85603 wrote: » love it. an enquiry into someones well being is now stalking. eNd oF.
Deleted User wrote: » But it's not an enquiry into someone's well being, is it? It's clear motive is to reconnect with a person for your own selfish needs. The selfless move would be to push your own feelings aside and to respect a person's wishes. That's why it's stalking. It's a selfish act masquerading as a expression of concern. It's gross and so transparent.
85603 wrote: » well yeah. it is. if im regularly contacting someone for weeks and meeting with them, whether it be platonic or romantic, and they suddenly just drop off the screen, with no forewarning or explanation then im genuinely concerned. who in their right mind wouldn't be. id sleep better knowing that someone had scored a childish point on me, than i would wondering whether they'd been in an accident. society will forgive a single enquiry. its not a sign of weakness.
Tell me how wrote: » An enquiry to someone you probably have no connection with about someone who blocked you. Yep. That's stalkish behaviour.
85603 wrote: » really? THAT constitutes stalking now? it couldn't just have been a misunderstanding. it has to be some way uptight game? lol this is such sh1t.
YellowLead wrote: » Not that this would make a difference - but it wasn’t just ignoring, where one might wonder if there was an accident. It was an active blocking! What accident makes you do that???
85603 wrote: » a conservative religious father in my case. he took her phone, only passing my details to her friend allowed some kind of closure. a hacked account, a lost or stolen phone. an accident. coercion. someone sabotaging your name. numerous things you cant even imagine.
Deleted User wrote: » If you've only known them a FEW WEEKS then you have no rights or entitlement to know why a person chooses to disconnect from you. If you message that person and they don't message back, that's their right. If you go trying to bridge that gap by contacting her friends - people you have never met - then you've crossed the line into being a "nice guy". Go buy a fedora and a katana.
85603 wrote: » lol. mental.
Itainire wrote: » Did you guys chat or did she just say hello or what? Why would she call you from a private number? Johnny I don't know you and chances are I never will, but I know that you can do better than this, you can find yourself someone that values more from the start.. someone that calls you from their real phone number
Johnnytractors wrote: » So an update for ye all. I was down in Limerick city passing going to an outside farm spraying some tillage crops there this evening. As I was jumping into the tractor I heard my name being called and who was it.... yes her! I got a bit of grilling from her since I never replied to her message or accepted her friend request on Instagram. I do know how to pick them!!!! By the way I am 30 and she is 28. Since seeing her this evening I have had 3 missed calls on a private number that I haven’t answered and I never get private number calls so I dunno!!!!!
raclle wrote: » Ok this doesn't add up. How did she know where you were and I thought you blocked her?
Johnnytractors wrote: » She obviously works around that area as there is a school nearby. I had her blocked on WhatsApp. She texted me on Viber that I never use so I have that deleted. This wan seems not to be going away in a hurry now.
YellowLead wrote: » First the blocking/ghosting and now the stalking
YellowLead wrote: » 85603 and her sound perfect for each other lol
YellowLead wrote: » I wouldn’t give in. First the blocking/ghosting and now the stalking. She doesn’t sound too mentally stable and would be a nightmare down the line. When people show you their true colours - don’t ignore them. I do acknowledge it’s tough though OP - somebody you once liked pursuing you...just remember her treatment of you. Like god if you got together and you broke up with her in a few months time what would she be like then???? Equally she could disappear again.
JoChervil wrote: » Has she apologised?
Johnnytractors wrote: » She came over to me and I kept ignoring her. Before I knew it she was right next to me outside the tractor asking me why I have ignored her text and her friend request. I told her straight out that it was “you that ghosted and blocked me” so I have got the hint now and I ain’t going back. If this is the way you treat me after 3 months, 7 dates god only knows what could happen in the future. She said she is stressed with work and needed time to clear her head. I just told her straight if I knew that I would have left you alone or helped ya. She just asked me to think about it. As for ringing me on a private number I don’t know....
Johnnytractors wrote: » No apology at all only being stressed and needed time to clear her head. I wish I could use the line with my bank manager...
Surreptitious wrote: » I have an analogy. I am using the word 'man' because the OP is male, before anyone gets offended. A man goes into a bar some night to socialise. He walks in, sits down and orders a pint. He feels a bit awkward. The bar tender isn't talking to him and the atmosphere isn't too good. He knocks back the pint fairly fast because he feels uncomfortable and gets out of there. Then he goes to another bar, he gets chatting to the barman and a regular and ends up having a few drinks but then the bar gets busier and he starts to think maybe I should head off. He finds another bar after walking around for a small bit and he sits at the counter. Everyone in there except the odd few seem to be having a good night. He orders his drink and gets chatting to a couple of people. The drinks starts flowing, the barman remembers his drink, people are chatting away about this and that. He relaxes and ends up there for the night, even might have stayed after time. He wakes up the next day, he might have a bit of a sore head but what he remembers is the last bar, the banter, the general ambience and feels it was worth it after all. He won't go back to the first bar ever again, the second bar, maybe he might have one in there if stuck and the final bar he would gladly drink in there as much as he could because he felt wanted and at ease there. So basically that what it is like with dates. They won't always work and you have to keep trying to find that bar you can chill out in. (Corny? Deal with it)
85603 wrote: » Wow. That really stinks.
California Dreamer wrote: » This is the best read I have had on AH for a very long time. Some serious bunny boilers out there!!!
YellowLead wrote: » Have you seen Play Misty for Me...
California Dreamer wrote: » I lived it!!!!
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