebay. They seem to work, although they indicate ovulation on about day 16 for a 26-28 day cycle, I would have thought this was too late?? Who knows, we decided to try every two days between day 10-20 anyway.

    Anyone else feeling frustrated by the monthly disappointment??
    Also, is it just me or when you're ttc does every woman you meet seem to become pregnant?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,900 ✭✭✭Quality


    Hey girls,

    Asta thanks for your lovely advice last week, sorry, I didnt reply last week but I had just found out that I am now pregnant, So wasnt sure what to write, I am only 6 weeks 3 days, and after my miscarraige last June at 8 weeks 4 days, I am a nervous wreck. Just want to wish you all the very best of luck.

    I hope you get some good news soon. Lets hope to a happy healthy 2008 for us.!!


  • Registered Users Posts: 17 barnmouse


    Congratulations Quality!!!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 40 ag1975


    Anyone else feeling frustrated by the monthly disappointment??
    Also, is it just me or when you're ttc does every woman you meet seem to become pregnant?[/QUOTE]



    You can sing that.. I've had at least 4 good friends who are pregnant in the last few months. I've been off the pill since oct/nov. I bought the Ovulation kit off ebay the dip stick one and a load of early pregnancy tests (patience is not one of my virtues). I try not to get disspointed when I get the negatives but its hard. I have only really been trying hard the last 2 months but I just don't get that if you have intercourse everyday around the time you are ovulating why it doesn't happen. Silly me thought it was that cut and dry! I know if I was trying to avoid it i'd get caught!! This is a great thread by the way...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 419 ✭✭beaushalloe


    congratulations quality! hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months, keep us informed of how your getting on!:D:D:D


  • Registered Users Posts: 70 ✭✭Mind Hunter 85


    congratulations Quality:D,

    glad you didnt need the ovulation tests and i hope everything goes well with a worry free pregnancy.

    to the others the monthly disappointment seems to get harder each time
    i've now had 3 unsuccesful iui's taking a break from them now.
    we just have to hope and trust our times will come


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2 No Problem Kid


    Hello,

    Has anyone used this organisation - http://www.manchesterfertility.com/?

    Can anyone recommend a Dublin based centre for fertility tests?

    thanks in advance.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4 FuzzyDuck


    Hi all!

    Im new to boards, and just wanted to say this is a great thread! Myself and the other half have just started ttc. Im so excited, but nervous at the same time - I had an ectopic pregnancy almost 6 years ago, and have been on the pill ever since. Doc says it can take 12-18 months of trying but im so impatient!!!!! (I am only off the pill one month......) Its nice to hear there are others out there feeling like I am also.

    Good luck and hugs to everyone! :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37 poukai


    Hi all,

    I'm kind of new here, my husband and I have just moved to Dublin, and we have been TTC for the last 4 years. We know we need IVF, as I have bad PCOS, and I wondered if anyone here could recommend a place/doctor in Dublin that has a good reputation for it. We have already been through all the tests & Co. before we moved, we really just need to start up the process here...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19 suesuss


    Hi all my sister and her husband have been trying for two and a half years now, were very close and i know how heartbroken she is every time she,s let down. She has severe Endemetriosis, she tried Clomid for a while to no avail she suffers excruitiating periods and they only got worse. She had a large cyst removed from her ovary in January which helped regulate her cycle from 35 days to 30 and reduce her period pain. She has just done her second IUI wh ich hasn,t worked she got a serious infection from the procedure, she has decided to have a break and has a appointment in July to start IVF so i,ll be praying for her until then i then she is really due some luck. Good luck and best wishes to everyone going through the same.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 40 ag1975


    over the last few months I usually get a positive on the ovulation dip sticks i bought online.. this usually happens on a tuesday. on most occaisons we have done the dance on monday night but just because of the way things have worked out recently one or the other of us have been away on the tues and wed night. loking forward it might be like that for the next month or 2, so my question is, how likely is it that i will have any luck, if i get the positive on a tuesday, does that mean i am ovulating at that time or that i will be in the next 36 hours. i've been trying for the last 6 months but realistically prob have ever managed to be at home together once on the day after I got the positive!! I know some of you say we should be trying harder but so much has happened unexpectedly recently.. thanks in advance. i'm getting disheartened.


