Why are you single?

cafecolour · 05-04-2010 1:16pm #1

The settling thread has gotten me thinking. Folks that are single, why? By choice or because you have met the right person yet?

I'm single. Mostly but not entirely by choice. I do enjoy being single, so I'm not looking that hard. I enjoy relationships in theory (and have had several that lasted for 1-2 years), but in practice I think I'm massive commitment-phobe. Anytime I date someone, I run for the hills at the the first sign of drama or complication.

Redlion · 05-04-2010 1:20pm

my inability to communicate with people in a manner other than AH

05-04-2010 1:21pm

I chose two contradictory options but they both make sense on different days.

bazmaiden · 05-04-2010 1:22pm

my g/f of nearly 5 years broke up with me last week and that is why i'm single anyway

brummytom · 05-04-2010 1:24pm

Why?

1. My face
2. My body
3. My personality

TheKells · 05-04-2010 1:24pm

Because the girls run at first sign of seriousness/drama, but they were so far apart I picked the "can't meet people" option.

Schism · 05-04-2010 1:24pm

Hey this poll's fun for everyone, even the polygamists can have a go

Schism · 05-04-2010 1:26pm

brummytom wrote: »

Why?

1. My face
2. My body
3. My personality

Your self esteem? Buck up Tom, you're being hard on yourself.

4zn76tysfajdxp · 05-04-2010 1:26pm

brummytom wrote: »

Why?

1. My face
2. My body
3. My personality

Well... at least you can change your personality.

orourkeda · 05-04-2010 1:28pm

I'm fat, ugly, broke, unemployed and have a hankering for redtube. That might be a problem for some chicks

Otherwise it's a big giggidy.

cafecolour · 05-04-2010 1:28pm

Mario Full Coroner wrote: »

Well... at least you can change your personality.

I think you can pretty much change all three at this point, given enough time, money, and effort.

bonerm · 05-04-2010 1:29pm

Makes it easy for me to continue my night-time vigilantism.

Red Hand · 05-04-2010 1:29pm

Cause I'm ugly on the inside and ugly on the outside.

The_Minister · 05-04-2010 1:30pm

Why is the world trying to depress me on my birthday?

Could this not have waited till tomorrow?

NothingMan · 05-04-2010 1:31pm

brummytom wrote: »

Why?

1. My face
2. My body
3. My personality

It can be intimidating to be a beautiful, muscly, charismatic guy. But hold on in there and you'll find a girl who can handle all your charms. I did.

4zn76tysfajdxp · 05-04-2010 1:32pm

cafecolour wrote: »

I think you can pretty much change all three at this point, given enough time, money, and effort.

"Effort?"

That sounds difficult.

orourkeda · 05-04-2010 1:32pm

Nobody measures up to cytherea.

G-Money · 05-04-2010 1:32pm

I wouldn't mind seeing a girl. There's lots of attractive girls around, but very few who seem to trigger any kind of reaction in me. I'm talking the smallest percentage of the female population. I'm often just very "meh" over everything.

Not quite sure what my malfunction is actually. I don't think I've got insanely high standards or something.

Sea Sharp · 05-04-2010 1:33pm

Because I've been completely broke for the majority of the last year and I can't afford to go to clubs to meet new womenz.

bazmaiden · 05-04-2010 1:33pm

bonerm wrote: »

Makes it easy for me to continue my night-time vigilantism.

bravo sir, fantastic:D:D:D

actually lol'd

Red Hand · 05-04-2010 1:33pm

orourkeda wrote: »

Nobody measures up to cytherea.

Is that a venereal disease?

NothingMan · 05-04-2010 1:36pm

orourkeda wrote: »

Nobody measures up to cytherea.

Stoya is where it's at.

cafecolour · 05-04-2010 1:37pm

The_Minister wrote: »

Why is the world trying to depress me on my birthday?

Could this not have waited till tomorrow?

Eh. Birthdays are the worst time to be in a relationship. Your OH is either making more of a fuss than you'd like, or not making nearly enough of a fuss as you'd like.

orourkeda · 05-04-2010 1:37pm

Jeremiah 16:1 wrote: »

Is that a venereal disease?

