Due July 2012 Thread

kildareash · 16-04-2012 10:12pm

NyquistFreak wrote: »

Also, its my 28 week appointment next Monday and was really hoping for a scan too! I'll be so disappointed if they don't do one now, its been months since I got to see baby!

I'm back on Friday, and I'm pretty sure they told me at my first appt that I would get a scan at every visit (but this will only be my second time with the hospital!). I know they told me that they will only print pictures the first time and you have to ask if you want them after that. So that implies there will be other scans....hopefully.

mmmn..chicken wrote: »

my friend was 7 months b4 we all told her she was pregnant...im 90% certain she didnt know.she had all the pains and her doc was giving her painkillers for her"backpain"(never offered or mentioned a preg test) it was fairly obvious to all of us though.....guess its down to power of the mind/denial/fear? b4 i got my 13 week scan i found it hard to believe even with 4 pos tests.
by the way i have hospital appointment next week(28 weeks)does any1 kniw if this is scan or just check up...im wondering whether i need to bring hubbie along

mink i got thebelly support band thing from mothercare,just for work at first but now i wear it while out walking too ..its a godsend. i was a bit mean about spending 20 euros on elastic at first but im so glad i did now.
so far so good on the belly stretchmarks too,both my sisters had them by this stage so im giving the extra support the credit for that one too.....possible im totally wrong on that one but something is working:)

That's mad about your friend. Was she not feeling movement?

Was it hard to get used to the support band. I think I could do with something, I'm starting to get an ache in my lower back, don't want it to get worse.

cyning wrote: »

Scan tomorrow... hopefully. Well at least at my last appt they said they were scanning me tomorrow to see how baby growing: and hopefully I'll find out boy or girl! Hubbie can't make it though

I got my baby changing table from Ikea: it's sitting in a box to be put together!!

The problem with gestational diabetes and symptoms is that so many of the symptoms mimic each other: tiredness, thirsty, hungry! I should know tomorrow the results of my GTT, but because I didn't get a phonecall today I'm assuming I'm in the clear

Notsobusy is it not the PHN that comes around? I think it all depends on your support system, how nervous you seem, how your baby's doing etc... Normally here its at least 3 or 4 visits... that could have changed with all the early retirements though!

Do you think they would ring you if there was a positive result? Fingers crossed, I'm in the clear so.

Which changing table did you get in Ikea? I was looking at a basic wooden one for the bathroom for bathtime. It was only about €30. OH's parents were thinking about getting the one that folds up for their house.

Good luck tomorrow, hope you get to see baby

notsobusy wrote: »

Yes Cyning I meant the PHN! Ah sure it'll be fine I'm sure I looked it up and it says that usually she comes out just the once and the other visits are optional, like you have to make appointments. But I'd say you're right about the early retirements. That's a bit worrying though say you did have a problem and there was no one to come out and help you because of early retirements!!!

I think the PHN comes out a few times if you're breastfeeding to make sure baby is gaining weight etc, but only once if your bottle feeding. Sounds ridic, really hope I'm wrong on that, but I'm sure that's what a friend told me.
But, you're right, god only knows what it's like with all the retirements.
Don't worry though, you can always pop into the health centre if you have concerns or questions or I'm sure they would call out again if you were that worried.

Saurelin · 16-04-2012 10:22pm

my oh had to pick me up from work.
i was feeling dizzy and my bump was sore and I wasnt able to move almost at.
i think that was my boss influance ;-)

anyway i feel better now.

I discovered today that work pants I had are not comfy anymore and I need to get new one with over belly part (smart pants) soon.

Re travel systems.
we get mothercare my choice 4. it is great. my friend had as well and it was easy to use, comfy for baby, good value and nice green apple color :-D

cyning · 16-04-2012 11:28pm

What they told me about gtt was diabetic nurse would be looking at results Monday and they'd contact me then if there was a need to either repeat the test or if I had it, but that if it was clear id hear at my next appt. which is tomorrow so fingers crossed the diabetic nurse looked at them today! New a&e opened in Tralee today though so that could have messed everything up!!

Phn definitely came more than once to friends who'd had babies and they were bottle feeding: I don't know anyone who breasted except aunts and mum! I know some ppl hate them but I know I'll have 1001 questions!!

