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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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  • #152
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    Dunno if i'd have the balls to do the online dating thing. I hate pics of myself so I'd fall at the first hurdle. :pac:


  • #153
    MarkyTheLips
    Closed Accounts Posts: 209 ✭✭MarkyTheLips


    Varied wrote: »
    Dunno if i'd have the balls to do the online dating thing. I hate pics of myself so I'd fall at the first hurdle. :pac:

    Luckily it's someone else who has to like them :p that's where you need an objective friend to pick some out with you I guess!


  • #154
    MarkyTheLips
    Closed Accounts Posts: 209 ✭✭MarkyTheLips


    ellegee wrote: »
    Excellent question - I think not :( If they were really interested they'd make the effort.

    Curse my rhetoric!! :pac:... Although I have chanced it once or twice to good results, turned out they were still filling bits in (so they said lol)


  • #155
    ellegee
    Registered Users Posts: 24 ✭ellegee


    Varied wrote: »
    Dunno if i'd have the balls to do the online dating thing. I hate pics of myself so I'd fall at the first hurdle. :pac:

    I think it's true you need a picture, so many people do that if you don't I think it's very hard to get a response. But if you don't like pics of yourself try - er, counterintuitively - using several. That way you don't have all your eggs in one pictorial basket as it were. And pictures are about more than just looks, they're about you having a good night out, or going on nice holidays, or playing sports, or all the other things that are the reasons you have those pictures in the first place, so they give a broader impression of you than just what you look like.


  • #156
    MarkyTheLips
    Closed Accounts Posts: 209 ✭✭MarkyTheLips


    ellegee wrote: »
    I think it's true you need a picture, so many people do that if you don't I think it's very hard to get a response. But if you don't like pics of yourself try - er, counterintuitively - using several. That way you don't have all your eggs in one pictorial basket as it were. And pictures are about more than just looks, they're about you having a good night out, or going on nice holidays, or playing sports, or all the other things that are the reasons you have those pictures in the first place, so they give a broader impression of you than just what you look like.

    Again you're expressing my answer better than I :pac:

    @Varied

    I'd avoid any pics of you wih ladies hanging out of you and blot out any mates faces. Sure for their privacy, but they're competition as well :)


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  • #157
    the_syco
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,305 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    GrumPy wrote: »
    Balls in her court though
    There's meant to be some "rules" that people "must follow" in the dating "game" that the man must chase.

    Or some such bullsh|t. If you like her, send her a text, but if she continues playing the mind games, maybe view it as a bullet dodged?


  • #158
    Ammsy500
    Registered Users Posts: 218 ✭✭Ammsy500


    tatumkelly wrote: »
    Hmmm so that guy I had been out with a few times, who caused me to delete my profile...

    We were to go out yesterday (his suggestion after busy schedules kept us from meeting during the week)... I text him to make arrangements...no reply... this comes after him mentioning how much he was enjoying spending time with me, and his regular flirty texts...

    I clearly cannot read men at all since I totally misjudged this one :confused:

    Have you still not heard anything? I really never understand how somebody can just do that. It's like leading you on until somebody better comes along. I just can't do that if im not into the person or see it going anywhere I let them know.

    It's like when you go out on a date with somebody and their all flirty with you and even end up kissing you and then the next day nothing you don't hear from them or you get a rejection text. If I'm not attracted to the person I don't flirt or kiss them I just be polite and chatty and say nice meeting you etc at the end. I'm not one for mind games.


  • #159
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    Varied wrote: »
    Dunno if i'd have the balls to do the online dating thing. I hate pics of myself so I'd fall at the first hurdle. :pac:

    Do it!! I HATE the way i look but i forced myself to do it! Its not that bad, i promise! :D


  • #160
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    tatumkelly wrote: »
    Hmmm so that guy I had been out with a few times, who caused me to delete my profile...

    I made you do no such thing!!!

    *tumbleweed*

    Anyhow... Date 5 this evening.