  • Registered Users Posts: 88 ✭✭rusalka


    ag1975: the ovulations sticks measure an LH surge as your body prepares to ovulate. This surge is normally detectable 12 - 36 hours before ovulation actually happens, so really, if you want to maximise your chances of conception, you guys should be trying to do the dance from the time of your positive test onwards.

    It's possible the sperm could survive from the Monday, if all the conditions were right physiologically, but you'd probably have better odds DTD from the Tuesday onwards.

    Bear in mind, though, that a positive ovulation test does not guarantee that ovulation will actually occur - some women (particularly if they have an excess of oestrogen) can have many LH surges, without actually popping an egg, so it might be a good idea to start monitoring your other fertile signs, or to get the doctor to confirm you are ovulating with some bloods if you're particularly anxious about getting pregnant quickly.

    HTH


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,216 ✭✭✭mel123


    Has anyone gone to the chinese/herbal shops and tried anything for fertility? There is one i pass by most days, which has a big sign in the window, but not sure if i am wasting my money. Been trying for a year now with no luck. Can the doctor prescribe Clomid or do you have to go to a specialist?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,900 ✭✭✭Quality


    mel123 wrote: »
    Has anyone gone to the chinese/herbal shops and tried anything for fertility? There is one i pass by most days, which has a big sign in the window, but not sure if i am wasting my money. Been trying for a year now with no luck. Can the doctor prescribe Clomid or do you have to go to a specialist?


    A friend of mine had some accupunture for fertility problems, she got pregnant during the time of the treatment, Might help?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,458 ✭✭✭CathyMoran


    Just got my periods back last week after chemo, was over the moon about it as I was told that there was a 50% chance that they would not come back on my particular chemo. Not allowed to get pregnant yet but planning for next year. My mum was able to plan us so hopefully we will be as lucky.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,900 ✭✭✭Quality


    CathyMoran wrote: »
    Just got my periods back last week after chemo, was over the moon about it as I was told that there was a 50% chance that they would not come back on my particular chemo. Not allowed to get pregnant yet but planning for next year. My mum was able to plan us so hopefully we will be as lucky.


    Hi cathymoran,
    That is wonderful news.... I suppose you never really think that someone would be happy to get their periods, but in your case I am sure it was a celebration:D!

    Can I ask you why the doctor wont allow you to start trying yet?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,458 ✭✭✭CathyMoran


    Quality wrote: »
    Hi cathymoran,
    That is wonderful news.... I suppose you never really think that someone would be happy to get their periods, but in your case I am sure it was a celebration:D!

    Can I ask you why the doctor wont allow you to start trying yet?
    You are right, I never though I would be delighted to have my periods back as they were so painful but I cried when I found it. It was the day before my husbands birthday so no sex for him that weekend but we were both over the moon.

    The doctors do not want us to try for a baby yet for three reasons - 1) You are supposed to wait 2 years after receiving chemo as it is toxic 2) The cancer has the highest chance of coming back within two years and 3) The surgery that I had was very tough so my body would not be able to cope yet.

    I love your signature by the way and have been watching your progress - well done.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,900 ✭✭✭Quality


    CathyMoran wrote: »
    You are right, I never though I would be delighted to have my periods back as they were so painful but I cried when I found it. It was the day before my husbands birthday so no sex for him that weekend but we were both over the moon.

    The doctors do not want us to try for a baby yet for three reasons - 1) You are supposed to wait 2 years after receiving chemo as it is toxic 2) The cancer has the highest chance of coming back within two years and 3) The surgery that I had was very tough so my body would not be able to cope yet.

    I love your signature by the way and have been watching your progress - well done.

    Well please god you'll have good results next year and plenty of fun trying!

    I have watched your story also and I think you are a very brave lady.