Saurelin hope your feeling better x

I read the first book since I got pregnant today: I was so delighted. Im an avid (and fast!) reader so it's been torture not having the concentration for it! Admittedly it was the hunger games but I'd tried rereading some of my fave books and was getting nowhere! So so happy

off to buy second one in morning now!!

It was the gulliver changing table I think: it was 66 euro! I'll post a link tomorrow on my phone now. I saw the one for 30 too: but I didn't know how sturdy it was and it's going to be in my sitting room so I wanted something that wouldn't drive me loopy!!

Saurelin · 17-04-2012 6:38am

Cyning we have this same changing table :-)

I feel ok today. wake up at 4 thinking about food ;-)

javagal · 17-04-2012 8:25am

bloody nose bleeds are wrecking my head!

to the ladies who were saying about scans, i think Kildareash, if you are with portlaoise, they scan you every time, I've had 3 so far, first time i got 3 pics , then none , then 1 of her foot because the doctor thought it was cute lol!

Cyning, enjoy your scan today x

Kash · 17-04-2012 9:03am

Hiubby finally felt the kicks, he is absolutely gobsmacked by them

I have a hospital appointment on Thursday, but I don't think they will do the scan, as I have an appointment next month in the scanning department. Hope so though!

Cyning, delighted you got your reading on, I'm lost whenever I can't read for whatever reason - it's my reset button. And I really enjoyed the Hunger Games

I'm so glad I'm not the only one with trouble staying asleep despite being wrecked - i'm up and down like a yoyo to pee, and rolling over is getting harder and harder. My back and hips are starting to really hurt!

kildareash · 17-04-2012 9:30am

Thanks java, I thought that's what they told me but I remember the midwife saying you had to ask for pictures after the first visit. It's crazy how every hospital is different.

I'm not liking the third trimester at all. Turning in the bed is so uncomfortable and I can't lie anyway for too long. My hips ache, my lower back and between my shoulders...probably caused by the weight of my boobs!!!!

Was dreaming about baby last night, it was lovely

roll on Friday till I get to see this little trouble maker again...OH says he is going to be on the lookout to see if it's a boy or a girl, hopefully he won't get a clear enough view!

Mink · 17-04-2012 9:36am

mamaheidi wrote: »

I had sugar in my urine at my last appointment & the midwife just told me to repeat the test 30 minutes later and it was ok again. It was weird because I had only had Special K and coffee about an hour before hand for breakfast.

Special K along with most cereals is fairly high in sugar. Also it's pure carbs which convert to sugar and then you've all the sugar in the milk. Best bet is porridge if you're a cereal eater or eggs on toast or something like that. (Having said all that, I LOVE my sugary cereals since getting preg)

cyning wrote: »

I read the first book since I got pregnant today: I was so delighted. Im an avid (and fast!) reader so it's been torture not having the concentration for it! Admittedly it was the hunger games but I'd tried rereading some of my fave books and was getting nowhere! So so happy off to buy second one in morning now!!

Hunger games books are great. Very easy to read but addictive. My OH is reading them at the moment and he loves them. My sister was a big reader and when she got preg all she read was occasional baby magazines. She got terrible baby brain. It was around the time the Twilight books came out and I'd just finished them. They weren't exactly literary tomes but they got her reading again!

Kash wrote: »

Hiubby finally felt the kicks, he is absolutely gobsmacked by them

I'm so glad I'm not the only one with trouble staying asleep despite being wrecked - i'm up and down like a yoyo to pee, and rolling over is getting harder and harder. My back and hips are starting to really hurt!

Yay re your hubby feeling the kicks too!

My back is slightly better today but I really feel it in my hips.
I went to get more heat patches yesterday and I said to the pharmacist re me being preg and she said "well just take them off if you notice any bleeding" :eek: so I'm going to call my midwife before I put one on again, they don't seem so hot that they could do any damage!

What the hell are we going to do when we're 8mths, 9mths. I had a coniption (sp?) fit last night as I was so frustrated with not being able to do anything with my back. OH cooked a big dinner, did all the washing up and hoovered the whole house last night and I just felt like the most useless thing ever sitting on my hole!

Kash · 17-04-2012 9:38am

kildareash wrote: »

Turning in the bed is so uncomfortable and I can't lie anyway for too long. My hips ache, my lower back and between my shoulders...probably caused by the weight of my boobs!!!!

