Princess Peach wrote: » I don't think it's really that crass to put it on an invite, if it's what's the hosts want. I was bullied a few years ago on Facebook, through photos of me appearing on a friend of a friend's profile, that were then tagged with horrible comments by some other random guy I barely knew. Now I rarely even pose for photos, I was always very self conscious even before that! If I have a big wedding I would possible make this request. You can call me precious but it would make me happy and confident on the day knowing that my photos won't be judged and commented on by so many people.
Pipmae wrote: » I was due my third baby in August 2011. I warned my family members that nothing was to be posted on social media, particularly Facebook, until DH or I gave the go ahead. There were certain people we wanted to speak directly to tell them our good news. We didn't want every Joe Soap who is a friend of a friend of a friend knowing when the baby arrived before one of our good friends or a relative who isn't on FB. The last thing we wanted was one of them hearing it like that. I totally agree with what that invite. I hope the guest respect the request.
lulu1 wrote: » Anyone who would post pics of a couples wedding on face book when they were requested not too would be a very ignorant person and should not call themselves a friend of either the bride or the groom.
BabysCoffee wrote: » It could be considered ignorant to think you have the right to be the boss of your guests and their actions and put directives on your invitation.
December2012 wrote: » I think the people who would complain about a request like this are the type of people who complain about weddings.
amdublin wrote: » Well I think people were worse for nodding. I am sorry, but I would respect their wishes and not post anything (I couldn't be bothered with the confrontation) but I would RESENT that they asked me.
amdublin wrote: » Depends. If it was because she was completely hammered I wouldn't need to be asked I just wouldn't do it. If she wasn't hammered but was obviously having a good old time knocking back a few drinks but I (as her friend) was aware that she didn't like pics of her drinking on social media (for her job etc) I'd would not post.* (*Personally my rule is: if I wouldn't walk in on a Monday and slap the photo of myself up on a noticeboard on work then I shouldn't post it of myself on fb i.e. a pic of myself posing with a fun cocktail is fine, me with a load of shots fine, me "a little under the weather" carrying a traffic cone along, not fine) If she asked me not to post because "I want to look at them properly tomorrow" before they go up or "I want to see them first" or "I want to show them to my aunt moira/boyfriend/sister first" I'd be like (a) get over yourself it's going up or (b) I wouldn't put it up and would be thinking "get over yourself" and yes resent it. Edit. I'd never post a pic of my friend that was "bad"....either drunk bad or not attractive bad....as much as is humanly possible!!!!
meeeeh wrote: » Btw Who looks at invitations twenty years later?
ronjo wrote: » So I am not the only one that finds it strange that this gets mentioned over and over and over again
BabysCoffee wrote: » Did you not keep your invite??? Who never looks at their wedding invites when they look at their wedding video and photos? I have my invite in my wedding album.....and I'd hate to have some tacky bossy directive on it
ronjo wrote: » You would genuinely resent someone for asking you not to post their picture on social media?? Wow, you are very easily annoyed.
shewasdiesel wrote: » Apparently, they don't like people telling them what to do, where to sit, what to eat, what to wear etc. I think they would be best to do the honest thing and stay at home.
amdublin wrote: » ?? Is this directed at me? Because i never said that. Yes i don't like being told what images i can or can't post on the Internet.
rainbowtrout wrote: » So your right to post pictures on the internet supercedes the right of a couple to want to maintain their privacy on their wedding day or anyone else for that matter. Wow. That's an amazing sense of entitlement.
amdublin wrote: » What is privacy? Once a wedding pic is not on fb it means a wedding is private??
rainbowtrout wrote: » It's private in the sense that it's an invitation only event, that the general public are not invited to. You are applying what you feel are acceptable boundaries for uploading photos to the internet to everyone you know, and if they don't fall in with your view you label them as precious. Yet at the same time you wouldn't want pictures of you up online downing shots, and obviously drunk. Another person might find that totally acceptable and put them up and call you precious. Some people do not want their lives in the public domain, yet you're basically say 'screw you, I don't care that you value your privacy because I'm reserving to right to ride roughshod all over your privacy so I can post your pictures online'. Not a very nice trait in a wedding guest for presumably people you would like and like you enough to invite you.
amdublin wrote: » nope. I've repeatedly said if requested not to post, I wouldn't post. But inside my head I'd be saying get a grip would you.
amdublin wrote: » P's. Not really a.nice trait in a host to be establishing a load of can't do's - doesn't really make for the most convivial of hosts does it.
shewasdiesel wrote: » must be a real bummer for you all the things you can't do at someone's wedding. Strange mentality.
amdublin wrote: » Yes it's very annoying when someone goes out of their way to make their guests annoyed and uncomfortable at a party they are hosting. It is a strange mentality. At parties I host I go out of my way to make my guests feel welcomed and "at home". I tend not to impinge "rules" on them like children. But may be that's just me.
CaraMay wrote: » It's at a level of privacy that the bride & groom as happy with and given it's their day, you should respect that. My sister in law lives her life out on Facebook and once my son was born I asked her not to post photos of him on Facebook as I don't agree with it. She had no issue and respected my request. It's the same thing.
mrsbyrne wrote: » Peeps. Lighten up! Some people think this request is princessy and precious and tacky, some think ,like me, its perfectly understandable and not a biggie anyway. C'est la vie. I think doves and chocolate fountains and ice sculptures and ice cream carts are pretentious and common and an offensive waste of money and some people think these things are delightful and gasp in awe and admiration as if the bride carved the sculpture herself. The important thing is that its the b&g big day and either you've had(like me) your big day or there's a chance that you may have one in the future. So respect that and avoid any possibility of your opinion casting any kind of a shadow on their 15 minutes of fame.