Pornstar. She has quite an impressive party piece.

orourkeda · 05-04-2010 1:38pm

grandmaster wrote: »

I wouldn't mind seeing a girl. There's lots of attractive girls around, but very few who seem to trigger any kind of reaction in me. I'm talking the smallest percentage of the female population. I'm often just very "meh" over everything.

Not quite sure what my malfunction is actually. I don't think I've got insanely high standards or something.

It's nearly as bad when it goes the other way. When you get a bugle at the first sight of a female

lizardfudge · 05-04-2010 1:40pm

I have a tail that thrashes about when I get angry!

AckwelFoley · 05-04-2010 1:41pm

Im Getting married in a year or so.

I decided to get into a relationship because of the increase in price of electricity.

It was getting too costly to do my own washing, so i needed a woman to do all my washing by hand for me. Its rather good though... where else does your washing machine do your washing for you, cook as well - clean the house - and on top of that - you can ride it..

Telling you, value for money i say.

bazmaiden · 05-04-2010 1:41pm

orourkeda wrote: »

It's nearly as bad when it goes the other way. When you get a bugle at the first sight of a female

you get one of these?

http://davidelwell.com/scouting/bugler/cavalry-bugle.gif

cafecolour · 05-04-2010 1:42pm

grandmaster wrote: »

I wouldn't mind seeing a girl. There's lots of attractive girls around, but very few who seem to trigger any kind of reaction in me. I'm talking the smallest percentage of the female population. I'm often just very "meh" over everything.

I should've had a "I'm too picky." option on the poll - it def seems to be a common enough problem among a lot of the folks I know, especially lads of who spend a lot of time on the computer, playing video games, etc. I know it's pretty dime store sociology, but I do wonder if too much media consumption does lead to unrealistic expectations for real life.

super_furry · 05-04-2010 1:43pm

I'm just waiting for the restraining order to expire.

minidazzler · 05-04-2010 1:45pm

snyper wrote: »

Im Getting married in a year or so.

I decided to get into a relationship because of the increase in price of electricity.

It was getting too costly to do my own washing, so i needed a woman to do all my washing by hand for me. Its rather good though... where else does your washing machine do your washing for you, cook as well - clean the house - and on top of that - you can ride it..

Telling you, value for money i say.

I'm sure the Japanese are like a week away from inventing something like that....and it won't bitch and moan!

Novella · 05-04-2010 1:47pm

I'm single because I want to be. I haven't met anyone yet who I could see being in my life for a prolonged period of time and I couldn't be bothered 'dating' short-term. I guess I'm just waiting to find someone who makes the juice worth the squeeze.

G-Money · 05-04-2010 1:51pm

cafecolour wrote: »

I should've had a "I'm too picky." option on the poll - it def seems to be a common enough problem among a lot of the folks I know, especially lads of who spend a lot of time on the computer, playing video games, etc. I know it's pretty dime store sociology, but I do wonder if too much media consumption does lead to unrealistic expectations for real life.

You could be right. I'm not quite sure what it is with me though. I don't have this mentality where I'll only go after absolute supermodels and anything less is unacceptable. I mean occasionally I will meet a girl and there will be some sort of a surge of excitement when I first see her. It happened recently enough with a girl. The problem is that it happens so rarely and the girls it does happen with, for whatever reason are either uninterested or unavailable.

And I'm not talking girls who are supermodels either. This most recent girl was a normal girl, dressed quite conservatively, but just something about her did it for me.

I guess I just wish that would happen more often with single girls who have the same reaction when they see me.

Lia_lia · 05-04-2010 1:54pm

Because I'm a playa.

Nahh.

Just don't really want to be in a relationship. Well, I wouldn't mind it. But I'm not seeking it out or anything.

Lia_lia · 05-04-2010 1:55pm

grandmaster wrote: »

You could be right. I'm not quite sure what it is with me though. I don't have this mentality where I'll only go after absolute supermodels and anything less is unacceptable. I mean occasionally I will meet a girl and there will be some sort of a surge of excitement when I first see her. It happened recently enough with a girl. The problem is that it happens so rarely and the girls it does happen with, for whatever reason are either uninterested or unavailable.