This! This exactly! I used to love curling up with hubby and watching a movie in the bed, and now the idea of lying down for any longer than strictly necessary makes me want to cry.

Best of luck to all the lucky ducks with scans happening this week!

silly · 17-04-2012 9:56am

my hubby is a major snuggler in bed, he throws an arm and a leg over me always and lately its too much. He's not allowed to do it anymore...poor guy is feeling very left out.

Its very uncomfortable alright getting to sleep, i dont have one of those fancy pillows so at the moment i am just stuffing the duvet between my legs and under my bump. Which means major hogging of the duvet..

If we see anyone selling those pillows at the fair we will get one.

Did any of the stalls at the fair take laser?? or was it mostly cash?

TwoMums2Be · 17-04-2012 10:00am

Tony Kealys took our deposit via card. We paid cash to the others but they might have had card facilities. There was a cash machine on site in Dublin but it would be a good idea to bring some cash with you just in case

javagal · 17-04-2012 10:10am

silly wrote: »

my hubby is a major snuggler in bed, he throws an arm and a leg over me always and lately its too much. He's not allowed to do it anymore...poor guy is feeling very left out.

Its very uncomfortable alright getting to sleep, i dont have one of those fancy pillows so at the moment i am just stuffing the duvet between my legs and under my bump. Which means major hogging of the duvet..

If we see anyone selling those pillows at the fair we will get one.

Did any of the stalls at the fair take laser?? or was it mostly cash?

I have one of the fancy maternity pillows and think it's just too big because I wake up during the night with horrible pressure in my side and bump from where i lie on it and don't get it when I go without.

Kash · 17-04-2012 10:22am

I have the dream genii, and i have found it great for stopping me rolling over onto my back, and for helping me to sit up in bed now that leaning back is so damn uncomfortable.

But, I have also found it a pain in the ass, it is not at all comfy under the bump as it is way too solid, and I miss being able to roll over and snuggle up to my hubby when I am using it correctly. He calls it the 'cock-blocker'

I've taken to turning it upside down and keeping the whole thing on the outside of the bed to rest my knee on. So, to be fair - a normal pillow would do!

silly · 17-04-2012 10:22am

javagal wrote: »

I have one of the fancy maternity pillows and think it's just too big because I wake up during the night with horrible pressure in my side and bump from where i lie on it and don't get it when I go without.

hmmmm...i'll have to get something, maybe just an ordinary extra pillow..

mamaheidi · 17-04-2012 10:30am

Thanks Mink, that's what I thought afterwards. I've been on weetabix since - a lot less sugar.

I'm with Java on the pregnancy pillow. OH got me a belly wedge, really nice idea but when I use it I wake up with a sore back. Maybe it's for when the belly is bigger but I find that a normal pillow works better.

javagal · 17-04-2012 10:37am

Urghh sometimes I hate college,

I'm already known as billy no mates cause I'm the only mature student in my class, but I came in after Easter break and my belly has gotten big, but jesus, the looks I get is unreal.

I try to avoid my classmates because I can't conversate with them, I know I'm only 23 but I feel sooo much older than 5 years over them, I have a house, mortgage, car etc and one of them is living in his van on campus.

Then one of the lads just asked me "how's your little parasite," I very nearly screamed at him...

kildareash · 17-04-2012 11:14am

mamaheidi wrote: »

Thanks Mink, that's what I thought afterwards. I've been on weetabix since - a lot less sugar.

I'm with Java on the pregnancy pillow. OH got me a belly wedge, really nice idea but when I use it I wake up with a sore back. Maybe it's for when the belly is bigger but I find that a normal pillow works better.

It might just have been because you had only eaten an hour beforehand, that's why she repeated the test and it was normal.

javagal wrote: »

Then one of the lads just asked me "how's your little parasite," I very nearly screamed at him...

What an a**hole! Some people just mature quicker than others. Try not to let it upset you!

silly wrote: »

my hubby is a major snuggler in bed, he throws an arm and a leg over me always and lately its too much. He's not allowed to do it anymore...poor guy is feeling very left out.

My OH is the same, but the other morning he put his arm across me the other morning and baby gave him a swift PFO! I thought OH was asleep and didn't feel it, but I think it woke him!

Mink wrote: »

What the hell are we going to do when we're 8mths, 9mths. I had a coniption (sp?) fit last night as I was so frustrated with not being able to do anything with my back. OH cooked a big dinner, did all the washing up and hoovered the whole house last night and I just felt like the most useless thing ever sitting on my hole!

