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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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  • #202
    Dercola
    Registered Users Posts: 236 ✭✭Dercola


    Deleted User wrote: »
    There have been success stories in this thread?

    Man, I must've missed them.


    Well there has been a couple over the last 3 threads and as near as makes no difference 20K posts, hasn't there o.O


  • #203
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Deleted User wrote: »
    There have been success stories in this thread?

    Man, I must've missed them.

    The success stories are hidden among countless tales of woe, much like good POF profiles are hidden among countless crap ones.


  • #204
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Just got one of those 'Meet Me' things from a girl I messaged almost a week ago (who didn't reply).
    Now if that isn't proof positive that the 'Meet Me' feature sends out random profiles to people I don't know what is!


  • #205
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Just got one of those 'Meet Me' things from a girl I messaged almost a week ago (who didn't reply).
    Now if that isn't proof positive that the 'Meet Me' feature sends out random profiles to people I don't know what is!

    The meet me thing is fake. I once had a girl message and say she got an email saying I wanted to meet her.

    I've never once used the damn thing :pac:

    Although I'm sure there is prob a few genuine cases, but most I reckon are randomly generated.


  • #206
    andreac
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,000 ✭✭✭andreac


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Just got one of those 'Meet Me' things from a girl I messaged almost a week ago (who didn't reply).
    Now if that isn't proof positive that the 'Meet Me' feature sends out random profiles to people I don't know what is!

    Yeah it could be. I get Meet Me's from people ive already told im not interested so not sure if they are actually hitting the meet me thing or not :confused:


  • #207
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    That Meet Me thing is a bit weird alright. I've had a few girls apparently pick me on that, but they don't email and don't reply when I send them a mail.

    I noticed something new on POF today/yesterday. A girl sent me a flirt, but apparently it's a feature only available to women...

    "Hello G-Money, <girlsnamehere> has expressed interest in you! (This is a flirt option for women)"


  • #208
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    G-Money wrote: »
    That Meet Me thing is a bit weird alright. I've had a few girls apparently pick me on that, but they don't email and don't reply when I send them a mail.

    I noticed something new on POF today/yesterday. A girl sent me a flirt, but apparently it's a feature only available to women...

    "Hello G-Money, <girlsnamehere> has expressed interest in you! (This is a flirt option for women)"

    I actually had that too a while back. Does it show up on the site? I only noticed it as an email.


  • #209
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    Herrick wrote: »
    I actually had that too a while back. Does it show up on the site? I only noticed it as an email.

    No idea, the other day was the first time I received that type of mail. Don't know if that's been a feature all along or what for women.


  • #210
    dub5
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭dub5


    G-Money wrote: »
    That Meet Me thing is a bit weird alright. I've had a few girls apparently pick me on that, but they don't email and don't reply when I send them a mail.

    I noticed something new on POF today/yesterday. A girl sent me a flirt, but apparently it's a feature only available to women...

    "Hello G-Money, <girlsnamehere> has expressed interest in you! (This is a flirt option for women)"

    Didnt notice the "flirt" feature. Must check it out and get flirting


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  • #211
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    Jeez this thing is harsh.

    Never knew there were so many picky people


  • #212
    sharper
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,216 ✭✭✭sharper


    Varied wrote: »
    Never knew there were so many picky people

    It's like "Guess the prize behind door number 3" but with infinite doors. You're always being compared to the next mystery prize.

    Might as well just wait for "Google dating"(*) which will probably just email you and tell you to go live with the person it picked out for you.

    (*) in beta though so watch out...


  • #213
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    G-Money wrote: »
    That Meet Me thing is a bit weird alright. I've had a few girls apparently pick me on that, but they don't email and don't reply when I send them a mail.

    I noticed something new on POF today/yesterday. A girl sent me a flirt, but apparently it's a feature only available to women...

    "Hello G-Money, <girlsnamehere> has expressed interest in you! (This is a flirt option for women)"
    Think the Flirt thing is a new feature. I only noticed it since I signed back up. I have used it once or twice. Guy replied but others probably won't. Felt I was taking the cowards way out sending it but when I send messages I'm not getting replies. It's a handy lazy option like the Meet me thing.


  • #214
    Mental Mickey
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,647 ✭✭✭✭Mental Mickey


    Varied wrote: »
    Jeez this thing is harsh.

