sk8erboii wrote: » Well ****. Arrest every teenager i guess.
holystungun9 wrote: » Comedian Chris Rock said it best. Men can’t go back sexually and women can’t go back financially. Once a woman has had a boyfriend with money, going out with a broke guy is much less desirable. Once a guy has got used to more adventurous sex with a woman, he doesn’t want to go back to just the rudimentary stuff
Blitzkrieger wrote: » Like others I suspect the attraction is down to porn. Jimmy Carr made a joke years ago that the birth rate is going to go way down because people learn about sex from porn. "Well I shag her in the arse then cum on her tits, but we just can't seem to get pregnant!" I do worry about that there's a chauvinistic element to it; that it can be uncomfortable to women and seen as submissive, but maybe some men are just conditioned to think that it's a natural part of sex and something they should want. Personally I've only done it a couple of times (at the ladies request) and it wasn't my favourite experience.The bottom line OP is if you're uncomfortable with it, it's your choice, and no man should keep pestering you over it. If they can't respect your decision, get rid.
RWCNT wrote: » I'm not a fan, and I know I'm in the extreme minority for it. A bit too tight for my liking. P in v is just the business. I'm alright taking it though. Apparently I'm quite rare as a bi man that mainly sleeps with women but exclusively bottoms for other men. Makes me feel special.
Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: » I assumed lots of couples have done anal? Hubs and I haven’t because it appeals to neither of us but I didn’t really think it was much of a taboo anymore, especially as it’s how gay men have penetrative sex all the time. I’m surprised that people think porn has much to do with it. Some of the replies on this thread have surprised me.
RWCNT wrote: » I'm not a fan, and I know I'm in the extreme minority for it.
Javier Fierce Moon wrote: » Extreme minority? Don't know about that.
Porklife wrote: » Does it hurt if its too tight or just not feel good? If you don't mind me asking!
Pauliedragon wrote: » No. Never interested me to be honest but I used to work with shall we say a bunch of people who had a very liberal approach to sex so anything went so I heard a lot of stories.
Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: » I didn’t really think it was much of a taboo anymore, especially as it’s how gay men have penetrative sex all the time.
RWCNT wrote: » Maybe I'm wrong tbf, I'm only going by the fact that any lads I've ever discussed this with look at me like I've two heads when I tell them I'm not into it.
RWCNT wrote: » Not surprised seeing you in this thread with your incredibly apt username!.
Wibbs wrote: » So what? What does what gay men do have anything to do with what straight men and women do? Aye but many lads will also claim to have big mickeys and to have shagged x amount of women, when their experience amounts to four and a fumbled drunken hand drop out the back of the pub. I have long found what people say they do/like and what they actually do/like often quite different. There can be a large dose of what's expected among peers too.
Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: » Very touchy altogether. :eek:
I mentioned it being the mode of penetration of gay men to highlight that as a sexual act, it’s natural unless to people who don’t believe that being gay is natural.
Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: » If one is happy to have casual sex (and no judgement here), why is one form of penetration considered fine but another not? It doesn’t make much logical sense to me. If the OP isn’t into anal, she shouldn’t do it but I don’t understand the logic that it’s something that nobody should expect from a casual encounter if both parties are keen but vaginal penetration = grand?
Franz Von Peppercorn wrote: » Clearly one is riskier than the other, needs more perpetration and isn’t comfortable for all. Nobody is saying that people shouldn’t do it if they want to, btw, this isn’t the debate. Quite the opposite.
Sirius Boner wrote: » But, isn't it written in the Bible.... "And yay verily, Joseph sad unto Mary..one in the bum, no harm done"
Wibbs wrote: » Nope, just questioning your logic. Depends on how one defines "natural". As for one's sexual preference it doesn't mean whatever one gets up to is automatically "natural". There are people gay and straight and whatever you're having yourself that get up to all sorts of stuff in the bedroom, some of it pretty out there and some of it risky. Some are into urethra "play" with various objects. Is that "natural" too? But, whatever one's sexual preference the fact is the anus is not designed for penetration with a penis. The walls are thinner and have no lubrication and even with artificial lube it's more likely to cause injury to the receiver, more likely to cause tears in the wall of the rectum and has higher risks of STD transmission, never mind bacteria that can cause all sorts of infections to both giver and receiver. If two people are into it then game ball, but the "natural" element is stretching things(Missus!!! Part III).
Wibbs wrote: » But, whatever one's sexual preference the fact is the anus is not designed for penetration with a penis. The walls are thinner and have no lubrication and even with artificial lube it's more likely to cause injury to the receiver, more likely to cause tears in the wall of the rectum and has higher risks of STD transmission, never mind bacteria that can cause all sorts of infections to both giver and receiver.
Javier Fierce Moon wrote: » I don't think it's anal sex in and of itself (particularly between a couple) that's causing such replies, but a perceived increase in expectation of it on a date/casual encounter, to the point of a frosty reception if she would rather not. Also the OP saying she doesn't enjoy it but has still agreed to it anyway on a date.
zapper55 wrote: » Porklife I think you need to reread your last post. You are apprehensive about a particular sex act but are thinking of doing it anyways otherwise a guy you are seeing will be disappointed? Do you always put others needs before your own? You are allowed have boundaries and have them respected. If you don't have anal sex and he walks away then he's an idiot. If you have anal sex be use you are genuinely curious and want to try it definitely do, but I'm not getting that impression from your post. I know AH is not really for serious answers but you seem to have very little regard for yourself. Maybe subconsciously you are attracting guys that are looking for someone that is easily manipulated. Look I'm only a few years older than you and I've dated a good few guys. Many guys have suggested different things but not once has a guy suggested something twice after me saying no the first time. You seem to have a very bad run of luck in dating. Maybe you need to take a break and work on yourself.
Porklife wrote: » I'm wondering now though if it changes the dynamic of things. I really feel like if we do this, he won't look at me the same way again. How can we do that then go and watch Game of Thrones and act all sweet like nothing happened? Like, pass me the salt please darling over dinner when you've just had anal sex!
