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    #62
    jayteecork
    Site Banned Posts: 5,676 ✭✭✭jayteecork


    mysteries1984 wrote: »
    +1 to this.

    OP, I had a similar situation with an ex a couple of years ago. Here's my advice, and what I wish I did myself.

    Don't wait for it to get worse. Go to the Gardai. Don't wait for him to make a photo of you like this one which I got emailed shortly after we broke up without any explanation. I've removed my face, I value my privacy, but you get the idea.

    lol wtf?


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    #63
    mysteries1984
    Registered Users Posts: 553 ✭✭✭mysteries1984


    jayteecork wrote: »
    lol wtf?

    I understand it about as much as anyone here does, to be honest. I'm not particularly pro or anti religion, neither is he. I do like floral dresses...that's about the only link I can make.


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    #64
    antonymous
    Registered Users Posts: 65 ✭✭antonymous


    jayteecork wrote: »
    lol wtf?

    I second that... Creepy sh*t...


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    #65
    Nothingbetter2d
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,038 ✭✭✭Nothingbetter2d


    screw with her head for a lol...when she is peeping in your window dress up in women's clothes and pretend to be her.


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    #66
    mysteries1984
    Registered Users Posts: 553 ✭✭✭mysteries1984


    mysteries1984 wrote: »
    I understand it about as much as anyone here does, to be honest. I'm not particularly pro or anti religion, neither is he. I do like floral dresses...that's about the only link I can make.

    Oh! I meant to add the floral dresses thing is the only link I can make except for the fact that he may have wanted to crucify me.


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    #67
    skeptik
    Closed Accounts Posts: 216 ✭✭skeptik


    mysteries1984 wrote: »
    +1 to this.

    OP, I had a similar situation with an ex a couple of years ago. Here's my advice, and what I wish I did myself.

    Don't wait for it to get worse. Go to the Gardai. Don't wait for him to make a photo of you like this one which I got emailed shortly after we broke up without any explanation. I've removed my face, I value my privacy, but you get the idea.

    That's a wee bit disturbing :eek: hope you got that nutter sorted!


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    #68
    mysteries1984
    Registered Users Posts: 553 ✭✭✭mysteries1984


    skeptik wrote: »
    That's a wee bit disturbing :eek: hope you got that nutter sorted!

    It is fairly odd, yeah. But he sorted himself in the end, thanks :)


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    #69
    --LOS--
    Registered Users Posts: 11,028 ✭✭✭✭--LOS--


    TeddyTedson wrote: »
    I met them on a night out, met up for a while, then I decided to leave it at that, explained this to them on 3 separate occasion after being guilt tripped by text messages.
    I got messages asking why I hated them ect ect. I explained myself over and over that I didn't and it's just how I wanted things and they seemed to understand this, but then I start receiving the messages and phone calls again and again.
    To give you an example, I had 14 or 16 missed calls last Friday and a few text messages that I shudder to read.
    I sort of need to keep my phone number is the only thing.

    Teddy that sucks but I would say this person is not getting the message, you need to send them one last clear message, whether that is a text/in person w/e next time they contact you that you do not want to hear from them again and to stop contacting you and then just never reply to them again. Hopefully they'll get the message, otherwise you might have to look at changing your number, there's not much else you can do when it's just at this level.


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    #70
    Yellowroses
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭Yellowroses


    She followed you to a club? What happened there, if anything? Is she not entitled to go to any club she wants? Just because you were there you persumed that she followed you there?

    Anyways, I registered to remain anon and give my two cents and to pick up on a few bits that some posters posted.

    Unfortunately, I displayed similiar behaviour in the past with an ex. It was mentioned here last week about dumping people to be 100% honest or it leads to a head wreck.

    My ex was a head wreck who did nothing but lie, lie, lie. I put up with this behaviour for a long time, believing him in the hope things would change and go back to the way things were. There came a time when I realised that would not happened. He kept giving empty promises and never following through. He showed absolutely utter disregard towards me and lied to the very end.

    That head wreck was like a disease on the brain. I tried so hard to get over it but eventually it got the better of me, I cracked and displayed similiar behaviour to what you have described. I hated it. It wasn't out of revenge. It wasn't stalking. I didn't even want him back. I wanted to give him a headache like what he caused me. I hated that behaviour in me.

