Mid Life Crisis

26-01-2013 12:06pm #1

Have had enough:
After hours must surely be the place to post my mid life crisis:
I am 36, recently single after a long relationship, have a good career and have 100,000 euro in savings.

Recently I am questioning what’s its all about ? I recently read that when people are told they are dying one of their biggest regrets is been a slave to work.
So boardies what should I do with my mid life crisis. Keep working with a eye on my career, earning good money, look for a wife and family etc

Or
Throw it all away, give up job, move somewhere and party until I have no cash left
Or indeed any other suggestions welcome.

hfallada · 26-01-2013 12:12pm

First of don't do my father and try finding your purpose in life in things a majority of people would call cults. Don't do anything philosophy course or anything like that unless their university run. Even if they seem legit in reality they're very cult like.

Do you have a good balance between work and job? Do you have any hobbies? Like you 36 I would hardly call that mid life. Your still at a age when you'll find a wife no problems at all.

MyBrokenKnees · 26-01-2013 12:14pm

You can give me your 100k savings if that would cheer you up.

Micky Dolenz · 26-01-2013 12:15pm

You are only a young un.

Go out, get some hookers, do some drugs, be grand.

26-01-2013 12:15pm

If I gave you my 100k then that would be a mid life crisis!

amacca · 26-01-2013 12:16pm

Thats the crisis man

on the one hand you imagine you could live an amazing interesting life if you took the risks you describe

on the other hand you could become a jobless, penniless bum alone on a beach somewhere in the middle of the greatest storm of the century with nary a cardboard box to call home

or you could play safe and regret it on your nice warm comfy deathbed surrounded by the ungrateful bastards you spawned to replace yourself

its a conundrum, no doubt about that.......good luck, I hope you are brave and go for the lesser chosen path of blowing the entire 100k on a single spin of the roulette wheel in a casino in monaco

Fr_Dougal · 26-01-2013 12:21pm

Boo hoo.

MyBrokenKnees · 26-01-2013 12:25pm

6541 wrote: »

If I gave you my 100k then that would be a mid life crisis!

So it's not really a midlife crisis at all!

Just your way of letting people know you have a 100k in saving in these hard times!!

Good now you can give Sean Quinn a dig out with his legal costs. Since your richer than him now.

girl2 · 26-01-2013 12:28pm

If you are wanting to find some meaning to it all…there are a lot of ways you can go with that.

I started yoga teaching training and in that met a lot of people in search for some "meaning" and through that I have definitely started to see the world and life in a very different manner.

It really depends on what you want to achieve from it all…but realistically you don't need to ditch in your life or your job or spend all the money…you can right where you are. Start right now…look up some things that might be happening in the coming weeks and months. There are a lot of books you could read, everyone with their own message and from things like that, you can make your own decisions about what you believe is right and what suits you.

26-01-2013 12:29pm

MyBrokenKnees wrote: »

So it's not really a midlife crisis at all!

Just your way of letting people know you have a 100k in saving in these hard times!!

Good now you can give Sean Quinn a dig out with his legal costs. Since your richer than him now.

Sure 100 K is nothing.

girl2 · 26-01-2013 12:30pm

Plus you're only 36, in 35 and if I thought the age of mid life crisis was 36…I be having a fit. You're far too young for that!

Settle that head

1ZRed · 26-01-2013 12:33pm

6541 wrote: »

..have 100,000 euro in savings..

Hey there

Zebra3 · 26-01-2013 12:35pm

Take three months off work and go travelling.

Grayson · 26-01-2013 12:35pm

100k? Dude, go backpacking for a few years. (I'm not saying you'll discoiver yourself before people jump on me).

If your life is getting you down, then get away from it. Go back packing because at least that way you'll meet people. You tend to meet more people in hostels than hotels.

Hang around a beach in thailand for a few months. Then go to Oz for a while. Stop off in india for a while. Go to south america and drink rum on a carribean beach whilst salsa dancing till the sun comes up.

You sound like you just need to get away from everything for an extended period of time. It's not like the money will do you any good unless you spend it and you'll never get a chance to do something like this unless you do it now.

And If youy go for 3 years, you'll probably still have 2/3 of your money when you get back. If you get back. You might end up settling down with some colombian beauty

Tom_Cruise · 26-01-2013 12:39pm

You might live to be 120+ years of age, so it could also be a 'quarter' life crisis you are having.

Do what ever makes you happy. Maybe go for a city break to Prague and shoot some guns and sleep with call girls, i think that would be a great thing to do, really.

itac · 26-01-2013 12:40pm

Has no other female boardsie offered yet? Fine, op, you can impulsively marry me, we'll head off round the world together for a year or two, spend some of the cash, then when we get, we'll settle down, i'll have the kids and you can go back to work....simples!

Ahh no, jesting aside, why not use your spare time outside of work to try new stuff? Surfing/rock climbing/givie money to local charities and volunteer with them. Become a weekend tourist, fly somewhere new every second weekend... Enjoy yourself!

Life is waaay too short and unless you wanna invest or buy a house(!!) if i were you, i'd use that money to enjoy life a little more...

26-01-2013 12:43pm

May I respectfully suggest that you make an investment in a pair of reading glasses, don't soldier on, stubbornly refusing to believe what's in front of your own eyes, namely 'large text'.