Aw Mink, try to relax and let him help. I know it's hard when you feel totally useless, but you're working 24/7 lately so take the time to rest.

I feel older than my 82-year-old dad who has dodgy hips right noW. Just made a call in work that I make every week and speak to the same person, but I couldn't remember his name to ask for him when the phone was answered. All my colleagues collapsed in fits of giggles. I was mortified!

notsobusy · 17-04-2012 11:25am

javagal wrote: »

Urghh sometimes I hate college,

I'm already known as billy no mates cause I'm the only mature student in my class, but I came in after Easter break and my belly has gotten big, but jesus, the looks I get is unreal.

I try to avoid my classmates because I can't conversate with them, I know I'm only 23 but I feel sooo much older than 5 years over them, I have a house, mortgage, car etc and one of them is living in his van on campus.

Then one of the lads just asked me "how's your little parasite," I very nearly screamed at him...

Did you not punch him? I'll punch him for you if you want!!!

TwoMums2Be · 17-04-2012 11:37am

Javagal don't worry re the classmates...it's a shame you are the only mature student! When I was a wee 17 year old in college most of my class were mature students & it made for a fabulous learning environment

I'd pick a class of mature over straight from school any day as would my partner who is a lecturer

Re your nose bleeds - according to my other half orange juice helps strenghten the nose vessels & the only nosebleed I have had was after 4 days of no juice! I think she read it in what to expect

I'm adoring orange juice at the moment - I know it's packed with sugar but ooohhhh it's so yummy

I also gather you are a Harry Potter fan - my partner is reading The Tales Of Beedle The Bard to my bump

she would be reading the books if she thought I would put up with it

javagal · 17-04-2012 11:46am

Did you not punch him? I'll punch him for you if you want!!!

I think he just said that because I showed him my website project and he nearly puked at the difference between his and mine!! And I might be his boss one day lol!!

Re your nose bleeds - according to my other half orange juice helps strenghten the nose vessels & the only nosebleed I have had was after 4 days of no juice! I think she read it in what to expect I'm adoring orange juice at the moment - I know it's packed with sugar but ooohhhh it's so yummy

I also gather you are a Harry Potter fan - my partner is reading The Tales Of Beedle The Bard to my bump she would be reading the books if she thought I would put up with it

Your OH is the sweetest!!-You're very lucky to have her!!
My OH bought go the F*** to sleep to read to Zoe lol!!

Saurelin · 17-04-2012 2:42pm

Hi Ladies

how are you?

I can't wait maternity leave and chance to rest.

i feel so tired.
i have gtt test on thursday. brrr i don't want to :-P

mmmn..chicken · 17-04-2012 3:15pm

notsobusy wrote: »

Seriously though???!!! She didn't know she was pregnant?!?!? I was 5 weeks before I realised that I was pregnant, how could you not know?!?! Even before I took the test I was 90% certain!

crazy stuff isnt it!!
she said her doc an older male was giving her "difene" for back pain which numbed most of the movements also said that was the reason her periods stopped ...she was a bit panicked when she realised in case any damage had been done luckily all was well with babs.who arrived early.so all in all she was pregnant for about 5-6 weeks. she is a real mrs maternal so thats mostly why i believe her ,i just cant believe she would have taken the difene for so long if she had known. she was tiny she was still wearing her size 8 jeans at the end .but in the last few weeks after it all came out was when she really started to show. it seemed like she finally breathed out and her belly just went pop!
some people eh!! makes me feel guilty for making such a big deal out of mine at times.

mmmn..chicken · 17-04-2012 3:22pm

Kash wrote: »

Hiubby finally felt the kicks, he is absolutely gobsmacked by them

ha ha its lovely when they finally feel them.for ages i had to try and stop myself from getting annoyed with myotherhalf cause id be able to feel lots and he couldnt feel a thing ,anytime id ask him he would half heartedly put his hand there but i could see his eyes slowly going back towards the tv
it made me want to strangle him!!
he finally is feeling them now and he wont leave me alone ,he has just realised that baby will follow his pokes and fight back....ill be bruised from the pair of them!! hopefully when bubs comes out they will get on better:D or at least they can leave me out of it!!

theg81der · 17-04-2012 3:29pm

I am in agony for the last few days. My ribs, my hips, my butt....Babs clearly needs more room!

silly · 17-04-2012 3:31pm

mmmn..chicken wrote: »

ha ha its lovely when they finally feel them.for ages i had to try and stop myself from getting annoyed with myotherhalf cause id be able to feel lots and he couldnt feel a thing ,anytime id ask him he would half heartedly put his hand there but i could see his eyes slowly going back towards the tv
it made me want to strangle him!!