    All to often men love playing the 'she's a crazy' card without ever taking a look as to what part they played in the failure of the relationship/friendship.

    Of course there would be situations where things are completely innoscent and a partner or ex may never be able to handle any form of rejection and snap.

    Please and I urge you and also others who find themselves in such a situation to take a look at their part in things. I see all to often when a partner decides things are finished they/he/she just completely blanks the other individual. Fine, if something dreadful happened but if it is just a change of heart, it is absolutely rude and disrespectful. Don't lie when cutting things off either.


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    #71
    _feedback_
    Registered Users Posts: 4,269 ✭✭✭_feedback_


    Yellowroses wrote: »
    She followed you to a club? What happened there, if anything? Is she not entitled to go to any club she wants? Just because you were there you persumed that she followed you there?

    Anyways, I registered to remain anon and give my two cents and to pick up on a few bits that some posters posted.

    Unfortunately, I displayed similiar behaviour in the past with an ex. It was mentioned here last week about dumping people to be 100% honest or it leads to a head wreck.

    My ex was a head wreck who did nothing but lie, lie, lie. I put up with this behaviour for a long time, believing him in the hope things would change and go back to the way things were. There came a time when I realised that would not happened. He kept giving empty promises and never following through. He showed absolutely utter disregard towards me and lied to the very end.

    That head wreck was like a disease on the brain. I tried so hard to get over it but eventually it got the better of me, I cracked and displayed similiar behaviour to what you have described. I hated it. It wasn't out of revenge. It wasn't stalking. I didn't even want him back. I wanted to give him a headache like what he caused me. I hated that behaviour in me.

    All to often men love playing the 'she's a crazy' card without ever taking a look as to what part they played in the failure of the relationship/friendship.

    Of course there would be situations where things are completely innoscent and a partner or ex may never be able to handle any form of rejection and snap.

    Please and I urge you and also others who find themselves in such a situation to take a look at their part in things. I see all to often when a partner decides things are finished they/he/she just completely blanks the other individual. Fine, if something dreadful happened but if it is just a change of heart, it is absolutely rude and disrespectful. Don't lie when cutting things off either.

    It seems she has found you Ted.


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    #72
    du Maurier
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,198 ✭✭✭du Maurier


    MBNA trying a different tactic now? Poetry and whatnot...


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    #73
    Yellowroses
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭Yellowroses


    Yes it is me Ted!

    Don't you fcuking he'll dare rat me out to the gardai. I want closure. Give it to me. I will not be ignored.

    Oh yeah, get yourself tested for Std's. I'm riddled with them. Probably from you I picked them up from.


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    #74
    Yellowroses
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭Yellowroses


    Roses are red,
    Violets are blue,
    I'm riddled with STD's,
    And so are you.


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    #75
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Aquila wrote: »
    Oh i know what its like to be stalked,especially an unregistered person who without fail every day keeps a close eye on my account!
    Same. It's fcuking tragic.
    TeddyTedson wrote: »
    I met them on a night out, met up for a while, then I decided to leave it at that, explained this to them on 3 separate occasion after being guilt tripped by text messages.
    I got messages asking why I hated them ect ect. I explained myself over and over that I didn't and it's just how I wanted things and they seemed to understand this, but then I start receiving the messages and phone calls again and again.
    To give you an example, I had 14 or 16 missed calls last Friday and a few text messages that I shudder to read.
    I sort of need to keep my phone number is the only thing.
    Whoa there horsey. Stage 10 clinger right there. People like that don't like the loss of control over you, and come up with all kinds of dramatic shyte in a bid for your attention. Next step is the 'Im going to kill my myself' gig.

    Ignore all calls and texts, and as another poster said - start making a diary of this stuff.


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    #76
    TURRICAN
    Closed Accounts Posts: 717 ✭✭✭TURRICAN


    silly wrote: »
    TeddyTedson wrote: »
    Has anyone ever had, well basically it's beginning to seem like stalking.
    I'm getting constant texts every day. They ring my phone time and time again and then text me asking why I never answer. I've explained to them 3 times now in person. I'm receiving very weird messages of poetry. I've been followed to a nightclub. It's getting beyond obsessive. I was woken up in the middle of the night last night at 4am with phone calls.
    I don't want to have to change my number but I might have to. Luckily they don't know my exact address.
    What can you do in these situations? I'm really getting sick of it.
    Do you know the person or is it completely anonymous?


