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FurBabyMomma wrote: »Can I ask about weight gain? I am a person who has struggled with my weight and self image since my teens and am finding it hard to put these thoughts aside during pregnancy. I'm 16 weeks today and at only 5"1' I've already put on half a stone. I'm trying to stay active and eat well but the chocolate is really calling to me :-)
Hey furbabymomma. I am kind of in the same boat as yourself with the weight and food issues. It is one of my big concerns going into pregnancy. At 5'7" I'm not massively tall but I am a bit self conscious of being taller than most other women, and when I've a bit of weight on I feel like an elephant. So I'm kind of dreading getting bigger; I'll be no dainty pregnant lady! On the food side of things, I am worried about that too. I would comfort/binge eat now and again, especially if under stress. I used to smoke for a few years in college and I think I eat now to replace the smoking when stressed!
Up until now I've had no stomach for food so I've been eating very healthy and not too much. But once my appetite comes back I'm worried that it will be very hard to stop myself pigging out at times. I know there is all the talk about not getting too heavy so you won't have post-pregnancy weight and easier labour etc but while I'm worried about myself, what I hope will keep me away from food is the thought of what it will do to the baby. I don't want to scare you here but there are real issues that can happen with a bad diet in pregnancy. This is not medical advice, just a few points on what info is out there. Look away now if you don't want to know
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Bigger babies (bigger than 9 pounds at birth I think), from gestational diabetes or just poor maternal diet, have a higher risk of obesity, diabetes and heart disease when they grow up.
A high fat maternal diet (pretty much our 'western' diet) can affect certain brain development and lead to issues with attention and appetite/food behaviour. I'm sure there are other ones too, these are just the ones I know about. Effects like these are observed in people and the causes behind them are being worked out in animal studies. It is starting to get a lot of attention as there are more pregnant women who are overweight nowadays. Something like over 50% of pregnant women :eek: I've put a few refs below for the two points.
So, when I am absolutely dying for a load of chocolate I hope I'll remember some of this. I don't want to set my poor little mite up for a life of being unhealthy and not being able to stop eating either. One trick I was hoping to fool myself with was trying to think of it as feeding a little baby. Would I feed a little new born baby a whole pack of biscuits? Kinda turns me off. Having said all that, it was free cone day at the Ben & Jerry's shop in my work building yesterday and I went back for seconds
Refs
Large for gestational age:
http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/fetal-macrosomia/basics/complications/con-20035423
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15741354
maternal high fat diet or obesity and neural development:
A summary from a researcher on this: https://www.med.upenn.edu/apps/faculty/index.php/g5455356/p8127438
http://www.nature.com/npp/journal/v39/n4/full/npp2013193a.html
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/239246010 -
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Girls - you really should not put so much pressure on yourselves (and seriously stay away from google!!!) Yes it is very difficult to cope with putting on weight and there are times when you'll feel like a beached whale or whatever, but remember its only temporary!!
Also at the beginning of the second trimester you are still in the 'not really having a bump yet but just looking fat' stage and its the worst time I think.
Just continue to eat as healthily as you can, and don't beat yourself up when you pig out, - remember happy mama makes a happy baby!
You are naturally going to get heavier, especially as you wouldn't be exercising as much.
In my last pregnancy I did get a wicked sweet tooth, and I ate a lot of cakes and chocolate but I had a relatively healthy diet otherwise so it balanced out. I'm 5'6 and my weight tends to fluctuate between 11 and 13 stone. My last baby was big enough (9lb6) but he actually got very tiny very quickly if that makes sense - there isn't a pick on him! He's been below average weight at every check since. Of course he eats feck all aswell so that's why! Very picky little eater.
I was 12 - 12.5 st when I got pregnant this time I think, so already 1.5 stone heavier than I was last time. And almost instantly I was craving more chocolate and biscuits! But also with everything that's been going on, I'm finding that eating healthily is taking a back seat. I have to really push myself to cook and make nice food. But that is something i'll get over soon when I've a routine in place. I've a tummy bug this week too so haven't actually eaten at all in 2 days :-/
Anyway, I think I'm rambling now. But all I'm saying is don't worry too much - we all have enough to worry about!!
Hey Karmella, thanks for your reply. Like I said, I wasn't aiming to scare anyone (and I did say look away now). It was my two cents in reply to FBM, I'm sorry if it worried you. For me, it is not about putting pressure on myself or anyone else, it is about being healthy for my child. Beyond myself and my own issues around it, it is a real and growing problem in many countries including Ireland that needs to be addressed without fear of hurting people's feelings. Firstly, some women are afraid of getting fat. That is an issue in itself. Secondly, getting fatter than is necessary while pregnant can increase the risk for certain conditions during pregnancy and for the child as they grow up. Note that I say 'increase the risk', it doesn't mean every child will have it, just that there is a higher risk of them having it. I'm delighted that your baby is perfect and both of ye are doing great, but that may is not the case for everyone. That has been shown in human and animal studies and is not just Dr. Google talking (although I agree google is a heartscald, need to be careful of the sources).
