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What do women think men want?
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At least they had the deceny to spare my feelings about it!!!
Na - probably was the timing - I d say go for it!Snow-Monkey wrote: »i would like a lady who's easy to talk to, fun to be around get up and go, and dress's well...
Did you get your websites mixed up!! ??
Plans for a single mingle night this week with boardsies in Dublin.. Am sure your criterion will be met! Thraeds somewhere in events 0 -
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Snow-Monkey wrote: »nope i just felt like aplying my wants to this thread as i think it was fare Im actully curently single and am planing on staying that way... Unless, the unbeknownisy happens and i meet a girl who i get on really well with:cool:
Good luck with that - I am sure you will meet loads 0 -
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Well I work with just guys, I train with just guys and I have one of my own.
So I think I have an idea of what MOST men want...
They don't want drama, hassle, histrionics. They don't care that so-and-so said this to yer one at the weekend, and she looked at me funny and the other one is just jealous and she's a bitch and blah blah blah.
They don't care that you've put on or lost a quarter of a pound this week, and they really don't want to hear the ins and outs of how many points are in a leaf of lettuce.
They think your bum looks just fine in those jeans, you don't need to wear that much make-up and a mussed-up hairdo and a smile is more attractive than a fake-tanned dolly bird with hair ghd-ed to within an inch of its life.
They want to be able to relax in a woman's company without wondering if they're saying the 'right thing'.
They want to be able to laugh with you, and want you to be able to take a bit of gentle slagging without dissolving into girlie tears.
And (this might cause consternation) I think men want a woman to need them in some ways. Independence is great, but a man wants to feel like he's useful for being a man.
So put down the hammer, even if you can do it yourself, and let him put up the shelves.0 -
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I hate to break it to people but you will base your strongest, most associated memories of "what men want" from two different sources. Fathers and boyfriends. It's just the way it goes. For blokes it's the vice versa with what women want.
The irony is that most of us will base our beliefs in what the opposite sex want off failed relationships with ex's who we never could have hoped to make things work with at the time because we just were not emotionally, mentally or spiritually developed enough to do so.
^ This is very true for both sexes when it comes to these type of topics.
I think the closest anyone has come over this entire thread is the implication that men "want" one thing and "need" another and the vocalised expression of this will change depending on who is in the room, be they male or female.
I disagree with this though, if men (or women for that matter) change what they say they need/want depending on their company, then they are simply being false.
:eek: By jaysus, I think you've got it :eek:Deleted User wrote: »Well I work with just guys, I train with just guys and I have one of my own.
So I think I have an idea of what MOST men want...
They don't want drama, hassle, histrionics. They don't care that so-and-so said this to yer one at the weekend, and she looked at me funny and the other one is just jealous and she's a bitch and blah blah blah.
They don't care that you've put on or lost a quarter of a pound this week, and they really don't want to hear the ins and outs of how many points are in a leaf of lettuce.
They think your bum looks just fine in those jeans, you don't need to wear that much make-up and a mussed-up hairdo and a smile is more attractive than a fake-tanned dolly bird with hair ghd-ed to within an inch of its life.
They want to be able to relax in a woman's company without wondering if they're saying the 'right thing'.
They want to be able to laugh with you, and want you to be able to take a bit of gentle slagging without dissolving into girlie tears.
And (this might cause consternation) I think men want a woman to need them in some ways. Independence is great, but a man wants to feel like he's useful for being a man.
So put down the hammer, even if you can do it yourself, and let him put up the shelves.0 -
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Tbh if you head over to BGRH and read most posts there, and read posts by guys concerning relationships with women in any other forum you'll see the opinions expressed here of what men want are quite apt.
Of course you can generalise, obviously you wont be as accurate as if you considered every man individually, but for obvious reasons that's impractical.
Ah but that's BGRH and should be read through BGRH glasses* of course.
*just in case you didn't know, they're full ones!
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Deleted User wrote: »Well I work with just guys, I train with just guys and I have one of my own.
So I think I have an idea of what MOST men want...
They don't want drama, hassle, histrionics. They don't care that so-and-so said this to yer one at the weekend, and she looked at me funny and the other one is just jealous and she's a bitch and blah blah blah.
They don't care that you've put on or lost a quarter of a pound this week, and they really don't want to hear the ins and outs of how many points are in a leaf of lettuce.
They think your bum looks just fine in those jeans, you don't need to wear that much make-up and a mussed-up hairdo and a smile is more attractive than a fake-tanned dolly bird with hair ghd-ed to within an inch of its life.
They want to be able to relax in a woman's company without wondering if they're saying the 'right thing'.
They want to be able to laugh with you, and want you to be able to take a bit of gentle slagging without dissolving into girlie tears.
And (this might cause consternation) I think men want a woman to need them in some ways. Independence is great, but a man wants to feel like he's useful for being a man.
So put down the hammer, even if you can do it yourself, and let him put up the shelves.
Nail on head. Apart from the bit about shelves. Most women I know don't know and don't want to know about that sort of thing. (Fair play to you if you can do it yourself though). And it is nice to feel useful from time to time.0 -
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Deleted User wrote: »Well I work with just guys, I train with just guys and I have one of my own.