    Never knew there were so many picky people

    That's what people are like. They want the "ideal" person - ie: I'm going back to the remark about the George Clooney type for women and the drop dead gorgeous leggy blonde type for men.

    People are too fussy.


  • #215
    Pembily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    Mental Mickey wrote:
    People are too fussy.
    It's their prerogative! When they start complaining that they are single, then they are being too fussy but otherwise it's their choice!!!


  • #216
    LoTwan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 608 ✭✭✭LoTwan


    Date #2 went brilliantly :) #3 is organised for tomorrow :)


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  • #217
    Ammsy500
    Registered Users Posts: 218 ✭✭Ammsy500


    To the guys what does it look like when you get one of those flirt me messages? Does it just look like you got an ordinary mail or something different? It must be new as I've only noticed it since I've logged back onto Pof.


  • #218
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    Had date 1 with first guy last night. Neither of us drinking. Conversation flowed well enough. Had a little kiss at end of night. Not sure though. I'll meet him again if he's interested and will see how it goes
    Supposed to have a coffee date with guy 2 this evening but waiting for it to be confirmed.


  • #219
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Ammsy500 wrote: »
    To the guys what does it look like when you get one of those flirt me messages? Does it just look like you got an ordinary mail or something different? It must be new as I've only noticed it since I've logged back onto Pof.

    Is "flirt me" like one of those quick flirt things? Whenever I get those on any site, I instantly delete them. If somebody isn't going to take the time to actually compose a message, I'm most certainly not going to take the time to reply.

    What's with this weird hunched-over pose I've been seeing women do a lot? Like they're trying to show cleavage but not really.


  • #220
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    Im trying to arrange another date with himself but its proving to be really difficult

    he doesnt work weekends but he has friends coming over this weekend but he wont be free until thursday, but i have a birthday that night so i suggested the saturday but he is flying back home for the weekend gah this saddens :(


  • #221
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    Ammsy500 wrote: »
    To the guys what does it look like when you get one of those flirt me messages? Does it just look like you got an ordinary mail or something different? It must be new as I've only noticed it since I've logged back onto Pof.

    It just looks like a regular mail. You open it and it just says "So and so has sent you a flirt". I posted the full message yesterday on this thread so you can see yourself what it's like.


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  • #222
    miaowsky
    Registered Users Posts: 158 ✭✭miaowsky


    I have returned to the dating scene! Bring it on little fishies...I need to fill up my calendar ;)


  • #223
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Pembily wrote: »
    It's their prerogative! When they start complaining that they are single, then they are being too fussy but otherwise it's their choice!!!

    Probably the same folks that start threads with titles like, "Where are all the decent guys/gals in Dublin????"
    My answer to such questions:
    Hiding from you!!
    :pac:


  • #224
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Meant to ask, did the 'Viewed Me' thing on POF reset/change recently? It only shows 5 for me now. It used to show about 30.


  • #225
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Meant to ask, did the 'Viewed Me' thing on POF reset/change recently? It only shows 5 for me now. It used to show about 30.

    Sure did, twice actually. I got a message about some kind of maintenance ongoing. Must be a server issue.

    It's quite funny though. Before there was two certain girls amongst the rest on my viewed my list, I took no notice. Then it reset, they had viewed me again. After the second reset they showed again.

    I mailed them and am talking to both now :pac:


  • #226
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Herrick wrote: »
    It's quite funny though. Before there was two certain girls amongst the rest on my viewed my list, I took no notice. Then it reset, they had viewed me again. After the second reset they showed again.

    I mailed them and am talking to both now :pac:

    That tactic is known as 'sharking' - when you don't really have the kahonies to take the first plunge so you attempt to make your presence known by repeatedly visiting someone's page in the hope that they will mail you.


  • #227
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    What's an appropriate answer to "Are you goodlooking?" :pac:


  • #228
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    Samich wrote: »
    What's an appropriate answer to "Are you goodlooking?" :pac:

    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder??
    Have they seen your pic and if so why ask!


  • #229
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    ladylost wrote: »
    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder??
    Have they seen your pic and if so why ask!

    I mailed her first, she mailed back (both profiles picless). I mail again, she mails back something along the lines of "Are you goodlooking? No point hanging around :)" I said "Decide for yourself and sent the pic".

    I get a reply saying "you should be confident, good luck" or something. And was blocked.

