Pawwed Rig wrote: » Bit of victim blaming going on there! Sometimes a partner will put up with alot before finally seeing reason.
riveratom wrote: » Not really. Depends on the facts of the situation but I think the corollary of that could be one person letting the other get away with what they shouldn't be getting away with.
ryanf1 wrote: » Any single guys out there turned into domestic gods?
Pawwed Rig wrote: » Some people have personalities that allow others to walk over them/treat them as a doormat/abuse them/cheat on them/nag them constantly/bleed money out of them. I would think it more appropriate to blame the aggressor in these situations rather than the victim.
lazybones32 wrote: » I am the King of my Domain. I don't need a woman to continue my successful existence
NSAman wrote: » Damned right!!!!! I can iron clean and hoover better than any woman I know...;)
ryanf1 wrote: » Im sensing a little touch of OCD
In cases like that I would actually blame him more than her - for standing for it at all.
NSAman wrote: » Anyhow, I was shocked that two women would live in such disarray.
Lou.m wrote: » It's the whole guys like bitches and girls like assholes rubbish so it's their own fault. He doesn't put up with it because he likes it he puts up with it because he is nice.
riveratom wrote: Of course it is wrong for the aggressor to act that way, but then what? In this case the guy might finally jettison the girl, maybe try to avoid the same thing happening again - until it does. They are both to blame, but if it keeps happening, I think the victim has to look at why.
Men worked an average of 39.2 hours a week in paid employment in 2013 compared to 31.2 hours for women and married men worked longer hours than married women, with close to half of married men (44.1%) working for 40 hours a week or more compared to just 16.8% of married women. (Tables 2.1, 2.8 and 2.9).
Principal Economic Status: Men were more likely to be in the labour force than women in Ireland in 2013, with just under seven out of ten men aged 15 and over at work or unemployed compared to half of women. More than 98% of those who were looking after home/family in 2013 were women, with close to half a million women looking after home/family compared to only 8,700 men. (Table 3.1).
crackity_jones wrote: » Oh yeah, that's me. I'm currently looking for new digs and the kitchen is a pretty high priority on my list, in that it needs to have a lot more than a tiny worktop and a gas stove. I cook for myself every day and sometimes for my parents, too. Very enjoyable and a great way to spend an afternoon/evening. As I lived far away from home for over 10 years I had to learnt to cook/clean/iron for myself. Best domestic training you can get. The independence is fantastic.
SpaceTime wrote: » My biggest issue is that my friends are mostly abroad now. I'm probably going to follow. A big thanks to Bertie, the FF lads and the banks for destroying my social life BTW! I'm sure all your mates are probably still around. There's genuinely a very large number of mid 20s-30s people just gone. If you're still in college you mightn't really notice it as dramatically.
Wibbs wrote: » Even so as you say in most cases the man suffers the aftermath more. Divorced men live shorter lives, have three times the suicide rate and that's before the whole divvying up of the shared property and visitation comes into play. Again it can be cultural too. If I was an American man IMHOI'd want my head examined to get married. With a 50% chance of her divorcing me, never mind the remaining 50% some of whom would be in bad marriages, it would be like playing Russian Roulette with 4 chambers loaded. Bad risk.
Onthe3rdDay wrote: » That does appear to be an Irish thing. The wedding will solve the problems we have, the new house will solve the problems we have, a Baby will solve the problems we have, Okay it was a boy, a baby Girl will solve the problems we have. 5 years down the line and you can see the mess some people sleepwalk into.
astonaidan wrote: » Life for me as a single guy right now There is this girl that Im into and know is into me, Ive known her for two months everytime were together on a night out there is sparks and for some ****ed up reason I cant make the moves on her. Havent even got her number thats how bad I have been. It really really sucks:mad::mad:
Knex. wrote: » Facebook her, perhaps? Two months is a dangerously long time, man. I would be seriously advising you to make a direct move as soon as possible. Especially if you know she likes you too. Easier said than done, I know, but you'll regret not doing it more. I've gone through phases of being quite passive, and for sure it is something that I have to consciously work on, but its definitely to your betterment if you do. Best of luck
astonaidan wrote: » Oh I know being passive is never a good idea, could get her number of her in less than two seconds,tbh Im 99% certain I could get with her in a heart beat. Im just being a absolute bitch about it and have no idea why Christ were both moving to Canada in two months its not like theres even a ahh sure shes emigrating soon frickin reason
Knex. wrote: » I'd nearly ask her to be your wing-woman in Canada, in a joking way, and gauge her reaction. Tell her ye can discuss tactics over a few drinks.
realgirl wrote: » I don't think that's a good suggestion at all - you'd be planting her firmly in the friendzone if you say that to her
Knex. wrote: » Nah, you really wouldn't. Not unless you actually went through with it, but that's not the idea at all. Even then though, I wouldn't think it would stop her from liking him, certainly not if she already did. Its playful, and it will throw her a little. But like I say, you gauge her reaction, and then you step it up and let her know that you fancy her. The only way you'd friendzone her, is if you say that, leave it there, and never actually carry through to the 2nd part.
realgirl wrote: » That sounds like mixed messages and messing with her head to me. If a guy I liked said that to me, I would immediately think it was his way of letting me know he didn't want anything to happen between us. If he then let on he liked me, I would be confused and headwrecked, possibly enough for it to put me off him cos I don't want to be with someone who is going to cause me headwreck.I'm sure it could possibly work out with some women...but it would be a turn off to many
Pug160 wrote: » Just regarding people who seem to be eternally single: I'm not sure if it's quite as rare as some people imagine. One my friends is in a serious relationship for the first time and he's 32. I have another friend who's similar and I myself have yet to be in a long term relationship, and I'm only slightly younger at almost 30. It could be a case of birds of a feather flock together but even still, I do wonder if this notion that it's extremely rare is accurate. I'm tempted to ask my friend how his girlfriend reacted when she found out he had never been in a relationship before, but it's a personal question so I'm not sure whether I will or not. I've been lucky enough in that I haven't had too much pressure or expectation put onto me like some people. Others aren't that fortunate it seems.
Minimix wrote: » Just reading this thread and came across this comment which I find interesting. As a female nearly 30 in the same boat only that I have yet to meet someone, I find it good to know there are others who are/were in the same boat. My only problem is, when I meet guys and start chatting usually the question arises of how long you're single. When I answer honestly I get asked why? I don't know why. Men seem to find it a turn off in my experience.
Potatoeman wrote: » I have never asked that in casual conversation. Are you single sure but how long? You would need to know some better to get that personal.