  • #161
    tatumkelly
    Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    Ammsy500 wrote: »
    Have you still not heard anything? I really never understand how somebody can just do that. It's like leading you on until somebody better comes along. I just can't do that if im not into the person or see it going anywhere I let them know.

    It's like when you go out on a date with somebody and their all flirty with you and even end up kissing you and then the next day nothing you don't hear from them or you get a rejection text. If I'm not attracted to the person I don't flirt or kiss them I just be polite and chatty and say nice meeting you etc at the end. I'm not one for mind games.

    It's pretty bizarre alright. We'd chatted a lot about how neither of us like games, and both deleted profiles, I'm just not sure what changed literally overnight to make him feel the need to ignore me. Silly boys :(
    That_Guy wrote: »
    I made you do no such thing!!!

    *tumbleweed*

    Anyhow... Date 5 this evening.

    What's on the agenda for date 5?


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  • #162
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    tatumkelly wrote: »
    What's on the agenda for date 5?

    We're gonna go for something to eat and she wants to go and see The Avengers given that she's the only one of her mates who hasn't seen it so I said I'd take her even though I've already seen it.


  • #163
    LoTwan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 608 ✭✭✭LoTwan


    Sunday's front runner is the current winner. I met him last night & I couldn't have planned a more perfect first date. Met at 6 for a walk on a Georgian Estate, dinner in an Italian restaurant where the waiter didn't bat an eyelid at my ordering style, a walk to a suitably poorly lit pub where we had a drink and suddenly it was 11pm... Eh, where did the time go? What a night!


  • #164
    dub5
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭dub5


    LoTwan wrote: »
    Sunday's front runner is the current winner. I met him last night & I couldn't have planned a more perfect first date. Met at 6 for a walk on a Georgian Estate, dinner in an Italian restaurant where the waiter didn't bat an eyelid at my ordering style, a walk to a suitably poorly lit pub where we had a drink and suddenly it was 11pm... Eh, where did the time go? What a night!

    Thats brilliant. Sounds like a perfect first date.


  • #165
    LoTwan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 608 ✭✭✭LoTwan


    dub5 wrote: »
    Thats brilliant. Sounds like a perfect first date.

    It was, and he brought me steak ;)


  • #166
    dub5
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭dub5


    LoTwan wrote: »
    dub5 wrote: »
    Thats brilliant. Sounds like a perfect first date.

    It was, and he brought me steak ;)

    Sure what more could you want!!!


  • #167
    EmmaAstra
    Registered Users Posts: 41 ✭EmmaAstra


    Like this thread!

    From my brief experience of online dating, it really helps to have a personalised message, which was mentioned in a previous post. It grabs your attention! Reasons for leaving the sites - too many dodgy pics or the same people. Every. Single. Night.
    From people I've met, it's generally been fun to date and hang out with them. No serious relationships have come from these.
    Still, my Dad met his other half online and they've been happy ever since, even living together. It can happen!


  • #168
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    I literally just discovered the quizzes and tests on OKC :eek:


  • #169
    YumCha
    Closed Accounts Posts: 519 ✭✭✭YumCha


    I've been trying to think of a way to find a tenuous link between this video and online dating so, having been on pof and Okc on and off since last September I feel like the girl on the right :)

    Warning: very very nsfw audio only! Also - turn the volume right down if wearing headphones :)



  • #170
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    YumCha wrote: »
    I've been trying to think of a way to find a tenuous link between this video and online dating so, having been on pof and Okc on and off since last September I feel like the girl on the right :)

    Warning: very very nsfw audio only! Also - turn the volume right down if wearing headphones :)


    She is hilarious! Girl on the left is "The Gooch", Ted's girlfriend in Scrubs!


  • #171
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    Date went well tonight even though i had to leave early!

    We met up and went for a few drinks. He is lovely and we talked about anything and everything! He totally understood when i had to leave early. I was in agony with stomach cramps. I explained it to him so he walked me to my bus stop and waited with me until a bus came! may or may not have had a little smooch goodbye :o

    He was lovely and he doesnt really mind the fact that i am moving home soon because if something develops we can worry about it then!