My hubby was EXACTLY the same..had no interest in trying to feel them, until he actually did, and he was so taken aback, i dont think he realised they were so strong...then he felt bad and was hoping that i wasnt getting hurt...
he put his arm across my the other night, just below the bump, and the moving started and he felt it...it like like a "hey!! i'm trying to get comfy in here! back off!!"

mmmn..chicken · 17-04-2012 3:37pm

hi kildaresh
Was it hard to get used to the support band. I think I could do with something, I'm starting to get an ache in my lower back, don't want it to get worse.

nah. i find i brilliant. im not that into all the maternity and baby gadgets.i havent bought any thing else just using baby oil on stomach twice daily for stretchmarks. and bought this belt thing so far.its really supports you ,i feel like homer simpson when i take it off cause my belly just spills out and drops down a few inches. at first i was worried cause it numbs the movements a little but now ill just take it off at lunch and ill feel bubs moving about. you can make it as loose or as tight as you need. i am itchy after wearing sometimes if i do a ten hour busy day but i not certain thats belt related.i prob am just overdoing it a bit. the best thing i find with it is how it supports under your bump without it i always feel very crampy and tired and sore by the evening.

http://www.mothercare.com/M2b-Support-Belt-Black/dp/B002HDZ40E
(sorry im not that high tech so hope that works will give you some idea of where to look anyway)

TwoMums2Be · 17-04-2012 3:59pm

javagal wrote: »

Your OH is the sweetest!!-You're very lucky to have her!!
My OH bought go the F*** to sleep to read to Zoe lol!!

She's a keeper alright

After 11 years together we are having a shot gun wedding in just over 3 weeks :eek: Our actual wedding (just getting legal bit out of the way this year) is next year on the same day

That book is my niece...she didn't sleep all night for years...I really hope our little one sleeps

mmmn..chicken · 17-04-2012 4:04pm

silly wrote: »

My hubby was EXACTLY the same..had no interest in trying to feel them, until he actually did, and he was so taken aback, i dont think he realised they were so strong...then he felt bad and was hoping that i wasnt getting hurt...
he put his arm across my the other night, just below the bump, and the moving started and he felt it...it like like a "hey!! i'm trying to get comfy in here! back off!!"

lucky you with your sympathy:)
they are both gangin up on me now!!
he thinks its hilarious to go...poke poke!!lets make mummy need to wee!!
thud thud bounce bounce kick kick ...hes delighted with himself with the instant reaction!! tis lovely though to finally see a bit of interest:)
dont get me wrong he is great at saving money for when i finally get my a**e in gear and go shopping or coming to the scans or remembering the doc appoint times-baby brain
but its nice to have him involved with the silly side of things too.....if a little sore!! tis gas they way something so small can make your day with just a little kick or a few hiccups

mmmn..chicken · 17-04-2012 4:09pm

TwoMums2Be wrote: »

She's a keeper alright After 11 years together we are having a shot gun wedding in just over 3 weeks :eek: Our actual wedding (just getting legal bit out of the way this year) is next year on the same day

That book is my niece...she didn't sleep all night for years...I really hope our little one sleeps

congrats to ye both!!
thats very romantic with the year later dates...lovely idea!! yer babs will look cute in a little dress or suit!!

kildareash · 17-04-2012 4:17pm

mmmn..chicken wrote: »

Kash wrote: »

he finally is feeling them now and he wont leave me alone ,he has just realised that baby will follow his pokes and fight back....ill be bruised from the pair of them!! hopefully when bubs comes out they will get on better:D or at least they can leave me out of it!!

Haha, I was feeling the exact same. I was getting so pissed off because he woud just put his hand on my belly for a minute and then take it away, because he wasn't feeling anything. But now I nearly have to surgically remove him and he keeps wanting to play "Where's my jumpa" to the baby!

theg81der wrote: »

I am in agony for the last few days. My ribs, my hips, my butt....Babs clearly needs more room!

