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What do attractive girls think about being checked out by hopeless people?

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    #32
    Figbiscuithead
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    paleoperson wrote: »
    Well staring kind of implies looking at too for too long, it's kind of built into the word that it's too much. I'm talking about normal looking, or getting "caught" looking, not staring.


    But crappy that you consider yourself hopeless, Paleo.


    I feel like a broken record saying this but women are different and react differently to different things, just like men. I can't see why any decent human-being, irrespective of what they look like, would have issue with what you've outlined above. I personally don't make judgements on men and label them "hopeless" unless they're acting like dickheads, so I have no issue with any man, whether HE believes he's hopeless or not, checking me out.

    The only thing I have a problem with is being touched without permission or being shouted at in public or being stared at by absolutely anyone.


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    #33
    Tasden
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,166 ✭✭✭Tasden


    harry Bailey esq wrote: »
    First off,good for you.I used to box,5 stone off is NOT easy.Secondly your probably right, you were being checked out,but women tend to be a lot more self conscious than us chaps.For example, a body part that a woman might hate about herself, let's use hips for example, could be the very thing that caught the chaps attention to begin with.

    This is so true, I absolutely hate those two weird dimple things on my lower back, would like a normal back, a few guys over the years have said that they actually really love them- not just on me, on any woman! Although maybe they were just saying it so I'd feel less bad about my nasty back :pac:


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    #34
    Medusa22
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    Tasden wrote: »
    This is so true, I absolutely hate those two weird dimple things on my lower back, would like a normal back, a few guys over the years have said that they actually really love them- not just on me, on any woman! Although maybe they were just saying it so I'd feel less bad about my nasty back :pac:

    I think that the dimples are really sexy, so maybe they weren't just saying it to you to make you feel better! :D


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    #35
    harry Bailey esq
    Registered Users Posts: 4,814 ✭✭✭harry Bailey esq


    Tasden wrote: »
    This is so true, I absolutely hate those two weird dimple things on my lower back, would like a normal back, a few guys over the years have said that they actually really love them- not just on me, on any woman! Although maybe they were just saying it so I'd feel less bad about my nasty back :pac:

    After a rigourous and indeed thorough search of several 'adult streaming sites' my quest for back dimple porn bore no fruit. Go forth and revel in your uniqueness!!


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    #36
    NachoBusiness
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    harry Bailey esq wrote: »
    After a rigourous and indeed thorough search of several 'adult streaming sites' my quest for back dimple porn bore no fruit.

    You're an amateur :P

    'POV doggy with sexy dimples'


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    #37
    Medusa22
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    https://masbetter.files.wordpress.com/2014/04/dimples-of-venus.jpg

    Dayum!! :D


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    #38
    harry Bailey esq
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    NachoBusiness wrote: »
    You're an amateur :P

    'POV doggy with sexy dimples'

    Haha :pac: duly noted.


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    #39
    NachoBusiness
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    https://twitter.com/MrNachoBusiness/status/670647527729963010


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    #40
    Tasden
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    Medusa22 wrote: »
    https://masbetter.files.wordpress.com/2014/04/dimples-of-venus.jpg

    Dayum!! :D

    Yep those are the ones, honestly don't see the appeal whatsoever, always thought they look like an odd deformity :o


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    #41
    Greenmachine
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    What exactly is a hopeless person? Romantic? Not good looking? Not cool? Doesn't have the right phone? Doesn't drink in the right bars? Not enough followers on twitter? Wrong clothes? Bad hair? Unemployed? Doesn't know Kim Kardashian is?

    In certain circumstance, I have ended up working casually with girls who most guys would rate 10/10, with catwalk good looks and figure, without airs or graces about them( on film sets as an extra). In one case she really wore her heart on heart sleeve ended up, telling me how happy she was in her marriage etc. I can promise you I am no oil painting, but she was pushing this whole conversation and did try to kiss me at the end of the work day. I made my excused and left.


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    #42
    MilesMorales1
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    I'm ugly and repellant enough I try to not look at people at all, if possible. Don't wanna be weirding them out.


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    #43
    Menas
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    I was in Peurto Rico once and womens there would be offended if you did not give them admiring glances. Just a cultural thing.
    And in my eyes most of those Peurti Rican women are absolute stunners.