    Re the ticker... Thanks a million, I have finally started to relax and enjoy my pregnancy now. I havent taken it for granted for one second this time round.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,458 ✭✭✭CathyMoran


    Being honest, we are both broody as anything and cant wait to have our own child. Up until 2 weeks ago we were talking about starting adoption proceedings next February, though we still want to adopt. I so want a child who is as good looking as my husband was when he was a baby. Sorry, you can not begin to imagine how happy I was last weekend, even though I was in agony! To be able to look at babies and plan your own baby is one of the most amazing things possible.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,392 ✭✭✭TequilaMockingBird


    ASTA20 wrote: »
    hi

    we're ttc no1
    we've been trying 15 months since on ectopic pregnancy .
    we've done 2 iui's one with clomid ,i'm on my second clomid round and iui no3 should be sunday but we'll know for sure after my scan on thursday evening.
    i went through a though a hard time a couple weeks back finding it hard to keep going ,we had a break cycle from meds and iui.
    but now i'm back and ready to go again with renewed optimism i do have age on my side [im in my 20s].

    so that all i think i've gone on too much already ,i was actually waiting for a thread like this to open up.
    thanks embee for creating it.

    I know this is a relatively old post, but just to let you know, I too had an ectopic pregnancy (lost a fallopian tube) and tried for years. I finally gave up, and bingo, then it happened. The very best of luck to you, because that all it is - luck.


  • Registered Users Posts: 70 ✭✭Mind Hunter 85


    Hi Sueme

    never thought someone would bring my post up after this long,
    just was checking to see what new posts there was.
    Well i'm still trying [sort of] at the time of that post i did my 3rd iui ,then i've been on a break from meds, doctors ,the lot, for the last four months and i relaxed a lot about this whole trying thing .
    Won't be doing anything except normal trying for the next few months as well.
    Nice to hear a success story hopefully i'll have a success story of my own sooner or later.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,392 ✭✭✭TequilaMockingBird


    ASTA20 wrote: »
    Hi Sueme

    never thought someone would bring my post up after this long,
    just was checking to see what new posts there was.
    Well i'm still trying [sort of] at the time of that post i did my 3rd iui ,then i've been on a break from meds, doctors ,the lot, for the last four months and i relaxed a lot about this whole trying thing .
    Won't be doing anything except normal trying for the next few months as well.
    Nice to hear a success story hopefully i'll have a success story of my own sooner or later.


    The very, very best of luck to you. :) I had really given up, I had decided to concentrate on my life as opposed to a babies. I know the night I got pregnant, I was rip-roaring drunk and taking antibiotics and a steroid inhaler. :eek: If I had thought there was any possible chance of getting pregnant I obviously wouldn't have wanted it to be in those circumstances. But it happened, and I thank my lucky stars everyday.

    Fingers crossed for you.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 209 ✭✭deemy


    Hi all. great forum. we been trying for about a year or so. It is a bit dissapointing every month but trying not to get too upset. Just come to the conclusion that if its going to happen it will and there is no point stressing about it. I just checked out the medicaltestcentre.ie site. The bulk packs seem very cheap. Anyone used them?? And as another poster said about the ovulation test, the best time to use them is between 10 am and 8pm which i found out after spending a small fortune on first response tests and moved onto the boots own brand ones. Been taking my temp every morning also but there seems to be no pattern at all each month with that. My sleeping pattern is not great anyway so I guess thats why.
    We'll keep plodding on:)


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Arts Moderators, Entertainment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 16,647 CMod ✭✭✭✭faceman


    Hi all, although im a bloke i would like to offer some advice that may be of use. It may be contrary to some of the comments here already but hopefully some of it may be of use to some people.

    Despite what we are told in schools, it is as many of you know, a very difficult thing to do when couples are actually planning it. although there are books and books on the topic, when trying it really comes down to doing a few things.

    Age plays a big part in fertility. Depending on what age you are will depend on how long a couple will need to be trying before a doctor will provide "next step" assistance

    Re diet, health etc. Having a healthy lifestyle does help but its not the be all and end all. Its ok to have a drink while trying as long it is within moderation. Binges can affect a man big time and will reduce his potency for 2-3 days following a session.

    The trying bit. It is recommended to try every 2-3 days throughout the woman's cycle. (a guy needs some time for supplies to replenish to a good level) Even when not ovulating couples should be trying. to be honest, all an ovulation kit is really good for is to tell you that you do ovulate. Its not reliable for telling you the exact moment you should try as to guarantee conception. Bare in mind that it can also takes a varying number of days from making love to the point of conception. Using the kits as an indicator as when to try for a baby, can end up you not trying at other times of the month.

    Stress plays a massive part on the whole event. Many couples after months of trying start to see trying as a chore and it can become a stress and worry, therefore impacting couples ability to conceive. The act of trying for a baby should be fun!