Ohoh, looks like we're all in the same boat this week. We may set up a seperate July moan thread! Hope your feeling better soon. I'm going to try a heat pack tonight. Was going to have a bath, but OH is working late and I'm afraid if i get in I won't be able to lift myself back out.

mmmn..chicken wrote: »

http://www.mothercare.com/M2b-Support-Belt-Black/dp/B002HDZ40E
(sorry im not that high tech so hope that works will give you some idea of where to look anyway)

Thanks, will definately look into that. I think if i could take some of the weight of my bump off my back it wouldn't ache as much.

TwoMums2Be wrote: »

She's a keeper alright After 11 years together we are having a shot gun wedding in just over 3 weeks :eek: Our actual wedding (just getting legal bit out of the way this year) is next year on the same day

That book is my niece...she didn't sleep all night for years...I really hope our little one sleeps

You've a busy few weeks so....lots to look forward too You may tell us the day, so we can all raise a non alcoholic glass of something fizzy to you!

TwoMums2Be · 17-04-2012 4:28pm

It's the 10th of May (Thursday this year Friday next

)...very busy couple of months indeed as its my partners big 40 in July & she is still a big kid so birthdays are very special to her...she may end up in a labour ward for her birthday

mmmn..chicken · 17-04-2012 4:32pm

trions wrote: »

cyning - best of luck tomorrow, hope all goes well..

A friend of mine sent me on this list of baby essentials for home, hospital and delivery. Warning: it's very long and a bit scary!

oh lordy!!
must start shopping
just printed your list am gonna see if it can be done in a day!!
the list is very detailed,im delighted with it though.otherwise i would be walking around like a headless chicken im even less decidy now with baby brain.
thanks

silly · 17-04-2012 4:56pm

TwoMums2Be wrote: »

She's a keeper alright After 11 years together we are having a shot gun wedding in just over 3 weeks :eek: Our actual wedding (just getting legal bit out of the way this year) is next year on the same day

Congrats!!!

silly · 17-04-2012 4:58pm

trions wrote: »

A friend of mine sent me on this list of baby essentials for home, hospital and delivery. Warning: it's very long and a bit scary!

i too have saved and printed..
going to show it to my husband tonight and just watch his face as he reads it, should be a laugh at least..

tinkerbell79 · 17-04-2012 5:05pm

Good luck 2 all having scans soon:)

Dont know who metioned heat packs... I hurt my back a while ago and in the past always used heat packs( ie deep heat pack) but it said on back to consult doctor if pregnant so I did.... I was told hot water bottle or heat pack like click clack (just heat doesnt stick etc) is fine but not to use the deep heat ones or similar ones as no-one is sure of wats in them and your body would absorb any chemicals etc through the skin, Hope this is helpful and you understand wat I'm trying to say!!!:D

Congrats Twomums2be!! Thats lovely and you get to do it twice!!:D

cyning · 17-04-2012 5:44pm

My baby hates cooperating: but consultant is 80% sure I' having a little girl

Her feet are tucked up under her bottom at the moment which is making it quite difficult to be 100% certain but I'm so excited!!

Oh and I don't have gestational diabetes either! Results were clear!

mamaheidi · 17-04-2012 6:18pm

Congrats Cyning!

Another girl! There must be lots of boys due in June or August to balance up the boy/girl ratio!

kildareash · 17-04-2012 7:10pm

tinkerbell79 wrote: »

Good luck 2 all having scans soon:)

Dont know who metioned heat packs... I hurt my back a while ago and in the past always used heat packs( ie deep heat pack) but it said on back to consult doctor if pregnant so I did.... I was told hot water bottle or heat pack like click clack (just heat doesnt stick etc) is fine but not to use the deep heat ones or similar ones as no-one is sure of wats in them and your body would absorb any chemicals etc through the skin, Hope this is helpful and you understand wat I'm trying to say!!!:D

Congrats Twomums2be!! Thats lovely and you get to do it twice!!:D

I said earlier I was going to use one tonight. I call all those yokes heat packs, but thanks for the warning. I was just going to use a beany type ones that you heat in the microwave.

Congrats cyning, you must have been delighted to see babs today

another July girl, this is gas!