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    #44
    Medusa22
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    MilesMorales1 wrote: »
    I'm ugly and repellant enough I try to not look at people at all, if possible. Don't wanna be weirding them out.

    Ah Miles, you shouldn't feel that way about yourself, regardless of what you look like, easier said than done I know, of course.


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    #45
    cantdecide
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    Did someone say back dimples?


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    cantdecide
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    There's little about my physicality that's disarming and shur I know there are better looking guys than me in general so I was always very discrete for fear of intruding [to quote JM, women seem wicked, when you're unwanted" has always struck a chord with me]. I'm in not position to think about romancing for a multitude of reasons now (zero spare time) so maybe that makes me a little hopeless. When I was last in a relationship I often found myself being checked out quite a bit (which feels great to me) but now I'm the hopeless one, I'm inclined to avoid any obvious checking out...


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    #47
    kylith
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    Medusa22 wrote: »
    https://masbetter.files.wordpress.com/2014/04/dimples-of-venus.jpg

    Dayum!! :D

    They also look good on men

    http://tomandlorenzo.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Nick-Jonas-Flaunt-Magazine-Tom-Lorenzo-Site-TLO-6.jpg


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    #48
    Ave Sodalis
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    Azalea wrote: »
    Women being afraid of posting as it would mean they're saying they're attractive. :)

    You know what, I am attractive. It took me a very very long time to realise it (21 years). Not only had I myself convinced I was ugly by secondary school, but I had completely accepted it and was completely ready for a single life when I left secondary school after not one boy showed any bit of interest in me up until that time. I was the only person that year who didn't have a date for the debs. I was even bullied where my complete lack of boys was a favourite topic, so it was really solidified in my mind that I was ugly and that was that.
    When I went to uni, it was a very weird experience. It was the first time in my entire life that I had ever had any attention from the opposite gender, and since I'm not trying to be modest in this post, I got a lot of it. It was overwhelming. I kept coming up with excuses for it such as it being dark in a nightclub or that they're just taking the piss, before eventually accepting it. I still didn't believe I was goodlooking as such. I mean, I had spent my whole life being told I had any looks at all by only my mother and family, but being told I was ugly by my "friends". However, after 4 years of it (including getting an amazing boyfriend), I was forced to admit that maybe I wasn't so ugly after all.
    Now? Next week I'm going into a modelling agency in order to discuss a signing. It wasn't something I asked for, the agent found me.
    So yes, I am attractive and I think the mentality this country (and a lot of others have) that someone thinking they're attractive is somehow wrong, is one of the main reasons so many young girls (and boys) have deep rooted insecurities. I don't mean bigheadedness or egotism or the "yeah, I'm just amazing", but I don't believe there's anything wrong with being able to admit that you're attractive. Heck, it took me years to be able to entertain the notion. Even now, I still get periods where my self esteem collapses again, but if I were to give into the idea that we shouldn't admit we're attractive, I would never come out of those lapses. I think this notion we put on ourselves that we shouldn't be allowed to think we're goodlooking, is one of the main reasons so many people have problems with how they look.


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    #49
    Medusa22
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    kylith wrote: »
    They also look good on men

    http://tomandlorenzo.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Nick-Jonas-Flaunt-Magazine-Tom-Lorenzo-Site-TLO-6.jpg

    Ooh, I concur :D


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    #50
    cantdecide
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    sup_dude wrote: »
    You know what, I am attractive.

    I'm happy for you. Some of us grow up to be ugly ducks!! On a serious note, I definitely improved with age but growing up, I got a lot of stick about the way I looked. It's extremely difficult to shake off the harm that this done even when you know it's not rational.


    O/T - how do you feel about being oogled by strangers?


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    #51
    Banjoxed
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    As not recorded by dem girlz in either Holy Faith or Alex..

    http://youtu.be/zTQoLydUeWo


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    #52
    Galwayguy35
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    Greenmachine wrote: »
    What exactly is a hopeless person? Romantic? Not good looking? Not cool? Doesn't have the right phone? Doesn't drink in the right bars? Not enough followers on twitter? Wrong clothes? Bad hair? Unemployed? Doesn't know Kim Kardashian is?