This is what I am using as a guide for my weight gain. It gives a break down of what all the different bits and bobs contribute to the weight and how much fat should contribute. I'm trying to keep in mind that I need to put on weight, but not too much.
http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/healthy-weight-gain
I know what you mean with Happy Momma, but Happy Momma does not always mean Happy Baby, I'm happiest when full of vodka!
Edit to say: I am no skinnymalink myself, I'm 5'7" and fluctuate between 10.5 and 11 st. I was 10 st 11 lb when I got pregnant. I have plenty of issues with food and weight and I'm dreading when my appetite comes back full on as it will be a daily struggle for me, it is hard.0 -
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Hi ladies.
Have any of you still got v sore boobs? I am just gone 15 weeks and there appears to be no end to it. In fact, for about 2 days there recently I thought this symptom had passed (as most other symptoms have gone now
and i feel more like my old self, bar the bump and weight :eek: ) but the sore boobs are back and even more painful than ever! Another growth spurt?? They sure are getting big though! 0 -
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madeinamerica wrote: »isn't the frumpiness the worst? I wish I looked more properly pregnant, rather than this barrel shape I have going on.
This...
It does pass though! In another 4 weeks ye should be properly bumpy - hopefully anyway! Ate some proper food today for the first time since Monday. Tummy Bug has passed thankfully. Although son has full blown fever since last night, so had to stay home from work today (tragic! ) 0 -
Hi ladies.
Have any of you still got v sore boobs? I am just gone 15 weeks and there appears to be no end to it. In fact, for about 2 days there recently I thought this symptom had passed (as most other symptoms have gone now and i feel more like my old self, bar the bump and weight :eek: ) but the sore boobs are back and even more painful than ever! Another growth spurt?? They sure are getting big though!
Ow that is annoying! Mine have eased off the pain, I hope it doesn't come back again. On the boob thing, I'm usually pretty flat and now that they don't hurt anymore I'm lovin' my new boobs! I wish they would stay like this!0 -
Hi ladies how are ye all this week? I'm 18Weeks tomorrow. Symptoms easing off for you by now? Any new ones appear?
I survived an American hen weekend without booze it was fun, off in a wee touristy town in the mountains near us. Was a bit odd not to be drinking at all. I actually forgot for a second near the end of dinner and was going to pour myself a glass of wine before I realised what I was doing :O the bridesmaids were making fresh mojitos back in the hotel room, very hard to resist! the bride-to-be is an outdoorsy type so we got in 2 hikes and a run, it was gorgeous to be out there. I really noticed my balance has gone funny on the first hike, it was up a rocky path by a water fall and I was going to turn back but one of the girls took my bag for the uphill bit and my balance wasn't so bad then without it swinging of me. i'm not one for taking help from people easily, I'll have to adjust that bit of my brain for the next while! 0 -
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Great to hear people are feeling better. I feel great, now. Nearly 16wks. Did a 10mile walk along the beaches yesterday. Didn't set out to do that distance but was feeling so good, I kept going. My OH was struggling a bit towards the end. Gave him quite the slagging, falling behind the pregnant lady!
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Hi madeinamerica,
I'm good, bump is really noticeable this week. I'm 16+2 now. Are you feeling full of energy again? Oh are you feeling the baby kick yet? I'm not , I thought I had a few little bubbles but it might be indigestion!
Yeah, I've had a few little bubbles alright in the past few days and I think it might be bubs! Very exciting Only feel it when I sit down. It seems kind of inside and below my belly button. I felt a bit bad telling my other half that I could feel it inside, as you can't feel it on the outside yet so he is missing out 
Not long till he can feel them too, hopefully! 0 -
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madeinamerica wrote: »I ate a grapefruit yesterday and the bubbles were going nuts afterwards! either baby really likes grapefruit or hates it
Ah tis a lovely feelin
Im.20 weeks now n last weekend i felt i just ballooned overnight up until that you could not tell. Now its so obvious and i can feel my stretch marks tinglin......
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madeinamerica wrote: »Hey furbabymomma. I am kind of in the same boat as yourself with the weight and food issues. It is one of my big concerns going into pregnancy. At 5'7" I'm not massively tall but I am a bit self conscious of being taller than most other women, and when I've a bit of weight on I feel like an elephant. So I'm kind of dreading getting bigger; I'll be no dainty pregnant lady! On the food side of things, I am worried about that too. I would comfort/binge eat now and again, especially if under stress. I used to smoke for a few years in college and I think I eat now to replace the smoking when stressed!