    Best of luck to all of you who are still trying.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 44 Chitterchatter


    Im wondering has anybody here gone down the route of fertility testing??

    We'd been TTC for 24 cycles now (19 months) and starting to lose hope...


  • Registered Users Posts: 46 Glittergirl


    Hi all
    Myself and my husband have been trying for 2 years now. Last Sept 2007, we went to a fertility expert and we took femera and a hcg trigger and low and behold ... we got preggers!! Howerver, in Jan 2008, I had a miscarriage which was very traumatic! The Dr told me to wait for 2 months before trying again. Anyway, we tried again with a cycle of femara and it did not work. Tried a second time with femara and I am due my period any day. Have to say ... I don't think I am pregnant as I don't feel any symptoms at all (i.e. had very heavy breasts when I pregnant in Dec/Jan) so looks like it's not going to happen again. I really didn't think I'd have to go down the route of IVF. Not sure what to do now!!!!?? Any suggestions out there???


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Have you tried detoxing and you both trying an organic diet for a few months ?
    I know it was something that was a hlep for a family memember.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,900 ✭✭✭Quality


    A friend of mine tried accupuncture, She thinks it worked for her..

    Best of luck.. and enjoy trying.:D


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  • Registered Users Posts: 46 Glittergirl


    Hi there Quality .. yes I've heard acupuncture is good. Maybe I"ll try that on my next cycle.

    Actually my doctor arranged for me to go and have a hystero-salpingography (HSG) this morning - to declog your fallopian tubes (if necess). Anyway, did that (which is absolutely excruciating pain - but only for about 5 mins) and the doctor said that I did have some mucous blockage and it's all clear now! Maybe it was from the D&C I had in Jan?

    Anyway, fingers crossed for next month as maybe my fallopian tubes are fee and ready for some action!!!

    See ya.


  • Registered Users Posts: 46 Glittergirl


    Hi Chitterchatter
    I would suggest you get thee hence quickly to a fertility Dr. We did and we found out that my hormone levels were low. She put me on femara and hey presto, the first cycle, I got pregnant! Now ... howerver ... I did miscarry after 10 weeks, but that is not the point.

    There maybe some small thing wrong and they are experts afterall.

    Good luck!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,900 ✭✭✭Quality


    Hi there Quality .. yes I've heard acupuncture is good. Maybe I"ll try that on my next cycle.

    Actually my doctor arranged for me to go and have a hystero-salpingography (HSG) this morning - to declog your fallopian tubes (if necess). Anyway, did that (which is absolutely excruciating pain - but only for about 5 mins) and the doctor said that I did have some mucous blockage and it's all clear now! Maybe it was from the D&C I had in Jan?

    Anyway, fingers crossed for next month as maybe my fallopian tubes are fee and ready for some action!!!

    See ya.

    Ahh Glittergal, Everything seems to be all set to go for you now!!
    Try and focus on the positive.
    And enjoy all the action you can get;);)!!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 419 ✭✭beaushalloe


    glittergirl, just wondering what hormones were low? what did they check?, by the way good luck on your journey, what a fab positive attitude you have!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,216 ✭✭✭mel123


    I was using first response, and they never worked for me. Only when i went to the doctor and told her that they never indicated that I was ovulating, she said try another brand (like obvious u would think i would think of that). Anyway, i went to ebay and bought a pack of about 20 there and they were only like 7 euro - a big difference from the chemist. Low and behold they work fine so going to try them for a few months. If anyone wants the sellers name they can PM me, i would recommend them.

    Also, for those TTC, how many times are u doing the biz when u are ovulating? I know it only takes one go, but should i be at it like a rabbit :)


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  • Registered Users Posts: 46 Glittergirl


    Hi beaushalloe. They checked my FHS levels and they were slightly below the normal level. The femara they gave me seemingly balances this out and increases the hormones.

    Good Luck!


  • Registered Users Posts: 46 Glittergirl


    Hi Mel123. Our doctor told us to "do the business" for 6-8 days straight from the day that your ovulate!! Can be a bit knackering!! Also, seemingly better if you do it in the mornings as the sperm is at it's best quality etc.

    Good Luck!