    Also chatting away to a girl for a while, asks for a pic, I send it. No reply. And that's the only 2 girls I fancied messaging so might aswell delete the profile again :) Oh well


  • #230
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Probably the same folks that start threads with titles like, "Where are all the decent guys/gals in Dublin????"
    My answer to such questions:
    Hiding from you!!
    :pac:

    No need to be ignorant.


  • #231
    Northclare
    Closed Accounts Posts: 724 ✭✭✭Northclare


    Hi Samich there are millions of women out there who would love to meet you.
    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...


    I'm told I'm a fairly attractive guy I'd be good arm candy for the Gucci boho chic type LOL
    But you see mate I'm not very well off and a bit alternative in my ways so a nice arty outdoorsy woman of the world would suit me.

    Those that are into looks, money, status,handbags mercs and BMW s etc are quite nice to have as friends and I know a few they just have an expensive taste.
    It's not shallow its their lifestyle and the work hard for it...

    I made a mistake in judging people on dating sites and now I realize that classy drop dead gorgeous woman is another person just there for the same reason as everyone else...

    What she likes in Diamonds I like in Spades.

    So Samich you will get loads of dates just don't stop believing :)


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  • #232
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Samich wrote: »
    I mailed her first, she mailed back (both profiles picless). I mail again, she mails back something along the lines of "Are you goodlooking? No point hanging around :)"

    I get a reply saying "you should be confident, good luck" or something. And was blocked.

    To be honest, I think you dodged a bullet with this particular lass.


  • #233
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    TG, when's your next date? :D


  • #234
    johnnykilo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,186 ✭✭✭johnnykilo


    Sorry folks just a quick question about POF. I turned 31 there a week or so ago and now I'm trying to mail a girl who has "To mail me: Age between 27 and 30" on her profile.

    Is there anyway around this? I don't remember POF being so specific before as I have similar constrains on my profile but people outside these have managed to message me before. I think POF must have tightened up on this sort of stuff recently. It's a bit of a pain in the ass TBH!

    Edit: Or possibly I just never noticed this before as I guess 30 is a natural age limit.


  • #235
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    coco_lola wrote: »
    TG, when's your next date? :D

    Tomorrow. Meeting her for the day. Not sure what we're doing yet. Depends on the weather. She does want to grab some hot chocolate... but not just any chocolate dear reader... oh no.

    Brother Hubbard's hot chocolate.

    1e2uck.jpg


  • #236
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    johnnykilo wrote: »
    Sorry folks just a quick question about POF. I turned 31 there a week or so ago and now I'm trying to mail a girl who has "To mail me: Age between 27 and 30" on her profile.

    Is there anyway around this? I don't remember POF being so specific before as I have similar constrains on my profile but people outside these have managed to message me before. I think POF must have tightened up on this sort of stuff recently. It's a bit of a pain in the ass TBH!

    Edit: Or possibly I just never noticed this before as I guess 30 is a natural age limit.

    I'm pretty sure you can limit who want to email you based on their age. It's happened me a few times. I just ignore and think "their loss" and move onto the next profile. :)


  • #237
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    That_Guy wrote: »
    coco_lola wrote: »
    TG, when's your next date? :D

    Tomorrow. Meeting her for the day. Not sure what we're doing yet. Depends on the weather. She does want to grab some hot chocolate... but not just any chocolate dear reader... oh no.

    Brother Hubbard's hot chocolate.

    1e2uck.jpg

    That sounds great! Are you gonna ask.her to be your lady friend :)


  • #238
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Varied wrote: »
    No need to be ignorant.

    Something tells me that word doesn't mean what you think it means...


  • #239
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Something tells me that word doesn't mean what you think it means...

    Your post implied that all fussy people are "hiding" from me or another poster.

    It was an ignorant statement, ie uninformed.


  • #240
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    That_Guy wrote: »
    To be honest, I think you dodged a bullet with this particular lass.

    Ah but there was no bullet there for me to dodge ;)


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  • #241
    Pembily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    Varied wrote: »
    Galvasean wrote: »
    Something tells me that word doesn't mean what you think it means...

    Your post implied that all fussy people are "hiding" from me or another poster.

    It was an ignorant statement, ie uninformed.
    He was making a general statement, not specifically to you! I don't think his post was ignorant, it was harsh, truthful and was meant in a joke / sarcastic way, thus he had no reason to be informed.


  • #242
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    That_Guy wrote: »
    Tomorrow. Meeting her for the day. Not sure what we're doing yet.