    I am kind of hesitant because of the fact that i am moving home but its only an hour and half away and the fact that he is in is thirties and im about to turn 21 so there is that bit of a gap.

    But it was a nice date and he is going to text me to arrange another date! :)


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  • #172
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    I declare date 5 a success. :)


  • #173
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    That_Guy wrote: »
    I declare date 5 a success. :)
    Good news! When do you stop counting dates I wonder? Is it when you have the exclusive conversation? I never know


  • #174
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    Well it's definitely either feast or famine with me. I've been messaging a good few guys for the past few weeks but nome mentioned about meeting and i wasn't feeling ready to meet up with anyone. Then suddenly this week they nearly all asked to exchange numbers and meet up!! There are 5 of them. I met 3 guys 3 days in a row once before and it was very confusing. Will see how date 1 goes tomorrow night anyway. Have a date with guy 2 on Friday. I'm stalling a little on the others for now. Is that bad?


  • #175
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    ladylost wrote: »
    Good news! When do you stop counting dates I wonder? Is it when you have the exclusive conversation? I never know

    I'm not sure really. We're just really enjoying each others company at the moment. I don't really want to rush anything but it feels right and I'm half thinking of asking her to be my friendgirl on our next date.


  • #176
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    ladylost wrote: »
    Well it's definitely either feast or famine with me. I've been messaging a good few guys for the past few weeks but nome mentioned about meeting and i wasn't feeling ready to meet up with anyone. Then suddenly this week they nearly all asked to exchange numbers and meet up!! There are 5 of them. I met 3 guys 3 days in a row once before and it was very confusing. Will see how date 1 goes tomorrow night anyway. Have a date with guy 2 on Friday. I'm stalling a little on the others for now. Is that bad?

    I don't think it's bad at all. Having a cluster of dates like that could be overkill especially if you're trying to equally give these guys a proper chance.


  • #177
    Armaghmagic
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    Haven't been on here for a while and reckon I wont be on it for much longer....

    Met this amazing girl for the first time off POF last Saturday night, just went for a spin and chatted. Ended with a nice kiss too!

    Sunday evening we met and went to a seaside town, got icecream, sat on a wall looking over the pier and chatted effortlessly......then walked back to the car hand in hand!

    Met her again last night and we went for a walk in a local forest, chatted the whole time and she is so strong.....knows what she wants and is willing to give time to me even though her only sibling is in hospital and is disabled.

    So refreshing to meet someone who is uninterested in playing games (she doesn't mind driving down to me, meeting me when she can instead of making me wait, being honest about what she is feeling, etc).

    I have gotten carried away in the past so that wont be happening this time!
    But so far so good!!:D


  • #178
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    That_Guy wrote: »
    I don't think it's bad at all. Having a cluster of dates like that could be overkill especially if you're trying to equally give these guys a proper chance.

    Yeah I think so too That_Guy and I want to be fair. Sure I'll see how it goes. I'm really busy with work as well so finding it hard to find time but if I'm interested i need to make the time.


  • #179
    Ammsy500
    Registered Users Posts: 218 ✭✭Ammsy500


    So glad to be hearing all the success stories :D think I'll brave the waters of Pof again as I haven't been on it in about 2 months. Logged into okcupid the last couple of days but there really is nothing going on there, it's so much quieter.


  • #180
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    ladylost wrote: »
    Yeah I think so too That_Guy and I want to be fair. Sure I'll see how it goes. I'm really busy with work as well so finding it hard to find time but if I'm interested i need to make the time.

    Well whatever happens good luck. :)


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  • #181
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    No one replies again, hurrah!

    Also well done on the success stories peeps.


  • #182
    coco_lola
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭coco_lola


    I agree about the feast or famine! I went through a spell of guys messaging me with "wot u up to", or "hey, hws u sxcii", or just people I wasn't interested in!

    All of a sudden, there's about 5 or 6 guys messaging me who are attractive, really funny, and totally on my wavelength!