Up until now I've had no stomach for food so I've been eating very healthy and not too much. But once my appetite comes back I'm worried that it will be very hard to stop myself pigging out at times. I know there is all the talk about not getting too heavy so you won't have post-pregnancy weight and easier labour etc but while I'm worried about myself, what I hope will keep me away from food is the thought of what it will do to the baby. I don't want to scare you here but there are real issues that can happen with a bad diet in pregnancy. This is not medical advice, just a few points on what info is out there. Look away now if you don't want to know.
Bigger babies (bigger than 9 pounds at birth I think), from gestational diabetes or just poor maternal diet, have a higher risk of obesity, diabetes and heart disease when they grow up.
A high fat maternal diet (pretty much our 'western' diet) can affect certain brain development and lead to issues with attention and appetite/food behaviour. I'm sure there are other ones too, these are just the ones I know about. Effects like these are observed in people and the causes behind them are being worked out in animal studies. It is starting to get a lot of attention as there are more pregnant women who are overweight nowadays. Something like over 50% of pregnant women :eek: I've put a few refs below for the two points.
So, when I am absolutely dying for a load of chocolate I hope I'll remember some of this. I don't want to set my poor little mite up for a life of being unhealthy and not being able to stop eating either. One trick I was hoping to fool myself with was trying to think of it as feeding a little baby. Would I feed a little new born baby a whole pack of biscuits? Kinda turns me off. Having said all that, it was free cone day at the Ben & Jerry's shop in my work building yesterday and I went back for seconds
Refs
Large for gestational age:
http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/fetal-macrosomia/basics/complications/con-20035423
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15741354
maternal high fat diet or obesity and neural development:
A summary from a researcher on this: https://www.med.upenn.edu/apps/faculty/index.php/g5455356/p8127438
http://www.nature.com/npp/journal/v39/n4/full/npp2013193a.html
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23924601
Sweet lord this has put the fear of god in me! I too am 5'7 and by no means skinny and aint nothin wrong with my appetite. Trying to be as good as I can. Guess ill be skipping my tea lol .0 -
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I'm 17 weeks and not really feeling much, I suppose it is that kinda bubbly feeling alright occasionally. But I didn't feel much last time until 20 weeks at least if I recall. Don't let it worry you if you can't feel it, it used to bug me when people kept asking, that eventually I used to say yeah just to shut them up
I was at the gp last Friday and she found the heartbeat which was cool it was gas cos I had my 3yr old with me and his face at the noise coming from the Doppler was hilarious! He's still pretty clueless, I told him that mommy had a baby growing in her belly and he was saying I have baby in my belly too?!
Finally have energy too yippee! Have Friday off and planning to do a big big clear out and clean up of the house. Basically catching up on months of housework and also clearing out a lot of my husbands stuff. He has moved into his own place finally. Well he'll be packing up and clearing out and I will just clean up after. It will be sad, but therapeutic too I think... Spending Easter with my family and friends then... Looking forward to it.0 -
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Sweet lord this has put the fear of god in me! I too am 5'7 and by no means skinny and aint nothin wrong with my appetite. Trying to be as good as I can. Guess ill be skipping my tea lol .
Sorry ladies, didn't mean to put the wind up ya
There are a couple of labs on my floor that work on this so I hear about it a lot in work but not much out in the real world. It looks like it will be the next big issue with pregnancy in the future, like smoking was a few years ago, as people are getting heavier in general.
I'll shut up now and I'll tone it down a bit in future 0 -
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16 weeks today. No sign of movement yet but can't wait. Lucky you who have that already!
Me neither and I am absolutely dying to feel the baby move. I'm 16+4 today so getting close to the time when I will.
I went on a big walk yesterday and thought I felt something once or twice but that might just have been wishful thinking---actually it must have been because I haven't felt anything since. 0 -
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Me too, mines on May 14th and I actually feel like I'm losing my mind sometimes. Like 'howl at the moon' losing my mind...FurBabyMomma wrote: »Lol it sure does. I'm feeling like the 21 week scan will never come! 0 -
Hi ladies, how are we all doing? I'll be 19 weeks on Monday, practically half way yippee!! I have to say I'm feeling great at the moment, so much energy!
Went out last night for a lovely meal with 3 friends, and today am getting my hair done, and actually have a night out tonight aswell! Leaving drinks for a guy at work. My son is with his dad since yesterday evening so I'm having a lovely break for myself. Felt like I got no rest last weekend because I did so much spring cleaning and also had no lie in. Still lazing in bed now this morning which is almost unheard of!