Yes, you've come to that stage in your life.

demanufactured · 26-01-2013 12:57pm

Thinly vieled "I have loads of money " thread.

Doc Ruby · 26-01-2013 12:59pm

Grayson wrote: »

100k? Dude, go backpacking for a few years. (I'm not saying you'll discoiver yourself before people jump on me).

If your life is getting you down, then get away from it. Go back packing because at least that way you'll meet people. You tend to meet more people in hostels than hotels.

Hang around a beach in thailand for a few months. Then go to Oz for a while. Stop off in india for a while. Go to south america and drink rum on a carribean beach whilst salsa dancing till the sun comes up.

You sound like you just need to get away from everything for an extended period of time. It's not like the money will do you any good unless you spend it and you'll never get a chance to do something like this unless you do it now.

And If youy go for 3 years, you'll probably still have 2/3 of your money when you get back. If you get back. You might end up settling down with some colombian beauty

This, absolutely this. Now is the time, I read a decent budget backpacking trip around the world would take a year and cost around thirty grand, which sounds about right to me. Go wander Asia, meet strange people, life is all about the experiences. Fear nothing.

the culture of deference · 26-01-2013 1:02pm

ask your job for a 3 day week + 3 months unpaid and do what you want with your down time

jimmy180sx · 26-01-2013 1:09pm

Thailand...you wont regret it.

Geri Male · 26-01-2013 1:10pm

6541 wrote: »

Have had enough:
After hours must surely be the place to post my mid life crisis:
I am 36, recently single after a long relationship, have a good career and have 100,000 euro in savings.

Recently I am questioning what’s its all about ? I recently read that when people are told they are dying one of their biggest regrets is been a slave to work.
So boardies what should I do with my mid life crisis. Keep working with a eye on my career, earning good money, look for a wife and family etc

Or
Throw it all away, give up job, move somewhere and party until I have no cash left
Or indeed any other suggestions welcome.

Let's spend the night together. You won't get a better offer.

Grayson · 26-01-2013 1:10pm

Doc Ruby wrote: »

This, absolutely this. Now is the time, I read a decent budget backpacking trip around the world would take a year and cost around thirty grand, which sounds about right to me. Go wander Asia, meet strange people, life is all about the experiences. Fear nothing.

I did three months in south america for 3 grand. That's including flights. I slummed a bit, but not that much. Some of the best time I spent. And I certainly don't think that if I'd spent 3 months here it would have made my life any better at all.

Geri Male · 26-01-2013 1:40pm

Grayson wrote: »

I did three months in south america for 3 grand. That's including flights. I slummed a bit, but not that much. Some of the best time I spent. And I certainly don't think that if I'd spent 3 months here it would have made my life any better at all.

Did you get the runs / scutters / diarrhoea when you were there?

Grayson · 26-01-2013 1:59pm

Geri Male wrote: »

Did you get the runs / scutters / diarrhoea when you were there?

I met an irish guy in colombia (one of the first countries I did) who said he could summarise every South American country with two sentances.

Argentina:
Best steak in the world (true)
Everyone looks like a model (Also true)

Bolivia:
Cheapest place you'll ever go (True so far)
You'll get sick.

On my frst day i caught a bug and spent 24 hours with a temp & retching. It took about 8 hours from me crossing the border to when i got sick.

I spent a month in Bolivia and pretty much everyone I knew there came down with either vomiting, the runs or both for at least a day at some point. I met a guy who said it never happened to him because he drank tap water everywhere. He thought it was our inability to deal with common bugs there and that a bolivian would have the same reaction if he went to Europe. I went prepared though. Brought everything right down to antibiotics with me just in case.

If I had the money, I'd head back tomorrow

orestes · 26-01-2013 2:06pm

Step 1: Quit job.
Step 2: Pack bag.
Step 3: Go to airport.
Step 4: Get ticket to the next flight to anywhere.
Step 5: Who the fukk knows, that's the fun part.

HondaSami · 26-01-2013 2:06pm

6541 wrote: »

Have had enough:
After hours must surely be the place to post my mid life crisis:
I am 36, recently single after a long relationship, have a good career and have 100,000 euro in savings.

Recently I am questioning what’s its all about ? I recently read that when people are told they are dying one of their biggest regrets is been a slave to work.
So boardies what should I do with my mid life crisis. Keep working with a eye on my career, earning good money, look for a wife and family etc

Or
Throw it all away, give up job, move somewhere and party until I have no cash left
Or indeed any other suggestions welcome.

Make a bucket list, say five things you want to do, take time off from your job, travel and live the dream.
Life is too short not to do the things you want, enjoy.

Eve_Dublin · 26-01-2013 2:08pm

You lucky, lucky b*stard!

Think of it this way: I spent one year travelling around South America and I spent 11,000. That's including flights and stuff. The world is you're oyster!! God you're so bloody lucky!! I'm riddled with envy here, OP!

biko · 26-01-2013 2:10pm

Dig wells in Africa.

Capt'n Midnight · 26-01-2013 2:32pm

Thinly disguised "I have €100K" and you don't thread

Capt'n Midnight · 26-01-2013 2:36pm

biko wrote: »

Dig wells in Africa.

Better still, relax under a beach umbrella , iced drink in hand, watching teams of Africans dig wells for €2 a day. Get teams from different villages and start a league, you have a feast in the village of the team that digs the deepest each week and everyone's invited.

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