So I think I have an idea of what MOST men want...
They don't want drama, hassle, histrionics. They don't care that so-and-so said this to yer one at the weekend, and she looked at me funny and the other one is just jealous and she's a bitch and blah blah blah.
They don't care that you've put on or lost a quarter of a pound this week, and they really don't want to hear the ins and outs of how many points are in a leaf of lettuce.
They think your bum looks just fine in those jeans, you don't need to wear that much make-up and a mussed-up hairdo and a smile is more attractive than a fake-tanned dolly bird with hair ghd-ed to within an inch of its life.
They want to be able to relax in a woman's company without wondering if they're saying the 'right thing'.
They want to be able to laugh with you, and want you to be able to take a bit of gentle slagging without dissolving into girlie tears.
And (this might cause consternation) I think men want a woman to need them in some ways. Independence is great, but a man wants to feel like he's useful for being a man.
So put down the hammer, even if you can do it yourself, and let him put up the shelves.
Post of the daY Id say!
Well said - waiting and having to hassle and re- hassle to put up shelves is a head reck though !!0 -
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Good start this one.
I wouldnt even consider a second date with that type tbh. Been there, worn the tee shirt. For a while in one case. Major head wreck, though my willy took over there as she was very attractive. Even that wasn't enough to keep going though. Goes double for the ones who want you to be their shrink. Not good. Shrinks get paid and paid well. Sex though fine and dandy doesn't really cut it.Deleted User wrote: »They don't want drama, hassle, histrionics. They don't care that so-and-so said this to yer one at the weekend, and she looked at me funny and the other one is just jealous and she's a bitch and blah blah blah.
Yes. In a big way. All of us have uncertain days, but obsessing about food, either too much of it it or too little is boring and gets boring really quickly. And yes too little is as bad as too much.They don't care that you've put on or lost a quarter of a pound this week, and they really don't want to hear the ins and outs of how many points are in a leaf of lettuce.They think your bum looks just fine in those jeans, you don't need to wear that much make-up and a mussed-up hairdo and a smile is more attractive than a fake-tanned dolly bird with hair ghd-ed to within an inch of its life.
This is a major biggy and rare to find. OK in the early stages you're both bound to screw up a bit, but if as a guy you feel your sphincter tightening once a month or more because you said or did something innocent, then let her go. Life is too short. You do not want to be one of those couples where the woman is constantly making disapproving looks towards their partner. Easygoing for the win.They want to be able to relax in a woman's company without wondering if they're saying the 'right thing'.
True but both this one and the previous point is all too often an excuse for some men to be complete boors. I would also add the ability to have a discussion about us as a couple without her feeling it is automatically an attack on her as a person. Very common and easy to see as a way of avoiding dealing with things.They want to be able to laugh with you, and want you to be able to take a bit of gentle slagging without dissolving into girlie tears.
That bit I don't get. For me at least. I would be looking for a partner. Simple as. If she can do something better for us as a couple then cool. Go for it. I'm well up with that. I dont need my ego stroked because she's better at certain things. I dont have an ego about that stuff really. I wouldnt go with her if she wasn't better and added to me as a human being. Also if I can do something better than her for us then it doesn't mean she's lesser. If I got that vibe of "how dare you be better" too much that would be a sticking point.And (this might cause consternation) I think men want a woman to need them in some ways. Independence is great, but a man wants to feel like he's useful for being a man.
So put down the hammer, even if you can do it yourself, and let him put up the shelves.
Independence and confidence are hard ones to define for many. Both men and women. Too many think independence is them saying no all the time or laying down the law. Same with confidence. I am who I am so follow me little boy types. That gets old real quick, basically because any relatively emotionally centered man will spot that for the facade it is. Confidence doesn't require being strident all the time.
I think what I look for long term is emotional stability, loyalty through tough times(very important and surprisingly rare), ability to grow as a person. Self awareness, not self centered(also rare in both sexes, but some women hold the rights to that), consistency of emotions and a physical and sexual compatibility. And last but not least, kindness based in intellect and emotions, not sentimentality.Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.
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Good start this one.
I wouldnt even consider a second date with that type tbh. Been there, worn the tee shirt. For a while in one case. Major head wreck, though my willy took over there as she was very attractive. Even that wasn't enough to keep going though. Goes double for the ones who want you to be their shrink. Not good. Shrinks get paid and paid well. Sex though fine and dandy doesn't really cut it.
Yes. In a big way. All of us have uncertain days, but obsessing about food, either too much of it it or too little is boring and gets boring really quickly. And yes too little is as bad as too much.
This is a major biggy and rare to find. OK in the early stages you're both bound to screw up a bit, but if as a guy you feel your sphincter tightening once a month or more because you said or did something innocent, then let her go. Life is too short. You do not want to be one of those couples where the woman is constantly making disapproving looks towards their partner. Easygoing for the win.
True but both this one and the previous point is all too often an excuse for some men to be complete boors. I would also add the ability to have a discussion about us as a couple without her feeling it is automatically an attack on her as a person. Very common and easy to see as a way of avoiding dealing with things.