Robinc · 17-04-2012 7:36pm

Has everyone sent off the form for Maternity Benefit?.. I was hoping to work up to as near the due date as possible to have more time off after, although god knows what condition I'll be in by then! I'm due the 9th July and when I was working the dates out by the conditions they had on the form I would have to finish up work on the 22nd June! so I rang them and they said that I could actually finish on the 29th June. The form needs to be sent in before you hit 30 weeks!

Tinkerbell4484 · 17-04-2012 7:40pm

Congrats cying,another little girl.
I'm starting to really struggle with the thought of having 5 kids.physically,emotionally and financially.i had bad PND on ds1&2 and I fought it on the last 2 but not sure I can again.everything just seems to be getting to me and dh and it's taking it's toal.

TwoMums2Be · 17-04-2012 9:02pm

Tinkerbell4484 wrote: »

Congrats cying,another little girl.
I'm starting to really struggle with the thought of having 5 kids.physically,emotionally and financially.i had bad PND on ds1&2 and I fought it on the last 2 but not sure I can again.everything just seems to be getting to me and dh and it's taking it's toal.

Tink sounds like you should make an appointment & have a chat with your doctor. Pre natal depression is less know about but exists.
I can imagine late pregnancy & four kids is hard at the best of times

Hopefully it is just a pregnancy hormones blip but do have a chat with your doc about how you are feeling.

kildareash · 17-04-2012 9:16pm

Robinc wrote: »

Has everyone sent off the form for Maternity Benefit?.. I was hoping to work up to as near the due date as possible to have more time off after, although god knows what condition I'll be in by then! I'm due the 9th July and when I was working the dates out by the conditions they had on the form I would have to finish up work on the 22nd June! so I rang them and they said that I could actually finish on the 29th June. The form needs to be sent in before you hit 30 weeks!

On the form it says to qualify for the maximum period of 26 weeks maternity leave, an employee must take at least 2 weeks before the end of the week in which her baby is due. I'm due on July 14, so I've told work I'll be finishing up on June 29.
Trying to get all the paperwork sorted. I had some form to fill out for work that I completely forgot about and my boss hasn't a clue what needs to be done as I'm the first person to go on maternity leave since he took over.
I actually printed the maternity benefit form last week, coz by the time the doctors surgery sign their part and work do their bit it will take a couple of weeks before I'll be ready to send it and it has to be sumbitted by the middle of May at the latest.

Tinkerbell4484 wrote: »

Congrats cying,another little girl.
I'm starting to really struggle with the thought of having 5 kids.physically,emotionally and financially.i had bad PND on ds1&2 and I fought it on the last 2 but not sure I can again.everything just seems to be getting to me and dh and it's taking it's toal.

Sorry to hear your not feeling great Tinkerbell. Totally agree with twomums tho, make an appt to have a chat with your GP. Is there anyway that you and your hubbie could even get away on your own for an afternoon or evening...just getting away from it all for a couple of hours might help. Sending lots of cyber hugs and hope your feeling better soon x

Saurelin · 17-04-2012 9:20pm

Congrats Cyning

Tinkerbell4484 · 17-04-2012 9:21pm

Thanks girls. I'd go to my gp but I really don't like him and it's the only surgery in the town. Im not really comfortable talking to him about things.
I do think it'd be a good idea for me and dh to get a few hours to ourselves. Unfortunately the post woman just seems to bring me nothing but bills and with ds's communion on 5th its not looking like well get anywhere together until after then but I'm going to try and get a babysitter,even if it's just for the cinema or something

Robinc · 17-04-2012 9:42pm

kildareash wrote: »

On the form it says to qualify for the maximum period of 26 weeks maternity leave, an employee must take at least 2 weeks before the end of the week in which her baby is due. I'm due on July 14, so I've told work I'll be finishing up on June 29.
Trying to get all the paperwork sorted. I had some form to fill out for work that I completely forgot about and my boss hasn't a clue what needs to be done as I'm the first person to go on maternity leave since he took over.
I actually printed the maternity benefit form last week, coz by the time the doctors surgery sign their part and work do their bit it will take a couple of weeks before I'll be ready to send it and it has to be sumbitted by the middle of May at the latest.

