KathleenGrant wrote: » I was separated about 10 years ago and was on the dating scene for a while. 3 different men were keen to have anal sex to the point of being insistent. One had never done it and really wanted to try it. The other 2 insisted that because I had a few children sex in the normal way would not be as good for them as anal sex.
Avatar MIA wrote: » A lot of prep required too to ensure it's a pleasing experience.
Wheety wrote: » I'd also say it's because of porn. Changes young lads perception of sex. Categories devoted to anal on every porn site. Young men (and women) have much easier access to hard core porn than any other generation before. They get used to normal sex porn and seek something different to get their kicks. That then translates to real life.
Wibbs wrote: » Sound like small mickey syndrome to me TBH. Now granted I've only slept with three women who have had kids, but I didn't notice any difference on that score(if anything it was a little better as one could go deeper, so to speak). Of course physical trauma from birth can affect some women, but to that degree on average? The idea that more sex makes things more roomy is also nonsense in my humble. Like anything people differ in size, men and women, but the vast majority are around an average. The snuggest I ever came across(missus!!) was also a woman who had the most partners. Porn definitely is a factor. American stuff is obsessed with bum stuff. For what reasons I'm not sure on. The "dirty" aspect must loom large in what can be a conservative culture. Plus porn has to up the ante from basic in out stuff to keep getting sales/hits. A mate of mine who's circumcised has a major thing for it and he being less sensitive means he gets more from it and reckons this is why it's more a thing for Americans as they're majority like him? Might be something to it. I've tried the other way so to speak, but didn't particularly enjoy it TBH. Much prefer the way designed for purpose.
Porklife wrote: » Interesting. My concern is if he'll lose respect for me if I do it.
Wibbs wrote: » +1. A few years back one woman was surprised that I wasn't into the whole facial thing. She didn't like it but assumed men really did, again from porn and previous guys who wanted it, again from porn.
KathleenGrant wrote: » One guy actually said my "withholding it" was a sign i may be a hostile partner in the future so I spared him from my hostility and finished it there and then.
Porklife wrote: » Your post makes perfect sense. Where do you stand on the losing respect side of things? This guy isn't being pushy at all but I know he wants to and he's very well endowed so I'm a little bit scared but my main worry is that he'll look at me differently afterwards, even subconsciously. What do you think about that?
Avatar MIA wrote: » Jesus, how does that even come up in conversation? Having a nice meal, some polite conversation, having a mutual jibe about that idiot Trump. You walk her back to her apartment, holding hands. You get invited for coffee. There's some awkward fumbling with clothes. Things start to get heavy. And then the guy says, "okay if I cum on your face?" Strange.
Porklife wrote: » That has literally happened to me!
Avatar MIA wrote: » Answer. Do you think your mammy allowed your daddy to do that?
Wibbs wrote: » If he comes back with "yeah and I used to fiddle with meself watching through a keyhole". RUN!
bubblypop wrote: » Very old fashioned view by you. Maybe you treat sex like something you give to him? Maybe you should just relax & enjoy it
Porklife wrote: » You wouldn't believe some of the stuff I've had guys say to me or try to do and I'm very open minded. I was recently on a date with a guy... a first date may I add, and he went to go for a cigarette. I was sitting at the bar and before he went he goes.. Oh, this will keep you company while I'm gone. He hands me his phone (weird as we'd only just met) and shows me a video of a woman, spreadeagle being licked out by a dog! I was stunned!!! Needless to say, we didn't go home and do it doggy style!
Porklife wrote: » Needless to say, we didn't go home and do it doggy style!
Ramsi wrote: » This thread is a wind up.
Wibbs wrote: » Having heard similar from men and women mates(and weirder stuff) on the mating/dating scene little surprises me TBH. I've experienced a few occasions of the Weird myself. One situation was after a few times going out, flics, dinner and drinking and all seemed grand. Back to her place and room for some fumbling fun, I become aware that the door is ajar and someone is there. I'm all WTF? and yer wan tells me that it's just her (woman) roommate and she sometimes likes to watch and this turns them both on. Now my fumblings are barely adequate for observation for the woman I"m directly fumbling so an audience is hardly welcome and since she was only into watching... And no I didn't put on a show.
Porklife wrote: » Haha oh my god!! That's so odd! A guy I know had a similar experience but the person who was watching came into the room and asked for money... Mommy, mommy, can I have five euro? It was her child! Apparently she casually said, my purse is over there on the floor and carried on!
Avatar MIA wrote: » What I've learned most from this thread is that I've lead a sheltered sex life.
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