  • Registered Users Posts: 46 Glittergirl


    Hi Quality. Bad news I'm afraid. Got results of husbands sperm test and his levels are very low (6million - the normal is 20million)

    He is taking vit c, multivitamins etc. but it's quite a blow and we are trying to pick ourselves up from this news. Waiting to hear back from the doctor but we will probably have to go for IUI or IVF now.

    Really didn't think we would have to do IVF. I've heard it can be quite traumatic, both physically and emotionally!

    So there you go. Fingers crossed, eh?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3 dreamers


    I'm a bit late into this conversation but glad to see it none-the-less!

    I too am about to embark on the ttc journey and am absolutely terrified. A number of years ago I lost an ovary and tube due to a cyst. Then I got pg last year after almost a year of ttc. I was so excited and after the first 12 weeks past thought I was on the home run. I had a beautiful little boy at almost full term but he died shortly after he was born due to a genetic condition. It was so so devastating, and is something I dont think we will ever get over.

    I've since been through almost 9 months of waiting for genetic counselling and have only recently got the go-ahead to try again. We've been told we have up to a 15% chance of losing another child in the same way.

    But I have to try again. I still want to have a living child so badly. Its such a long hard road to get there though. And the fear of losing another child is so great.


  • Registered Users Posts: 46 Glittergirl


    Hi Dreamers

    Wow, you have had it hard, eh? Sorry to hear. Well chin up girl cause there is always hope. My cousin was in the exact same position as you and she and her husband had a genetic situation as well. The first child unfortunately died about 2 weeks after it was born, which they were devistated about. Howerver, there is always a silver lining. They also had a certain percentage chance of losing another child, howerver, they now have had two beautiful healthy children and are extremely happy.

    So, the best of luck to you dreamers and keep on hoping. That's what I'm doing anyway!

    See ya.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3 dreamers


    Thanks glittergirl

    That is such a lovely story. Gives me hope which I definitely need! Its so sad hearing about so many people who find it difficult to become parents...whatever the prob is. I get so envious (and angry too I must admit!) of those who seem to pop out kids with no hassle at all. But when I hear stories like that of people who've been through the mill too, I think wow they really deserve happiness.

    Oh well I guess we just all have to hope we will get such happiness too someday.

    Thank again


  • Registered Users Posts: 497 ✭✭Aisling&M


    Hi,
    I'm Aisling and I'm infertile :)
    i've got mild PCOS and rare ovulation and have been TTC for 2.5 years. I've had 2 chemical pregnancies. It's been a rough journey but we're still on the path and hoping.
    I'm doing acupuncture at the moment and waiting a while before going down the Glucophage/Clomid treatment. I tried it in February and it affected me pretty badly but it's worth it if the alternative treatments don't work first.
    Good luck to everyone.

    p.s. I'm also an artist and doing portrait-style paintings about Infertility like the one below. If anyone else would like to sit for a painting for me I'd love to hear from you. I have only really done the distraught emotion side of it so far but it'll also have hopeful/aspirational pieces. I'm not making any money for it, just trying to use this experience and my abilities to maybe have an exhibition to promote awareness of Infertility.[IMG][/img]232323232%7Ffp53383%3Evq%3D3277%3E%3A33%3E992%3EWSNRCG%3D32379259959%3A8vq0mrj


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  • Registered Users Posts: 46 Glittergirl


    Hi all

    As I mentioned in my last thread ... we got bad news about my husband's sperm count as it was only 6 million (after washing). Anyway, he's been very good for the past month, cut out a lot of alcohol, taking vitamins etc. and low and behold .. he did a test yeaterday and the sperm count has tripled to 18 million. Hurrayyyy.

    Anyway, had my first IUI yesterday and it went great. Very painless altogether. We are doing a second one today so fingers crossed.

    Good luck to everyone!


  • Registered Users Posts: 70 ✭✭Mind Hunter 85


    Thats Great news Glittergirl:D
    i myself have seen the affects vitamins and lifestyle changes can make a dramatic difference in Dh's sperm counts. If husbands been good for a month now you can probably expect his counts to improve even more over the next months if he keeps the good work up obviously.
    I noticed your doing back to back iui as in two in one cycle ,can i ask how far apart there being timed after the hcg injection ?
    I'm curious i've done three iui's but no doubles in one month so i'm wondering how there timed.
    Good luck to you really hope this is your lucky cycle .


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