I thought that too and had the 22nd as my finish date but then I gave the number on the form a ring and asked them whats the latest I can finish up, They judge it by the Friday in the week and count back I think.. sorry my pregnancy brain is kicking in and I can't remember exactly what he said! I did tell him that I am claiming the full 26 weeks.. form is getting posted in the morning so I'll just keep my fingers crossed!

mamaheidi · 17-04-2012 9:50pm

Tinkerbell, it's a tough time for you. I know that if you don't like your doctor it's very hard to talk to him/ her but maybe you should talk to a counsellor or somebody? You should definitely get away with your OH, even if it's just for an evening. Do you have family around you that you could tell how you're feeling - I'm sure if your mum / sis / friend knew they'd take the kids off your hands for a few hours. You already have your hands full with 4 so this little one is coming along would obviously be daunting but you'll have a little lady this time which is something different & something to look forward to.

About the maternity benefit - I'd advise everybody to get it sorted asap. I work two jobs so it was a bit more awkward to get it filled out by everybody involved but it took the best part of a month to sort it. It's sent off now tho, thankfully. Here's hoping I get it because my student status doesn't count (started the course after I was 23), so I'm hoping I have enough prsi contributions between the two jobs to actually get something!

kildareash · 17-04-2012 9:52pm

Tinkerbell4484 wrote: »

Thanks girls. I'd go to my gp but I really don't like him and it's the only surgery in the town. Im not really comfortable talking to him about things.
I do think it'd be a good idea for me and dh to get a few hours to ourselves. Unfortunately the post woman just seems to bring me nothing but bills and with ds's communion on 5th its not looking like well get anywhere together until after then but I'm going to try and get a babysitter,even if it's just for the cinema or something

If your not comfortable with your GP do you know of any counsellors in your area? I know that would cost money, but you have to look after your whole self...and not just everyone else!

If ye are outdoorsy type people...maybe just pack a picnic and go for a nice walk somewhere. (I know that doesn't suit everyone tho!)

Robinc wrote: »

I thought that too and had the 22nd as my finish date but then I gave the number on the form a ring and asked them whats the latest I can finish up, They judge it by the Friday in the week and count back I think.. sorry my pregnancy brain is kicking in and I can't remember exactly what he said! I did tell him that I am claiming the full 26 weeks.. form is getting posted in the morning so I'll just keep my fingers crossed!

Jees, they make nothing about this simple do they! It's all conflicting information.

By the way, has anyone seen long sleeve vests in the shops? I want to get a packet just to be on the safe side, because you never know what the Irish weather is going to be like.

Kash · 18-04-2012 8:35am

Tink - hugs!! Do try talking to someone, if not a doctor or counsellor, then even a 'good listener' friend or family member, the very act of letting it all out to someone will help you put things in perspective.

Robinc - thank you so much for mentioning the maternity benefit form, I did not even realise I had to fill anything out!

And congrats Cyning on your 80% positive girl

silly · 18-04-2012 9:23am

Tink, Sorry to hear you are not doing so good..here i am complaining about all sorts, and you have 4 small ones already to look after, as well as yourself and baby number 5. It cant be easy. Anyway, i found this website,http://www.pnd.ie/ it seems to be based in Cork, but i'm sure if you give them a ring, they will be only too happy to chat with you and maybe give you a number of someone in your locality that you can talk to. Or at your next hospital appointment, ask your consultant or midwife, i'm sure they can give you advice etc.
even if you could get your mom/mother in law to take 2 kids for a sleep over and a sister/sister in law to take the other 2. ye dont even need to go out, just a night in, with a dvd and a sleep in!

re: the Maternity benefit form, i'm due on July 18th - thinking of taking 2.5 weeks before hand, which will see me finish up at the last week of june (around the same time my daughter gets her school holidays) I am saving up holidays and there will be a few bank holidays to add onto the end also, and as i will not be due back until january, that is a new working year so if i really need to i might take some of my 2013 hols as well, or maybe 1-2 weeks (of the 16 allowed) unpaid...depending on my finances. (which i dont think will be great after christmas...it will be very small presents this year - almost hoping that my 11 year old finds out santa isnt real before this christmas, so she might understand why santa cant bring a big expensive present - is that AWFUL of me???)

oh and congrats Cyning! another girl...
I wonder what I will be adding to the list..............

notsobusy · 18-04-2012 10:04am

I don't qualify for maternity benefit as I am self employed but have only been self employed for around 6 months so don't have any contributions!

Will just have to work around baby as best I can! If I have any work.....it's been a bit quiet but am hoping that once babs is born I can start taking in horses again asap!!!

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