My son is starting to get clued in about baby now, he calls it his baby and he wants to share things like treats with baby. He keeps saying he wants the baby to come out of my belly, probably so he can see it and play with it.. I laugh and say I want the baby to come out now too, but we have to wait another little while until it grows a bit. I've got a grand bump now, my neighbour actually asked me was I pregnant the other day! She'd be well clued in though, has a load of grandchildren and is a childminder. People at work are afraid to ask me I think, I've been wearing fairly obvious maternity bump hugging clothes and they still say nothing, I find it quite amusing.
Anyone any inklings re gender? I feel like its another boy ... Though I would love to have a girl. Too many men and boys in my life!0 -
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Hey ladies how are ye all doing? I've just hit the 20 week mark, can't believe how fast the first half has gone! In Feb it felt like the first trimester would never end.
Had our 19 wk general appointment last week with the Ob, all fine except for this rash I've had on my right hand and both shins. Ob recommended referral to a dermatologist. Taking forever to get an appt and it is nearly gone by now so I'm not sure if I'll bother going to the derma after all. Anyone else get odd skin issues? I've also gone quite spotty and all my skin care stuff that works has salicylic acid in it, which I found out recently I shouldn't use anymore
Have ye had the big anatomy scan yet? Are ye finding out the sex? On Tuesday we had the big scan which turned out to be a big event.
First - the sex. Before hand we were debating whether we'd find out the sex or not. I'd felt that I don't mind waiting and I've no strong feelings either way, but hubby wanted to know. He has said from the start he would like a girl and wants to find out early so he can adjust if it is a boy. But then, after all that, in the waiting room before hand he was having second thoughts, saying he'll find out but as I don't really want to know that I should wait. Eh, no! If he knows and I don't, that'll be annoying and also a difference between us. So when the nurse asked during the scan, I said yes we want to know. We are having a boy! Got a great shot of the family jewels Looked over at hubby and he was trying to smile but didn't look over the moon. He's been pretty quiet and disappointed since then about it, which is unlike him to get upset about anything. I don't really know what to say to him to help him, apart from saying positive things about having son which don't seem to help. He feels that a son will be more distant than a daughter would be, perhaps that is a reflection of his own family life. 'Gender disappointment' seems to be a common thing for parents-to-be, going by a quick google. Now, he is thinking that it would have been better for him to wait till the baby arrived, because at least when the baby is here you have your own fabulous little baby in your arms and that would overcome any feelings about the sex. Hindsight is a great thing. I'm sure he'll be ok and will love his son when he arrives, I just feel a bit sad for him at the moment. I'm glad that we both know though, rather than just him. At least I can try to help him a little, rather than him just being by himself with his disappointment.
second - the kidneys. So it seems little yankee has slightly larger than normal kidneys. They are measuring between 4 and 5 when they should be max 4. The doc came in after the scans and gave us a good spiel about what it was and what it meant. Apparently, it is an enlargement due to more fluid in the kidneys, it is quite common at about 20 weeks, more common in boys. Ours is on the milder end of the scale (7 would be high). Could be due to narrow tubes or a block in one of the tubes downstream of the kidneys, but cannot tell from the scans. A good thing is that he has normal amount of amniotic fluid, which is a sign of how the kidneys are doing, so that is good. Of those with larger kidneys, most will resolve themselves before birth with about 5% having issues after birth. Risks after birth would be kidney infections or narrow plumbing which can be dealt with by minor surgery. We've been rescheduled for another scan to check on them at 32 weeks to see if they've gone down a bit. There is nothing we cant do in the meantime and he said that it is not due to anything we might have done. The doc was very keen to emphasis that it usually goes away and that there is no need to worry at the moment. He said a lot of people freak out when they hear it, which is totally understandable. I was pretty ok about the whole thing as my friend who had her son 9 weeks ago in the same hospital also had this kidney thing. They didn't tell anyone at the time, but after the 32 week scan she told me that they were really freaked out and worried for the 12 weeks between scans but then all was clear and he was fine. Her husband said he nearly wished they hadn't been told at the 20 wk scan, as it was such a common thing and it usually goes away by itself so it really gave them unnecessary stress but they didn't really know that at the time and were worried for 12 weeks that he might need surgery or something. So, I'll try to put it out of my mind till the 32 wk scan. Hubby was fine about the kidney thing, I think he was more shocked about him being a boy. A boy with dodgy boy-kidneys! Pah!
We had decided beforehand not to tell anyone about the sex, to keep that for ourselves. And I think it is best to keep the kidney thing quiet too for now. I don't see any point in worrying our families when all might be just fine.
Phew that was a long one! Glad of the anonymity here to be able to post about it 0 -
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