    In certain circumstance, I have ended up working casually with girls who most guys would rate 10/10, with catwalk good looks and figure, without airs or graces about them( on film sets as an extra). In one case she really wore her heart on heart sleeve ended up, telling me how happy she was in her marriage etc. I can promise you I am no oil painting, but she was pushing this whole conversation and did try to kiss me at the end of the work day. I made my excused and left.

    Funny way of showing she was happy in the marriage if she was going in for the shift with you at work.


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    #53
    Azalea
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,796 ✭✭✭Azalea


    sup_dude wrote: »
    You know what, I am attractive. It took me a very very long time to realise it (21 years). Not only had I myself convinced I was ugly by secondary school, but I had completely accepted it and was completely ready for a single life when I left secondary school after not one boy showed any bit of interest in me up until that time. I was the only person that year who didn't have a date for the debs. I was even bullied where my complete lack of boys was a favourite topic, so it was really solidified in my mind that I was ugly and that was that.
    When I went to uni, it was a very weird experience. It was the first time in my entire life that I had ever had any attention from the opposite gender, and since I'm not trying to be modest in this post, I got a lot of it. It was overwhelming. I kept coming up with excuses for it such as it being dark in a nightclub or that they're just taking the piss, before eventually accepting it. I still didn't believe I was goodlooking as such. I mean, I had spent my whole life being told I had any looks at all by only my mother and family, but being told I was ugly by my "friends". However, after 4 years of it (including getting an amazing boyfriend), I was forced to admit that maybe I wasn't so ugly after all.
    Now? Next week I'm going into a modelling agency in order to discuss a signing. It wasn't something I asked for, the agent found me.
    So yes, I am attractive and I think the mentality this country (and a lot of others have) that someone thinking they're attractive is somehow wrong, is one of the main reasons so many young girls (and boys) have deep rooted insecurities. I don't mean bigheadedness or egotism or the "yeah, I'm just amazing", but I don't believe there's anything wrong with being able to admit that you're attractive. Heck, it took me years to be able to entertain the notion. Even now, I still get periods where my self esteem collapses again, but if I were to give into the idea that we shouldn't admit we're attractive, I would never come out of those lapses. I think this notion we put on ourselves that we shouldn't be allowed to think we're goodlooking, is one of the main reasons so many people have problems with how they look.
    Yeah I wasn't a pretty child or teenager which affected the ego, but I got better looking and more confident and now I like how I look.


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    #54
    Tasden
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    sup_dude wrote: »
    Now? Next week I'm going into a modelling agency in order to discuss a signing. It wasn't something I asked for, the agent found me.
    So yes, I am attractive and I think the mentality this country (and a lot of others have) that someone thinking they're attractive is somehow wrong, is one of the main reasons so many young girls (and boys) have deep rooted insecurities. I don't mean bigheadedness or egotism or the "yeah, I'm just amazing", but I don't believe there's anything wrong with being able to admit that you're attractive.

    That's so exciting! :) good luck with it!

    Yeah people have a weird mentality about looks in this country. The amount of times I've said so and so is beautiful or whatever and someone would say "ooh not as pretty as you" or something along the lines, as if it's somehow impossible to find another person attractive and not question your own attractiveness.

    I can admit I'm not the best looking person, I'm not hideous either (i hope!) but if I say someone else is attractive its not being said out of jealousy or insecurity around my own looks, its just an observation. And in nine times out of ten, the person hasn't done any work to make themselves that way, they just so happen to have been born with a face that is aesthetically pleasing to those looking at it, it's hardly an achievement that others should feel intimidated or jealous about! :pac: same with admitting you're attractive, what's wrong with saying "i was pretty lucky to have been born with such attractive body parts!"


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    #55
    Medusa22
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    Azalea wrote: »
    Yeah I wasn't a pretty child or teenager which affected the ego, but I got better looking and more confident and now I like how I look.

    I really wasn't a good looking teenager either, bad teeth, glasses, unibrow going on and had my inhaler with me (I was like the classic nerd :P), it wasn't a good look. But I got the teeth fixed, I like my glasses (and I wear contacts occasionally) and I found a pair of tweezers and some nair :pac: Even when I was heavier I still got attention on a night out but I usually dismissed it as men being drunk and although I didn't get a lot of attention day to day, I never had trouble getting into relationships or having ONS.