    I have obviously overlooked something *suspicious face*


  • #183
    ladylost
    Registered Users Posts: 367 ✭✭ladylost


    coco_lola wrote: »
    I agree about the feast or famine! I went through a spell of guys messaging me with "wot u up to", or "hey, hws u sxcii", or just people I wasn't interested in!

    All of a sudden, there's about 5 or 6 guys messaging me who are attractive, really funny, and totally on my wavelength!


    I have obviously overlooked something *suspicious face*

    I'm thinking the very same thing :rolleyes:


  • #184
    Ankhyu
    Registered Users Posts: 5,313 ✭✭✭Ankhyu


    So happy to be hearing all these success stories :) I'm talking to a few really nice guys at the moment. Looks like a couple of them are heading up to the Rory Gallagher festival, as am I. So it looks like there won't be "first dates" as such, but we'll meet up while we're there. So excited!


  • #185
    GrumPy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,561 ✭✭✭GrumPy


    Love hearing success stories. :D

    I bit the bullet and text yer 'wan back, she got back to me and apologised for not replying sooner she is crap at texting and was doing mad shifts in work. We are both busy over the long weekend, but I'm assuming she would have either
    (if she didn't wanna meet up again):

    (a - Not text me at all
    (b - Text me and said she wasn't interested

    So we'll hopefully arrange something for next week. :)


  • #186
    Varied
    Closed Accounts Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Varied


    Well I took the plunge, pic and all, tried messaging a few wans, no reply as yet. Hmmm


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  • #187
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Everyone and their dog uses online dating now. And this makes it really annoying. Before the only people that would use it was people who were genuinely interested in meeting someone. Now, since everyone is on it, their friends come on to check it out and see what the fuss is about, but aren't looking for anything at all and it makes it hard to figure out who is being genuine and who is having a laugh.


  • #188
    missbelle
    Registered Users Posts: 494 ✭✭missbelle


    boneyarsebogman wrote: »
    Everyone and their dog uses online dating now. And this makes it really annoying. Before the only people that would use it was people who were genuinely interested in meeting someone. Now, since everyone is on it, their friends come on to check it out and see what the fuss is about, but aren't looking for anything at all and it makes it hard to figure out who is being genuine and who is having a laugh.
    Yep agree with that to an extent. Although one or two of my more old fashioned friends still raised an eyebrow when I told them I'd gone on dates with guys I met online!

    Kinda fed up of it this last while, nothing much happening. have signed up for speed dating - HELP!! :-)


  • #189
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    coco_lola wrote: »
    I agree about the feast or famine! I went through a spell of guys messaging me with "wot u up to", or "hey, hws u sxcii", or just people I wasn't interested in!

    All of a sudden, there's about 5 or 6 guys messaging me who are attractive, really funny, and totally on my wavelength!


    I have obviously overlooked something *suspicious face*

    My theory is that now that the summer is here people are finished college/exams and want to go out and have some nice dates in the good weather.
    Haven't used online dating in earnest for a while now. This coming Sunday will literally be my first day off from work in 3 weeks (then I'm off to work in Limerick for a full week) so organising dates has not been easy in the slightest. In fact I have so much going on at the moment my head is melted and I don't think my fragile psyche could cope with the stress! :p
    That said, I briefly logged into POF (more out of force of habit to be honest) and three of the five or six faces looking back at me (in the 'these people have viewed you at some point' thing) were one of my best friends, my sister and one of ye lot. I'll be on my way so.


  • #190
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Blasted thread, put the idea into my head... just went and messaged someone didn't I? :rolleyes:


  • #191
    Dolly Daydreams
    Registered Users Posts: 245 ✭✭Dolly Daydreams


    Deleted profile again after another pi**taker who I've been chatting to for about 3 weeks and still haven't met.. I say 'you free at the weekend' he says 'not sure yet' after asking last week was I free... Not a fan of time wasters and peeps wasting your time until something better comes along. :rolleyes:


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  • #192
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    Well, my mad couple of weeks are over, but the guy I was supposed to have been meeting this weekend (would have been our 3rd date) has gone into radio silence. There was a gap of three weeks between dates due to my schedule, so I'm guessing he met someone else in the meantime and is rolling with that, which is fine; I wouldn't have expected him to sit at home on his own waiting for me. I just wish he'd bloody well said something, though, rather than just ignoring my texts.