That bit I don't get. For me at least. I would be looking for a partner. Simple as. If she can do something better for us as a couple then cool. Go for it. I'm well up with that. I dont need my ego stroked because she's better at certain things. I dont have an ego about that stuff really. I wouldnt go with her if she wasn't better and added to me as a human being. Also if I can do something better than her for us then it doesn't mean she's lesser. If I got that vibe of "how dare you be better" too much that would be a sticking point.
Independence and confidence are hard ones to define for many. Both men and women. Too many think independence is them saying no all the time or laying down the law. Same with confidence. I am who I am so follow me little boy types. That gets old real quick, basically because any relatively emotionally centered man will spot that for the facade it is. Confidence doesn't require being strident all the time.
I think what I look for long term is emotional stability, loyalty through tough times(very important and surprisingly rare), ability to grow as a person. Self awareness, not self centered(also rare in both sexes, but some women hold the rights to that), consistency of emotions and a physical and sexual compatibility. And last but not least, kindness based in intellect and emotions, not sentimentality.
Liking the last paragraph - How old and good looking did you say you were !?:)0 -
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ill keep it simple. I think like anyone they want to be happy but they go trhough phases of what that is .. sometimes with emotion sometimes without hence the inevitable mood swings .. but its no big deal. Maintain independence, honesty and a healthy respect. Listen and bingo .. it will at least be an open book
that siad i need help myself. Am bringing a new girlf to dublin this weekend. I have lived here before and am doing so again now. I really want to do something simple but romantic. She is fun, open minded, into art and most of all we want to do this together. We are staying in a good hotel centrally - so anyone got any suggestions on where to take her ? food wise even ? i want this to be a perfect weekend !! appreciate all the advice that will no doubt flow in LOL 0 -
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n*erdtalker wrote: »ill keep it simple. I think like anyone they want to be happy but they go trhough phases of what that is .. sometimes with emotion sometimes without hence the inevitable mood swings .. but its no big deal. Maintain independence, honesty and a healthy respect. Listen and bingo .. it will at least be an open book
that siad i need help myself. Am bringing a new girlf to dublin this weekend. I have lived here before and am doing so again now. I really want to do something simple but romantic. She is fun, open minded, into art and most of all we want to do this together. We are staying in a good hotel centrally - so anyone got any suggestions on where to take her ? food wise even ? i want this to be a perfect weekend !! appreciate all the advice that will no doubt flow in LOL
Wrong forum for this sort of thing, and National Art Gallery ftw.0 -
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I havent read the thread, so apologies if this has been said ad infinitum already.
In my opinion, men want, in order of importance:
a) Sex.
b) Food. Preferably eaten whilst prone, on the sofa.
c) Alcohol or coffee, depending on the man.
f) The Sky remote.
i) A cool vehicle (or at least vehicle they believe is cool).
j) Sleep
g) To drink milk directly from the carton without fear of nagging.
e) No conversations that begin: 'we need to talk'.
h) A dog.
k) Cuddles. Which bring him automatically back to point a.
d) Clean underwear.
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Gonna give a little input on your list if you don't mind!
a) Sex. - of course!
b) Food. Preferably eaten whilst prone, on the sofa - i enjoy cooking, i'd rather watch her eat and enjoy it
c) Alcohol or coffee, depending on the man. - don't drink either. tea FTW!
d) Clean underwear. - I have this magic box in my house, i put in dirty clothes and they come out clean! Annoyinly the also come out wet. haven't solved that one yet.
e) No conversations that begin: 'we need to talk'. - some of the best convo's you can have being with "we need to talk............about our plans for the bank robbery........about which position from the Sex Book we wanna try.......about **** all till the sun comes up"!!
f) The Sky remote - I don't have TV in my house! It made me stupid so i killed it.
g) To drink milk directly from the carton without fear of nagging - yuk.
h) A dog. - **** yeah!!!! And a cat!
i) A cool vehicle (or at least vehicle they believe is cool) - I don't trust myself to druve so will settle for a remote control version of whatever is cool.
j) Sleep - only beside her.
k) Cuddles rock.
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In my world you would be a curiousity. But thanks.Gonna give a little input on your list if you don't mind!
a) Sex. - of course!
b) Food. Preferably eaten whilst prone, on the sofa - i enjoy cooking, i'd rather watch her eat and enjoy it
c) Alcohol or coffee, depending on the man. - don't drink either. tea FTW!
d) Clean underwear. - I have this magic box in my house, i put in dirty clothes and they come out clean! Annoyinly the also come out wet. haven't solved that one yet.
e) No conversations that begin: 'we need to talk'. - some of the best convo's you can have being with "we need to talk............about our plans for the bank robbery........about which position from the Sex Book we wanna try.......about **** all till the sun comes up"!!
f) The Sky remote - I don't have TV in my house! It made me stupid so i killed it.
g) To drink milk directly from the carton without fear of nagging - yuk.
h) A dog. - **** yeah!!!! And a cat!
i) A cool vehicle (or at least vehicle they believe is cool) - I don't trust myself to druve so will settle for a remote control version of whatever is cool.
j) Sleep - only beside her.
k) Cuddles rock. 0 -
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