    Why do you say "they"


    Edit. Meant for op


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    #77
    Micky Dolenz
    Registered Users Posts: 44,080 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    This just got interesting.

    *Slips back into shadows*


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    #78
    Yellowroses
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭Yellowroses


    You are a rude, obnoxious man Ted,
    I'm a clucking hen that needs to wed,
    I want to have your babies,
    No looking at other ladies,
    You love me and that's what you said.


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    #79
    _feedback_
    Registered Users Posts: 4,269 ✭✭✭_feedback_


    Pity it wasn't someone funny who re-regged...


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    #80
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Yellowroses wrote: »
    You are a rude, obnoxious man Ted,
    I'm a clucking hen that needs to wed,
    I want to have your babies,
    No looking at other ladies,
    You love me and that's what you said.

    That was crap.


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    #81
    hondasam
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,419 ✭✭✭✭hondasam


    Micky Dolenz wrote: »
    This just got interesting.

    *Slips back into shadows*

    You would make a terrible stalker.


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    #82
    BunShopVoyeur
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,268 ✭✭✭BunShopVoyeur


    TeddyTedson wrote: »
    Has anyone ever had, well basically it's beginning to seem like stalking.
    I'm getting constant texts every day. They ring my phone time and time again and then text me asking why I never answer. I've explained to them 3 times now in person. I'm receiving very weird messages of poetry. I've been followed to a nightclub. It's getting beyond obsessive. I was woken up in the middle of the night last night at 4am with phone calls.
    I don't want to have to change my number but I might have to. Luckily they don't know my exact address.
    What can you do in these situations? I'm really getting sick of it.


    Never heard of a pity shag?

    I think it's time...


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    #83
    hondasam
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,419 ✭✭✭✭hondasam


    Yellowroses wrote: »
    You are a rude, obnoxious man Ted,
    I'm a clucking hen that needs to wed,
    I want to have your babies,
    No looking at other ladies,
    You love me and that's what you said.

    I know it's valentines day but really that's a bit sad. I feel sorry for you. Get a life.


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    #84
    Yellowroses
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭Yellowroses


    I'm really not Ted's stalker


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    #85
    Gummy Panda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,920 ✭✭✭✭Gummy Panda


    mysteries1984 wrote: »
    charlietheminxx wrote: »

    ......or you know, blast them with piss.

    +1 to this.

    OP, I had a similar situation with an ex a couple of years ago. Here's my advice, and what I wish I did myself.

    Don't wait for it to get worse. Go to the Gardai. Don't wait for him to make a photo of you like this one which I got emailed shortly after we broke up without any explanation. I've removed my face, I value my privacy, but you get the idea.

    Maybe he was a big fan of Madonna and didnt know how to express it

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cSVbwwsLPqw


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    #86
    hondasam
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,419 ✭✭✭✭hondasam


    Yellowroses wrote: »
    I'm really not Ted's stalker

    We know who you are ;)


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    #87
    SheFiend
    Registered Users Posts: 362 ✭✭SheFiend


    I had a similar situation a few years ago. One drunken fumbling and months of deleting my full inbox daily, missed calls, etc. The main thing is to stop replying! I know it would drive you mad and you just want to yell down the phone at them to feckoff but don't! These types crave attention of any kind. By the way, i still get the occasional message asking how i am. Haven't replied in years.


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    #88
    Micky Dolenz
    Registered Users Posts: 44,080 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    Your inbox was filled daily?


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    #89
    Shryke
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,199 ✭✭✭Shryke


    Ted! Still kicking? They haven't gone Sweeney Todd on you have they.


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    #90
    Katgurl
    Registered Users Posts: 2,142 ✭✭✭Katgurl


    Actually I have been here and it is $hit.

    You need to send a message saying "stop contacting me, I will not ask you again. If you continue, I will take all evidence of your harassment to the police".

    Keep a log of everything.


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    #91
    Gummy Panda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,920 ✭✭✭✭Gummy Panda


    Seriously is this shít really common or are people blowing things out of proportion? e.g. OMG he left another message on my Facebook... STALKER


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