And I'm not talking girls who are supermodels either. This most recent girl was a normal girl, dressed quite conservatively, but just something about her did it for me.

I guess I just wish that would happen more often with single girls who have the same reaction when they see me.

Well you sound like a nice guy!

Wibbs · 05-04-2010 1:58pm

Novella wrote: »

I guess I'm just waiting to find someone who makes the juice worth the squeeze.

Good line. *nicks same*

gonnaplayrugby · 05-04-2010 1:58pm

idk really, i have no confidence with girls

and theres only 1 girl i want to be with

yermandan · 05-04-2010 2:00pm

I jump in too much too soon and that has scared the most recent girl away!!! Not a bad thing though because I know what not to do now and am addressing why I do it in the first place!!

My guess is that to be with a significant other is something that I really enjoy and I rarely find someone worth taking the risk with, so I tend to go a bit overboard in the beginning...

If the tables were turned and she was that way with me then I'd probably react the same way!

Its the most confusing area of life for sure

Shanotheslayer · 05-04-2010 2:03pm

Currently single atm, usually **** up relationships myself, by having trust issues, so I don't really bother so just go from woman to woman casually

Sisko · 05-04-2010 2:10pm

Can't stand the whole 'chatting up in a bar' bullshit/ mating ritual thing.

Girl sitting around in a bar looking pretty. Guy must approach and then impress her within a limited time limit by a combination of buying drinks and witty banter/bull**** etc. Girl judges guy by appearance/cloths personality traits and willingness to spend money before deeming them sexual compatible.

Its really not all that different to the stuff that goes on in the wild

:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7dx2CUMtZ-0

Thus I decided I'd rather just get to know someone and see how things go from there, unfortunately that never happens. I blame single sex schools and growing up in an area where all the chicks are 'howaya howaya's' :mad:

GTE · 05-04-2010 2:14pm

Porn.

G-Money · 05-04-2010 2:16pm

Lia_lia wrote: »

Well you sound like a nice guy!

Thanks.

Abi · 05-04-2010 2:19pm

I could easily go under a few of the options tbh. I'm seperated from my ex, and I have seen other people since we seperated. I don't actually know what I want. Maybe its because I have had a rough time with my ex (and thats still an ugly mess) that I'm afraid to more than like someone. It scares me a bit then I push people away. Stupids I know =/

Nokem · 05-04-2010 2:19pm

I'm Single atm because ex couldnt handle things going on in my life and wanted me to put her No.1 in my life ahead of family and career, i wasnt prepared to do that so back on the scene and loving it!:D

Lone Stone · 05-04-2010 2:27pm

Single due to Socialy Crippling Panic Disorder :eek: Altho i do get asked out a fair bit just ya know... thought of going place's = dooooooooooommmm

gonnaplayrugby · 05-04-2010 2:32pm

actually how do ya guys move on? i mean ive never been with this girl or anything but shes the girl ill always remember. i dont think i will ever feel same way about someone?

Abi · 05-04-2010 2:38pm

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

actually how do ya guys move on? i mean ive never been with this girl or anything but shes the girl ill always remember. i dont think i will ever feel same way about someone?

Jesus. will you just ask her out already, and put us all out of our misery

Here, give me her number - I'll facking do it for you!

epgc3fyqirnbsx · 05-04-2010 2:38pm

I suppose I like the idea of going out with someone but when it comes down to it I just couldn't be arsed putting in so much effort.
I have been called a commitmentphobe but in reality I'm just lazy/indifferent.

Friends seem to think this will change when I meet 'the one' but I couldn't see it, my me time is too important.
But I dont see anything overly wrong with this as long as I'm straight up with people and happy in myself

Nulty · 05-04-2010 2:44pm

I'm not relationship material at present. I picked "Too stuck in my ways" but im unemployed and have no real peospects of starting a career in the immediate future. That what I'm working on for now and I couldn't juggle a relationship aswell. Priorities and all. Plus I'll be better relationship material when I get the other one sorted.

Makes sense, no?

mikom · 05-04-2010 2:44pm

Long term relationship with someone who has grown to be my best friend.

Gummy Panda · 05-04-2010 2:51pm

I'm a panda. We like our space

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