    You should bring her to the Globe after ;)
    Varied wrote: »
    Your post implied that all fussy people are "hiding" from me or another poster.

    It was an ignorant statement, ie uninformed.

    I think you need to read over the post and the preceding ones again as you have completely misinterpreted it.
    Kind of ironic that you would call me ignorant in this case..


  • #243
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    Messaged a girl the last day. She messaged back, and then went to bed and said she'd chat another time.

    Mail her today, and no reply. I message again just there and says "sorry babe, got back with my ex"....yeaahhhhhhh. I'd say you did ;)

    EDIT: I replied back saying "suuuuuure you did ;) Thanks for being "honest".

    And she replies back with this

    **** off u freak!!! I did!! Not that u are obliged 2 know any of my business but I did!! I'm just bk from ayia napa since this afternoon n my ex was txting me all the time while I was away! Get over it! Jealousy is an illness!!

    And I'm blocked. Hmph.


  • #244
    Stuck Cone
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,625 ✭✭✭Stuck Cone


    Samich wrote: »
    Messaged a girl the last day. She messaged back, and then went to bed and said she'd chat another time.

    Mail her today, and no reply. I message again just there and says "sorry babe, got back with my ex"....yeaahhhhhhh. I'd say you did ;)

    EDIT: I replied back saying "suuuuuure you did ;) Thanks for being "honest".

    And she replies back with this

    **** off u freak!!! I did!! Not that u are obliged 2 know any of my business but I did!! I'm just bk from ayia napa since this afternoon n my ex was txting me all the time while I was away! Get over it! Jealousy is an illness!!

    And I'm blocked. Hmph.

    Tell her to fcuk off!

    Also you were blocked also re: cock blocked


  • #245
    ChtuluDawn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 60 ✭✭ChtuluDawn


    Samich wrote: »
    Messaged a girl the last day. She messaged back, and then went to bed and said she'd chat another time.

    Mail her today, and no reply. I message again just there and says "sorry babe, got back with my ex"....yeaahhhhhhh. I'd say you did ;)

    EDIT: I replied back saying "suuuuuure you did ;) Thanks for being "honest".

    And she replies back with this

    **** off u freak!!! I did!! Not that u are obliged 2 know any of my business but I did!! I'm just bk from ayia napa since this afternoon n my ex was txting me all the time while I was away! Get over it! Jealousy is an illness!!

    And I'm blocked. Hmph.

    You bitch when people dont reply to you.You bitch when they do.

    You cant have it every way you know.

    At least she gave you a reason,whether it was the truth or not,rather than just blanking you.


  • #246
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Reckon I'm about this close to giving up on online dating.


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  • #247
    sharper
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,216 ✭✭✭sharper


    Samich wrote: »
    EDIT: I replied back saying "suuuuuure you did ;) Thanks for being "honest".

    Bad idea, avoid going negative or sarcastic if you can. Even if your interaction with someone online is at an end there's no point ending on a sour note even if you're feeling disappointed or messed about.

    There are many times when we'd all dearly love to call out someone's crap or poor behaviour but there's really no point. Wish them well and be thankful you dodged a bullet. I mean, just imagine what a relationship with these people would be like. Nightmare.


  • #248
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    sharper wrote: »
    Bad idea, avoid going negative or sarcastic if you can. Even if your interaction with someone online is at an end there's no point ending on a sour note even if you're feeling disappointed or messed about.

    There are many times when we'd all dearly love to call out someone's crap or poor behaviour but there's really no point. Wish them well and be thankful you dodged a bullet. I mean, just imagine what a relationship with these people would be like. Nightmare.

    Very sound advice.
    Not that I always follow it... Good advice nonetheless.


  • #249
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    ChtuluDawn wrote: »
    You bitch when people dont reply to you.You bitch when they do.

    You cant have it every way you know.

    At least she gave you a reason,whether it was the truth or not,rather than just blanking you.

    Well I'd prefer to be told where I stand. As I have mentioned it clearly on my profile.


  • #250
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    Samich wrote: »
    Well I'd prefer to be told where I stand. As I have mentioned it clearly on my profile.

    You can't control how other people will behave though, her answer won't be any different whether you confront her about it or not. I would say just write things like that off and move on. Otherwise you'll do your head in. Dating isn't easy, you need a thick skin for it sometimes!


  • #251
    Panthro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,824 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    That's some sound advice there coco_lola.
    Chalk it down to experience and move on.


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