  • #193
    Panthro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,824 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    Dolly Daydreams wrote: »
    Deleted profile again after another pi**taker who I've been chatting to for about 3 weeks and still haven't met.. I say 'you free at the weekend' he says 'not sure yet' after asking last week was I free... Not a fan of time wasters and peeps wasting your time until something better comes along. :rolleyes:

    At least you got a response!
    My last interaction on POF was going splendidly (or so I thought) until I ask would she be around town for a coffee or something over the weekend....and....
    Nothing, nadda, zip.
    Pfft!


  • #194
    Dolly Daydreams
    Registered Users Posts: 245 ✭✭Dolly Daydreams


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    Well, my mad couple of weeks are over, but the guy I was supposed to have been meeting this weekend (would have been our 3rd date) has gone into radio silence. There was a gap of three weeks between dates due to my schedule, so I'm guessing he met someone else in the meantime and is rolling with that, which is fine; I wouldn't have expected him to sit at home on his own waiting for me. I just wish he'd bloody well said something, though, rather than just ignoring my texts.

    Jeez, things move fast in the OD world. The ignoring texts though is well uncalled for
    Panthro wrote: »
    At least you got a response!
    My last interaction on POF was going splendidly (or so I thought) until I ask would she be around town for a coffee or something over the weekend....and....
    Nothing, nadda, zip.
    Pfft!

    I think I'm getting too old for this sh*t.. How long were you chatting to her?


  • #195
    Panthro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,824 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    Dolly Daydreams wrote: »
    Jeez, things move fast in the OD world. The ignoring texts though is well uncalled for



    I think I'm getting too old for this sh*t.. How long were you chatting to her?

    A few days back and forth, I messaged her first and within an hour came the first response, then then just messaging one another fairly regularly over the course of a few days.
    Ara, another chalk down to experience!


  • #196
    Dolly Daydreams
    Registered Users Posts: 245 ✭✭Dolly Daydreams


    Panthro wrote: »
    A few days back and forth, I messaged her first and within an hour came the first response, then then just messaging one another fairly regularly over the course of a few days.
    Ara, another chalk down to experience!

    I remember when I first stumbled across this thread and someone said you really need a thick skin for online dating.. Never was a truer word spoken..


  • #197
    Panthro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,824 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    Dolly Daydreams wrote: »
    I remember when I first stumbled across this thread and someone said you really need a thick skin for online dating.. Never was a truer word spoken..

    Yeah definitely, a massive pinch of salt is needed with it I'm finding.


  • #198
    wobblyknees
    Registered Users Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭wobblyknees


    I had a wonderful one sentence response conversation over the last day or two. I feel invigorated by the quality of the words that were exchanged.


  • #199
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    GrumPy wrote: »
    Love hearing success stories. :D

    I bit the bullet and text yer 'wan back, she got back to me and apologised for not replying sooner she is crap at texting and was doing mad shifts in work. We are both busy over the long weekend, but I'm assuming she would have either
    (if she didn't wanna meet up again):

    (a - Not text me at all
    (b - Text me and said she wasn't interested

    So we'll hopefully arrange something for next week. :)

    You should give her a call instead. ;) Direct conversation and plans get made quicker. Simples. ;)


  • #200
    Dercola
    Registered Users Posts: 236 ✭✭Dercola


    Hey all, just reading some of yer success stories on here, and its helped me to make up my mind and get back into the big bad world of internet dating.. :o

    Just one question tho, is pof where its at?? Because I really don't like that site at all. I was on okc for a couple of months last year, met two great girls and had a couple of great dates. So re-activated my account yesterday, but the place is just dead :confused:


  • #201
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    There have been success stories in this thread?

    Man, I must've missed them.


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