    Now, I've lost the weight and I do find myself getting more attention but I find it very difficult to decide objectively speaking if I am attractive, growing up I was told so many times that I was ugly that I fully believed it. Now, as an adult, I do get attention from men and it isn't excessive or anything but it would lead me to believe that I'm certainly not hideous, in fact if I'm honest I often look in the mirror and I like what I see, but then at other times I'm unsure.


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    #56
    MilesMorales1
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    Medusa22 wrote: »
    Ah Miles, you shouldn't feel that way about yourself, regardless of what you look like, easier said than done I know, of course.

    I just accept the truth and don't waste my time going after things I won't get, it saves in the long run :)

    I used to be even worse, I used to be pig ugly/not have a great personality, and I used to be hugely obese. At least I lost the weight :pac:


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    #57
    wakka12
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    Is anyone else completely unsure where they fall on the looks scale? I get so many signs that Im ugly and then so many others that Im attractive.. So I honestly have no clue. Ive always been insecure about my looks and Ive definitely improved but Ive still been called ugly ,horrible, cute, adorable, hot ,handsome ,sexy and everything in between since I started college, by people of all genders, ages, races and backgrounds.. both online and in person


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    #58
    kfallon
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    wakka12 wrote: »
    Is anyone else completely unsure where they fall on the looks scale? I get so many signs that Im ugly and then so many others that Im attractive.. So I honestly have no clue. Ive always been insecure about my looks and Ive definitely improved but Ive still been called ugly ,horrible, cute, adorable, hot ,handsome ,sexy and everything in between since I started college, by people of all genders, ages, races and backgrounds.. both online and in person

    Na I know where I am and it's not on the side of the scale where we'd all like to be! Oh well, them's the breaks......


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    #59
    wakka12
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    I realise looks are subjective to some extent and people always say oh she might be gods gift to one man and a minger to another but really this isn't so true. We all know a reasonably attractive person when we see one, its whats generally accepted as 'conventional attractiveness' . Like sure you might think somebodys cute and somebody else might pass on them but for instance I doubt theres anyone who thinks emma watsons horrible looking and then I doubt theres many who think steve buschemi is hot stuff


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    #60
    Yakkyda
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    Tasden wrote: »
    This is so true, I absolutely hate those two weird dimple things on my lower back, would like a normal back, a few guys over the years have said that they actually really love them- not just on me, on any woman! Although maybe they were just saying it so I'd feel less bad about my nasty back :pac:

    Haha, they are actually very, very attractive Imo. Eyes, personality are what hook me but yeah, physical attributes deffo play a major part in initial attraction.

    I've punched above me weight a few times, once memorably whilst in the the city centre (in the trackie bottoms to boot), I'm no oil painting but my personality won out. We got talking about books and the like, she was almost shocked that I'd read the stuff I read. Never judge a book by its cover, likewise never stare/leery at a woman, it's creepy as fcuk.

    If somebody doesn't take it as a compliment (from someone "below their station" so to speak) and can't be polite in their rejection, they are most likely not worth pursuing. Stunning looks aren't the be all and end all...


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    #61
    [Deleted User]
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    Tasden wrote: »
    This is so true, I absolutely hate those two weird dimple things on my lower back, would like a normal back, a few guys over the years have said that they actually really love them- not just on me, on any woman! Although maybe they were just saying it so I'd feel less bad about my nasty back :pac:

    You're not alone, I've got the dimples too. I actually thought most people do, no?

    I hate people labelling either themselves or others as hopeless, nobody is. Unless you're a repulsive hateful person with no redeeming features at all, there is someone out there who will like you. Maybe not your looks to start with, but would come to like you if you're a half-decent skin.

    I'm an average looking girl, and that's fine by me. I think I have enough other stuff going for me to make up for my averageness so I don't dwell on not being a supermodel. One of the secrets to avoiding complete insecurity is to avoid comparing yourself with others, that is the road to self-loathing, if you're at all lacking in confidence.


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